Lost virginity at age 24 two days ago. AMA

Nah. I'm good.
You could benefit from asking questions my friend :^)

A lot of guys will ask for details about the sex itself but how did you meet, did you go for dates first and where to, how and when to initiate the first kiss and how to keep yourself from ejaculating too quickly?

Was she your girlfriend?
Was her first time aswell?
if no, then how many past partners did she have?
How was her first time?
How did you met?

Those are the only things i wanna know, i dont really think im not learn anything new, but im just seeing if i get dissapointed or not.

>how did you meet
bumble
>did you go for dates first
yes many, movies, bingo, etc
>first kiss
after a couple dates in my car after i brought her home.
>ejaculating too quickly
i didnt cum at all actually. i guess its fairly common for the first time, probably from my death grip jacking off
>Was she your girlfriend?
yes
>Was her first time aswell?
no
>if no, then how many past partners did she have?
i believe 4, not sure of this number.
>How was her first time?
painful apparently lol
>How did you met?
bumble

ask away friend

How fat is she?

Unsurprisingly unoriginal

Did you tell her that you were a virgin before having sex? How was the sex?

Is she a roastie?
Is she a basic bitch, or obessed with social media?
Did she ever sucked or fucked a stranger? or did random "hookups"?
Does she take drugs?

She weighs more than me. But I weigh 140.
Yes I told her. She asked before our first date, I was honest.
The sex was very passionate, I enjoyed it very much. Like I said I didn't cum but it was still enjoyable. She seemed to enjoy it and seemed eager to help me inserting and such.

Did you were a conddome ?

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>Is she a roastie?
No.
>Is she a basic bitch, or obessed with social media?
Basic bitch: no, obsessed with social media: debatable.
>Did she ever sucked or fucked a stranger? or did random "hookups"?
As far as I know she fucked a random-ish guy who had a Mustang (she has a thing for Ford and Mustangs) and never saw him again. This kinda bugged me at first but not so much anymore, she knows it was dumb.
>Does she take drugs?
She has medications, used to smoke pot but doesn't anymore.

Yes. Condoms fucking blow. Couldn't feel much but it was still enjoyable.

how tall is she? 140 plus can be fat if she is tiny

5'6", she weighs more than 140.

Eh, she seems a fine lady desu aside from that hookup, congrats OP.

Still, it bothers me a lot to be dating a woman that did random hookups at any point in their lifes, i feel betrayed for some reason, repulsed and sick.
Im afraid i will fall in love with a woman, and after years in the relation, she tells me she did a lot of hookups and used to fuck strangers. And for that reason feel like shit and lose interest over the girl.
I guess r9k got too deep into my mind.

Any words of advice over this? I guess i simply cant connect with those kinds of people because they have a diferent view on sex compared to me. Since im a KH, i guess i see sex as a more valuable and intimate act, and for that reason i cant connect with a person that doesnt hold the same view point.

I dont know if i expressed myself well enough, english is not my mother language.

Zack is 25

Honestly sex isn't that big of a deal I know it sounds dumb but it really isn't. It seems like it when you are KHV, but you learn that its not a big deal and intimacy is something everyone wants, girls just happen to be able to get it easier and thats just how things are. If you look hard enough you will find someone who fits your standards though my man, keep trying.

Lost mine at 24, too

My man.
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was she your first gf? if not, how old were you when you had ur first gf?

When conversations start to steer towards sex my blood turns ice cold, anxiety overdrive.
I can bullshit my way through everything except this, I'm usually very ambiguous and hint at past experiences (that never happened) so they draw their own conclusions, I haven't been called out yet since I don't look like an incel but my demise is inevitable.

Why did it take you 25 years?

Yes she is my first gf.
Because I was a loser who only played video games, jacked off, and smoked pot until a year ago. I decided to change things and have gained a lot of confidence and self respect in the past year and that is the only reason I felt I had a change with girls.

>Honestly sex isn't that big of a deal
Im sorry, but thats what i cant reasonate with for some reason.
If sex isnt a big deal then would you feel okay with your gf having sex with someone else atm?
You said it bugged you for finding out she fucked a stranger once, thing is, no matter how logical "sex isnt a big deal" is, for some deep, unknown reason, you and me are still bugged by it.

Im super afraid of being cheated, from personal experience, i've seen a lot of girls cheating their "loved" boyfriends with just a given week away from them. People that seemed super nice, decent and trust worthy in a span of a few days go and cheat on a years long relationship at some party because they had the chance. I guess it has to do with that sort of thing desu.

R9K also fuels this anxiety for me, seeing all this screenshots of stories from reddit with people cheating.

I guess im sick, im 22, but i still think it is hopeless for me, at this point in time almost any girl out there seems a obessed with clubbing, drugs and hookups. And that repulses me, im not into any of those things, and it doesnt give any motivation to even try.

Every time i try to reason with myself and overcome these "standards" i seem to fall into a loop of anxiety and fear of being cheated on and not actually loved by that person.

I guess i should give up and try to find peace with being alone.

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Of course I don't want my gf to have sex with someone else. However, I don't think that she shouldn't have had sex with anyone in the past. She's human, humans want to fuck. Women want to fuck guys who are generally higher up on the social ladder than themselves, they get to be choosy.

Cheating is scary, I agree with you there. I know from talking to my gf that she has been cheated on before and says she would never do it herself. I believe her, mainly because she has been through it and knows how awful it is to have it happen to her.

Honestly, try to stay off r9k, its a shitshow and when I stopped coming here regularly my life improved greatly. Visit Jow Forums instead. You're younger than me my man, you have a LOT of time to improve your life and makes things better for yourself, that after all, is what women want. A guy who gives a fuck about himself and improves his life every day.

Don't give up, its not too late. I was in your shoes at 22, I can assure you of that, but like I said I made a decision to change and fixed a lot of bad habits that I had and replaced them with good ones. Its possible.

Not ALL girls are obsessed with clubbing, drugs and hookups. My gf is proof. Keep your head up, look in the right places and don't expect anything. Expecting anything just makes ends up making you feel let down.

>I don't think that she shouldn't have had sex with anyone in the past
Its not really that, im ok with a person having sex in the past, what fucks with me is hookups and one night stands.

But anyway, thanks a lot for the kind words OP, you made me feel a lot better and with more hope.

>fixed a lot of bad habits
Care to list what habits are you talking about?

Of course my man, I want the best for you and the robots.

As for bad habits, here are some things I changed in the past year:
stopped smoking pot
stopped drinking as much
did nofap for 50+ days
watch porn and jack of a LOT less (1x a week generally, this was a big one for me personally)
started working out or running almost every day of the week
started trying to talk to people more, become less anxious
play less vidya
started meditating
started reading
eating better
etc

Keeping track of a lot of these things via apps helped me a lot to know where I am at to keep motivated. I have become a much happier and stable person by doing all of these things and will never fall back into the pit of despair.

Dude what is the big deal with girls having one night stands??? Wouldn't you have them too if you could? Arent there some girls you think are hot but wouldnt want to be in a relationship with them? Sex is a part of life and it doesn't always have to mean love, most of the time it only means pleasure. The sooner you realize this the easier it will be for you to integrate yourself into life and get laid for once! Because this is the way most people think in this era. The way you think makes me think you're a boomer, maybe mommy and daddy did a little too much overparenting but you gotta step outside and realize how much pussy you're missing out on with your 1960s beliefs. Godspeed brother

I turn 24 next month, tell us what u did

I started giving a fuck about my life and made a lot of positive changes. Also, I tried with girls, which is something I hadn't really done until very recently.

Ill see you back in couple months. Until then, enjoy the ride

Thanks a lot for the advice, but things like drinking smoking have never been a problem to me, i only drink in social meetings.

I think my biggest problem is my phisical health, im 5'2ft tall, people still take as a 17 year old boy, cant even grow beard, skinny, big head, you know the drill.

I once worked out and went to the gym for like a year, but never really saw huge change. So i lost motivation, Uni also takes a lot of time.

I already started the habbit of reading and trying to create a library of books i've read, i think its a very good alternative for vidya.

I've also tried to start doing nofap, but honestly i never got the urge to do it for more than 5 days, after seeing friends and people on the net saying it doesnt chance anything. Will probably try again.

Next up should be my personality, but that requires a lot of mental gymnastics, i've become bitter and hopeless about life, i guess my deathblow was when i was the last one on my circle of friends GFless and virgin, and had some good friends laugh at me for and using "it doesnt matter, you never had a girl once" as an excuse to win an argument.
Sure they may now feel regret and bad for saying those things to me, we were 17 at the time, but it still hurted, and made me bitter and feel like a failure, then when i turned 18 i found this place, the only place that i could connect and find people that understood me and had similar experiences.

>Wouldn't you have them too if you could?
Not really, that shit repulses me.

>The sooner you realize this the easier it will be for you to integrate yourself into life and get laid for once!
Realising this wont get me anywhere further, i know a LOT of people the same age as mine who have similar beliefs and have decent partners, and in fact are having far better relationships than those with people that did one night stands.

>Because this is the way most people think in this era.
I dont really care about that i its wrong to change myself over what the status quo is of right now.

>maybe mommy and daddy did a little too much overparenting but you gotta step outside and realize how much pussy you're missing out on with your 1960s beliefs.
Maybe you are right, but im not interested in just getting pussy, im interested in getting a relationship. Just because i dont want to date a slut doesnt mean i have 1960s beliefs.