/sig/ - self improvement general

you're not trying hard enough you lazy fuck

How old are you?

How many job applications are you doing each day? How much effort are you putting into tailoring each app to suit the job?

Just had a big falling out with half of my family but other than that, I have a good routine going and am no longer wasting my life with vidya games and the interwebs.

>big falling out with half of my family
suck dicks?

Nope not a Faggot, Just short tempered and a idiot.

How do you ask a girl out? Where did you guys meet? I see these girls and some of them definitely like me, and while I can talk to them like a normal person I don't know how to flirt or escalate a conversation.

Please do not forget when createing a new /sig/

1) post the link to the previous thread
2) post the already existing OP post basic information

I sent as many apps as I can.
It's hard to curate my resume, I really don't have much to put on it.

what kind of self improvement gains are you guys making?

I'm making strength, thickness and wallet gains.

I'm a carpenter, if I show up every day, on time with my tools im already ahead of about 25% of my competition. Be ready for work basically.

Got a midnight text from my ex last night bros

PLEASE LEND ME YOUR STRENGTH

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If you're still here, eat an apple in the morning. It won't magically replace caffeine but you won't be as tired.

This, so much.

It's been two thread since we didn't got a decent OP.

Lie reasonably.

I'm waking up at 6am to run /sig/ I did 4 miles this morning.

I've also started to study trading in my spare time hard. Hoping to be almost always profitable by this time next year. I can make it /sig/, I'm not going to wage slave all my life. I can break the chains of modern society. One day at a time, each drop of sweat, each hour studying.

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>Just want to heal, move on and not think about her and everything she's doing with him

Time moves too slowly for this
how do I speed this up?

I've heard that, I'll try it

How do I keep from getting frustrated while I work on my longer term goals?

Break down your long term goals to shorter term ones and write them down. Keep this list where you can see it daily and cross them off as you complete them. I also find it helps to reflect on my progress so far at the end of the day as I go to sleep.

So, what's a good way to break down paying off debt?

Avoid getting it in the first place, increase your income/spend less

Echoing the other user, how old are you?

Re: job apps.
Call the employers a week after and ask how your application is going. If you get a rejection email, ask them if they have any feedback on your application, thank them for their time and ask them to keep you in mind for future positions.

Re: resume
There's a lot of stuff you can do to bulk it out: community volunteering, odd jobs for references, projects in your spare time relating to the work you're trying to get.
Volunteering is probably the easiest gig, just make sure its not handing out fliers for MSF at your local mall. Churches and town halls are good places to look for groups needing volunteers for bake sales, charity collections, community works, etc.
The project angle largely depends on the industry you're after but being able to bring a self-motivated work to an interview, even if it is still in progress, is a big plus.
Part-time jobs are also a good way to beef up the resume. Hospitality, labouring, whatever. Gets you a reference and some experience. Just dont work at a large chain or you might get buried in the paperwork. Look for family businesses.

Break it down by paycheck allocation.

Save more money and pay it off quicker
mrmoneymustache.com/2012/04/18/news-flash-your-debt-is-an-emergency/

I'mIf you can make the payments then chart them and have a countdown somewhere, if not look into cutting out expenses that don't belong. Whatever you do, be very wary around refinancing debt: depending on the country and type of loan they will try to screw you by giving you a longer loan term on marginally less interest.

From the frustration POV, reward yourself in a small way every time you make a payment. I personally buy myself one of those kinder bueno bars whenever I achieve a set goal and just chill in the park but I'm sure you have a similar vice.

If you are seriously struggling with debt, a lot of countries have NFP debt counselling services available which can negotiate terms for you.

Stop caring about your long term goals and break it down into lots of short term goals you can meet quicker.

Quick question: per what was suggested by Dave Ramsey, I have $1000 in savings as a short term emergency fund. Should I use that on my debt or should I keep it just in case? I currently have just over $4000 in debt.

Save it.

I seem to be always letting people give me shit and pick on me, even though I'm an adult. Even people physically smaller seem to be giving me shit. I'll admit I'm always scared and anxious of people but I dont show it, and I know I could handle myself physically against the average guy. (I lift and box)

What kinds of things about a person might invite bullying or mockery, especially among adults?

Pay off your debt. Rapidly work to build assets after that.

Having $0 in assets is pleb life. I suggest dramatically curbing your lifestyle except when it affects your health, fitness, intelligence or money making potential for the next two years at least.

Once you have $10k-$20k+ in investments the whole concept of an "emergency fund" becomes silly. Nothing requires cash right, right now.

Something big comes up, cool, here's my Visa, give me three days to sell some stocks and then I'll transfer it to checking to pay off the credit card interest free when the statement is due.

I agree with your points especially regarding assets but he doesn't have 10-20k investments and if he pays down 1000 of the debt and shtf then he's potentially in the hole for more.

>but I dont show it

they know user. Either get better at talking shit back or pick one and KTFO. On grass so they don't die or whatever.

is tech a Jow Forums industry?

Stop making these threads if you aren't going to include the OP template.

How do I stop enjoying being a feminine gay bottom?
How can I find a nice bf?

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Become the manic pixie dream girl (male) of every sane person's dreams and make love to the world in all shapes and forms through your joyous astral energy signature.

Found out someone who treated me poorly in the past (it's been nearly 10 years since I talked to this person) is stalking old social media accounts of mine, scoping out and reading into everything I had posted (Jow Forums memes) and still shit talking about me to their friends. I'm not even mad, I'm actually happy. After all these years, I still manage to crawl under the skin enough to allow stalking and bitching about me to people who don't want to talk about it. Feels pretty good, man. Remember, grudges give the people you hate the feeling of power and importance.
In other news I want to die from all the studying but I'm making A's in all my classes so far.

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uh what do you mean user?

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Nothing, carry on...

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talked to a cutie for a week, asked her to see a movie tonight, ghosted. currently at the movie by myself
anyone else /comfy/ tonight?

What is the strategy when i'm attracted to 3 different girls? go one by one or all at the same time?

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anyone here /mewing/?

Qt nerd virgin stopped talking to me. She had said she wanted to hang out and said I was hot and sexy. I blew it lads. Can’t believe I ruined my only chance with a girl like that (was over fb and she lived close enough) I’m going to hop on the sig boat, drop some pounds, start asking more random girls out and getting dates (which I’ve actually had success with) and start getting girls.

How to I, at 27, turn my life around.

I just want to live a fun life, meeting girls, going out, but currently its just work and gymcel

aid me amigos

I have been taking a number of steps to self improve, although I still have a long ways to go. Besides going to church, I also want to start getting up earlier (jogging at 5 every morning). What do you guys recommend? Also I got two questions:
1. I have just gotten into boxing and I was wondering what exercises I could do and how my daily routine would look if I am aiming to fight in amateurs/go pro. I am in my schools boxing club and its been chill so far although I am looking for stuff to do outside the club also. What routines/workouts do you recommend? I am also looking to keep strength training to build my CNS. I have been doing a brosplit routine and think I might just alter it because it is light and I do a lot of conditioning.
2. How do I ask a girl out? I can talk to girls as friends but can never escalate the conversation. I see these girls at school and work, and some I work with, and some of them definitely like me, and while I can talk to them like a normal person I don't know how to flirt or advance the conversation. What do I do? How do I stop being a puss? I am 20, senior in college.

Damn you sound like a younger me, making similar posts. Say “ hey I think you’re really cute, and was wondering if I could get your number” that’s it. Just gotta do it. I know it’s scary but it gets easier. Try reading models by mark Manson maybe

If I am a younger you where are you in life?

i'm too scared to go to the university admissions office and just asking questions about attending.
I don't even think its worth it but i need to do something with my life.

Yeri is so underrated.

Not by me

"almost always profitable"

No. You're missing something if you think your system will always show a profit. You'll always have a risk somewhere. True arbitrage isn't possible any more.

Make time for it. Probably disconnect yourself from the internet for a bit. go out and talk to everyone. Stop masturbating

>How do I ask a girl out?

This is really easy user. girls are just people, they really aint shit once you start talking to them.

Ask them out by doing just that " Hey you seem like a very interesting girl and was wondering if you'd want to grab coffee/go to a show some time." If she says no then move on, and be nonchalant and not weird about it. still talk to her. it shows you aren't dependant on her or needy and it'll make her comfortable around you. women can smell needyness and insecurity, so you need to be comfortable yourself.

Also, when you are out with a girl, don't be afraid to touch. First start lightly. like, touch her shoulder for instance, or guide her with the small of your back. it lets her know you are comfortable touching her and she will feel comfortable.

>I don't know how to flirt or advance the conversation.

Literally just look them in the eye and smile. tease them, and compliment them, but don't do it often. only do it once. if they don't respond positively then don't continue doing it. flirting can be literally anything, it is not what you say, but how you say it.

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Competing in a bjj comp this sunday. Wish me luck lads

24, good career, talented, good looking virgin, looking to change that, started therapy to work over some self esteem issues and general shit I want to talk about. Life ain’t bad it can only get better once I put the work in to get in better shape and get some girls. Please do start dating in college, I wish I would have. Don’t let it pass you user.

Been in and out of college for the past 7 years. I'm a finance major and I'm almost done, but desu I'm not even sure if I want to do this anymore. I'm not doing that great in my finance classes and my gpa is fucking shit. I don't have any job/intern exp, so I'm going to be fucked once I graduate. Theres a part of me that kinda just wants to finish school with a business admin degree, but I know if I do that then I'll definitely be jobless. I'm almost 27 and I feel so fucking behind everyone. I just want to figure out what I want to do with my life and just do it. I hate working 2 shitty jobs just to get by in life. I'm fucking always tired and I don't think I can take it anymore. I can't be doing this shit when I get to my 30's
Also, I've been doing no fap for the past few weeks and I feel like shit. I'm constantly horny and since I used porn to escape my loneliness, I'm feeling even more lonelier than usual. I've never had a gf, so seeing everyone on campus walk around with their loved ones makes me feel even more pathetic.
Trying to push myself through the pain, but I don't know how much longer I can take it.

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not by me

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How do you fix a fucked up sleeping schedule?

Years of NEETDOM and a nightime job turned me into a creature of the night, even if I manage to get back into a normal rythm it's only temporary until I end up getting back to going to sleep in the morning.

I know that feel exactly. The only advice I can give you is to keep going, keep pushing, and maybe things will improve. It's really hard to game over at life in the current times in a developed country, as long as you are still standing, there is hope.

Momo is everything.

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Seperate dates for all three and see which one gives off the best overall vibes

What are you currently doing on your self-improvement list?

23yo, Looking back on my life iv had many opportunities at a stable career (no degree) but iv always gone and left it for something else.
Only looking back on it I see what iv missed out on.
How do i stop myself from doing this again?

You save the $1000. Its for your of fuck times. Car breaks down, you need to pay a bill you weren't expecting. That $1000 is basically a cushioned pad you can fall back on if something comes up. But you only use it for falls that need it. Having that padding means you dont have to take out loans from companies or friends/family as long as it's under $1000. You dont want to be the guy asking for money.

based and momopilled!

Do what you do now, but sleep way earlier. It's hard but man nothing beats waking up at 4am to play some video games. Then once you got that down, maybe go for a walk after some vidya. I currently go to the gym every other day or run. On my off days, I keep the same schedule and just do whatever I want. Do what fits your work schedule though if you have a job. I'm 7-3 so waking up at 4 fits well.

Set a time for waking up, 7-8 am is a good one. ALWAYS, EVERYDAY wake up at the same hour, doesn't matter if you fall asleep at 10 or 4 pm, eventually your circadian rhythm will fix itself.
Also:
>Avoid screens 1 hour before going to bed
>Avoid caffeine after 6 pm (or better yet, avoid it completely)
>Only use your bed for sleeping and fucking, don't touch it for nothing else
>Lift if you aren't
>Have a regular eating schedule

Noted.

I've hit a career wall. I can't seem to find a new job. I've been getting by doing temp work but I can't seem to get anything regular. I'm broke and it seems like I'm completely stuck.

I heard getting a new, better gf helps. Considering that the old one left you she probably didn't really love you and didn't deserve your love. Get a new gf that actually cares about you and she'll make you forget about your ex real quick. This is much easier if you're already Jow Forums of course. How are your lifts going?
If you think she really loved you and it's all your fault then use this opportunity to learn how to treat a woman.
Also consider the fact that the new guy is getting used goods. She'll never be able to fully love him, whether she really loved you or not. The woman you loved is gone. Hell, maybe she only existed in your head. The woman that's with the other guy is someone else.

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Having my first shift today, kinda nervous considering I'll basically be a cashier for 7-8 hours and I'm a bit of a sperg
Also how do I quit Monster? I sip that shit almost every day
Pic related just for you

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This is so fucking true. I'm trying to go to bed earlier too and it's a fucking blast waking up with some TF2, I don't know why but it's better than playing at 11 pm

pic is beta as fuck

Actually a lot of shit you do in the morning would feel great. Not just vidya but exercising, reading, etc.
But now that you two mentioned, I could play Vidya when I wake up too early.

In order of decreasing effectiveness:
- Stop fapping so damn much.
- Stop watching those faggy animes that are basically softcore porn for NEETS
- Stop using Jow Forums, except maybe some good boards like Jow Forums
- Delete your trap folder
- Look in a mirror, pay attention and realize your nature doesn't allow it. At best you'll be able to hide your manly features for a few years. Soon you'll just be a typical 30 years old boomer in a wig that has to wear a diaper because his asshole doesn't function properly anymore.
- Learn to love yourself again, lifting weights is a good start.
- Start watching normal porn again. Softcore or POV only. Remember when a nice pair of tits got you super-excited? That's when you still had a normal, healthy libido.
- Fap to bust your nut and then get back to work. Edging is feminine masturbation.
- Don't fap just because you're bored. If you aren't hard already you shouldn't fap.
- Go outside and meet real people.
- See your fetish for what it is. These artists draw a girl and call it a guy. There are almost no attractive guys that want to fuck you, only ugly betas that want you to fuck them. You almost certainly have autogynephilia. You can only emulate superficial femininity, actual women are feminine in a way men will never be able to emulate.You are getting dangerously close to getting aroused by children.

I'd also like to ask you this, out of curiosity: When was the last time you fell in love with a girl? Do you remember these feelings? What happened to them?

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Read The Prince by Machiavelli

Read red pill

This but don't overdo it. If you're too valuable you won't climb.

Does anyone have the home workout pictures that have like 6 exercises for each body part that you can do at home?

yeah this board's lost it

I don't agree with everything the pic says or how it's said sometimes but if you dismiss it altogether you're making a big mistake. There's valuable truth to be extracted from it. I recently talked to my mom about why she cheated on and divorced my dad. She cited almost all important points this image set makes.

Regarding the beta thing: The highest form of an alpha male is a beloved leader. You can't be a good leader without knowing how your people work. You don't earn their support without showing them the genuine benevolence and self-control that only a strong man can have. An aggressive, self-serving male may intimidate people into accepting his leadership but he will get backstabbed the moment they see a chance. A beloved leader has his whole tribe backing him up, while inspiring his people to give their best and become alpha themselves.

Stop being terrified of looking like a beta and develop a genuine interest in others. You'll never truly make it otherwise, user.

>no porn
>no jacking off for 2 weeks
>lift weights
>cold showers
>learn a competitive sport bonus points for combat sports like boxing
>stop watching anime
>after the 2 weeks without jacking off you still do not consume porn, you're jacking off once a week to get the poison out of you nothing more
t. ex trap turned into a functional human

good luck lad
as for the monster, wean yourself off bit by bit
you can do it

How long has she not been responding? May have gotten busy. Anywho good luck!
What helps me is to procrastinate my fear until the very last second. For example if I'm worried about sperging out at the clerk, I hold off that fear on the drive there and worry about it when I'm physically talking to her. It helps of you're good at procrastinating. But that's what they are there for, to answer questions.

This guy gets it. I'm able to understand peoples actions and thinking much better than I used to in the past, particularly with women. However, what always bites me in the ass is an unwillingness or fear to cultivate genuine interest in other people. I have a decent poker face and can talk a good game but if I'm to level up as a person and become a better man it's necessary for me to develop genuine interest in others instead of feigning it

You can hear the fat and pseudo intellectual in your voice

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Is it ok to do squats, bench, DL on smith machine if it’s all I have access to?

>32
>only now starting to get comfortable with who I am, what I want in life, not letting fear rule me anymore and understanding how to act

It's never too late right guys? G-guys?

Not really. Might as well use the legpress and use dumbbells for bench, squat variations and do pullups for your back.

different user, since he won't post part 2.

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