Hey Jow Forums so my girlfriend of 5 years and I broke up because of trust issues recently. I’ve been depressed af for the last month but I’m finally starting to come out of the funk.
How do you guys meet girls or even know what to talk about? I haven’t been single in so long I like don’t even have any motivation to keep a conversation going with some random thot. Any tips?
>because of trust issues recently
You mean you are insecure and probably made her leave you because she could sense it
It was actually trust issues with me but thanks for being an asshole.
>thanks for being an asshole.
No problem man, you can catch me in every thread on Jow Forums, Jow Forums and Jow Forums. I'm easy to find, take care.
Trust issues stem from insecurities fuckwit.
I understand.
try to be as social as you possibly can
Ive been trying to go to more meet ups and stuff in college but most people already go with friend groups.
My girl just broke up with me about two week ago because I never made any time for her. I felt like shit for a bit but I'm good now. Lifting, exercising and getting back to stuff you had to give up due to gf eating up your time will help
Go meet girls doing shit you like to do.
No one cares.
Yeah my lifts haven’t been the same definitely have to hit it harder. Good advice bro.
now you can add "retarded" to that list
Don't neglect friendships when in a relationship. You should at least have someone to go out with. You should start talking to people in college and then talk to them outside of college. Right now it sucks but you're gonna make it.
>Dating a woman for 5 years
Weren't you tired of creaming the same hole? Move the fuck on. Get in contact with your friends, have fun, work hard in the office/classroom/gym. There are plenty of women out there
Thanks brah good advice.
Fucking random thots won't address the way you feel about yourself after ending a long-term relationship
I recently got out of a 5-year relationship as well. I can't pretend to understand since I was the one who initiated the breakup and had time to emotionally disconnect from my ex.
Reconnecting with old friends that you've neglected during your relationship. Spend a lot of time with them.
Put yourself back out there. Casually date a few people to reevaluate your sexual market value.
You'll be fine, champ
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how do you fix trust issues
Thanks man. Yeah I was hoping it’d help with my self esteem at least.
>those legs
how did she have trust issues if you need help looking and talking to other girls? wtf fuck you nigger
GF of 4 years left me 2 months ago. Now I'm avoiding most girls because the additional rejection would worsen it. Not all girls would reject me but I have such a negative view of myself at the moment that most probably would. Instead I try to better the relationship with myself with self improvement and NLP. In a few months I will be in a better place to find a girl.
>see ex gf in college main building
>ignore her and continue on my way to a lunch plan with a gymbro
>another gymbro joins us
>ex follows us in, sits at a table a few away from us with some scrawny faggot right in the center of m view
>starts making out with him right in front of me
>gymbros staring at this cheating thot wondering what the hell she's trying to do
Are women a meme? I can't comprehend what makes someone this petty against someone they dated for only a month. This is so stupid.
she's pretty much in full COPE mode user
she realized she fucked up and is now trying to get back at you in some way or another and thinks something superficial like making out will sway you
Just focus on your lifts and you'll be good
The worst part is the dude she was with is her old ex. She dumped me for him when he came crawling back but whenever she talked to me about him it seemed like he was a failure of a dude. Seeing him irl really showed me it, dude looked like a twig with hair. What is it with chicks and dumping dudes for fags they have history with?
Hey user, did you break up with her? I've been living with my gf for 4 years and I think it's time to end it, she's in love and all happy about us. I just don't know how to tell her i wanna be by myself.
Help anons.
no wonder she didn't trust you, you're black
Dude just be happy she is not your problem anymore.
How long have you felt this way?
No yeah she was nuts and I'm glad I just got some sex but holy fuck this level of pettiness is ridiculous. Never stick your dick in teens and for christs sake never stick your dick in crazy,
Chances are she probably broke up with you thinking she could do better and found the hard way that no one wants her other than the pencil-necked beta she was with. She probably doesn't even like him and is silently suffering.
Take this as a win user, sure it's confusing at first but you're in a better timeline for yourself now
I wish it was that way but I got a good timeline of the events. One day we were dating and then she gets a call from him and before I even get off work I'm being told to pack my shit. It happened that fast. I knew she was pretty fucked up but I ignored the red flags like a retard because the pussy was good.
About a year, but first it was just a random feeling every now and then.
Ha, yeah I fucked many crazy girls when I was in college bro, it's only good if you don't attach.
You might want to talk to a professional first. It might be some seasonal/situational depression thats making you strive to be alone, or maybe there's something about it bothering you that you can't pin down. Either way trust me bro, don't cast aside love so easily. I'm an ugly loser and it hurts me so hard to see people take it for granted. Will you fight? Or will you perish like a dog?
I hear ya, I was in a situation similar actually. It just sort of hits you and takes a while to process and figure out what to do.
Luckily there is the silver lining: despite having to eat shit just to see why you do see that they just aren't worth the time and ultimately you're better off
>if you don't attach.
Rip me then man, I'm too much of a 'sweetheart'. I've been single for so long because I can't avoid that shit and I'm tired of it hurting me.
Oh yeah man. I'm far better off. Bitch was crazy. She has taken every nice thing I did for her and told anyone who will listen that I'm an ass. Luckily for me its a small school and everyone knows I'm a lovable goofball, so she's dug herself a hole as 'lying cunt' but it still hurts.
I struggle not to cheat on her, honestly I've been doing great all my life with girls. And I had been in love once before.
>honestly I've been doing great all my life with girls.
Well if it comes so easily to you than really then I guess you have nothing left to lose. Seems like you've made up your mind already.
I'm not good at it either man, I love girls, it's hard to not see the good in them. Specially if they are a good fuck.
why did you make the break-up so long?
There's not much we can do but guard ourselves user. Hold fast against the raging tide of the thots, you'll find the one who appreciates your tender heart for the jewel it is one day.
That's what I tell myself at least.
My question is how to tell her this without feeling like an absolute asshole. Is it even possible.
Damn that happened to me too, with the same results. Just shows bitches really ain't shit.
Keep your chin up, user we're all gonna make it
I'll be honest user, its hard for me to tell random people who crush on me I don't care for them. You're going to come off as an ass either way considering how long you've been dating. At a certain point you back out when things are going 'fine' you'll just be seen as 'leading her on'
bitches anint shit but hoes and tricks
Don't think about that shit user. She's just trying to hurt you, so don't let it get to you! Do stuff with your friends, party a bit and you will gradually forget her.
And always remember: there is a reason you two broke up so when you think you want her back it wouldn't work out for long anyway
Thats the thing. I'm already over her. She was nuts and damaged goods like they got hit by a train, but my heart is tender so these petty actions just hit me so hard. Some part of me just feels so naive that I think that people don't act this way.
Hey Jow Forums how to ask out a girl who’s always busy? I met this girl but she has like two jobs and is a student and the free time she has it’s with like her family, any tips or ideas on how to get in?
Time is the only cure. Eventually, you'll revert to your normal single version of you, desperate to slay some pussy with no strings attached, just like any other guy.
dont do it bro, rebounds with thots are not worth it
just gonna be another headache and baggage to deal with while youre still trying to get over your ex of many many years
give it more time
My breakup was actually rather quick. We were living together and I found a place to move out within 2 weeks.
My emotional disconnection was started way before the actual breakup though.
>ex literally said to my face
>"Your emotions are not on the top of my priority list"
>ex said this when I made clear how adding coworkers of the opposite sex on Instagram was making me feel uncomfortable
>my ex cheated on me and I stayed for over a year to try make things work
>and this fucking bitch has the audacity
What my ex said was just the last fucking straw. I consciously made the severance for all emotions and esteem I held out for as long as I had
This is a reminder that love is fleeting emotion. Attachment, familiarity and financial comingling are what make a long-term relationship difficult to leave
I did that too, was in a similair sitiuation as you. It really helps to work on yourself instead of just chasing girls right after breaking up.
I have a feeling I'm about to be dumped and I have no idea how to process or deal with it because it was my first real relationship:
>Girl and I hit it off pretty great from the moment we met
>End up dating after we find out we like each other
>Things are going great for a while
>Fast forward to early this week
>Her whole demeanor and way of talking to me completely changed
>Less emojis (she used to use a lot), next to zero flirting/didn't react to my flirting, took forever to reply back etc
>Last night she said she was busy, but was commenting on her ex's social media post about a topic that made me uncomfortable and took forever to get back to me
>Also liked his old photos that a friend posted etc
>A few weeks ago, she told me about their break up and what happened and said she's not over the fact that she couldn't tell him what frustrated her about him and cried a bit (never put her first, was ready to move overseas without her because he wanted to go there asap, even if she had to wait to go there)
>tfw no sure if this whole thing is related to her ex, something I unknowingly did or is completely unrelated
What do I fucking do, Jow Forums? What should I say to her when she meets me later?
Not that other user but I feel the same way as you. I always wonder why people would try to hurt other on purpose. This transformed into actual trust issues with people and I had to go see a shrink, which helped a little bit but not a lot. But yeah people are assholes try and find the ones that aren't
Any way to accelerate this process?
Jesus break up with her first before it's too late. There is a future you in a other timeline that will wish he had.
There is almost no chance to save this. Your gut feeling is right, she is emotional detaching from you. You could try to combat that by have her relive and associate with the time both of you fell in love. Bring those happy memories back and remind her that you are a good match.
But this only works short term and buys you some time to figure out your next move.