Tfw just broke up with gf of 4 years and 9 months

sounds like she broke up with you. why did you post "just broke up with gf"

Start by telling the truth.

>whore around
Hell is forever

she's already getting fresh dick
and a whole variety of the local male degenerates

OP i was in something similar, it lasted almost 3 years.
for some time it will feel pretty shitty, I was even depressed for one month about it, nothing felt good of fun anymore. but hopefully you have your bros there for you.
It will get better. just give it time.

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OP I know how you feel. I went through something very similar and I’m glad to say I’ve finally gotten over it but I won’t try sugar coating it. The first month I lost nearly 20lbs and went into a severe depressive state. I hardly left my bedroom. It wasn’t until I actively started occupying my time with something I knew was beneficial to me. That’s how I got into lifting in the first place. Looking back I’m thankful for it. I grew so much after that breakup and to this day I’m thankful for every second of it. The ups downs and backwards. You can do this my guy. I believe in you, the rest of this dyel board believes in you, and you should believe in yourself. Come back stronger OP.

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>3 dogs
now im jealous

shit how do you know. She broke up because she doesnt know what she wants and she doesnt love me enough anymore for a relationship. Shes been struggling with that for the last year or so and I told her that she should have the decency to break up because even when we were together I was sad because she didnt love me 100% anymore while I did. Somehow I coped myself into thinking she'll do again. I know it is for the better but I just hurts brehs

I love you guys.
Follow up question. Should the breakup fuel my lifting and next cut or would I get into a "dont lift for girls" situation

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>She broke up because she doesnt know what she wants
So she is like 99% of the rest of the girls in their late teens?

I already blocked her on all forms of social media or communication.
>After that period it gets easier and you won't miss her at all, even if you see her you won't fell anything
god I hope it'll be like this

I'm Can relate to every word you said there, it will get better brother, you'll thrive while she rots

I have depressive tendencies but I wont let her drag me down like this. Just this thread alone made it so much better. Also cried a few hours ago with my mum and sister which helped a lot. Also my ex didnt see me cry. That somehow feels very good

lift you idiot

this was 5 years ago i am now 98 KG at 197cm. But I am stilly lanky as fuck and got to fat on this bulk. Definitly much to do physique and athletics wise

>>tfw just broke up with gf of 4 years and 9 months.

I'm sorry I just can't relate as a 30yo khv.

But a bro in pain is a bro in pain so hang in there bud

Hehe

Don't allow yourself to become a degenerate. Fucking whores may feel fine at the beginning but you will never recover the ability to form a meaningful relationship. I

Bro, what was your motive behind the break up? Also struggling with a relationship

fucking depression coupled with ex cheating on me and bullying me until I finally cut her off
I'm a mess
>he's so much better than you
>you're not worth it
>you don't matter, I never loved you, I've always loved him
>I've never been happier and feel so good

and they're planning on getting engaged
here I am picking up the pieces of myself that I let get shattered by her

Fuck bro thats rough. Just reading this make me mad. But are you not already in a better place. She sounds horrible.

read this it wasn't me who broke up but I support it. Propably should've broken up though.

Post bod bruh

She just trying to justify her whorishness by being awful to you. Don't take it personally bruh.

SS+GOMAD

Fuck that bitch, you deserve better user.

Date some other girls and it will become clear that she wasnt that special to begin with. I assume you only dated because you happened to go to the same school or something. She isnt some magical one of a kind person. Your lives just happened to cross paths for a bit. Not every relationship is meant to last forever.

What makes a grown man wanna cry?
What makes him wanna take his life?

His happiness is not for real
And mindless sex is how he feels

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I am not /lit/ enough to understand this. pls help

Fuck breh I feel ya. Gf of 5 years broke up with me like 1 month ago. I genuinely think she committed the worst mistake in her life.

Haven't really talked to her afterwards, but now she wants to talk to me. Idk how i should feel about this, I'm just at the point where I went out to dance nights to meet new girls and I've had tons of fun, but I still have feelings for her, which will probably never disappear, so there's literally no reason to wait for them to disappear, I just need to go out there and try the very best not to poison my next relationship with my baggage, but fuck.

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naw it won't, more like after 1-2 months the worst soulcrushing pain will have passed and you might even not want to kill yourself. You'll think less of her after 3-4 months but still keep reminiscing about the feeling of having someone which hurts. Best not to have any connection to her because it's slowing the process. After 5-6 you can't really remember her face anymore and the memory has faded into bittersweetness which is not too unpleasant. Try not to stalk her life and focus on your own to keep your mind off her. After 7-8 you're almost out but if you haven't had anyone else since then you might still be a little hung up and afraid of the new thing. A lot of people get stuck on this stage and become paralyzed with fear of an another abandonment. After a full year and with healthy introspection you'll be pretty much ready to keep going and will only occasionally miss her. Then the only pain will be regretting losing her which might come up maybe a few times a year, if that.

Btw don't go breaking hearts while yours is broken. A lot of girls are broken already and you're just making their lives worse and not helping other guys as the stock is broken.

We're in the same boat. Not really though you are on the same river but just further down stream. So I cant really give advice but If I had to I would tell you to block her.

Keep lifting and the thots will come bro.

I pride myself for beeing a good human being so I don't think I'll go around breaking hearts especially since I am not thinking about other girls at this moment. But I am sure it will start sooner than later. I have a super high sex drive and used to addicted to porn and masturbation in the past.

I keep trying to remind myself I deserve someone better and I matter and she's off doing her own thing, but fuck if she didn't throw me for a bender and then some (had to cut out some mutual friends who kept telling me about her 'amazing' life now)

I'm in a better place in the sense I'm not with someone as bad her haha, so that's a start to focus on myself and no longer need to worry about her cheating cause that's been done.

I made some seriously heavy promises to her. I can't back out of them.

I said I would be there for her if she ever needs my help. If she reaches out to me like this, I can't just block her.

Yeah I think I might be a fucking idiot.

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Like the one user said, give yourself time to grieve, just don't tweet about it or some other stupid shit.

I was in the same boat, 23, gf of 4+ years broke up with me. Absolutely fucked me in the head for a while, lost hella weight and became a skelly.

The spite keeps me going now though, I see it as a competition, retarded as it may seem, and I can't allow her to be better off without me than I am without her.

Dodged a bullet on the early settling thing though lul

One night stands are even good for your mental health after a break up, when you're ready for it. Remember to tell the girl that it's not serious and it will be just fine. FWBs and longer just-sex things usually end badly because only degenerates can fuck a girl once and then after some other dude has had it in between (imo). Don't wreck your heart any worse once you feel like getting back up.

We're here for you bro, just give us a call

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Good. You don’t want these feels.

Get a better gf

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What's her address user? I. Gonna send her a box full of dog shit.

>Remember when I told you X?

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Why did you do it? What did you get in return. Also I dont think promises you made in an emotional state count

You need to sever it and move on fag.

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OP here. GF just called and says she regrets breaking up. Crys 24/7 and wants to meet me tomorrow. Is it just her emotions coping her into doing that? Also what do now? I told her I'd tell her tomorrow if she can come over to talk. I think eventually she'll come back to the same "not feeling happy with me state" and I'll get hurt again so I am tending towards not meeting her tomorrow. Also it feels weirdly good hearing her cry and wanting me back

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It up to you how you use the pain. When I first lost my gf that I loved intensely it was brutal. I defaulted back into my old ways of drinking after work everyday, smoking pot, and being a sad cunt generally. But after those first weeks I had this intense drive and to stop being a sad cunt faggot. Thats how I started lifting since you're already lifting think about training martial arts or getting involved in a hobby where you will meet young qts.

Meet other girls obviously. If you're 21 and you've already been lifting for 5 years you are pretty much in your prime right now. Take advantage of the fact that you no longer have any commitments or responsibilities and go get those mires without feeling guilty.

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fucking aryan mate

Just go on with your life bro. It's normal to feel sad, but keep going forward, never stay in the same place. Go travel, explore the world, lift weights, go out with friends, meet other girls, learn a martial art, read about the things you enjoy, go into nature, dress sharp, listen to great music. All the good stuff that guys seem to forget when they get in a relationship so early, I've been there and I know how it is. It gets better broski

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You don’t want her back. Trust me, do yourself a favor a cut her off.

You are grown men and free to do as you please, but speaking from experience I recommend never taking back an ex. Don't even entertain the idea. They never really change.

I have extensive experience in going the “taking her back” route, every time I thought that time it’s different.
It never was different. Not once.
My 2 cents.

She fucked someone else

I lift , play american football(in europe though so amateur lvl) and the rest of the time I study for my education or go to mongolian basket weaving forums and play games (casually. no league of legends autism anymore). Dont think I can add something else. Although I've been thinking of joining a friend of mine at the boulder club.

Keked

>21 year old
>nearly 5 year long relationship

yikes... what a waste of time lol

Took my first gf back.
It was a mistake for me too like the other said.
But at least it was a learning experience so do what you will.

The problem is people don't change that fast, so you'll both come back into old habits.

Take her back and then kill a thread with your blogposts about you didn’t listen to us and she broke up with you for good.

Lots of people telling me to do a martial art. Any recommendations? I did Yudo as a kid fwiw

Obviously.

Never take an ex back.
We're all guys telling you this here, bro. Accepting her back is weakness, and if you do it you will just get hurt in the future again.

This

And possibly this

Tbh I'd be OK with her never changing.
I genuinely enjoyed every day I spent with her.

Pic related. I am nothing if I do not hold true to my words. I understand that me loving her, being loyal to her, etc don't bind me, as her breaking up with me essentially "frees me from my oaths", but I cannot deny her this, unless of course, another higher level oath might forbid me to do so (e.g. I wife up another girl). Yes I'm quite autistic and pedantic when it comes to morals but I'm not going to give THAT up because some girl breaks my heart.

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>Any recommendations?
Any non-meme martial art will do.
Boxing, muay thay, judo, BJJ, greco-roman wrestling, MMA, whatever you want.

Just don't do aïkido, tai-chi, krav-maga, systema, "self-defense", or god forbid nin-jutsu

spend some time feeling sad and missing her, but then when you feel it's time to move on you need to completely cut her out of your head.

never actually had a gf but that's the advice I heard someone else give someone.

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hah nice job retard, just cut her off who tf cares
>mfw she’ll be texting you about all the new dick she’s getting

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Then just tell her you want to be free from that promise you autist.

I don't think so actually. When do you think it happened? We broke up 4 hours ago.

That is actually a good point. Thanks.

I might consider that in some point in the future. As of now, I'm tempted to consider what she has to say. Not that I'm going to put dating other women on a hold, mind you.

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OP, post body

sry didnt find a recent one fast enough.
98 KG
197cm (other tall people tell me I am taller but I think they just wanna cope themselves into thinking they are 200cm)
Bench 100 KG for 5x3reps
Military Press 60 KG for 4x3reps
(was going for 10x3 but it was the last week and I plataued at these numbers)
Deadlift: LMAO
Squat: LMAO
pls no bully and sorry for bad pic

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back

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girlfriends are expensive anyway

u have too much fat around your hips

We will all die alone.

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yes bulk went too far. planning on cutting in january because football season starts in april over here and I wanna be faster come that time (WR/TE)
Also I kinda have wide hips :((((((((((

Tell me more about the dogs

just need to cut man

Don't worry bro you'll be fine. I dumped my gf of 8 years started dating when we were 17. Was my first everything asked to marry her and all that dump shit. You are younger. Take a year to just get better. If girls throw themselves at you then w/e fuck them but don't get in a relationship for a while. Concentrate on getting buff af and being happy alone again. Gonna be a lot of sad times for a while but you have all the time in the world.

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I wanna cut in January. Is this too late? Plan is to cut until April and then Mantain until summer maybe even lose some more.

i mean we do have one-way ticket

so either buckle up and find a nice girl to marry to or die lonely

>When do you think it happened? We broke up 4 hours ago
You keep using "we" - why?
Did she break up with you in person?

dont be a bitch. if you do shell never respect you and see you as cuck. break up again. forget it

this 10/10

You are the worst type of person. You are enabling her. Women like that are vampires. They just want a guy that they never have to care, fuck or be with it but still get all the emotional shit and support they need. She doesn't care about you. She just wants the attention and good feelings with out loving and working for them. And you are stupid enough to give them to her. Have fun being a cuck while she goes on the cock carousel.

yes she did. I wrote somewhere else in this thread that I encouraged her to do so if she feels the way she ultimately felt so I kinda "agree" with her decision. It was the right decision on her part and now I'll not be in a relationship anymore where my S/O (sorry for reddit term) is not commiting 100% to it when I do. Hope that makes sense I have trouble expressing myself in my mother language already haha

She wants you back because she just tried another guy and it wasn't what she thought it was. Women are the most insane creatures when it comes to matters of emotion. Don't take her back and don't talk to her. She already ruined something good, and she ruined it for just the thought of something better.

hwhy? What makes you think that?

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>gf of 4 years suddenly has 0 enthusiasm
>very secretive
>no longer wants to discuss our travelling plans
>she breaks up with me abruptly but I'm happy I don't have to put up with her shit anymore
> see her mum in supermarket months later when home from uni
> casually tells me ex is worried about her upcoming surgery
> call ex and she tells me she found out she had a heart condition requiring surgery and an abnormal mass in her brain
>didn't want to 'waste my time' with her ill health during the best years of my life

Things will get easier for you, prepare yourself for new experiences and don't compare them to your past relationship.

dont think she cheated. We broke up 4 hours ago. I think she wants to try some new cock but no way she already did

holy shit user I wasn't expecting those feels

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Not fitness related, sage. Also...kys.