Self Improvement General - /SIG/

You’ve got to stop taking things so personally and instead you should recognize it as a criticism that you need to improve upon.

You’re gonna make it bro, trust me.

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Well I've missed my morning lectures for two weeks now.
I've only focused more on the labs, which are after 12pm.
I pretty much got behind on every class. I would fail any test on any of them and I think I won't be able to get back on track on all of them. I'll inevitably fail at least one or two courses.

Also, I work a lot so I don't have much time to study. I've also missed a lot of gym sessions. Lost a lot of strength and so on.
All of this while I got on a relationship with my oneitis from 12 years ago. She loves me so much and so I love her.
Still, I don't understand why does this happen to me. Makes me feel depressed and lazy as fuck even though I'm not sad.
Maybe I should just drop out of College and just do something else. I fucking hate this.

>Maybe I should just drop out of College and just do something else.
I had this same idea m8. 6 years later I'm 29 and still living with my parents. Could have graduated in 2014 and been making 2x what I'm making now

Do acid or mushrooms until the scaries go away. Do your research first, obviously.

Thanks, but how do I not take it personally?
Just try and see it from their perspective?

I've been feeling similar lately man. Even thought about joining the military because I don't know what the fuck I'm gonna do with my life when I don't have to constantly worry about homework, tests, and if I'm gonna fail or not.

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I'd get in the Military if I was American, without a doubt. Seems way more appealing to me than to be a fucking engineer.
I wouldn't want to leave my gf though.

I should have graduated last year.
I've been on undergrad for five years now. And I think I'll need at least another three years to finish, if I decide to stay.
She already graduated and is currently studying for her Masters Degree.

tfw

been meditating 30 minutes in the morning and 30 minutes in the evening. Im trying to work up to hour long sets. Im starting to feel less anxious in general and less in my head.

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Starve out the addicyiin. Feel the pain. Let it die. Build new habits. Profit.

Change entails pain. Change is painful. Know this.

why do i just lose all energy around 5pm and how do i fix this problem without caffeine?

I've been thinking about doing nofap because I'm definitely addicted to porn since I can't bring myself to delete all this good shit I've gotten over the years. I'm obviously attached to it because I get bothered by the idea of deleting it all. But at the same time who the fuck wishes they fapped more at the end of their lives? Its retarded to be attached to this dumb shit of girls I'm not either not fucking or use to fuck. I feel like this shit drains me and its fucking pathetic.

>computer freezes up like 10 times
>60.4gbs worth of nudes deleted
>even went through emails and old hard drives/usbs and shit to make sure

Thats it, its fucking going bros.

How can I become a better speaker? Anyone got any tips. I seem to mispronounce words on the go all the time, but in my head the sentences are perfect

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Lmao that shirt

>tfw comfort and escapism addict
I used to have somewhat of a life, but for the last several years I have spent literally all my time holed up in my room just watching videos on jewtube and hitting refresh on Jow Forums... I am now 25 years old and not satisfied with where I am in life but I lack the energy and drive to break out and change. How do I break out of this fresh new hell I have created for myself and come back to life?

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I felt that way, too. "I'd rather sleep in a gutter than stay here." I have no regrets, but things worked out piss poor for quite a while.
Just keep it in mind that things never work out as planned.

Read shit out loud. Talk to yourself out loud, orate speeches in the shower that you make up on the fly. Sounds embarassing but there's nothing for it.

Would weed work? I live in a place it's legal. Never tried it before, but picking up an edible is possible. I'm not going to do illegal drugs. Not worth the risk.
I'm not scared of my family, they were emotionally abusive, not physical, and I haven't seen them in years, though we talk a few times a year. It's just every damned night I dream about them and I want to cut my brain out of my skull if it keeps up.
Currently I've been trying to fantasize about whatever for 30 minutes before falling asleep. Self inserting in anime for example (just an example.)
Maybe if I start dating someone...? I literally talk to no one currently so that could be a reason.

Damn can’t i just read books or something? The guys on /lit/ told me it would strengthen my vocabulary and stop my brainletness

Going to plan out my days, although I procrastinate and often sleep in, skip school, or workouts. How can I stop being such a lazy procrastinator? It affects my school work too.

I expect to struggle for a good while, but I have faith things will work out in the end.

> posting the thread without including the template
Never.
Gonna.
Make It.

Not that guy, but I saw that Ted talk and his only advice was to live life, he did not explain solutions. He did not even cure his own procrastination, just talked about how we have limited time on earth.

You need to physically say the words out loud. You can read books about lifting all day; does it actually alone make you stronger? No. Just have a plan B, C, and D worked out. Good luck.

Please explain this fuckery to me.
When i’m with some people, i guess i can kind of feel in the aura around them if i fuck with them or not. I feel like i’m my funny, regular normie me. I’m witty and make people laugh, and we can talk for hours. But around other people i’m autistic and awkward as hell and i’m not that talkative. I’m talking about completely new people (meet new people at my job every time i work since we are lots of workers). These guys are all normies btw and their personality doesn’t matter. I’m good with some talkative people, silent people, regular people. And bad with talkative people, silent people, regular people. Shits driving me crazy

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I have experienced something similar, although I don't have an answer as it still happens to me too

>Had a panic attack at work and am considering quitting
>Only person to reply to my OKC messages in over 6 months turned me down
>Massive inferiority complex I can't seem to escape from
>Lost 20 lbs in 2 months, but have been stalled at my current weight for 2 weeks

I'm at my wit's end here. Pic related is what my dream self looks like.

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>OKC
there is your problem. All the sick fucks who needs a quick fuck scoop are on tinder

get some very strong whatever and blow your mind up, make sure you are healthy so if anything you are only dealing with your own psychology and nothing else

do not do it consistently

does smoking spike your insulin?

no one's coming to save you, user

>nigger
Unironically move to Africa and live like a king with 6 wives due to your western education.
You're welcome, darkie.

I'm an older fuck and can't figure out Tinder.
Autism doesn't fly, even in Africa

I got fired from my job due to panic attacks:( sorry bro shit sucks. How is your stress load?

Money flies everywhere and sheboons in Africa have very low standards, user.
When in doubt, beat them.

Goal: lose 60 pounds of fat.
Plan: fast continuously until acheived. 72 hours in after a few failed attempts last week.

Remember to drink a lot of water.

Who here is a real estate agent. What's it like? Is it a good career to get into

No.
Learn a trade you can do some dumb shit like plumbing and make a killing if your iq isn't on the level of the average nigger.
If you play your cards right you'll have your own firm and won't have to work anymore when you're 30 since you have employees doing it for you, just do something that isn't market dependent.

I'm laying in my bed right now. I'll get better eventually.

Stress from work isn't too bad. I learned the stress is self-induced from inferiority complex. Can't socialize in a place that demands it, given the nature of the job. Fell bad from not being able to and anything sets me off from there. It's an awful feel.

Well done, you've broken your chains. It gets better, just grit your teeth; listen to your body and mind and start seeking a real companion.

Describe your meditation set-up and routine

Be your own hero.

I believe in you.

Wouldn't changing your diet be more effective? If you do something temporary like fasting it'll all come back unless you've reduced your calorie intake.

I'm lost in procrastination
I'm a furious consumer of jewtube content just like , I went back to smash that refresh buttom a year ago ago after a year on normie life, and I can't get out of pc bc I study CS. My laziness downward spiral started back in mid 2017

When I get home after a normal day on uni, or after a good workout, I'm aways "too tired to study". By morning I fall to my old lies easily : "I'll do it later". I unistalled all vidya, but I end up wandering through useless web shit, including Jow Forums sometimes

Is it really possible to rebuild discipline from ground zero?
Does internet/pc detox helps?
How to overcome that emotional barrier that goes agaisnt productivity?

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I get the same problem. Either get into a routine of siestas or drink coffee at 3-4

Dont drop brother, its better to fail at some subjects, see if you can salvage anything. Talk to your profs if you can make something out. I dropoed out of college twice, because of financial trouble. And i have regretted it because I could have already graduated and moved on to working and making money.

>Constantly trying to be positive
>Drinking enough water
>Nofap
>Lean bulking with good lifting routine
>Meditating every night for 10 mins
>Improving fashion
>Saving money, not using credit cards
How am I doing lads? Will I make it?

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up meditation to 30 mins daily since harvard did a study on it at that duration and it showed tons of benefit like increased pain tolerance, motivation, increased endurance to illness and feeling less fear also increased emotional control all round - also could be worth adding reading to the list

>been cigg free for 2 weeks

Still get the urges when im bored but shit feels good brehs. We're all gonna make it

Good shit, user!

issue 1 hate myself
issue 2 girls think I'm cute but not interested in more/sexually

how do I fix this?

exercise and not watching porn

Reposting from the previous thread. Gonna hit the gym next week, still in the phase of looking for one that's nearest to me and one that would best fit my college schedule. Is the sticky enough for a beginner and will I manage to create a solid starting routine for myself with it?

keep it up

nofap is a meme, just do noporn instead. Also, do you read?

How the fuck do I get a job after graduation when I only have experience in retail?

Should I just go for a Master's?

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I personally had tgus happen for most of my life aswell untill i realised that you body subconciously puts yourself into some form of social hierachy. I kept constantly reminding myself that they are not above me in any way and that helped a lot.

What are you studying?

Economics

holy fuck bro are you me

Internship

Yeah I feel the same. I think it's just nature. In life you're gonna have people you fuck with and people you just can't mesh, and 90% of the time you'll probably know right from the get go.

It is worth viewing? I feel like it could be interesting from the point of view of the guy

>job app asks for academic transcipt and GPA
>took one year longer to graduate and 2.72 GPA

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no
your time is better spent looking at a wall because at least this way you won't lose any brain cells

>Also been grinding teeth at night
Go to a dentist, they would make guard to prevent teeth grinding. I've been using one for a couple months and I sleep way better.

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Anyone got experiences with NAC/Ashwaganda etc.?

I've tried phenibut and it's pretty fucking great, but I get major hangovers on it even without drinking, it makes me feel like shit 5 hours after dosage and you can't take it too often without withdrawals.

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The War of Art

I just feel completely demoralised.
I have put a lot of effort into this year, I made some good progress too. But its all kind of collapsed after a really bad decision that I made when planning how I was going to turn things around this year.

I put so much effort in, and if I posted here a few months ago I would have been a /sig/cess story. And its all kind of gone to shit. Dont get me wrong its my responsibilty and fault, Im not blaming myself, and I have until a few days ago been trying to try and salvage something out of all this. But ultimately I just... dont want too anymore. I put all this effort in and put my all into this and it didnt work. A lot of bridges have been burned oppurtunities wise too.

I know what kind of post this is, I dont mean to make a post just complaining and shit without any pragmaticisim in it at all but fuck.(I know this is all vague too but I didnt want to just spam my entire life story out). I just feel completely done and tired of this shit. This is the 5th major life crash in 4 years.
Ive legit never felt this completely hopeless before. I just feel beaten in the worst way. Its not that I couldnt, maybe, kind of, make something and mitigate my losses marginally. But the desire for me to keep on pushing on and fighting on just to recapture a few small peices of a lot of lost ground... it doesnt seem worth it. None of this seems remotely worth it. It all feels Prryhic.

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I spent a good few weeks trying to find books and talks about solving procrastination. I realised I was just procrastinating in a different way, I was pretending I was making progress by saying I was preparing for the time I will actually do something.
Maybe this isnt you, but Id reccomend just doing shit rather than looking for a one video/book solution.

You're at a crucial point of your life, which road you decide to take next is what will define you so be careful.

Pro tip, don't. If you really wanna stop procratination and cease being a lazy fuck, then just do what you have to and that's it.

>nofap
>noporn
>keto
>no weed
>reduced alcohol
>tan
>lifting harder than i ever have
>cold showers
>stretching daily
>meditating daily
>fixing posture (Thanks Jeff Cavaliere from AthleanX.com™)
>reading things like meditations by marcus aurelius, how to win friends and influece people and an antidote to chaos
>playing piano
>fixed sleep schedule

Am i a living, breathing Jow Forums meme or am i making it?

>keto
>not a bivalve-eating vegan that engages in prolonged fasting for the true benefits of ketosis

literally not gonna make it

People are so strange, they tell you their goals and when you ask what they're doing to work towards them they state at you blankly.
If you aren't doing at least one thing a week that brings you closer to your goals then it's just a dream.

If your goals don't scare you they're not big enough.

I have been steadily knocking over my goals for a decade and within the next one I will achieve financial independence and be able to retire.

Here's a little story as it may resonate with one of you:

>Match with qt on Tinder
>She goes to a large University / I go to a Community College
>Pretty much knew it wouldn't evolve into anything substantial solely for that reason
>Try anyways
>Get her #, Snapchat, and Instagram within a week
>Go out on a coffee/shops date
>Goes great
>Go to her dorm and watch a shitty romcom
>Stay really late, making out and talking about "personal" things
>Texts me before I get home that it was a great day
>Go on second date
>Take her to restaurant and go to a few thrift stores
>Sleepover at her dorm
>Similar to last time but with some sexy stuff involved
>Keep talking
>Just playing with the hand I'm dealt
>Notice she's getting more distant
>Make plans
>We hang out but only for a very short time
>Tells me we should just be friends
>Have a great conversation about it
>Friends know it's one of my first success on Tinder
>Comfort me
>Wake up the next morning feel like shit / Lingering thoughts / Why did I do this or that / Overthinking
>By afternoon all is good
>Get a huge "smoke" to just full out /SIG/ my entire life
>happened a month ago
>Working out
>Meditating
>Studying
>Writing
>Setting goals
>Going out more
>Matching with some qts on Tinder if they don't answer or whatever then ah well
>Talking to girl in English class gonna ask her on date on Tuesday
>If rejection oh well
The reason this story resonates with me, is I normally would have ran and further structured my shell rather than my soul. I would have escaped back to vidya, porn, and weed...and I just didn't do that this time. Sometimes rejection, ambiguous digital communication, and failing are enough to light the match to go on in life. I know some of you think you're too autistic, ugly, or whatever to experience. Keep going. I promise you. These type of scenarios can propel you. Stability without stasis. We're gonna make it bros. I love you

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Is nofap a meme for women? I can't see how it would affect women so long as they aren't using toys and making themselves numb
The sticky is actually really good, better than most the shit you will read on this board. There's a reason it's stickied.

Thanks for responding back, the only thing I have to do now is to get after it.

thanks for this lad, I love you too.

Learn to code.
My buddy is getting his PhD in Econ but learned computer science along the way and now does data modeling for a major department store and makes 6 figures at 25 and works 45 hours a week max.

>jerk off
>immediately feel less confident

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>missed my bloodwork appointment
>paperwork due tuesday still undone
>behind on readings in both of my classes
>scheduled a fucking convention for the same day I have a volunteer shift

Alright guys. I have to admit it. I am disorganized as fuck. How do I get fucking organized? What's the real, no snake oil secret to having a schedule remembering to do shit, and most importantly sticking to what i plan to do and not procrastinating?
It's time to grow up.

I was an angry incel this time last year. This morning I came inside my gf and she held me inside her and wouldn't let go for a good minute after I was done.

It can get better if you try.

Either be blessed with great long term memory or write everything down and check it often. Preferably both

I can be pretty outgoing and charming with most groups of people I meet but with the other people in my program i turn into a stuttering autist who never knows what to say. Im on year 3 with these people and it hasn't gotten better and I have no fucknig idea why

every word you said is me
Step 1:go on nofap
Step 2:do one thing per day that is important

have been doing this for 2 months now.There are some improventes that i have noticed,but you can't expect to unfuck 7 years in 2 months.You'll eventually reach a point in your downfall when you'll say never again.After that things start to happen.

I need guidance bros.

I have a gf and I care for her, a lot. But while we got to know each other, I discovered she's had quite the 'experience'.

Slept with 50+ men, age range from 20's to nearly 50. Had a sugar daddy set up with the old guy. Just been through some stuff.

Thing is, she isn't just some thot. She's focused on her studies and is really smart. She just had sex for fun.

How could I blame her? How could I be pissed about things she's done before we met?

I truly believe she'd never cheat on me or anything like that. I just get all shaken up whenever I think of her sexual past.

How do I get passed this?

Depends on you, really. Have you fucked a bunch of people too? If so you're being a hypocrite and need to sort yourself. If not and you have a genuine problem with what she did, then she's probably not for you and that could be worth coming to terms with.