/SIG/ - Self Improvement General

>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
My fiance, my family to a slightly lesser extent (they are pretty toxic and try their best to push me away so I often leave them on the back burner), all of my role models have passed away. Either die a hero or live long enough to become the villain.
>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
I do, but I'm starting 2 more classes and my mother has needed me a lot to help her with house chores because none of my other siblings will do it, so it's been utterly fucked lately. Past 2-3 weeks I basically haven't been following it at all, haven't had time to work out either which makes me feel shitty as a result. Grades have also been slipping.
>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
In one year I'd like to have the bulk of the work for my degree out of the way, which would mean continuing 6-7 classes a semester, clinical and volunteer work. If possible I'd also like to get a few easy to earn certs to pad out a resume. 3 years I plan to be done with school, moved to an apartment out of this state and working. In 5 years I'd like to have my starter home and thinking about starting a family.
>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
It doesn't get easier, it just gets better.

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You don't need an app to do meditation, there's plenty of information about it. youtube.com/watch?v=8a5fO8jE7mc

Manage money better.

I don't know what software you can use, but it does exist, you'll have to do your own research. There's some that you can set up to email people if you try to fuck with it or turn it off so you've got accountability.

If you want to design clothing then an easier way to get started would be print on demand, and you don't need anything but a computer to get started with that.

You gave up 3 jobs because of your mother? What the fuck?

Try to find some excel template to track your expenses.

>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
Mostly my family and a few professors here. There aren't very many I look up to that are around my age except for a friend two years older who I've known since high school.

>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
Yeah. Sometime last month, I finally got around to developing a routine that allows me to split up time between hobbies, clubs, and studies. I'd say it's worked very well for me.

>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
1 year: finish the year on Dean's List, get some sort of study abroad opportunity this summer, and work my legs enough to finally hit 1/2/3/4
3 years: graduate cum laude, begin working towards a master's in Europe, 1500lb+ total
5 years: finish the master's, get hired at my first company, leave humanity behind (jk but you get the idea)

>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
What I've learned essentially boils down to three tenets:
1. Don't expect life to owe or give you anything at all. Fight tooth and nail for every fucking thing you desire until you finally obtain it yourself.
2. You will struggle and suffer. You will have moments when you question your luck, circumstance, or performance. But there will always be a good ending to every struggle if you put up with it and keep working. I applied to 22 colleges this year with 99th percentile test scores, a solid GPA, and an application I spent months perfecting. I got into only two, and the one I chose ended up benefiting me more than any of the schools that denied me could have.
3. Idling makes you depressed. I wondered for the longest time what the source of my depression had been in high school until I looked at myself objectively and understood the time I was wasting browsing Jow Forums, playing vidya, etc. Occupy your brain with ACTIVE hobbies and interests throughout the day, but not to the extent that you feel loaded.

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>Manage money better.
Easier said than done :( especially when I have none, plus I tend to spend stupidly when I'm in low moods/sad .

>I don't know what software you can use, but it does exist, you'll have to do your own research. There's some that you can set up to email people if you try to fuck with it or turn it off so you've got accountability.

Will look into this.

>If you want to design clothing then an easier way to get started would be print on demand, and you don't need anything but a computer to get started with that.

Sadly this isn't my style, though I know what you're talking about. I despise generic, screen printed garbage that people call "brands" since there's nothing to it and they're quite tacky, I'm more into making things/getting things made than printing images/text onto tees and the sort.

>You gave up 3 jobs because of your mother? What the fuck?
It's a long story :(

I plan to do this once I get a job! Also I hopefully will use my other card to track my spendings too, hopefully I can better my spendings and keep track better once I sort this.

>>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
friends who give me shit
>>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
yes, going to the gym is better than sitting in traffic, I haven't missed a lift in maybe three years
>>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
Work and lifting are no problem as long as I don't seriously start screwing up. Might look to buy a house eventually but that's alot for a single guy in his 20s.
Always on the lookout for quality chicks.
>>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
Listen to people who are smarter than you and take their advice seriously.
Understanding yourself and the way you react to situations is the key to eliminating many potential bad decisions.
Know when and how to cut people out of your life if they are overall a negitave impact.
Recreational drugs should be avoided.
Don't listen to dumb hippies or communists.

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I'm more focused on working out and general self improvement than women. For me, this is a great feat as I used to wallow in self pity every other day over >tfw no gf. Being rejected sent me into a case of manic depression but that isn't the case anymore. If I'm rejected, no matter how attracted I am to her, it doesn't phase me. It comes right off me like rain on a raincoat.

Is this freedom? Not being emotionally bound to the pettiest shit and focusing on yourself? Even if it isn't, it's an amazing feeling.

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sup /SIG/
any one of you got some resources on how to deal with anger issues? specifically on how to be less judgmental and condescending. it's gone to the point that i dont even want to leave my house since just being near other people gets me in a really bad mode.

I ran my first two miles today. Am happy. Will continue running 3 or 4 times a week. Thanks frens

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>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
Parents, partner
>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
Uni helps me keep a good schedule
>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
I don't have such long plans, but I have goals. For now, I have to keep studying.
>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
If you feel like it's too late to make changes in your life, ask yourself if you're okay with not making those changes at all.

I was a lonely person full o anxiety, with little social life of few friends I trust and family.

I now enrolled in Uni and decidet to open up. To my expectations, I actually managed to quickly make friend or two once I just let myself be open and fight my anxiety.

Now I am facing a completely different problem that I forgot to take into account. I never made friends this fast ( few weeks) and we of course shared some personal stuff, but this is so new, unussual and makes me feel vonurable that it start to kick in my anxiety mechanism again.

If you read this, I just wanted to give you message from all this.

I got so used to being lonely, these new experiances are filling me with dread and almost feel sureal even though they are good.

So I want to tell you that sometimes hardest part in improving yourself is getting out of the comort of misery and failure. Yes you can get addicted to being depressed and find some kind of comfort and security in it. So when you go and improve yourself and change your life style, don't let inertion of comfort reel you back into shitty life style. This is what I am fighting now.

Hope I bringed one undertalked issue for you to compare to your life.

>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
I love my family and my friends, but I'm not really sure if they are important to me. I don't think I've ever felt that someone is truly important to me. Maybe my brother.
>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
Yeah, I lift 6 days a week and do a martial art 5 days. School, studying, reading, learning the piano. I want to start learning German soon.
>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
1: Hope this electrical apprenticeship works out or join the Air Force.
3: Be in a good job by now and have a loving girlfriend or wife.
5: Hopefully starting to have my first kid by this point.
>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
Start now, dudes. No matter what situation you are in, you can work to improve yourself. You can always do better, to become better. Be the man you dreamed you'd be when you were 10. Get out there.

>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
Family and close friends
>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
Study twice a week, lift 3 times and work around 2 shifts
>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
1 to start uni
3 to be at least halfway to first degree with good grades
5 to start writing my first book, start doing free self improvement/living life positively seminars
>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
Start today. Not next week when you're done with this weeks' test, not in the weekend after you work all week, not tomorrow after you rest. Putting things off is also a big problem most of us have and we accomplish 2 things if we start improving now. Always improve, there will be hard days you'll want to quit and it's ok. You can take a day-two off and reevaluate things. Keep going, and be positive.

>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
I don't have a romantic partner so my parents. They're loving, albeit a bit harsh at times, but I know it's for the best. They have always wanted me to succeed so I wouldn't have to struggle much later on in life. I'm grateful for them. I know others don't have proper, supportive parents.
>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
Depends. If there's work to be done or fitness related, sure. Otherwise not so much.
>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
Graduate with a Bachelor's Degree in Biological Science, enroll in Medical School, and dip my toes into the water in terms of surgical residency programs.
Find a romantic partner, someone I'd happily spend the rest of my life with. But it's not a requirement, I've got along just fine being alone.
To be content with what I've achieved so far. Not to be confused with calling it in because I feel as if I've accomplished all I need to.
>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
Don't hesitate. It's cliche but I used to procrastinate a ton when it came to improvement. Whether it's working out, changing something in my personal life, or what not. Never allow yourself to settle for less. There's only one life, don't fuck it up.

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>1
Friends and close family, since my brother passed away
>2
Good days and bad days
>3
Finish bachelor 2yr
Try to get in Vulcanus in 1yr
>4
Don't give up

>Don't hesitate. It's cliche but I used to procrastinate a ton when it came to improvement. Whether it's working out, changing something in my personal life, or what not. Never allow yourself to settle for less. There's only one life, don't fuck it up.
This, so much this.

It means you're moving forward. Nothing wrong in asking a girl out but getting hung up on it because you got rejected is just a way of self pitying. Keep working and you'll eventually meet someone worth keeping and stick around.

>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
No one in my personal life that I'd be willing to risk myself for. Maybe one friend that I on-and-off email (he lives a few hours away), but no on in my day-to-day life. The closest is my nuclear family in that if I get in a tight spot they can bail me out, but I don't like most of them as people.
>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
Partially. Weekdays are pretty set (job from 9-5, gym from 5-7). Only hangup is the weekends, where my schedule fluctuates too much (some days I have nothing to do, others I'll run errands from 9am-6pm).
>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
1 year: Vacation overseas
3 years: Hope to finish (not necessarily publish) a book.
5 years: Be at least halfway to my retirement savings goal. Chances are good there will be a downturn in the next few years, but my contributions should still be sizable.
>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
I'm not in a position to give much advice, but I will say that people remember how you make them _feel_ more than what you said or what you did. Nearly every major step in my life has come from someone I've helped in the past. Be kind, be helpful, and try to stay cheery even when things are hard.

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That was a good post, thank you user

>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
no one, im alone
>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
no
>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
->go back to the gym learn to play the basics of guitar and keyboard, get over my concentration problems and begin to practice the sports that are on my reach
->be good at those things, get nice gains, do a segond carreer
->finish my carreer, work
>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
this is hard when you have serious mental illness

I would say mindfulness meditation but for me it just seems to make me more aware of how much more enraged I should be with my life, myself and others.

You need to analyses the source of anger. It could be cause by fear and anxiety, but your anger takes over even though it's secondary emotion, so you can't deal with the real issue ( anxiety).

I really recommend, self awareness, mindfulness and good introspection like the other user said.

It could be clear anger, but it could also be something else hid behind anger like anxiety or some disorder. If that the case, you need to do introspection and see the source.

>try to self-improve by getting on a jury this past week to be a good citizen and expand my mind to the legal process
>get treated like a complete retard by the lawyer who literally asks me "mr. user, i dont think youve been paying attention so im going to quiz you, what does a juror do?" while she asked everyone else questions like "do you think your prior experience with DUIs will make you biased in this case"

i had to contain myself from getting angry at such a humiliating question and instead proceeded to define a juror with a ton of info given about the case until they told me to stop talking, and then i get dismissed early anyway with no explanation. stewed about it all day at work friday. i was so pissed. i actually wanted to be on a jury, i would have gotten to miss my wageslave job, i would have learned some stuff, i might have made a difference.

this is unfortinately what has happened to me after a long life of social isolation. i get so annoyed and pissed off by people now. but the weird thing about me is that i also am constantly joking around and making people laugh. so i basically just have two modes, very angry and pissed off or joking a lot.

i get compared to bill burr a lot

Why do you think that is? Is it the education level that held you back or is it something else?

the only thing it can be is that they thought i wasnt paying attention in the juror box during the questions and descriptions of court. i was thinking of saying that i have ADD so i might have been fidgeting and looking around but i promise i was paying attention but i instead chose to list all the facts of the case

it really upset me and since it was a peremptory strike (meaning no reason needed) im sure i couldnt even ask. i just cant believe that there were numerous people there who had experience with family memebrs getting DUIs and they stayed on but i got cut early because of that

>Any programs that'll help me block porn that you know?
You can try an extension on a web browser. I use Leechblock to block certain sites at certain times of the day. It would work if you could just put in certain sites like pornhub or xhamster. If you want something that would block everything that may be porn automatically, that is harder. You could try a parental control app but it's very likely it will block you from a lot of shit other than porn.

I started drawing during this week, just did some quick scetches of my feet, hands, objects around me... I found it very relaxing. Besides that, I'm having troubles finding a job as most places require prior experience which I don't have. I need a job as I want to save money and sustain myself during my master without relying on my parents, hopefully I will manage to get something next week.

Why do I lose all of my motivation to do anything during the weekend?

Tempted to drop nofap, feel like my heart's not in it. I love jerking off too much. I've gotten too good at it. I know the exact things to think about to make myself diamonds and they'll always be with me. I'm tired of avoiding things because of sexual content. Is it even worth it? I don't expect to be participating in the sexual marketplace for several years anyway. I won't say I can quit whenever I want, but it feels like now isn't the time

Holding on a little longer might change your participation in that marketplace

Manic depression concretely isn't something that triggers because of high induced stress as with other conditions. It's genetic. If you really think you could be manic depressive, get yourself checked.

How do I be confident and social and talk to people and women?

The hole I'm in is deep enough that I don't have social access to women at all. And even if that changes, my SMV is currently rock bottom in every dimension. And for personal and religious reasons, I'm skipping the casual sex game and playing on hard mode. So it's gonna be a while.

So let's talk charisma/social gains. Where did you start, where are you now and what did you do to get there? What are you doing to get to the next level?

Also, what are people's thoughts on increasing charisma if you're already pretty good with people? I have some ideas but I wanna gather more input. I'm talking charisma like neil caffrey (white collar tv show), hank moody (californication), etc

Pic related is a rough tier-list when applied to real life (16-17 doesn't really work based on pure charisma/social skill if you don't include looks so you can ignore it if you want), feel free to make your own and place yourself on it if you don't like it. It's from D&D apparently but I found it in an /a/ thread.

I'd say I have around 18-19 CHA now, 20-21 when drunk.

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Probably because you didn't make a written plan for what useful things you could do on the weekend.

Yeah I should have a plan for sunday

watch NFL

How can I improve my conversations and what do i do about getting tired from socializing?

I lift at uni and see girls everywhere, any advice or tips on how to approach at the gym or just in general?

Ill probably just go running or walking for a few hours

I think this can be useful for some of you.
s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/gzf/Posture: The Ultimate Life Hack.pdf

I am 12-13 and I don't care much about social gains as long as I get girlfriend, job, finish studies, lift wights and get the family.

I find no fun in sticking out much in social situations and when I do it it's mostly purely pragmatic reasons.

I am 10-11, started at 8-9 a few years ago. How do I become more Charismatic?

I typed out a long reply then accidentally hit refresh...Anyway the gist of it is practise. Read the books and learn the techniques etc. but you need to put it into practise asap. Join a club you're interested in, talk to people you usually just say hi to, smile at strangers, ask the cashier how their day was, just keep pushing the envelope until you feel confident talking.

Thanks user

What's the point of self improvement when you're a chinlet and jawlet?

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start mewing, your chin is recessed because you are breathing and positioning your tongue wong. Close your mouth, keep your tongue pressed upwards, and breathe through your nose 24/7 and your jaw will go forward

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Been Mewing since February, jaw hasn't moved a single millimeter. Mewing only works for children, it's too late when you're 26, my skull is deformed by now

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Study and work habits user?
I need to lead a healthy and productive life
have fallen incredbily behind in my masters, assignments piling up, readings missed, social life doesn't exist, stopped taking care of myself, past is setting in with my depression and really making me start to sink

Help me succeed Jow Forums
Idk why I keep thinking I can but I know I can get better-idk how

11-12

Just stop being lazy and start doing what you need to be doing right the fuck now. Whenever you want to procrastinate and your mind tempts you to, just tell it to fuck off and keep doing what you need to. There's no magical answer that can help you, it all depends solely upon you and your will.

Create an opening.

>Who in your life is important to you?

My family and my friends even though they drive me crazy about 99% of the time. I have a few people I am inspired by, but I'm not one to take on role models due to being burned in the past.

>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?

Not really.

1 year plans:
Get my credit card paid off
Read 40-50 books
Develop my workout practice
Fix my diet
Develop my meditation practice
Start a yoga practice
Paint all the Death Guard stuff I have currently
Develop relationships at the resort I go to

3 year plans:
Get down to below 25% body fat
Consistently read 50 books a year
Get a RV and move to the resort I go to
Finish collecting and painting the Death Guard army I have plan

5 year plans:
Upgrade from RV to trailer home
Start working to develop Classic Physique calibur physique
Continue to read 50 books a year
Get a work from home job
Start a Death army for AoS.

A lot to try to do. Any advice?

Oh, in terms of advice from me, develop a reading habit.

>How can I improve my conversations

We can not give you step by stem walkthrough, but consider this.

Take initiative, meaning that you need to make either harsh transitions into conversation by stating your ( desired or random) topic, or gradualy listen and give your insight of opinion that brings value to conversation.

Second you need to be prepeared to be aproachable, sometimes someone that thinks you are up for talking might take initiative, so even through you feel like shit, insecure, anxiety, if you want not to appear like an autist and want that person to be friendly, don't just completely ignore it or act like complete autist, you can manually shorten the conversation consciously or tell the person how you feel at the moment so they understand, but don't act ike completely uninterested autist because people will pick up on it.

Third thing is remember, everything is going to be okay. You are not in the hunger games and nobody will kill you if you are akward for some time in a conversation, in fact they will remember that you have no prroblem with akwardness and that it will not make you stop conversing but you will move on like nothing happened.

And remember this, if someone is treating you like shit and teasing you, you most likely don't need them in your life so there is nothing lost.

Hope this helps, there are maybe some other things that I forgot now but this is basically it.

I'm around 13- 14 at most.

>mfw whenever I "just do it" on the conversations it works perfectly fine
>but when I try to think about what I'm gonna say I fumble more so than I usually do
Its like my conversations flows best when I'm just going with the "flow" and based on instincts but I have this habit of "planning" out what I'm gonna say to someone and that always ends up failing.

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I don't know, maybe 0? I can only really converse with people I'm comfortable around. I really need to get better at talking to people, but I don't even know how to start. At points I just blank on what to say next, and then 5 minutes later I think of something. Its even worse when I'm trying to talk to a girl I like. If I'm lucky I pull a gold nugget out of my ass, otherwise, I can't continue the conversation for shit.

>but I have this habit of "planning" out what I'm gonna say to someone and that always ends up failing.
Tell me about it. I'll formulate it perfectly in my mind, but will fuck it up when I bring it up.

I feel like Robinson Crusoe did before he left home and went on his adventures. Anyone know what I’m talking about? It’s been over 3 years I’ve felt this way.

saved, godspeed user

While the aim to higher number of books is good, I'd say the more you read you get into really complex stuff and big books the size of 10 small ones, so i'd reduce the number on year 3 or 5

Can I have them too?

Why don't you just create your own instead?

>have fallen incredbily behind in my masters

YOU HAVE TO AWAKEN THEM FIRST

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>despite hating it
Nigger learn to cook ffs or switch to steak.

Anyone willing to offer some moral guidance?

I'm not good with choices, or women, but a situation has arisen where I have to deal both.

I'm speaking to girl 1, we've been on one date, she seems attractive and friendly. However, for the past two or three weeks in a row I got the same "I'm busy response" when I ask if she want to do anything, furthermore there's been times where I can see that she's read my text and flat out ignored me. I'd love to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I've got that feeling at the back of my mind that she's just not interested.

But today I received a message on my Instagram from girl 2 who goes to my gym, she seemed quiet, and is really cute. After a while our conversation gets a bit flirtatious and she tells me she's off to bed for the night.

I just don't know what to do here. I feel like I should jump ship, like I deserve more from a girl than being ignored and pushed off. Yet at the same time I would want a second chance, and maybe she has genuinely been busy. I don't know. I just know regardless of my decision, if it doesn't work out, I'll kick myself no matter what I do.

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Girl 1 is kill, seems like she's ignoring you and indirectly telling you to fuck off. Go with girl 2, she also seems to be more into you so that's a plus.

Yeah. Yeah. I think I'll ask girl 1 if she want to do anything one final time, if she tells me she's busy again I'll call it quits for good. In either case I'll probably carry on flirting with girl 2 and possibly see where that goes.
Tfw no one else in their early twenties wants a monogamous relationship.

Silver linings, both of these girls are way more attractive than any of my exes, and it'll be the first time I've called a relationship quits.

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You got this man, godspeed.

Make sure you are running running. May as well get the most if you're going to slam your knees.
>Uphill, on grass, sprints recommended

Thanks man. Whatever you're doing right now, I wish you all the best.

Much obliged, gonna need it.

>Who in your life is important to you? Could be friends, family, or people you look up to.
Gf, friends, myself
>Do you keep a good daily/weekly schedule?
I just got a new gym so im bout to get back into lifting itherwise 8 hours of sleep, ccna studying, and running at least a mile a day
>What are your 1, 3, and 5 year plans?
1. Propose to gf, get my ccna
3. Be married, get a better paying job, have my ccnp, buy my sisters house (renting from her now)
5. Have a child, have my ccie, have most of that house paid off.
>What advice would you give user's for walking the road of self improvement? What have you learned along the way?
Be autistic about improving and learn to budget. If you have a degree dont get fucked on salary, if tech dont trust indians theyll scam you. Two of my friends work as software devs for 12 an hour because of it, i switched to networking and made 20 which isnt that great but much better.

>Read 40-50 books
ridiculous, if you come from barely reading at all which is what most people do. it's not good to set goals so high and/or so concise.

I feel like whenever I'm interested in a girl, she's not interested in me and when a girl is interested in me I'm not interested in her.

Yesterday I got turned down by the girl I liked. I don't feel bitter or resentful, just a bit disappointed. But well, /sig/ taught me this stuff happens. I still want to keep in touch with her but I don't want to orbit or be her emotional punching bag, just improving my social gains. How do I proceed from here?

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I want to rip my eyes out. I can’t figure out what I want to do for a career because I just want to write. I thought about being an English professor but they get paid shit.
Also in probably addicted to caffeine and meth, or at the very least dependent

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HOW
THE
FUCK
DO
I
STOP
FUCKING
SMOKING
CIGARRETS
FFS

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How the fuck did you start
They stink, cost money and give you cancer

Social pressure and being an indirect smoker thanks to mommy and her pack 'n half of tobacco per day

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Don't stop trying to quit that poison
My cousin started smoking very young, she recently quit and couldn't be happier

Don't ask girl one anything. Don't initiate, let her do it, leave the ball in her court. If she doesn't make the move knowing you want to hang out, she's not worth your time, effort, and especially nerves user.

Mom, dad, grandpa and my friends (with emphasis on my best friend).
1 year plan is pretty much damage control:
I've fallen behind in my plans and goals, it's been a rough year, and many things happened that were out of my control and took a toll on me.
My goal is to work on my scheduling, discipline etc. Mainly oriented to improving habits. Study habits, eating habits, even having more productive free time (not just spending hours on youtube and Jow Forums). I already have a good workout habit. The free time habit is essential to avoid burnout.
One of the most important things i've learned this year is that plans are fragile things. And thus flexibility is very important.
Trip to Benelux
2-3 years:
Broad stokes, improve on the previous plan, hopefully finish my degree in less than 2 years, and if i get it done in 1,5 years then get a driver's licence.
Move out after that and get a job in my field (law).
Trip to Japan.
5 years:
Finish masters and pass the bar.
Maybe pick up an instrument, and another language or two. Develop computer skills (don't know how much programming would be useful).

As for relationships, i don't have a clue. I want a relationship, but relationships have only brought me trouble recently, at an already difficult time. I just can't emotionally invest again and go thorough another breakup. But i've been hanging out with a chick that's relationship material and i don't know if i should go for it.

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>Has trouble thinking of others as people.
Holy kek, this is me.
Also, does anyone have a cap of that long post that describes how to reset your dopamine? First pic was a girl drawing back the string of a bow, it was talking about nuking everything pleasurable in your life for 1-3 weeks and focusing exclusively on doing constructive habits that you know you need to build. I was going to start it tomorrow for 3 weeks.

What is something I could buy for under $50 that could go towards my own self-improvement? A friend is asking for gift ideas, and I already live pretty simply. Most times I just ask for books.

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How do you act when you're interested in the girl?
>I still want to keep in touch with her
don't do that, just forget her. Improve your social skills with other (fe)male friends
Professors write grant applications lmao idk if that's what you wanna write

Bumping this wholesome thread

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>tfw doing calisthenics everyday as a way to build the confidence to go to the gym
I will (eventually) make it! I've been eating right, sleeping right, exercising. Soon I will stop having the anxiety of attending a gym and having people see me flop around.

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Lads, I think I'm gonna stop having cheat days.
I've done so much reading about bad carbs and sugar, that it's honestly silly that I still want to go out and eat stuff that basically does nothing for me except raise my heart-rate. I've also sorta considered that it's just straight-up a waste of money. I could have gotten organic foods, saved a little bit more money for my homegym, but I just went out and stuffed my face with junk. And now I'm having a super un-productive day. I've always heard of the whole "moderation" thing, but I'm really starting to think that is for pussies and NPCs.
My plan is to keep the receipt of the stuff I spent my money on, and keep it on my wall so I can remind myself of what a waste it was.
I'm sorta conflicted, because I've heard that people my age (18, almost 19), should be going out, and having fun, but I really don't think it's for me. At least if I want to be more than mediocre. Not only that, but I've done some reading on psychology, nothing too complex, but I've heard that especially in adolescence, it's important to stop all bad/damaging habits because those will be the hardest to get rid of once you are older. Marketers purposely try to appeal to my demographic because they know we can be easily addicted.
So fuck that, I'm not gonna be average. I can be a sick cunt if I want to m8.
We are all gonna make it.

>Not only that, but I've done some reading on psychology, nothing too complex, but I've heard that especially in adolescence, it's important to stop all bad/damaging habits because those will be the hardest to get rid of once you are older. Marketers purposely try to appeal to my demographic because they know we can be easily addicted.
True, and "once you are older" is coming sooner than you think. WAY sooner. Every day you wait to do the right things for your life is a nail in your coffin.