Anyone have a fear of opening up to someone else?

>opened up to someone
>everything seems to being going great
>for the first time in my life I find hope in someone
>gonna_make_it.jpg
>things start to get sexual
>she told me she had a huge fetish
>"it's a deal breaker if you can't do it"
>I asked her what is it
>I'm actually up for all sorts of shit anyway
>she says she wants to peg me
>the one thing I just can't do
I like her, but I won't let her fuck me in the ass. I guess it wasn't meant to be. Why is fate so mean to me? I just can't win.

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No. The one fear I have is never being able to open up to someone else.

Nothing is sacred when you open it, so never do it user

Welcome to being a man, just push that shit down and conquer your mind. There will always be days that it gets you down but thats being human, better than always leaving yourself open to exploitation, and believe me they will all exploit you thr second they realise they can.

I am absolutely paranoid of opening up to anyone else. My biggest fear in life is being in a romantic relationship and being taken advantage of. All I see are horror stories about the horrible ways a woman will rip a man's heart out and crush him. They will take everything they know about you and use it against you, they know how to break a person and they are vindictive people by nature because they lack the physical strength to overcome a man. Instead they will hurt a man's soul. Women will always without fail ruin your lives if given the opportunity. They will trade you in like a old pair of clothes, they will abandon you at the first sign of hardship, they will never show you any loyalty or love in return. Those who get hurt by women were foolish to trust them. I thank god that for a good portion of my life I was undesirable, completely avoided the trappings other men have fallen into.

I've never been hurt because I've never let anyone have the opportunity to hurt me.

I have never told a soul in my life what my real ambitions are, I have no friends, I have no lover, I have completely disappeared from everyone who used to know me. Even my family do not know where I am. I have no social media, no pictures of myself on the internet, changed my numbers. I've completely scrubbed my existence from people's minds. The only people who "know" me are my immediate associates whom I am required to interact with. But it's fine because I am a non-persona in their eyes. No distinguishing personality. They don't know anything about me or even what my personality is like. I've scrubbed myself clean from my past. Soon I'll be at a point where I won't need to interact with any people at all. I have enough money to buy a large house that I can live in a secluded area. I'm going to be moving countries soon. Probably going to change my name as well. I want to never interact with other people, and I'm perfectly happy living in complete solitude.

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I've accepted my fate of a lifetime of seclusion and lonesomeness.

This is literally the saddest thing i’ve read on Jow Forums

I'm scared of them knowing how much of a loser I really am.

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Only a faggot would want to boink a man in the ass. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

Sounds like a terrible life. You obviously need some form of social interaction or you wouldn’t be here. Honestly you sound like a giant pussy and are just coping and justifiying the hole you got yourself into. It’s not to late to turn around

I'm in a similar position. I want a compassionate gf that I can open my heart to about my shortcomings/insecurities but then I get hesitant that they may reject me for it. I have this lingering idea that women prefer assertive and confident guys, which I'm sure they do, but do grills look down on guys for expressing themselves because they think its weak?

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Why not view life from the viewpoint that men can horribly hurt women, physically and mentally, instead? They can try to hurt you but if you lead your life right, not only will women never try to hurt you, they will actively try to make your life better and want nothing but your appreciation in return.

Once you get old, your current viewpoint will hurt you more deeply than it does now.

>that webm
>fucking up your silent assassin rating

Just a random thought, not necessarily true. Maybe girls have a lot of insecurities and perceived shortcomings of their own, and look to their guy for reassurance and acceptance. For them to see the guy they're meant to love not be someone they can rely on, it might turn them away from loving him.

On the flip side, maybe some women love the idea of being able to support their guy through his feels. Who knows.

what the fuck is going on in this webm, seriously

Yeah. I pretend to be a bumbling retard or a tool because I'm scared for people to know how hollow I am. How much I'm just a fucking wreck and how much I have nothing good for myself

Because of experiences in high school
It's terrible when I hear people talking and I always think it's because they know I'm fake or a weird.

I want to fit in but I'm so fucking scared of taking that step.

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I don't think I necessarily have a fear of opening up to someone, I think its more I don't know how to in the first place. Never had a close relationship with anyone including my parents as a kid so I never learned to have a "real" conversation.

fucking kek. that whole situation was so unnecessary.

I had a dream of a girl who I had full connection with. I believed so much it was real and that the girl I've met in my dream was something I spent my eternity with.

I woke up and realized I'll never see her ever again. I actually started fucking crying. I never get this teary over love or sadness but that really hit me hard.

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Yes.
Ever since I did so to an ex and she eventually twisted it around into either constant emotional abuse or playing on my insecurities when she knew she could get away with it. Probably not even purposefully so, it's just the way some womens are and she grew up under an emotionally sometimes physically abusive house.
More fool me. Hardest lessons are learned the hardest.

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Kek

based dubs and dub(yous)

that's the thing, I just want someone to share feeling with, about things I wouldn't even tell my parents.... But I'm hesitant because that's when you're most vulnerable

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those are the worst fucking dreams. You find this girl who just completes you and it feels so fucking good. Just to wake up and realize she isn't real.

won't you get lonely, user?

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>I've never been hurt because I've never let anyone have the opportunity to hurt me.

>”There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket—safe, dark, motionless, airless—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside of heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is hell.”

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>I'm sp terrified of being hurt I literally disconnect with every human being possible
>I'm perfectly happy living in complete solitude.
Sure thing bud

This. Not once have I opened up and not had it used against me. I keep people at a distance now for a good reason.

After opening up too much ended my last relationship you're goddamn right I'm not going to let anyone see that again.

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>Not letting her fuck you with a dildo is a dealbreaker

Be glad you avoided that degenerate slut

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Yes. No one will ever truly understand me and accept me. She'd have to be some sort of saint.

>ramping it up to 11 didn't work, so my current strategy is to keep it at a steady 0
Know how I can tell you're a teenager?

I think I know how you feel, there are things I don't tell my parents so they don't worry too much but I still would like to talk about to someone I could trust. It sucks when a laotian temple engraving forum is the only place I can open up to.

Always seems to be a pattern with opening up to your girlfriend about your feefees and her eventually becoming your ex-gf soon after

Women really do like men that are strong, and bottle up that shit. My mom told me that a colleague of hers said that she wouldn't even want her man to cry receiving news of the death of a parent or at any funeral.

You've been warned, all.

>wouldn't even want her man to cry receiving news of the death of a parent or at any funeral

Christ.

Trust me, it's worse when you've met her and loved her only to fuck it all up

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I'm not going to be a nazi like i usually am and report this thread, but it should REALLY be in Jow Forums. Jow Forums is for fitness only

we're all going to make it

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I sort of get it. You want someone who will remain strong and endure through everything. Showing weakness and faltering means you're unreliable, and not a good protector. Simple stuff.

Early 20s but may as well be one after avoiding all this shit in teenagehood. Keeping it at zero works like a fucking charm though, bitches keep seeking my approval, so it's a good strat short term while I work the rest out

I got laughed at, called a liar, or had one of my oldest friends turned against me who thought she was being subtle about pretending to care

>female friend

Okay well see buddy there's your problem

Been married for eight years and just got a baby. Wife doesn't know anything of my debauchery.

> It sucks when a laotian temple engraving forum is the only place I can open up to
I know that feel fren

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>My mom told me that a colleague of hers said that she wouldn't even want her man to cry receiving news of the death of a parent or at any funeral.
Yes this certainly sounds like a healthy relationship. It's pretty pathetic how much of a retarded boomer this generation is turning out to be. So far we've got no masturbation, obsession with country living, and now becoming dead inside as a sign of "strength"
I cant wait for you faggots to start preaching about videogames turning kids into murderers and how rock music has satanic messages.

>here is this user
>even if I did manage to get a gf chances are she wouldn't want to do this to me

life is suffering for everyone. at least you managed to even get a gf

>no masturbation
limiting masturbation is a good thing, but alright

>obsession with country living
So long as you can make it work, but I see the opposite. Most people want to move to the city still, though there is a minimal (emphasis on minimal) shift in the rural direction

>dead inside as a sign of "strength"
Crying is for women. Women who are straight don't want to date women. They want men.

you know men having nowhere to let out strong emotions is a problem right?

>Crying is for women. Women who are straight don't want to date women. They want men.
Yeah I've heard this one a hundred times before. Next you're gonna go on about how it's not ok for two male friends to hug.
Maybe take a dose of your own retarded memes and stop being such an NPC

>So far we've got no masturbation,
Porn and masturbation has fucked up three generations now

>obsession with country living,
Cities are overpriced hellholes that bring out the worst in people.

>becoming dead inside as a sign of "strength"
Now.
This has been a thing in most societies for as long as we've had societies.

>I cant wait for you faggots to start preaching about videogames turning kids into murderers
They don't help.

> how rock music has satanic messages.
It literally does.

Well, yes i'm 24 and never had a girlfriend and have few friends. I can't trust in anybody, just i can't.

what is the gym, what is hanging out with friends, what are video games, what is boxing/mma/other martial arts, what is sex

it is ok for two male friends to hug. that's fine. crying isn't. crying after the age of 18 is frowned upon for a good reason, you're supposed to be an adult now and you're supposed to be raised as a non-bitchmade individual

too bad women don't want you to open up to them anyway, they want someone thats tough, not a pussy

Thats exactly why I'm an incel

Are you surprised at my tears sir?
Strong men also cry
Strong men also cry.

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men hugging is different from men crying for their women. Women want somebody superior to them to look up to, to have protect them. Its evolutionary. Women don't want to take care of a bitch. They're biologically more unstable emotionally than you are, its your responsibility to be the rock and for them to be the ones crying.

You figure your own shit out. As a man you are alone. No girl wants to bear your emotional burdens when she's living through more intense ones every day with her fem hormones

Kek

I've only really opened up to someone once or twice. It backfired, I'm not sure if I failed to get my point across or if it's something else. Now I try to keep everything to my self. God I feel lonely

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I've heard your spiel a hundred times already. Self important faggots like you talk a big game and then either spend your entire lives letting out passive aggressive bitchfits or go postal because you never open up to another human being.
I'm 27, so by the average Jow Forums poster age I'm practically geriatric. Here's some advice for free, you will never have a real friend if you never take the risk and open up to another human being. Refusing to process your emotions is cowardice cloaked in courage. Deny it all you want or call me names, I honestly don't give a fuck about the wellbeing of some asshole who tries to act enlightened through self imposed loneliness. I have a pretty good life, I have close friends and an amazing wife. I got them both by taking a risk and putting a limb out there. Believe whatever you want, but you should at least question the validity of what's been said in this very thread when it's all the friendless losers who cry themselves to sleep pushing the "dont feel emotions be a man" narrative.

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Men are more emotionally unstable then women are actually.
We're also less able to deal with strong emotions and if we let our emotions run wild we'll destroy ourselves.

Men learn self control for self preservation and to focus it. But we also need a place to let it out or we'll destroy ourselves.

Beating up young boys and men for being emotional rather then teaching them how to deal with it and focus it is the great evil of our current society.

If a woman can't be there when I need her support then she's not my woman. She's not even my pet.
She's a tight warm hole I fuck when I need to let off steam and occasionally warms my bed.
Nothing more.

We were actually good friends for years before it happened but yeah I know what you're saying

I think if I ever opened up I wouldn't be able to stop crying. Just too much shit buried within, as soon as the door is slightly open its all gonna come out.

So a man crying over a deceased relative/loved one makes him a bitch now? I can understand a woman not wanting her man to cry every time he stubs his toe but come the fuck on.

I've heard some similar to this before about the differences between men and women break ups. Women are initially more distraught but are able to get over it whereas men are the opposite. They're less distraught but never really 'get over it'. This makes since from a historical record as well, through history women have often offered up themselves to triumphant invaders.

everyone's a loser dummy

you're only a winner when you believe

Doesn't sound like a deal breaker. It's odd you're not interested in trying shit that's non vanilla. Obviously your start slow first an simple first and progress from there.

It's fucking retarded though. Humans aren't one dimensional, so having sone vulnerability doesn't immediately mean you're weak. I'd argue that hiding ones vulnerabilities is a greater sign of weakness than showing them.
Just look at John 11:35
>And Jesus himself was weeping.

Fear of what? There is nothing inside me that i can open for somebody.

If you want to open up to someone, go to confession. They'll listen

I've been meaning to for years, Im just too anxious to step in. One of these days Ill do it.

We truly are animals in the end isn't.

Weird that in the same thread people will lionize pegging but also demonize emotionally opening up to a woman.

Curiouser and curiouser.

>all these people blatantly telling you through their own experiences "opening myself up to people has led to disaster"

open your eyes, user.

It feels so good though. Just imagine her stretching that tight ass out.

Because us men are more vulnerable to breakups. Women don't like pussies. Being a pussy leads to break ups. If you want to be emotionally abused and manipulated and eventually broken up with, go ahead and get all touchy-feely with a woman.

>Women don't like pussies. Being a pussy leads to break ups.

So we should see women as posessions utterly dominating them to put them in their place and beating them when they disobey?
Okay.
Good.

No one can be trusted. There will always be something that can turn them against you, it's just a matter of whether those circumstances unfold, and it's beyond your control. Plus, having the desire to "open up" to someone is faggy as hell and you should feel ashamed for being so pathetic.

So just be stoic and let some cracks show but if she's not willing to converse about some of your issues and lend support you should dump her ass.

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On the 1 hand, I do miss my ex that I loved dearly. Going to bed cuddling, watching movies, or just hanging out discussing random things that made us laugh, upset, or whatever always felt nice.

On the other hand, I know she just popped up randomly. I can talk and fuck girls off Tinder but I'm slowly losing interest in that as well. Was more of a "If I can do this with success then I've physically made it". 4 girls in 1 weekend is evident enough. And desu, I don't really like them hanging around after. I think it's because I know that they are the stereotypical "roasties" faggots here bitch about. Yet it doesn't bother me. I like/liked the shallow sex yet have no desire for a relationship with them or any woman currently.

I think I'm gonna be going into another cocoon phase of my life for a while after I finally get out of unemployment and find a new job. Reconsider my life and what choices led to this. Maybe take up an instrument again and stop playing vidya as much. IDK. Lots to think about I suppose

I have a fear of rejection, cause that's all I've gotten from non-family in life. Because of it I let myself balloon from an overweight 180 to a monstrous 300, and never did anything cause I convinced myself it wouldn't make it difference.

I want to give ti another go, but I can't until I lose weight and stop looking like an ogre.

This pic is from a widely used report about Italian young population (18 to 35).
The question asked in the slide is "How much trust you have in..."

When it comes to the "parntner", 25% of the population either don't know how much trust they have on their partner, or they have little or very little trust. And, overall, for 17% of people in a relationship, they simply "don't know" (ns) how much they can trust their SO.

Considering that a copule is made out of 2 people, between 25%x1 to 25%x2 of all couples out there have one of the participants that would not trust the other one.

And yet, everybody seems to be in a romantic relationship, but me. Things like this convinced me a long time ago that i will never find anybody and i will never have a "normal life", i know for sure i would never stand the "normality" to not trust my partner or vice versa.

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Damn, I didn't expect to find a garage pic here in Jow Forums

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