>fucking a girl missionary >stop to switch positions, dick immediately leaves 100% mode and starts going soft >she readily says "oh wow, soft already?"
This triggered me so hard that I got anxious. I can get a 100% erection, but I can never mantain a decent erection level long enough. I can't keep it up without direct stimulus for FIVE SECONDS before my dick starts to deflate, even when I'm by myself, mantaining an erection has always been a struggle. I never get morning wood, no wet dreams either. What the fuck can I do to improve my dick health and get to a decent level of erection quality? I really don't know what to do brehs, I'm thinking about going to the doctor...
I already: >don't watch porn >lift regularly and have a nutritious diet >have an athletic physique >have at least 700ng/dl test, measured twice
The stuff you see in porn with how they change positions a lot is due to editing. They actually spend a lot of time filming several sequences while the guy is hard. Making a professional porno really is a lot like making any Hollywood movie.
Luke James
I was the same way. I said fuck it, and took 1/2 of a viagra pill and it helped my first time. Then i took 1/2 of the 1/2 the second time and then i was good. It really is all in your head. After you plow with a rock hard dick a couple times it becomes easier
Leo Nguyen
>be me >at halloween party >have no libido past few days >get buzzed >playing around with qt >she makes some sexy jokes >respond with "haha nope dicks not working tonight" >she says something along the lines of "let's test that" >sits on my lap >I grab her hips just start grinding her ass into my crotch >penis.exe is not responding >grab her thighs try to work myself up >nothing >feelsbadman >have more party fun then leave >dick works fine next day >mfw
You just have anxiety. The more you think about it the more it’s gonna affect you. Here’s me >spend whole life masturbing daily >I hump my bed more than I fap normally my whole life for 10+ years (it’s how I discovered masturbating because I’d watch tv on my stomach and then boom turns out it feels good pressing your dick against the bed) >vanilla shit doesn’t turn me on at all >multiple weird kinks >would occasionally vice grip dick during days i fapped multiple times Ya know all the usual things that cause ED >HOWEVER >never actually had ED >dick did deflate from performance anxiety because I thought the former stuff gave me ED >deflates during sex with girls I deem more attractive than me, stays hard while smashing girls who I know are lucky to be in bed with me >start dating qt >sex typically has a bit of performance anxiety for the first couple months. Had to stop one night because I couldn’t keep it up >months pass by it’s no longer a problem now that we’re comfortable with each other and I know I’m able to consistently please her
Just work on that anxiety brah
Brandon Peterson
you are low test.
Ryder Green
Was about to say this. Maybe get some test boosters OP, or stop beating off completely.
Eli Thompson
i have good morning wood ever since i started microdosing lsd. weird but whatever i like it
Eli Ortiz
Do you death grip when you masturbate?
On a side note, i had a drunk hookup the other day, and i think it was the greatest confidence booster ive ever gotten. I didn't have to make her laugh for 4 days straight via text, i didn't have to turn her on, i just sat on on the couch and she sat down next to me and watched a movie with me. I put on a few moves and i was in. It was awesome and easy. As i lose weight i feel more and more like im becoming a chad, and i still have 40 lbs left to lose.
Juan Perez
Dubs confirm, start fucking men op
Lucas Bailey
It's 99 precent in your head. For the one percent try kegels and citrulline.
Nathaniel Thomas
>whiskey dick Get a load of this basedboy
Carter Diaz
I can jerk off twice and then fuck my girlfriend till she cant feel her legs anymore. Feelsreallyfuckinggood
Luis Phillips
Then what explains the deflating dick when I'm alone?
I can never dedicate myself to kegels like I do with lifting, will keep trying tho
This might be comforting, but is it really normal to deflate after seconds without stimulus?
I have experience, and I can keep it hard with stimulus (dick in pussy/mouth), but I instantly go soft otherwise
I don't know, probably I don't
Camden Jenkins
The lack of morning wood is the main thing here. That proves it's not mental. Try taking some citrulline, check for abnormal blood pressure, check for gayness, see a doctor about it, idk
Jeremiah Collins
Sleep nigga. You need fucking sleep.
Sebastian Reyes
>is it really normal to deflate after seconds without stimulus? Yes. I often masturbate by dry humping my bed and my boner deflates within seconds of stopping whenever I hear my mom coming down.
Aiden Hall
>be on no fap flatline >two thots approach me >hey annon wanna fuck us? >they were okay looking but i didnt even bother trying because i knew i would get hard >sorry ladies i cant get hard atm >thats okay lets do it any ways >no my dick really hasnt been working lately >youre telling us were ugly >no but i just- >oh wow you think youre so good looking dont you? >wtfbitch.jpg >fine its actually because youre ugly
wtf is wrong with women?
Ryan Johnson
Are you 13? I can’t imagine a healthy adult masturbating like that
Jose Perez
>whiskey dick >implying Na bro buzzed I've gotten hard on much more just had absolutely no libido
Zachary Roberts
Once couldn't get hard cuz I was mixing a bunch of shit and was just so fucked up but horny still. So I plowed her with the limp chub spaghetti. Couldn't cum so after 2 hrs she said she was done and we just smashed again in the morning. That's why even if I cant get hard then I try to fuck in the morning at least.
James Adams
Flatlining (low to no libido) fan be a side effect of nofap or noporn that occurs while your brain is rewiring. Might last a week, might last a month.
Jordan Lopez
I had your problem too. I tried nofap for the first time this week. I didn't watch porn or touch myself at all for 6 days .. and when I got my first boner yesterday it stayed up by itself for at least 2 minutes with zero stimulation or imagination after initally getting it hard. Kinda crazy. I suggest trying it.
Brandon Bailey
I'm fine it was literally just Halloween and unfortunate because I had a qt in lingerie grinding me
Jonathan Butler
>don't watch porn Stop falling for memes faggot.
Do you run or do cardio? I see athletic physique. You need to do cardio, your dick strength directly correlates to how far you can run.
I can go about 12 miles before I need a break. I can get erections pretty much on command.
Jayden Ramirez
Yeah well I had the exact fucking problem a day before Halloween. Grinding like never before (like actually never before, was my first time) but only 70% hard. Also no libido or desire to continue after a minute of pausing. I broke it off there, said I didn't feel like it. Turns out it's probably due to nofap, as I said.
Samuel Evans
V I A G R A I A G R A
Nathaniel Morris
I get your nofap point and I would say that was the cause but I did slap the salami
Brayden Sanchez
>slap the salam Kek Yeah, I figured. I just wanted to mention it for others and also point out the similar situations we were in
Aaron Smith
Hahahaha you're such a fucking dumbass bro. Retarded faggot!
It is more important when you are young and it's growing. When i was 14-15 i used to do these "dick-push ups" all the time and it make it able to stand up straight as long as i wanted. I jelqed and think i made it larger, it is 21 cm now on age of 24. I also tried to learn how to cum longer, and last longer using the closing muscle. I can cum like 4-5 meters now easily.
James Ramirez
Just out of interest, what is your daily carbohydrate intake? And what sort of carbs?
Wyatt Thompson
Are you sure you're not gay? How ugly are the girls you're fucking? Maybe try to find a more manly looking girl, or more fem looking guy.
Nathaniel Reyes
Op could fuck a trap trips and dubs say op should fuck a guy
Christopher Clark
Why do you get anxious? I would've laughed and kept thrusting.
Cooper Russell
Fuckin get stem injections cunt. Harder, bigger, stronger.
An American already got one and talked about it on JRE.
Alright, I'll bite As I still haven't fapped this month I'll try nofap november and force myself to do kegels to see how it goes
>memes It's not because of that - even though I was never addicted to porn, whenever I cut it for 1 or more month sex feels more exciting. >cardio I run 5 ~ 10km once every two weeks on average... My times are absolute shit, but I thought maybe my conditioning is not so bad because I don't get all breathy after a quick block run or big set of stairs like people who don't even lift >I can go about 12 miles before I need a break. I can get erections pretty much on command I'm jelly and convinced. How do you combine cardio with lifting in an efficient way?
>Also no libido or desire to continue after a minute of pausing This doesn't seem like a libido problem, just lack of experience
Porn actor tier brah >dick push ups You mean kegels? >jelqing I've tried it but I couldn't keep the erection level to jelq it, it's so frustrating I just gave up. I'm at like 16cm (~6.2") anyway, it's good enough
I eat like 40-40-20 carbs-prot-fat, mostly rice and sweet potatoes
>injecting cancer into dick No, thanks
Jayden Gutierrez
16 cm >good enough
Juan Hughes
How often do you have sex and with the same girl? 1st time with a new girl when I didn't get any for a week makes a lot of difference with having the same girl as the day before. If you're not diamonds with a hot new girl, girls are probably just not your thing.
Joshua Evans
agree it is anxiety but how to solve it? cause to focus on it makes it only worse...
Owen Foster
Wow, that girl is either a total sperg or a total bitch.
Anxiety when you're inexperienced is absolutely a real thing and the only real counter is being with an understanding partner. Easier if you're dating but I was lucky and found a chill girl on tinder who didn't mind me being a virgin. I was totally upfront that sometimes anxiety go the better of me and so we just chilled and fooled around until it all worked.
Since you can't get morning wood or erection even outside of pressure situations it sounds like you should really see a doctor. There might be a simple fix
Robert Price
Not him, but performance anxiety is a thing especially with new girls. Wtf are you spewing with your "girls probably aren't your thing" fag
Jackson Campbell
Lots of bullshit in this thread. You just weren't in the mood. I doubt its anxiety because you were not worried, you just didn't get hard.
Surprise, you cant actually get hard if your mind isn't into it. This idea that a guy has to get hard 100% of the time something sexual happens is bullshit.
Ayden Reed
snort some meth pussy. missing out if you're not using meth every now and then (~once a month) to increase your libido by, i don't know, a fucking hundred.
you'll get meth dick so ensure cialis is on hand.
Easton Lewis
If it's anxiety-related... like another user said, try viagra once or twice. The confidence of having smashed a girl 'normally' will then enable you to do so without the need for viagra. I've had that situation a couple of times and it worked for me. Like anything else, fucking is a confidence game. Just like when an athlete or a football player or whatever hits a lull and loses confidence. They will - and you will - get it back.
Also, the girl who said that to you. She was probably just conscious because she was worried your lack of wood was a reflection on how you feel about her. Girls are just as self-conscious as us. If we have an erection problem they usually think it's their fault.
It's also good to remember that EVERYONE has this problem from time to time. Porn and movies make us think that when a man wants an erection, he gets a steel-bending erection every time. That's bullshit. Sometimes you're tired, or stressed, or not in the mood, or you're dick just isn't up for it. It's normal, and the quicker you realise that, the quicker you'll stop panicking about it.
William Gray
This. I lost my virginity late (22) but the girl didn’t know I was a virgin. Told her I had trouble staying hard because of work stress and she was cool with it. Took me probably half a dozen times having sex before I got consistent erections during sex, and even then I had to talk really dirty and spank her and pull her hair a lot to keep myself feeling confident mentally. Also, keeping a condom on when your dick keeps going on the fritz is awful. Don’t worry that anything is wrong with you, don’t go looking for a way to “fix” yourself, because you’re not broken. Enjoy everything else in the meantime and it’ll come to you. Have her lick and kiss your neck, run her hands through your hair, touch your chest, your abs, your arms. Have her pinch your nipples while you kiss her. Have her lick the lobes of your ear and nibble you there. Not because any of this will make your dick hard but because it feels good.
Jose Brown
Grill poster (no I will not tits or gtfo because my sex actually has to do with my post in this case) and maybe I can help you boys understand some things.
1 - our vaginas are not really that good as discriminating size. If I had a 5 incher on Friday and a 7 on Saturday, I couldn’t say which was bigger without seeing them side by side.
2 - soft dicks retain a good amount of girth if they were hard a moment ago. If you’ve got enough to push rope and I’m into you, we’re doing okay. That fact that your hard dick feels way better for you doesn’t make it night and day for me (harder is still better, but a semi still feels good going in and out if my clit is being stimulated).
3 - if you get soft, we take it personally. And given how much more guys care about sex than personality, if you go soft when we’re trying hard to make you horny, we basically feel like our only worth to you is brought down to failure. If a girl isn’t patient, understand it’s her issue.
4 - despite the memes, a lot of us don’t really have that much experience and we are self conscious about what we don’t know. Guys brag and when we can’t have the experience they act like is normal, we don’t realize the guy is talking out his ass.
5 - if I have sex with a guy and it’s above average but not great but he treats me really well, I’m going to exaggerate to my girlfriends about how good he is. If a guy is great but not perfect but is a dick head, I’m gonna group chat my girls about the handful of things he doesn’t do right and play them up. Just a heads’ up.
tl;dr -> you boys need to get over your insecurities and not assume that we’re judging you. We judge ourselves WAY more than we judge you, you just get caught in the crossfire of our insecurities.
Carson Foster
I know a guy who does that, because he did it since he was a kid. It just feels better for him to actually thrust. He's totally normal, good job, no mental issues, no ED, etc. He's not circumcized, I can see how it would be easier to get off that way if you had a foreskin making it more of a sliding movement for your dick rather than rough friction
