Confidence

Stop focusing on your shortcomings and focus on your strengths. If you don't have any strengths then you are wrong because if you didn't have any strengths you would have died like a retarded animal in nature a long time ago.

I always thought that confidence was based on performance. So if you do well in something say social interactions or playing a sport, if you did good you become more confident

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more like narcissism

Loser

>If you don't have any strengths then you are wrong because if you didn't have any strengths you would have died like a retarded animal in nature a long time ago
How do i know my strengths?

Complete NNN.

i have a huge ego but absolutely no confidence. I end up just saying to myself "i could totally do that" but the truth is i never try because I don't think i could

Kike

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Do not follow this advice. My friend tries to fake it in everything but just ends up looking like a dumbass. He is completely oblivious to the fact everyone around him knows he is faking it but no one wants to be mean and call him out on it. Its really embarrassing to be around him sometimes.

no nut November?

yeah, when you're better than everyone else at something you're confident. when you incessantly let everyone else know you're better than them then you're arrogant.

You say that now, but in the end, he is going to be better than you. Talking from experience from both perspectives.

>he is going to be better than you.
As if being confident is some sort of competition. Really don't know what you are trying to say. Religious people say they are better people all the time but no one wants to hang out with a religious person who projects this type of behavior.

Make them feel you're better then them for a long time and they might actually believe it. (Even if it's not true) Most peoples minds are fragile so they fall for that tactic.

I think true confidence has to do with the size of your dick. Let's be honest, only men with massive (20cm+) dinguses are capable of being confident. Low T betas are NEVER confident. This is why women are always bitches, even to other women. They are incapable of feeling confidence.

this sounds like some middle school level advice
when is the last time you interacted with an adult?

What are you good at? What are you passionate about? Are you a good friend? Are you compassionate? It seems to me that you care about other people's thoughts which means you at least somewhat care about other people and empathy is a strength most people do not have in 2018. Are you funny? Are you witty? Are you intelligent? Those are all strengths.

Also another key thing is to realize that sometimes other people will not see eye to eye with you on your strengths and may even view them as weaknesses but their opinions of you are irrelevant because they are not you and they aren't putting anything positive into your life. Some people will consider your biggest strengths just that but others will consider them weaknesses but at the end of the day that is just their opinion of you and the only opinion of you that should be able to hurt you is your own. I'm not saying to completely not take others observations and opinions into account because listening to the right people can be beneficial in building yourself as a person but don't let others opinions control you completely.

An example of this might be the fact that you are a caring person and while most people view this as a strength others will view it as a weakness that can be taken advantage of but that is the nature of life. No two beings are the same and none of us have the exact same thoughts and worldview as anyone else.

Problems with confidence are usually caused by a feeling of inferiority or inability but once you realize there is no such thing as 100% superiority /inferiority in life and the fact that you can learn/train yourself to do just about anything it will be easier to build your confidence. Have patience because it won't come overnight but once you do what you need to do to plant the seeds it will start to come to you slowly.

reminds me of that one scene in Casino where Ace tells some guy to stick a pen up his ass acting all confident and next thing you know he is crying like a girl after nicky decides to stab him with the pen

Until they realize that you aren't shit and you've been full of it the whole time and then people think even lower of you because you don't even have the confidence or sense of self worth to at least be yourself. Knew a guy who used this strategy pretending to be some kind of confident alpha chad wannabe gangster boxer/fighter type(even thought the nigga was a total dyel manlet tweaker) and would always just do as he pleases (stealing from people/lying/starting drama/disrespecting and hitting women/in general shady ass shit) because no one wanted the mess with him. One day he stole the wrong dudes weed brownies and when dude confronted him about it he went full turtle mode, didn't say a single fucking word and started crying like a bitch. Everyone found out very quickly that he was putting up a front and now people think he's even more of a loser asshole than they did before.

eventually you are going to figure out life sucks and you just don't really give a shit. Confidence wont mean a thing and you will just live life the way you want to

maybe he just sucks, I adopted this mentality and girls fucking love it

That's taking it too far. No one shoukd go the extreme as your friend did. Also i recommended this approach because it's easy to do on a lower scale. Also maybe I forgot to mention you have to know a thing or two about the think you're trying to impersonate because totally new people stick out easily. This is absolutely not the best approach but it's a start.

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Set goals and accomplish them. Then set new goals and accomplish those. Keep doing this until you realize you're not useless or a piece of shit my guy

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i have no strengths, now what?

>What are you good at? What are you passionate about?
nothing
>Are you a good friend? Are you compassionate?
have no friends or people to be compassionate to
>Are you funny? Are you witty?
No
>Are you intelligent?
i did very well in school

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>Don't do anything
>Expect to magically gain confidence
I'm sure your method will work too

cute nun.

there is a difference in faking it your whole way through and actually knowing you can do something or know something

>(you)

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why would anyone think a blurry picture of this projector would be acceptable?

We're all human, not everyone is equal but you are nothing special
The only difference between faking it and making it is practice
There is no special thing that you obtain that makes you more confident, just be it

stop caring.

Treat it like lifting.
Do little things like wearing bolder clothes first. Then talk to the dudes you see all the time and never speak to 1x1. Incrementally increase difficulty.

you don't have to fake it to make it though... if you keep on faking it on each attempt, people are just going to wonder why you are trying to be someone else

>you don't have to fake it to make it though

>Smile at girl
>Don't normally smile at strangers
Wow I just faked confidence, and now I am confident to do it again

>Be you
>Sit in room hoping things will change
>Nothing changes
Guess some people are just not confident

>can't tell the difference between hoping an attempt will work and faking confidence
you are completely missing the point but it doesn't matter. just keep thinking the way you are since you are attempting to do something new anyway

>something new
Shits not new to me, I was a neet incel once

You're thinking that you can just be more confident without putting in any effort and you're wrong, you can build it up by talking to strangers, smiling at randoms and it is faking because it's not like you to do those things, you're faking being someone you're not and the only difference between the two is actually doing it

Dork

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Confidence is something you build up over time. Learn some skills, achieve and socialise. Developing your social skills will probably give you the most confidence and comfort in yourself. You'll probably drop spaghetti but you'll learn from it and improve. Read some books about social interactions or watch informative videos

This

Lift and Binge read.
That's it.

1. Get athletic-to-jacked
2. Everyone will start treating you better
3. Your expectations future social interactions will be positive and people as a whole like you will improve.
4. You can now walk into situations expecting people will like you, or at least if they don't, know they're in a minority.
5. Your concept of self-worth improves and crystallizes such that it's no longer externally contingent on moment-to-moment reinforcement
6. CONFIDENCE

What's it like living with constant cognitive dissonance

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