I was gonna go on a date with a girl tonight at 8, with plans on meeting up with friends later in the evening, had everything all scheduled way in advance and at 7:50 she asks if we can meet at 8:30 instead because she’s running behind. She’s been playing games before, so I figured this was a shit test, plus I had other stuff planned so I told her we can maybe meet up another time. She gave me a pretty snyde response when I said what I did.
Was this an ok move on my part?
wtf is this thread
do you even know this woman?
have you had sex yet?
do you have any feelings for her?
roasties gotta roast
Whatever its not like you lost out on a job offer or something
Show you're still interested but play hard to get
I don’t know her very well, haven’t had sex, don’t know her very well so not sure how interested I am
Thanks
your biggest mistake was even leaving the door open for another meet-up. you should have told her she blew her chance and ghosted her entirely. then just move on to another girl.
think of it this way--if all men did this, then women would start to fall in line and behave like responsible human beings. you'd be doing this not for yourself, but for the next man. in turn, he'd be doing it for you.
She’s definitely testing your patience. Now she has ammo against you how she prepared and you left her in the wind.
I let it slide sometimes but if i see someone posting memes on fb or insta and they ask to be excused for being late i drop em
She would have been there for Chad at 743
Don't bother texting back, go find a girl that doesn't flake (often)
Ya I mean we confirmed at 4pm, and she was the one who reached out to me about going on a date so I’m like alright you ask me to take you out and then flake, I’ve got better shit to do.
It's 30 minutes you autist, who gives a shit? Taking personal offence to someone running late is incredibly childish
Very nice, girls are stupid, you already had plans set out, good job
thanks bro
my opinion is if something is important to you then you’re present for it. I got ready, dressed up, took care of my shit beforehand so I could meet up with this person when we agreed to, twice. I had already suspected she was a game player as it was and after this plus the snyde remark I’m not gonna lose sleep.
It's OK overall.
Tbh TONS of people are just terrible with time. I don't personally think it was a shit test.
BUT that said, she's not gf material pulling stupid shit like that. She's a common pump-and-dump thot, and pump-and-dump thots can be played with like toys and tossed away accordingly. If you don't like waiting an extra 30 minutes, don't put up with her.
My guess is it's over with this chick because you didn't wait, but whatever, move on.
She gave you some heads up, don't know what else you expect. Maybe she's redoing her makeup for you, or maybe she's backed up and has to drop a log.
If it's a repeated thing, sure drop her, but if you can't handle plans changing a bit and people being human you're in for a rough ride.
>Now she has ammo against you how she prepared and you left her in the wind.
Yeah no. OP doesn't have to put up with that shit. If the chick starts pulling out a "list of wrongs thou hast ever committed against me" she's fucking crazy and should be dropped right off in the trash.
It's A LITTLE bad to be unaccommodating, but OP shouldn't have to sit around for half an hour because roastie can't get her shit together.
It depends, m8. If she was running 30 minutes late because her tire blew out and she had to put on a spare, that's acceptable. If she's late because she decided to sit on instagram and lost track of time, ghost her
but if asked, she would just lie
Usually you can tell if she's lying, if you're not retarded. If a girl lies to me, that's grounds for insta-ghosting. The way I think about it is, thots are a dime a dozen, guys like me are one in a million. I have no time for hoe bullshit when there are thousands just like her in my city
Mate, the while point of cancelling the date because she's wasting your time is NOT to then come on your Chinese ant-farming board to spend even more time thinking and talking about her.
You text her to cancel and then drop her from your mind and life like the time-wasting stone she is. Immediately turn your attention to new pursuits/girls. If she was ever interested in anything more than keeping you hanging on she'll be back; if not, you made the right call.
user, girls are ALWAYS late to dates. you fucked up
Act like a girl? Beta.
I’ll forget about it. This bar was kind of expensive anyways plus we were gonna get dinner too which I was planning on paying for, which would have cost me around $60-$70 bucks so I’m chilling.
>Spending so much money on a first date
Wtf
Perfect response so long as you're not invested, which you shouldn't be. Ignore her and start talking to other women.
>ammo prepared
It's the reverse. If he had waited on her she would have known she could push her around. Anything is "ammo" if the other person feels like they're in a position to control you. If they're never in that position in the first place, nothing can be "ammo". OP did the right thing.
Fuck I gotta stop being a dog cunt by being late to shit....I'm perpetually late to everything...deep down I think I have a fear of action (if that makes sense?) once I start it's ok, but getting started/ready on time is so hard for me...I def feel like I have a mental block
>paying for dinner, on a FIRST date
Fucking no wonder she thought she could walk over you. Grow a pair of balls mate.
are you really that much of a poorfag where $70 is a expensive to you? holy shit lmao
stop overthinking this shit you sperg. she disrepsected you, MOVE ON
what did she say specifically? how snide are we talkin?
Best answer in the thread, rest is just incels trying to be "alpha"
That or it was a shit test. Either way it's a gamble.
op
I fully endorse your decision
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise
You followed your gut and that's what you should do
She texts me at 7:50 “hey I’m running a little late, can we meet at 8:30 instead? :| = the emoji se sent me
Me: no worries! I had actually made plans to meet up with some friends later in the evening, and I’ve got stuff I gotta do in the morning, but I’m down to meet up another time if you can pencil me into your schedule ;) (winky emoji)
Her: Really? Over 30 mins? Ok
Mind you, I won’t get into the details, but I was highly suspicious of this girl’s willingness to “play games” so I wasn’t married to this date anyways, but I had a a good amount of shit going on before this and had planned my schedule accordingly - this was eating into my friend time as it was.
If she would have said something like “all good ya I’m down to meet up again” etc etc I would’ve been cool but she didn’t even bite on the offer to hang out again (she reached out to me to go on this date anyways) so I’m not gonna lose too much sleep and I’m having a good time with my friends atm anyways.
>I’m having a good time with my friends atm anyways.
We're having a good time too breh. This has been a good thread
I think you were in the wrong here user. 30 minutes isn't a big deal, you were just trying too hard to posture and felt insecure at her change of plans
>She's been playing games before, so-
You should already know what to do OP
>but I’m down to meet up another time if you can pencil me into your schedule ;)
To be honest, it sounds like you started with the snide comments.
I was kind of siding with you until I read this. You didn't blow her off, you made up a lie and replied like a passive aggressive sassy little bitch.
Not having the common decency to turn up on time is pretty childish. Op did the right thing. She will want him even more now cause he stood up for himself
he did you retard keep reading
id say you made the right choice
i've learned never to budge or adjust
first it starts with "oh it's just 30 mins"
then it's "oh she just hasn't seen her friend in a while' even though you had planned to go pick her up now all the sudden shes going to go have drinks with a friend at what was supposed to be you picking her up at 8:30 is now you picking her up at 2am and shes sloppy drunk
then it turns in to "hey user I'm going to vegas for a few days with guyfriend don't worry nothing will happen theres to beds in the hotel room"
AND SHES A LYING FUCKING BITCH
It wasn’t a lie is the thing. Definitely on the surface if you’re a skeptic (which this girl was, to say the least) then it sounds like I’m making up plans etc, but I had already made plans afterward. On her end it’s probably like “BS this dude who I could easily show up 30 mins late on made plans that didn’t revolve around my pussy afterwards” but I just wasn’t assuming this date would extend late into my evening. I’ll elaborate on all the context in the morning if I think it’s still relevant / if this thread is still up, but the fact that she was the one who assumed 30 mins wasn’t a big deal is enough for me to be fully satisfied with the move, especially considering I had planned on meeting some close friends after the fact.
>making plans after a date
How are you supposed to fuck her if it goes well? You're full of shit and are a passive aggressive bitch, stop making shit up. 30 minutes isn't a big deal, I've been 20 minutes late to a fucking movie which means we missed the start and the girl still waited for me. Stop being a fuckwit, you made a bad decision.
Ιmo everyone deserves a chance. So what i would have done is slide with it, but if at 8.30 she asked you to reschedule further i would cancel and ghost her.
don't you understand nigger by making plans he took the power away from her pussy the ultimate chad move is not caring about fucking them
Out of fairness to the court of public opinion here, allow me to contextualize the situation and clarify that this broad was a 6.5/10 on the high end. If you’re the type to fully construct your evening schedule around banging a 6-7/10 then I respect the hell out of it, but in my defense, if I went on this date (when we had hard scheduled 2-3 times) and she was giving me the fuck me eyes, I’m not so much of an asexual that I would have been like hurr durr muh plans and not tried to fuck this chick, but my initial suspicions coupled with the complete lack of empathy about my time, again, will allow me to not lose a wink of sleep tonight along with enjoying my time with the homies.
>t. permanently late scatter brain ADHD faggot
Okay incel, keep telling me about relationship dynamics despite the fact you haven't spoken to someone outside of your family in weeks.
if you don't care why make a thread about it? this has you shook for some reason.
t. autismo that must be punctual at all times
Unless you're a doctor this is not a positive trait geek
>if you don’t care why make a thread about it?
at what point did I insinuate that no care went into this thought process? Gee so many of my resources went into this thread I wish I could take it all back. I wanted some feedback from the appropriate board and I’m satisfied with the result. God speed.
>the complete lack of empathy about my time, again, will allow me to not lose a wink of sleep tonight along with enjoying my time with the homies
>at what point did I insinuate that no care went into this thought process
Keep your story straight, faggot.
OK so you had made plans with your homies for later on?
And you already know in your head that you would blow them off entirely if you were gonna fuck this girl.
So being willing to cancel on actual friends is fine, but you sperg out over a girl being 30 minutes late?
You're a fucking mong, you're a beta trying desperately to be an alpha.
You're supposed to just not let her walk all over you, hold her to the same standard you hold yourself and your friends. If you'd be cool with a friend being 30 minutes late, or if you're blowing off plans with your friends entirely then you really shouldn't be getting pissed off at this girl for doing the same thing.
This is why betas should just accept who they are, you have no idea what you are doing in these social situations, instead of showing dominance you just come across as dickheads.
This.
The only people defending OP are braindead incels living vicariously through him. Pretending they could even be in a situation like this with a woman.
You didn't ask why she was going to be late. You acted like a passive aggressive beta and came here to brag about it.
Nice cope.
This, based and redpilled
Came to post this.
You're a faggot for even suggesting there is gonna be a next one
Expecting a women to be anywhere on time.
Are you 16yo ?
yep.
at least OP had other plans and dropped her for the night but he should not be forgiving, ignore her until she begs for the dick then fuck her and keep ignoring for being a dumb whore lol
not that guy also i didnt even read your post but just by looking at the length of explanation you're making to defend yourself holy fuck dude good for her, you seem like a whiny verbose faggot desu.
If you're not banging girls on the regular then what's the point of acting like this? You could just be throwing away your only chance at a bang in months.
Girl I was sleeping around with once made me wait for like half an hour +. When she got there I told her "I missed you and I want to spend time with you but the next time you do this don't even bother coming, dont play with my fucking time" she almost started crying, made me feel bad lowkey bruh.
She cancelled another date a few days later (due to transportation complications that could have been avoided) and despite being mad I kept my cool and went out for dinner and drinks with the girl she's the most insecure about.
She got the message and started acting right. Always remind them how replaceable they are
Stop being such a dog and have some self respect, you owe that to yourself bro. No one can blame you for not getting a chance to fuck her but it's on you if you chase her like a bitch
This is the most based and alphapilled post in this thread
I like you.
Most women don't realize they're no longer a commodity in today's day and age and once you show them that, they fall in line and act straight.
It's easier to make a woman feel worthless than a man.
Woman tells you she found another chad?
She loses even more value with the dick count
You tell a woman you found another girl?
She no longer feels wanted and sees herself as another expendable slut.
Not sure why everyone has flipped against you after reading this OP.
>no worries! I had actually made plans to meet up with some friends later in the evening, and I’ve got stuff I gotta do in the morning, but I’m down to meet up another time if you can pencil me into your schedule ;)
I think this is good. It shows that you're unbothered by her not showing up because you're keeping it light but it also shows that you're not going to just sit and wait for her. Best thing I like is that you highlighted that you have better shit going on than to sit around waiting for her to show up. What did you say after the 30 min text?
Cringe and incelpilled
I'm posting this on r/niceguys
Too much dude.
>you should have told her she blew her chance and ghosted her entirely
This is so much of an overreaction that it makes you sound needy and insecure, like "HOW DARE YOU" type shit. The point is to seem like you don't give a shit, not like you're actually upset.
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think of it this way--if all men did this, then women would start to fall in line and behave like responsible human beings.
These arguments are always shit. They never will start doing this. Life is about looking out for #1
>tfw "relationship or dating thread" now has its own report category instead of just "off-topic"
>tell her it's okay we can meet up 830
>intentionally get there at 900
>oh, geez did i make you waiting? haha
>put your hands on her waist and give her a big kiss
>hey, how about we skip that friends thing and just go straight to bed?
>user, you're so wild
>makes snide comments first
>complains about getting a snide comment back on a mongolian basket weaving board
Damn OP, 30 minutes aren't even a big deal.
you've genuinely never had a single bad thing happen to you?
spilled something before you left?
got a flat tire?
caught by a stopped train?
have a friend or family emergency?
not everything is a "shit test". try to have more understanding and compassion. if it happened to you, you would prefer if she was patient and understanding. if she is lying, then would have been there until 8:30 anyways, so enjoy the solitude and peace.
your attitude determines your life.