Broke up with short term gf because she refused to cut down on her drinking (I'm abstinent)

listen to this user, he speaks the truth.

>sex is relationship etiquette these days
Nigga you are right. Fuck.

I figure when I find the right one I'll just get married in a church and skip the legal documents, in a state without common law marriage.
Valid in the eyes of God but none of that "divorce proceedings" fuckery if things go south

More like how valued is by your thot ex-gf and the trashy people you frequent. Plenty of times I've gone out with my friends without drinking a single glass of alcohol, and they have done the same.

Yeah it's pretty bad. I used to drink 'socially' i.e. I'd go out every weekend and get plastered. Stopped completely about four years ago and have since realised how fucked up it is that it's such a big part of people's lives. Just need to find civilised friends who don't drink so much

>You dont need a gf to be happy
but user, I have l i t e r a l l y everything except a gf
>study a field I'm interested in
>part-time job in the field with top lad coworkers
>lift 3 times a week and do cardio on the weekends
>supportive parents and good relationship with the rest of my family
>friends I can rely on
>22 yo KV who's had his first trainwreck of a date a month ago
what the fuck am I supposed to do?

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Just fuck your own hand loser. You won't want a gf after you cum.

bruh, go out and talk to girls
try escalating each time

PSA faggots "abstinence" does not necessarily mean sex. It can also mean alcohol.

That's what I was referring to when I said I was abstinent

Just your alcohol ex girlfriends circle

tfwnogf but a really cute girl and I are friends with benefits and it sucks she doesn’t want to get into an actual relationship. We kind of act like boyfriend and girlfriend and do cute things together like go on dates and cuddle all night but when I bring up dating she tells me she is not looking for a relationship right now and for me to not get too attached. It’s kind of hard though because she’s just so beautiful and smart and she took my virginity. she’s 4 years older than me too.. I’m only 19. This is the closest I’ve ever been to having a girlfriend. I’m trying not to get attached to her but like even if I try to see all her flaws such as her wearing so much makeup because she is already getting eye wrinkles and has bad nasolabial folds and the fact she slept with lots of Chads before me, yet I think she is still so perfect. How the fuck do I get over a oneitis? I don’t want whatever we have now to ever end

well you just scored a big win
what are you even fucking mad about?

Hahahah fucking hell I know that feel all too well, except 23.

I just keep talking to everyone when I'm out, just cos I like chatting shit. If I meet a girl, then cool, if not, who gives a fuck.

A grill is an addition to your life, not a necessity.

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Welcome to the polygamy of modern day society my friend.

Why stay with one guy when you have a sea of options.

Sorry to hear about your situation though mate - think you need to start talking to other girls.

Just. Fuck. Your. Own. Hand.

you're abstinent now for sure LMAO

Heavy drinking leads to “mistakes” if you catch my drift. You saw this coming and cut it off before it got to that point. Bitches who drink heavy are not wife material because they use their drinking habits as a scapegoat to their “mistakes”. I know you understand and you just wish things were different. Well they’re not, embrace reality with open arms and deal with it.

Just because it’s commonly used doesn’t mean it’s valued, and just because it’s used and you don’t partake doesn’t make its use bad.

This is solid advice user

Sorry for your situation, friend. Her alcoholism truly would bring you down if you stuck around; a personality schism begins to occur that makes you wonder who she truly is at all and would start fucking up your trust with people who honestly have their shit together. In this modern world you do have to search to find group activities that are healthy, creative, silly etc. Things that expand you as a person and don't simply break your shell in a noisy, enclosed space. You'll find a better connection soon I'm sure.

>user why don't you want to make our marriage official? don't you love me?

abort mission now. I repeat, abort mission now.
you are gonna get so fucked over and heartbroken if you dont break up with this whore as soon as possible.
drop her

Almost the same story except she was my long term GF of 4 years. Tried to correct her unhealthy habits (drinking, smoking, blazing) so we could start a family. Almost succeded but eventually broke up. Now she is doing all that shit again with her new BF.
It's sad because she has a great personality but is so susceptible to negative influence.

>be beginning of uni
>undiagnosed bipolar in manic episode
>went around campus getting the snapchats of an absurd amount of women ranging from absolutely bangable to ugly braphogs
>my retarded egomaniacal manic ass would interpret them leaving me on read for more than an hour as them dissing me so i ghosted them all after heavy flirting
>realize what the fuck i did a couple months later
>try hitting them back up
>they all dont respond
>literally cannot find any more women who arent gooks or who i havent hit up already
>will remain a virgin all year and its entirely my fault

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yeah good luck with that

If she really wants to make it legal just make her sign a prenup. Boom, not so bad if things go south

Drinking didn't make her a whore, she was just a whore that drank. There will always be whores, you need to focus on how you fucked up so bad that you got into a situation like that in the first place. Fix you. Don't settle.

do this user. its the only way

If I never find a Christian girl cool with this I'll know I dodged bullets lel
>prenups holding up consistently in court
If only, user

Good job op, you did the right thing

Yes OP, use the pain of loss!

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drop her

>"not looking for a relationship"
>"don't get too attached"
She's telling at least 3 other guys this same thing,
Was in the same boat as you with this stoner chick 9 months ago.
>finally say "let's be bf/gf"
>she's wishy-washy
>finally says on a Tuesday she's not "looking for a relationship"
>hook up with her again and she wakes up in my bed Friday morning
>by Sunday she was 'facebook-official' with a drug dealer
>blocked her on everything

Fellas, don't waste your time with these dumb, vapid whores

You're mentally ill.
Please seek help ASAP.

FUCK CAPTCHA

Why do you fags even go for gfs when you the relationship isn’t even gonna last that long? Women are only good for sex, just pump and dump

>>by Sunday she was 'facebook-official' with a drug dealer

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>enters a relationship with someone who drinks
>gets holier-than-thou about it later
I'd drop a girl instantly if she said anything about my drinking, smoking, codeine habit or that I spend too much time on working overtime, gym, martial arts, or video games instead on her.

How do people even get into situations like this with these horrible roasties? Why are you even talking to them in the first place? People really need to develop some level of discernment, learn how to be a good judge of character

This fucking thing tells me I'm wrong at least twice before it actually lets me post, and even then I have to complete like 5 pages worth of captchas and it takes forever. Might just say fuck it and buy a pass but I'm reluctant because I feel like that's exactly why it's such a pain in the ass. Remember the good old days when there was no captcha?

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It's always the fucking drug dealer degenerate. I wonder if it's because they're too scared of anything with the potential to be a committed relationship so the bail to a toxic guy that they know will never pan out, or can at least leave the guy and make it look like he was entirely at fault.

She is a whore who gets drunk without you in company of guys. Be glad that cunt is gone
Drugs are for losers and pussies

>We kind of act like boyfriend and girlfriend and do cute things together like go on dates and cuddle all night but when I bring up dating she tells me she is not looking for a relationship
holy shit user what are you doing

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>t.khv

Prenups are used as toilet papers by judges. You have been memed upon. Prenups are useless

gonna talk tomorrow evening with my exgf with whom i'm on and off
some other guy fucked her apparently and she's confused to hell and back on what she wants
going to tell her i'm sick of this on/off stuff, i understand that she's confused and unsure

i feel like i have to break up with her

tfw fwb with an ex also this guyshit like that happens if you're a faggot thinking your self worth is below average
when in fact it isn't
so you cling onto what you have

she fucks other dudes. she is a whore. if you want a relationships and she says no find another one who does

based teetotal user
fuck thots

I don't care what your retarded satanic opinion of drinking is.

Wow, you're a enormous faggot.

>some other guy fucked her
>I feel like I have to break up with her

You feel? Jesus user get a grip

well it feels "like" i have to breakup with her
not that i'm actually doing it
have to cut her out of my life, that's whats hard but for my best

based user

>broke up with my gf of 2 years a month ago
>good relationship, both of us had mental health problems
>i got a psychologist, got better, tried helping her
>seemed that it was working
>turned out she was progressively getting more and more addicted to cocaine
>random nose bleeds everyday
>can barely handle life without a line like once an hour
>fighting with her about going to rehab
>doing some intervention shit with her family
>just wont change
>decided to break up when I came home one day and saw her do 10 lines a row
>everyone but her family is calling me a terrible person/asshole/soulless

We live in Vancouver and there is a huge fentanyl problem here. It's fucking stressful to wake up everyday wondering if I'm gonna get a call about my gf overdosing or dying. Her stupid fucking decisions are going to kill her one day and I hope that happens a long time from now so I don't have to care.

You over invested in a whore. You need to recognize a skank that likes to play the field and learn to accept that it will only ever be a fwb thing. She's a hot potato and some beta schlub is going to be stuck with her in the end.

Truly, dealers are the ultimate enablers. They are usually born people-pleasers and super insecure, and some chicks need this easy validation without the doting. If you ever get a chance with one alone fuck him up a bit so he doesn't 'sneaky-fucker' his way into your social circle or a girl you're after.

seems you made the right call, your only mistake was not unfollowing/blocking her earlier.

yes i did
that's why i need to cut lose, fast
>She's a hot potato and some beta schlub is going to be stuck with her in the end.
yep and i do not want to end up as said beta schlub
with what she's doing now she won't end up in an actual happy relationship
(she had 10 guys in the last 4-ish years)
at the age of 25

I think what user meant is that
>you "feel like" you have to break up with her
when in reality
>you have to break up with her

we're already broken up should've said that in the beginning
it's the "need to cut her off and end every contact there is" feeling that's lingering

You can't have a couple of beers?

A girl came on to me while seeing some older drug dealer before we met. I dropped her immediately when she started playing games. Don't need that drama in my life. And now they're engaged. Hope she enjoys her 4 step kids and multiple baby mammas. Guy is over 10 years older and has some weird savior complex. They both are the type to manipulatively foster codependent relationships so they probably are to pathetic to leave each other. They could probably both improve their lives alone but they'd rather circle the poverty drain because misery loves company and wallow in their equally shitty circumstances and continue to enable each other's mediocrity.

She was my friend before any of this started. We’re in the same nursing program for 3 more semesters so it’s not like I can just drop her or stop seeing her. There’s tension between us every damn day in class so we just fuck after lol. I’ll just try to fix it by talking to other girls and sleeping around myself. Hopefully that will make me realize that she’s nothing special

Cut ties with her lad. If she's not interested she's not worth your time.

He needs to keep banging until he finds another girl.

he'll fuck his heart up more than he can ever imagine

Yes, this is what I’m scared of. I actually fell for a whore, but it’s just so hard not to especially when we fall asleep looking into each other’s eyes while holding hands. It feels like real love and she’s always staring at me and blushing in class so I think she genuinely must like me more than just “friends” ... but you guys are right, she is a thot who is probably doing this with 3 other guys other than me. I will just continue fucking her but at the same time start talking to other girls

user, i have been doing fwb with an exgf, same shit, kissing goodbye, cuddling hard when sleeping next to each other
please for the love of god
run, you've already catched feelings, if she's with someone else you'll fucking wish you never fucked her
please user

So you're such a autistic faggot you can't handle someone you're dating drinking but you still dated someone who drinks? Get over yourself retard

>It feels like real love and she’s always staring at me and blushing in class
>so I think she genuinely must like me more than just “friends”
no, women are evil like that

t. mindless sexdrone

this
she's controlling you, maybe there are SOME feelings but she's doing that with other guys too

should gross the everlasting fuck out of you

There's drinking and then there's getting plastered.
Kys

I'm sorry, user. My boyfriend is a recovered alcoholic and ex-smoker. He has amazing resolve and I'm proud of him, but I'll admit, I get nervous when he hangs out with his old friends when I'm not around. I don't think I could endure a relapse, and I've made it clear. I understand the pain of being abstinent. Godspeed, user.