Hope ya'll just had an amazing turkey day. If you splurged on food, drugs/alcohol and good, genuine family and friends bonding time instead of focusing on your /sig/ing, consider this your get out of jail free card. You've all earned it, the /sig/ community is amazing and we all work towards greatness every day. Just remember to get back on that horse, you got this.
List your New Years Resolutions for 2019, then take a screenshot of your post and make it your desktop background. Next step, get started on it immediately, don't wait for the new year, get a head start. I've done this for the past 2 years and follow through with almost all of my resolutions every year, I can only hope to do more this year!
sticky: 4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky previous: >We're well into November, do you have any goals you want to achieve until the year ends? >Have you done anything you're proud of, lately, or even this year? >There are many bumps in the road, big and small, how did you soldier on through them? >Which people are supporting you, and which people in your life are you grateful for?
Bonus: post /sig/ infographs
Remember, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. We're all gonna make it!
If you want to play the game, practice it efficiently and with intent. Remember to time manage wisely, and balance your actions to things you need and want to day from day to day and week to week, etc.
Jayden Scott
Blog posting maybe for some life encouragement.
>Did a 4 year finance/math degree at a small state school >Fat and lazy during that whole time, only thing I did well was with grades (3.8 overall) >Because I was with the finance dudes I went to a decent amount of parties, though low self confidence fucked me and I never got laid or anything) >Also the low self confidence (stemming from being a lard and obsessive porn usage) made me hesitant in the job search market and I didn't do the smart thing and talk to recruiters, go to job fairs, or intern
That was 2 years ago I graduated.
>Now work at a pretty low tier finance related job (mortgage capital markets) earning around 40k/yearly >Lost 60 pounds with probably 30 more to go for my final goal >Start feeling happier, more confident >Cut back on porn, eat healthier, getting better sleep, gym multiple times a week.
Problem is that my job is highly boring, doesn't pay well, and I only have a few friends right now, who really aren't looking for the same type of exciting life I want. I'm really considering going back to school for a finance master's, but I just paid off my student loans and have a positive net worth for the first time in my life. My loans would probably push me close to $50k in debt if I did the Masters, but it would give me access to a better job market, one that I finally feel mature and confident enough to make use of, and could build my friend network. I also am a khv and really need a better social group to meet women.
What would you do fit if you felt like you were going nowhere? Is it worth it to pay the student loan toll?
>>>We're well into November, do you have any goals you want to achieve until the year ends? Maybe just saving my semester so I don't fail everything and have to repeat it next semester. >>Have you done anything you're proud of, lately, or even this year? Well, this year I got with my oneitis and she says she loves me, I guess it was a good year.
>>There are many bumps in the road, big and small, how did you soldier on through them? No idea. >>Which people are supporting you, and which people in your life are you grateful for? My now girlfriend, pretty much. I guess I should also say my mom and family and that shit.
My now Ex-Girlfriend cheated on me this February but I still had to live with here for 3 more Months in which I lost all selfrespect. I fell into a bottomless abyss, smoked too much weed to cope with it and went full horny beta mode, just wanting to fuck her one last time. Didn't do shit for Uni, which is the reason that I am stuck for two more Semesters. I am finally managing to climb out of this hole and turning myself around. I found Tash Sultana on Youtube this year, just two days before the release of her album, which has really kind of helped me, especially this Song: youtube.com/watch?v=gqZUjnUgvhw
How long is yours? Mine is only like 5000 words so I'm not too stressed out about it. Would probably be a good idea to decide on a topic of discussion and start reading, but w/e.
Mine is about the same length. I'm writing about nationalism in Finland during the 1800s compared to other nationalist awakenings through history. I have a couple of books to go through so I've got a bit of a tight schedule now, but I think I'll get through it.
Jace Clark
>having to read books for your research paper Feels good not to have any humanities subjects. Mine is on an issue of my own choosing relating to EEGs.
Yeah it's pretty dumb but it's the only way of getting credible sourcing on such a niche subject. On the bright side this is my last paper of the year and I just have to go to a couple of lectures before Christmas.
Yeah, as I'm looking at the Fennoman movement in general, it is a clear subject to write about when handling Topelius.
Brandon Reed
Yesterday i broke it off with a girl who i was in a love triangle with, hurts like a bitch but im still movinf foward. Acid kinda helped lmao. Today is HIIT day yesss
Asher Mitchell
this is the first time I've visited Jow Forums for SI, and the first time I've ever seen "take a shower" in self improvement. I've been far too embarrassed to ever bring up the fact that i skip showers for a day, or skip brushing for a week, or don'tr clean my room for a month... and its so pathetic that nobody talks about it because its probably bottom 5% of population
Aiden Anderson
rephrase: It's such a pathetic level of sloth, that self improvement vids/guides assume you're already at least doing that.
Luis Cooper
Showering every day is not good for your skin Tbh.
Chase Williams
> skip brushing for a week that is the only thing I want to point out at least look after your health fucked up teeths are not worth it
not showering for 2-3 days, meh When I am alone at home, not stepping outside the door, I do this too and many other anons. But no one will admit that in puplic.
Here is some pasta from another user not so long ago: 1/2 char limit
Anthony Wright
Do you floss user?
That is what I ask whenever someone comes to me for advice on how to get into shape or just improve themselves in general. Do you floss? Do you floss daily? I'm not a dentist who has a massive hardon for flossing, asking that question is simply the best way to determine if someone is worth putting effort into helping them become a better person. If they tell me that, yes, they do floss daily, then I know they have some self control and I can give them real advice. If they tell me that they don't floss, I tell them the proven health benefits of flossing which everyone already knows, and then tell them to start flossing daily and then I'll give them more advice the next time I see them The vast majority of the time, when I see them next and I ask them if they floss now, they give an embarrassed laugh and quote some stupid bullshit tired joke about bleeding gums or something as they tell me that they still don't floss. If you are unable to keep a habit up for a month, that takes 2 minutes a day to do, requires no physical or mental exertion AND that has countless proven benefits, then how the hell are you going to go for a run every morning? How are you going to stop watching porn? How are you going to mediate for 20 minutes every day? How are you going to stop being weak? The only reason that anyone doesn't floss isn't because they forget, its because they just don't feel like it. The fact that you don't have the innate discipline to even fucking floss your teeth makes you an NPC, a bugman, a basedboy, a beta, a loser, whatever you want to call the hollow husks that make up the majority of the human population that spend their lives doing nothing but consuming. I hope your better than that.
James Powell
t. floss industry shill
Cameron Harris
t. teethlet
Levi Hernandez
Ha! I eat zero (0) plants and thus never damage my teeth. Try again jew!
yes, i use one of those cheap little one-use floss stick things after i brush. I just quickly pop it between all of my teeth once then toss it. my gums always bleed for some reason, not sure if i have a ruined mouth or if its because I never had braces and my teeth are so tight together.
my issue is i have gastritis or an ulcer for 3 years and some days it makes me just feel suicidal because it yanks all of my motivation out. i was training for a half marathon & on keto the day it struck years ago, and ive been a wreck since (lost my job, have almost no energy, doctors were useless)
i am completely beaten down by stress and drink to get by on hard days. i am probably looking at my house foreclosure very soon. I am very aware of the loser ive become hence my shame and suicidal outlook.
i hjave never meditated in my entire life and have no idea where to start or how to do that.
Jose Hall
Habitica is pretty good
Noah Adams
Well, looking at the thread would help.
see:
Ryan Perry
I'm feeling a slight tingling pain in my left lumbar region. Started after a rep of fucking lunges. I hope it's just a strained muscle and not a herniated disc. Advice?
Leo Scott
Habitica is too fucking easy though. I like the idea but you're never even close to dying if you're not a lazy piece of shit. I feel like it can be more damaging because it will convince you that it's fine to sometimes not stick to your habits
Jacob Cox
Going to the gym (my room) lads I'll see yall real soon Have respect for yourself today
Joshua Evans
Drank waaaay to much on thanks giving Had some road rage now I’m depressed / anxious as hell I don’t k now what to do I don’t even want to go to work I’m so embarrassed
William Phillips
just keep going, man up, apologise and move on. there is not much more you can do. don't waste time pitting yourself.
I think I'm seriously mentally ill and nobody gives a shit.
I'm really scared lads.
Aaron Russell
>deleted online sports betting accounts, betting related bookmarks and passwords from my browser In total I lost about 80 euros the past couple of months and wasted a lot of time. No more
Oliver Powell
people care, some don't manage too. That's not your fault. Go see a psychiatrist. mental health is important.
Thanks bro I just worry about running into those strangers I try to start shit with People just trying to have a good time and i come by yelling at them instigating
Jose Thompson
We care Almost everyone here has some kind of issue
Mason Foster
thanks ill try this and report back here hopefully within a month
Adam Gray
>>We're well into November, do you have any goals you want to achieve until the year ends?
I want to give myself some momentum going into the New Year. I've been out of rhythm because I've been traveling a bunch, and it's nothing too bad, but I haven't been cultivating my good habits recently.
So I'm hoping to flip the switch early so that way it becomes less difficult when the New Year actually starts and I don't have that bs New Years pressure hanging over like a specter.
>>Have you done anything you're proud of, lately, or even this year?
There's actually a ton of stuff I'm proud of this year, I just didn't do it all at once. I think all I need to do know is bring all those separate elements together. Meditation, Organization, Proper Diet, Lifting at a real gym, Learning how to draw, writing scripts everyday, quitting weed, ect.
well, i would advise you, that if you actually run into them, you should be approaching them first to apologize. It shows strenght of character, everybody makes mistakes. They've just known you for a few seconds and know nothing about you. Maybe you had a bad day. as long as nobody got hurt and nothing broke everything should be fine. But your actions when you see them again will determine what kind of person they are going to see in you.
Nathaniel Campbell
Clean your fucking teeth or one day you won’t have any.
Xavier Wood
Would someone mind linking me to a good calendar making site/app? I know it's been linked several time before in these threads, but never saved it.
Do you know programming or data science? Those coupled with finance could lead to a better paying or more fulfilling job than what you already have. Also you could look for work with a company that would compensate you going into a graduate program, if your current job won’t
Adrian Adams
>If you splurged on food, drugs/alcohol and good, genuine family and friends bonding time instead of focusing on your /sig/ing, consider this your get out of jail free card. Are you kidding? It's bulking season.
Jason Allen
how do I bring myself to love a girl lads
Thomas Hall
36, skinny shit genetics and not making much progress at gym. Joint pain getting worse every year beyond 30. No prospects, single and sexless for 5 years. Realised that no one is ever coming to my rescue but I'm so low confidence and lacking in drive I'll never change. Was going to learn to code but then realised its pointless because I'd never get a job in tech anyway. Spend every day wondering what the point in living is. Tried everything - gym, meditation, self-help, travelling, Peterson... I never get anywhere
Self-pitying retarded Introverted genetic trash faggot is all I'll ever be
Joseph Martin
If people around me do well, even if they are my friends, it makes me feel bad. It feels like their success makes mine worth less and drags me down, also if they are achieving things I havent yet even if they are older and I think they deserve it my initial instinct is that it makes me a bit angry and sparks the need inside me to work hard and outperform them.
Why am I like this, I shouldnt think like this right ? It seems like a very toxic mindset...
Jace Hall
muh women
Alexander Russell
You likely have more pronounced narcissistic personality traits than average. I am the same way.
Jack Watson
>Have you done anything you're proud of, lately, or even this year?
Kicked alcohols ass. Went from a half bottle a night to withdrawals and now I'm 8 months sober
>There are many bumps in the road, big and small, how did you soldier on through them?
Attitude is everything. Lift up yourself and those around you. Be an absolute fireball of positivity.
>Which people are supporting you, and which people in your life are you grateful for?
The people who I thought were my "friends". For they revealed to me the worst qualities in myself and how to root them out and crush them.
Keep on trucking through, brothers. We're all gonna make it.
Incoming blogpost. I need some advice on getting a job or an internship without any volunteer or relevant job experience. (I've done menial jobs, but nothing white collar) I'm a senior in university (doing a humanities type major) and I kept putting off looking for an internship because of my GPA was a bit low. Also, out of stupidity, I kept putting off joining any relevant clubs. As someone who transferred from a community college and commutes to campus, I never really ingrained myself into campus life or participated in extracurricular programs that would help give me a foot into a future. Just went home and did my classwork without getting a move on career related things. I know I messed up, but I believe I have to be optimistic or it will only turn out worse. I have a plan in place to start attending networking events, but I don't know how I get to talking someone into hooking me up with an internship or job via networking. I've always heard that networking is necessary, but never received any details regarding how it's done. Something I have going in my favor is that I'm 6'4 and very attractive. I've been approached in public and asked to do modeling. I'm not exaggerating my attractiveness, I'm a very humble person, but I'm mentioning it because it's relevant. My social skills aren't full autism, but can be pretty rusty at times. Although they have improved a lot in the past few years. Sometimes they're decent, but very often they're pretty bad. Advice would be appreciated. Thanks anons
Your very first point in the picture is objectively wrong bro. I have a few neet friends from school and i cant contain my happynes s when i hear that they started going to the gym due to me constantly talking about it. It honestly feels amazing to help someone change themselves for the better and i see in my eyes as they gain a better mentality about the world. Were all gonna make it
John James
24 YO user with out-of-the-blue boxing aspirations reporting in. I've ordered gloves, mitts, and bag! I will get them soon ™. I'm continuously working on my posture, and calisthenics in the meantime. There's allegedly a nearby boxing gym with an ex Olympic boxer as trainer that I'll be looking into, I really hope that works out.
I'm weak as shit, cutting down to auschwitzmode is not impossible right? I'm not going to get insane negative feedback loops when going that lean when having low muscle mass right? I only need to drop like 5 kilos of fat and I should be good.
im attempting aushwitzmode but im not even sure if my abs will show and i'm already looking ethiopian. I can feel my abs and under good lightning i see a outline but man am i skinny. Idk if its even worth to cut with low muscle mass user. Might be better to go built fat or extended skinny fat. Not sure where youre at right now though,.
Adam Morales
Since it’s clear neither of you have ever lifted, why don’t you not worry about it too much and just pick some stuff up first? You’ll recomp anyways
Jackson Green
I'm in a major slump right now and feel like /diary/ing
A quick background >Married, 26 with one child >One year ago I quit my job to pursue work starting my own electrical company >Things were great, landed a huge client right off the bat and I made bank up until about July of this year >Was on cloud 9, literally living the dream >Still was responsible and saved money, ate well, kept working out, etc >That contract ended and I've been able to manage small gigs here and there to float the bills without dipping into my savings >Been very anxious due to the dramatic decrease in my income, feel less financially secure, less confident in general, socially anxious >Anxiety and lack of confidence has led to shittier workouts, eating shitty food, eating less, losing weight, tiredness >Self fulfilling prophecy, cycle repeats
I'm at a point when I'm considering getting a regular job again just for some stability, but I know that long-term that isn't going to make me happy. I am thinking I can work my way out of this if I just manage to get my shit together again. To do this, I'm basically looking at reducing all of the "overhead" in my life and focusing on a few main areas below:
>Health and fitness, self explanatory. Work out consistently, stay active, eat healthy, drink water. >Work, put in more time bidding on more clients. Take on every project that comes my way even if it's low-budget (within reason). Take time to learn more skills and refine my processes/workflow >Family and social life. I pretty much spend monday through friday with my wife and child. I don't get out at all socially, and on the weekends I usually only see my family. This needs to change and I feel is a big source of discomfort and anxiety in my life.
Ryder Allen
but I lift, I'm just very weak due to inconsistency, caloric restriction and poor health state I'm already doing it mind you, it's just good to know if I'm on the right path. I don't think I'll get worthwhile abs, but it's good if the bitch tits can completely go away.
Isaac King
>finally get a gf >realize she's not the one >not going to break up because she's pleasant and creampies on a regular basis >feel bad that it's in the back of my head
I realized that I'm only really super motivated when I'm gunning for a girl, which I know is very unhealthy. The most recent girl threw me in for a loop, I've never wanted to be with someone in my entire life and I changed for the better in such a short amount of time. I became more open, confident, reached my goal weight, chose a new goal weight and reached that as well, reached new PRs, progressed in my career significantly, quit my shitty day job and risked it all for a decent but better overall job... and the list goes on. I've never felt this good in a long while but now that I'm coming off of the relationship pretty much ending in a failure, I slowly see myself reverting back and not as motivated. How do I prevent this? I tell myself I should continue so that the next girl will immediately jump on the train and I won't have to work so hard to improve myself, but I'm convinced I'm donezo and there will be no others. Sorry for the long ass post, I'm stuck in a fucking rut.
How do I get beyond the pain of everything and fighting wanting to not get up or kill myself every day? I either feel dead inside or cry about stuff. It's been two years since my life progressed and every day is just me dealing with boredom and exhaustion, even if I sleep well. Short lived diets, bouts of exercise and occasional social evenings are broken up with dread, self loathing and bitterness. I try so fucking hard just to do the bare minimum and I usually can't even do that. I feel guilty yet out of control. Finding out that I'm autistic has just made it worse. It finally explains hypersensitivity to tastes, textures, smells etc, but it makes me feel useless because I don't even have the positive traits of being autistic anymore since the brain fog. All I do is take it one day at a time, trying to make every day the day it gets better, but the depression always hits.
Brayden Thomas
If you’ve truly given up on life you should do something crazy like airdrop into the Congo
Isaac Brown
Go for it! Glad to hear a potential passion has sparked
Julian White
Been reading everyday, focusing better on school, almost 2 months into noporn, 2nd week of nofap, making solid gains at the gym, cut going well and can already see some definition to my arms and chest. Yet, >about to ask a girl out, freeze on spot and miss the opportunity when we're alone >job position is terminated so gonna be unemployed starting next year
I was almost about to say fuck it and break my streak for an instant dopamine rush that will make me less upset but somehow managed to pull through. I hate how life has a way of shitting on me regardless.
Same bro. It truly sometimes feels like nogf is the hardest feel to lift. I suggest best is to set longer term goals. As in, instead of planning for the next few days and depend on what happens through them, try to set a goal for 10 years from now on. This way I am not as tempted to give up and lose motivation or get stuck in this infinite loop where I try-fail-remotivate-try again. I basically set myself a goal that I will do anything in my power and if by the time I'm 40 year old I still won't get closer to my goals then I'll just accept defeat and sink into an existence of a sad porn addict who lives from one dopamine rush to another.
Life is not about constant excitement user. Try to find a peaceful spot you're comfortable in, rather than aiming for new excitement that will wear off very fast. It isn't easy, and to get to that peaceful place you will need to dare. Dare a lot. Dare on everything and in every instance. Try to socialize with randoms, study, and improve. The busier you keep yourself, the more useful you will feel internally.
