>alone again at home tonight >Just like every other night of my life >Not even lifting because I'm on a cut, already lost all my gains, what's the point >tfw 33 year old khv >no friends, no social skills >shit money and live with parents >huge party at work coming up, fancy dress, dinner, 2000+ attendees >Hear co-workers talking about booking tables to sit together >I just go by myself and sit with random people >Hear them talking about the pregame and after party they are going to, none of which I am invited to >Office Christmas party coming up too. Sit down lunch where I'll have to ask a table of coworkers that are friends if I can sit with them >coworkers all went to a bar after work today, I wasnt invited, like most other times they go out How do I deal with this Jow Forums?
>New guy at work who started a week ago already has a huge friend group How do I be social?
no point of this thread because you're too pussy to do what you have to do because its uncomfortable
if you really wanted to change you would have done it by now
Nolan Hall
Try engaging with them you fucking anti social faggot. If they don't want to associate with you it must be because you're ugly, in which case the rope may be your best option.
Brody Hill
Trying asking the people on /fit... oh wait u are haha
Cameron Hall
>>tfw 33 year old I hate to be the one to tell you this but it's too late. Sometimes you're just done and you're done. There was a moment when you had all this potential, when you were like 15 - 23, then you had time where you could "turn it all around" when you were 24 - 29, now there just isn't anything left to say. Your option are just keep going as you slowly grow old and become a creepy old man or off-yourself. Anyone who tells you you still have a chance is lying to you.
Hunter Powell
>brown eyes >brown hair lowest of low taste
Jackson Nelson
Awful thread so far, you can make it.
Keep lifting. Be frugal with money and save up. Ask a coworker if you can sit with them. Try becoming more social at work, if it doesn't work than write down a list of hobbies or activities you're interested in and start doing them. Build social circles around them >Im not interested in anything okay try rock climbing, hiking or photography groups
You work you're way up to becoming social. Talk to anyone you see, build up confidence. If you fail, keep trying. Talk about the weather, bond over bad situations. You will get better.
It's never to late to start trying. I genuinely, believe in you user. You need to believe in you. It is never to late. The easy answer would be for me to tell you it's too late but it's not. Start trying, start really trying user.
We're all gonna make it. Anyway on Jow Forums who says otherwise is a complete bitch (who also can make it)
Henry Flores
Your age is not important. Here is some advice from a 21 yo chad.
1. Are you someone worth talking to Are you confident and clear in your communication? Is your hygiene good so that people want to be around you? Do you have interests that are relatable to people around you?
2. Are you approachable Do you smile and greet people when you see them? Do you make people actually feel like you care about talking to them? Are you friendly? Do you do nice things for people around you?
3. Are you respectable Do you have something people around you want? Do you have a talent you work hard on? Would other people want to be like you?
Work on these three things and learn to be independent and alone. You will be fine.
I turned it around at 25. It's possible but I'd say I'm pretty atypical cuz i'm half nigger.
Logan White
>tfw 33 year old khv
A round trip flight to Amsterdam is like $500.
Aiden Stewart
>then you had time where you could "turn it all around" when you were 24 - 29, >I turned it around at 25. theres no contradiction here unless you just cant read
Landon Cruz
Being social is all about attitude. What's in your head translates into your body language and facial expressions, people pick this up much more than what you're saying (80% of conversation is nonverbal cues). Have you ever seen a person in a group that seems normal and doesn't have bad social skills, yet doesn't fit in? That's the whole thing, it's their attitude manifesting itself in the body language, translated by your subconscious. I'm pretty good at socializing and I've noticed that making friends or getting girls is much easier when you're genuinely interested in the person and enjoy the conversation you're having. When you talk to somebody with the "just making smalltalk" or "just trying to be non-autistic" attitude people can smell it. I'm usually enthusiastic and when meet somebody somewhat shy I try to "take care of them" in a non-patronizing way, as if I was greeting a friend coming to my house. With girls it's kinda different, as long as she can see you enjoy yourself talking to her and not do it to get something from her it's good. Everything goes to shit when she realizes you want something from her instead of talking for the sake of fun and seeing where it goes. That's also what makes flirting easy, when you're doing it in a playful way for fun it's not awkward. t. 19yo non-virgin
dyel 26yo assburger tourist here, nice and levelheaded comment. working/developing on my social skills a lot after i went through some shit and what you say sings true. I can get pretty selfconscious around people of the same age (the fact that i'm indoors a lot and my friends are all exceptionally intelligent doesn't help). But i tried to support this really nice but very autistic guy. There were some old friends of him that were more matured there but wanted to have him enjoy his birthday too. Because of my genuine and fearless concern and interest in making it a nice evening making sure everybody was comfortable they were afterwards very surprised i was a fucking autist. The 'trying to not be autist' pitfall works to some extent, but there's a glass ceiling as to how far you'll go with such controlled politeness. I respect and often like if people do that, but it doesn't work with truly being open so people can (hopefully) enjoy you for who you are.
But to refer to the OP. Some people have genuinely a hard time to pick up on cues in social settings. I have it with girls a lot. Apparently there were a bunch of girls that showed genuine interest, but all of those times i was just chilling being myself and did not pick up on any of that shit until way way after and its too late. Might both be actual autism or just lack of exposure and practice.
Kayden Flores
Thanks, the answer to every one of those, except the hygiene one is "No"
I do smile and greet people I know, but i don't say names, just "hey"
And I'd like to think I'm nice and friendly. I don't ignore people, if co-workers do ask me questions I try to help
But I have no interests, not confident, no reason for people to like me desu It's not like I'm funny or good looking
Nah, I have a hard time with picking up cues as well. It takes loads of practice and from what I've learned (and been told, one of my best friends is a womanizer) unless you're very experienced it's much more difficult to tell if a girl likes you than if a girl likes somebody else. I can notice immediately if a girl is attracted to one of my friends, and they can do so with me. The thing with "not acting like an autist" is more about the idea of autism that people have here, where "trying to not act like an autist" is forcing conversation for the sake of conversation, which obviously doesn't work and yields the opposite effects of the desired ones.
Joshua Carter
reddit.com/r/justneckbeardthings
Kevin Watson
dont let any if these faggots tell you it's too late becuase your in your early goddamn 30s. theres no age limit on developing a better attitude toward shit. You coworkers dont invite you places, not becuase your some weirdo that they hate without even talking to, it's just that they dont know you. I belive in you dawg. I'm autistic and nervous as fuck but I've got a handle on it an I now fit in like the best of em. Your not as bad at socializing as you thing you are I promise. Honestly, a shortcut to normiedom is actually starting to follow some kind of sportsball. They will immediately accept you into the tribe.
Owen Foster
>tfw 26 year old friendless khv >don't smile much because miserable person, rarely greet or say goodbye to coworkers >basically all i do it just joke around and make people laugh >don't really have much interest in what other people talk about because if i do then they will ask about my life and i am an autistic shut in so dont want to let people see that about me >hide all details about my life and coworkers say how they know literally nothing about me
lmao where did it all go wrong for me, how did i become this
Lucas Richardson
>khv Q U E S C O R T B E C
Cameron Myers
>kissing a prostitute
Austin Jenkins
Im willing to wager they don't know you want to hang out, user. I know it's hard to open up but it's the only way people can get to know you.
Robert Martin
>unless you just cant read he said he was a nigger
Charles Smith
$500 for a kiss and hug and sex from a hooker
Sign me up
Wyatt Robinson
I say it is his blog, trashboi
Connor Morris
$500 is for the flight. A hooker for an hour is probably more like $250
>tfw i go to a happy hour with coworkers and get so much anxiety i literally run away within 20 minutes
Daniel Nelson
I've been sober over a year now and I hate to recommend it but have a few drinks and loosen up. You just need an ice breaker. Just don't let it become a crutch.
i fully recognize that. i rarely drink as it is because i have very low tolerance and especially at a work function, don't want to be that retard who gets drunk from nothing and acts like a retard
its weird because the times when i would drink in college with my roommates i had no problems doing it, but something about doing this with coworkers makes me shy away
Juan Powell
just have 1 drink. if your tolerances are that low 1 will be enough dont be that idiot would doesnt know his limits in his 30s.
Logan Turner
Shut the fuck up pathetic loser, this is a fitness board
Robert James
Tbqh they invite me once to get coffee or lunch with them Then realize i have nothing to say and boring and never ask again
Having an entire folder of attractive women to post on online message boards dont help. You need to go into real life instead of living online.I know it seems difficult, but you have become too comfortable in your own bubble at home. Try and break free, move out from your parents and experience life to the fullest.
Cooper Rogers
This isn't Jow Forums. You need to go back and take your shitty fucking blog with you.
Joseph Powell
yeah i get buzzed basically off of around 2.5 shots worth of hard liquor. believe me i know my limits
i just dont know why i have to go full fucking aspie mode. i talk to people at work and can joke around and be funny, but i get to a bar/restaurant and COMPLETELY SHUT DOWN, like go completely mute for hours
Landon Sanchez
name?
Evan Nguyen
ALOOOONE AGAAAAAAAAIN ALOONE AGAAAAAAAAIN ALOOOONE AGAIN
John Roberts
this post is shit delete it op
Jose Adams
I think you're right, but hard to justify moving out given my income
Just ask to be included in after work events. Either they think you're weird, or they think you just "want to be left alone" But the point is that either way they will feel awkward turning you down. Sitting down and drinking is honestly a great atmosphere to help even the most awkward people socialize.
Leo Clark
But I'm self conscious of my voice, and I'm not very good at games tbqh
