This is the self-improvement general for those who focus on finding a significant other.
>Did you already set a goal for when you will feel secure about getting your future gf? What are you willing to do to deserve such a girl?
>Are your expectations realistic?
>How much have you already walked towards your end-goal?
>What is the biggest obstacle in your way and what are you doing about it?
Discuss, anons
>it's another conveniently forget having a SO is just RNG, be it in time, genes, life, and whenever you have an SO, it is a bar that you pass, not that you are special in anyway. you will be replaced over and over again
I don't know why but I just don't bother searching for a girl.
Am i retarded or something?
Like I don't have a huge desire to find a girlfriend.
I wouldn't mind if I had one but I honestly don't understand why people are so obsessed with it.
I don't even hate women.
I need some help on discipline.
Every morning is so hard for me. I set up goals like waking up early and doing yoga but every fucking morning a feel like a train wrack.
Also havent gone to the gym in 2 months.
Lost 2 semesters of uni, now in the middle of my 3rd and havent done anything yet.
I really need to start changing my life for the better for fucking sake but I have no discipline or even long term motivation.
It feels like a very good objective to have. While people pursue ephemeral pleasures, taking action on something that brings real happiness feels much more pure. But then again, I wonder why this site is full of retarded autistic virgins but still delivers to have people with such pure aspirations and desires in life.
It's alright if you really feel that it is fine and not hidden fear of woman
The more I lift the more I want a petite asian gf someone pls help
this is a thread worthy of /fit
remember that goals need to be SMART
>Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely
Been chatting with a few grills and im trying to acsend. None of them actually flat out said no, nor indicated that they werent interested. But i never get any further than a "maybe" and a tryhard pic from them. And then the convos kind of hit a wall.
I dont know if it was never meant to be from the start or if i dogshit at snapping Please help bros
Fucking do it. You're basically me from like a year and a half ago. Make up some autistic thing in your head like imagining a devil and angel on your shoulder. Doesn't really matter but fucking do it. I'm gonna be blunt because I think that's what you need but you sound like a little bitch right now. Quit putting that shit off because you and I both know it doesn't work that way. Unless there's like a category 7 earthquake going on currently then you have no acceptable reason not to. Don't even have to go to your gym, just drop and do push ups right now until you fucking collapse. Just that simple act can be so helpful in pulling yourself out of that disgusting pit of self pity you're wallowing in. You're in uni so you're honestly running out of time to get this shit cemented into your personality.
Tl;dr
Quit being such a sad cunt and actually do something
Autistic social situation: So I was invited to this social event where obviously I should've answered yes... So instead of that, I got nervous and didn't answer at all. Not even like a "no, can't do that tomorrow because work" or w/e, straight up just ghosted and didn't answer. I regret it. But what do I do now? These guys that invited me go to the same class as me and we are friends, so we are going to meet and talk.
Do I pretend as if nothing happened? Ask how the event went and say I'm sorry I couldn't attend?
What do I do?
Always confused me why the mods let a blog general like this stay up.
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Happens to me too. It’s not your autism only. Desinterest runs everywhere. If they are cute, remember there are many guys talking to them just as you are. Try to stand out in some way. I like to talk about achievements or seeing details about the girl (they love this kind of attention). Show dominance and witness, it makes you look more chadlike. No one likes insecurity of the “I don’t think I should be messaging you” type.
peep these steps towards my goal brahs:
>get a new job since i got laid off from last one, got on offer on friday
>start going out to a public hangout place once a week AND have fun there, went to a music venue last week and a trendy arcade this week, had a decent time
>start lifting again properly after my motorcycle crash, on week 5 of SL 5x5 and haven't stalled yet
my goal is to:
>meet a nice girl, educated and kind
>go on 3 dates,see what happens from there
>would like to obtain this goal by march when my lifts are good
pls critique brahs
Don't feel obligated to anyone else, that's gay. That being said, ghosting was also pretty gay. I'd say asking how it went and making some lame ass excuse is your best bet (my favorite is that I fell asleep). If this is affecting you enough that you feel the need to post about it, then make yourself go to the next one.
you can flip this situation around
pretend you were busy and it slipped your mind when you see them, apologize politely and then have them talk about it so you'll get invited to the next one
>Be depressed for 5 months and don't tell anyone.
>Girl at work started speaking with me and showing interest.
>Need to be able to be more sociable with her but struggle because of the depression
>Start taking phenibut everyday and seeing phycologist for the first time.
>Took this girl on a couple dates everything's going really well
>Can't not have phenibut. I'm a mess without it.
>Psychologist urges me to give up the phenibut and get on proper meds
>decline the meds can't go through with stopping the phenibut and starting antidepressants
>Keep hanging with this girl.
>Me and girl get an apartment with a couple other workmates for the work Xmas party on Friday
>Hang before the party laughing and really getting along
>During party she's standoffish and avoids me.
>Her, me and two workmates go back to the apartment.
>She drags one of the other guys into her room and locks the door.
>I freak out
>Get changed and storm out of the apartment and catch an uber all the way home and turn phone off.
>Turn phone on 2 days later on Sunday
>Ring her straight away and call her a cunt.
The Xmas party was on Friday and now it's Monday morning here. I'm just on my way to work and I feel shit. I stopped the phenibut cold turkey and started antidepressants on Saturday after seeing the physiologist again and a doctor.
Goals for me right now are:
-Get through today
-Stick with the meds to help get me in a better headspace
-Then sort out the problems that caused me to get here
Also I'm dieting at the moment and want to lose a couple %more body fat. Starting to do more cardio and switching to full body split because my body can't take recovery of PPL in this deficit.
>apologize
do you just want him to bend over and present his rear too?
just say you had some shit going on and tell them you guys should hangout sometime
I know ghosting is gay... It's not that I feel obligated, more that I want to socialize but didn't. If I actually didn't want to do something, I would just say no... But 99% of the times when I don't want to do something, it's because of retarded anxiety stuff and counter-productive excuses... Kind of like skipping the gym because you're "tired" or whatever.
I'll probably say I was working, which is semi-true(I worked the day after so wouldn't be able to drink much or stay up late anyway).
Yeah, I'll have to ask them because it was a big thing for them... Just annoyed with myself that I didn't go, or at least didn't even answer.
YOU CAN BUY A FUCKING HOME SAUNA FOR TWO PEOPLE FOR LIKE FIFTEEN HUNDRED BUCKS HOLY SHIT
Fuck brah, that's rough. Just hold on tight, bitches come dime a dozen. You dodged a bullet. Keep lifting and your spirits will get lifted too. Peace and love
You are playing yourself. When you realize that you are the ULTIMATE GOAL in this society, you will LET a female, that reaches your conditions, to be your partner. Stop putting these modern women in a pedestal, they have LOTS of betas trying to please her. Women don't want that. Start working IN YOURSELF, not for a girl that is going to break you heart and progress eventually.
most people have a fucking raging boner for talking about themselves, gets them off like nothing else
just ask them lots of questions, they'll start talking about it and get super hard (metaphorically speaking), then they'll associate you with getting that hard on, boom you're a close homie now
this is how autists like us make friends FeelsBadMan
10/10 post
no one can ever love you as much as you love yourself, you're the most important person in the world don't ever prioritize a stranger over yourself
Thanks mate. I just wanted to get some of it off my chest
Just focusing on work now and and gonna listen to Gojira, The Way of All Flesh album on repeat all day.
>>Did you already set a goal for when you will feel secure about getting your future gf? What are you willing to do to deserve such a girl?
Am training as hard as I can, dieting hard af to lose
>>Are your expectations realistic?
losing another 10kg and bulking up? I think so
>>How much have you already walked towards your end-goal?
signed up in a gym, lost 6kg through dieting, will continue dieting
>>What is the biggest obstacle in your way and what are you doing about it?
being shy, feeling I'm still too fat, feeling I'm not worth the girls' time
Last chick I was into had a bf and I didn't ask her out because if she said yes, I don't think I would have been into her if she is going around her bf's back. I didn't want to be friends and kind of just stopped pursuing her.
I haven't seen her in a few weeks and sometimes I get the feels like I really missed out on something. I guess I just haven't found another potential gf to put all my awkward energy into yet.
Checkout some Gorod
I think I need some serious help bruhs. It's been over 10 years since I broke up with girl, Oneitis. Can't help but be sad when I think about our relationship. How do I stop focusing on what has happened and focus on the the future? I'm married and have a great wife, but I still think about her.
I'm 1/2/3/4 from being the "Lifting won't bring her back" meme. Halp.
>>Me and girl get an apartment with a couple other workmates for the work Xmas party on Friday
Like rent one? or was it at someones place
>During party she's standoffish and avoids me.
>Her, me and two workmates go back to the apartment.
>She drags one of the other guys into her room and locks the door.
Either she is super mentally fucked or you were totally misreading your relationship. If she is a psycho, you should be happy that you found that out with relatively little damage.
hanging out with girls that cheat/leave their bf for someone else is beneath you man
you're gonna make it
yeah that's what most people tell me. Just get hit with tfw no gf when I think about what potentially could have been with her.
Alot of no win situations in life and I guess this is another.
man i think you need to talk to someone other than us. Youre married and still thinking about some chick form 10 years ago? thats fucked up man
It was a rented place for the night and I didn't misread anything.
She tried to cover it up saying she couldn't remember anything because of the alcohol but I called her on her bullshit. She wouldn't say anything but eventually apologised, then Icalled her a cunt and told her to stay the fuck away.
28yo KV, the clouds never clear, anons
last girl i had a thing with is BPD, and also the only human i could discuss my childhood with and feel completely understood so now i have to live with that for the rest of my life. granted, it was a fucked situation from the start
hyper-attractive girls are always hypergamous, anons
>hyper attractive
I'd be completely fine with a homely 7
You did well my man. She doesn't respect you, so the only choice is to forget about her.
Hey sig, give me ideas how to make money from home, what skillset should I learn rn to be marketable on the interweb? I've got some android knowledge but Im not artistic for shit or a crafty engineer. Google admobs pays for shit. Also to show Im not 100% fuckup: meditate everyday, some yoga, some weights, no alcohol, little to no sugar, college degree, run a mile a day. This question would get lost on Jow Forums so asked here.
tfw no quiet girl with aspergers/slight autism to hold hands with quietly
should do some research on freelance stuff, lot of people make websites and apps through online.
Or you could get good at art and start doing porn comissions
you're forgetting most women above 6/10 see themselves as 9-10/10 and don't even fathom settling for less.
This month was pretty good, put myself out there and got 3 girls numbers in one night, went for back to back dates without anyone suspecting a thing.
Found 2 of them really boring but the last one and I really clicked so we went out for another date, then another, then she was my first girlfriend. Was fun, took my virginity, again she suspected nothing and said I had the highest sex drive of any guys shes dated, she left me last night and I'm sad again
blog over, thanks for reading
it's not fair how do normies do it