How do I become less nice? Im basically super polite and say yes to everything and end up feeling burnt out helping everyone. I dont know how to say No because I hate making up excuses.
How do I become less nice...
Joseph Carter
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Asher Cooper
if you can't say no. say nothing.
Jason Nelson
this.
this is something you really need to work on, because it's a skill you will need in life. but to make things easier and minimize the damage, you should learn to identify the people who want to take advantage of you and remove them from your life as much as possible. keep those people out of reach if you can.
t. oldfag who still occasionally struggles with this
Kayden Wood
would you say you are like cinnamon?
James Lewis
Who needs an excuse? Just say "I can't"
Zachary Cook
Most of the time, they are asking me favors standing right in front of me. I cant say nothing because I gotta answer them.
The problem is most of the people doing this to me are considered family. Not the ones I live with, but the endless uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. So its very hard for me to say No cause I have to do it gracefully since I keep having to see them in life as opposed to just burning bridges with strangers.
Ayden Roberts
I doubt very much that you are burnt out from doing too many favors for people
odds are you're a whiny cuck who does a couple, is weak and tired and assumes causality
Ryder Murphy
you're a robot so you know what it's like to not have people care about you. you keep trying to be nice to others because you hope they'll reciprocate. give that up. just do and say whatever you think of first. don't censor yourself unless you're risking your job.
Austin Hughes
>The problem is most of the people doing this to me are considered family.
that does make it much more difficult. i'll give you that. just do the best you can. for me, i think it's my touch of autism that causes me to freeze up in those situations and not stand up for myself. one thing you could try is staying busy. do some things to fill your day that are scheduled regularly so that you have a valid excuse to say "no, i can't. i have [x] to do." but still, that's not the best way to go about it.
Henry Stewart
Good point fellow robot. Maybe its just awkward to suddenly change when I already have the reputation of being nice.
I will definitely try that. Sometimes my mind goes blank in the moment that I have to respond though. Im gonna try my best to say that Im busy with something next time.
Aiden Green
>when I already have the reputation of being nice.
most normies understand what boundaries, personal space, and "me time" are. they will understand. they won't be mad at you if you're busy. you'll find the reaction is quite a neutral one, typically consisting of "oh ok".
>try my best
it unironically takes practice. i wish i didn't know this feel, but i always have, and i still do.
Nathan Cruz
Well what I do is distance myself from these people.
Just learn from babysteps. Try to give less fucks.
Healthy egoism, you know.
Easton Murphy
Try to always get something in return. Don't do shit for free.
Joshua Edwards
Im sure I gotta practice alot. Makes me feel better that Im not the only one that has this problem.
Good idea user.
Im sure that would work. Would be tough for me to put up the act of wanting something all the time
Brayden Morgan
Let yourself be ground down until 'no's start flying out.
I still say yes far too often but at least everyone knows a no from me means I got bigger fish to fry.
William Anderson
Spend more time on here, but talk wild shit to anyone who barley urkes you. Learn how your bullies eviscerate your quirks and flimsy autism. Tighten your deck and remain calm while casually gutting their hardley hidden basic bitch weaknesses. Autistically break them down by their own words. Then build yourself up
t. I hurt some people good and I know I did
Juan Barnes
the best part is he believes it
Luis Nelson
Who even is this brap aimed at cunt, you? lololol, do you believe it now mutherfucker, huh?
Adam James
>talk about being too nice
>post taylor swift
yeah okay fucker
Mason Ward
ok ok I was wrong, sorry
Matthew Taylor
I know a girl like this who it gets her into trouble. Like she's so shy and nice that she unintentionally sent me signals and then felt dumb when I acted on them. If I wasn't a cool guy I would've had her in such a vulnerable position to take advantage of, you know what I mean? I mean, girls are the weaker sex physically and idk if you're a girl, but keep it in mind that to some degree it can endanger you. You have to look after yourself before others, OP.
Justin Williams
TayTay is pure. Your probably pissed because she isnt MAGA
Adam Davis
>all the guys i date turn out to be jerks and i totally don't just date guys so i can make pitytier breakup songs :((
Dylan Clark
Her experiences are innocent and sweet. And her cute autism led her to learn from her failed relationships with chads. She will be happy with a handsome robot.
Lucas Phillips
when someone asks you for a favor, just turn around and pull your pants and underwear down and spread your buttcheeks and fart super loud.
Adrian Gutierrez
yikes
nice fantasy you cuckold
Gabriel Rodriguez
Thank you my laddette
Josiah Murphy
im guy
Leo Murphy
say "i don't feel so good" lmao
Joseph Morgan
You mispell gay
Robert Nelson
for not liking taylor swift?
Alexander Long
Yea thats why my fag
James Morgan
>get gf
>get screwed by gf
>recieve depression
>get angry at depression
>recieve rage
>do whatever the random fuck you want
By this point you've usually changed entirely as a person and have a pile of new experiences to draw or reflect on and become more of a cunt in the process.
Tyler Gutierrez
Announce your love for Right Wing politics. The problem will take care of itself.