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>2019
>not doing russian water fasting

I've hit a mental roadblock that feels like some concoction of apathy and depression. I'm a only child any my parents are shit with money. I 'graduated' from uni (I have one class I'm doing online to have it finally taken cared of but I did walk in the Spring). What's been eating at me internally is that besides the friendships I made I feel like it wasn't at all worth the money I spent. I'm self employed right now through ecommerce with digital marketing and probably could have been doing this full time instead of school for the 4 years (I did work on it part time while attending). I caved into school because of my parents and this fall we discovered that the State was suing my mom for messing up disability/unemployment payments and they had to add ~20k debt ontop of a heloc loan in the low six figures. They're older than most parents and it feels like a being in a sinking hole with them. Before the 'lawsuit' I had plans to just dig in for a year doing my work here at home with them and banking every other dollar that isn't reinvested or spent on basic stuff to live.

However, I feel like I really fucked up because I passed on a 70k+ job in a higher COL area since I had a plan of working full time at home while being self employed to max out my income. Now I feel like I should've just gotten away from home and it's been hell trying to get hired on the side back home without taking something that's going to pull in 60k with my skills. I have maybe one opportunity now that I'm working on but now the company is giving me radio silence coming into the holidays which is going to drive me up a fucking wall. My business still brings in steady income but this mental roadblock is hindering any of my motivation to get ahead and my shit is slowly backlogging on me. I just can't hop out of bed and attack the day like I use to. I'm grateful to still be in the spot I'm in, because I'm not underwater but I feel like I'm constantly fighting apathy now.

>got a paper due at 5
>Only starting it now
Help me guys

Thanks bro,

I'm 28. Only recently did my career start to take off. Been single for a year now. Really need to work on myself now for me!

Satan plz

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Sounds tough man. But you seem smart so that is great.

How old are you?

I think that having your own business is great and you will easily get something if you have your own portfolio to show.
Listen to what user said:

>self control and learn to like adversity. It will make you stronger.

buckle down and study demon...

>666

Where's the fukn stupid questions thread

What's a good bulk routine if I only have dumbbells and a barbell? No bench either

I'm in my early 20s which is why I'm sticking around for a year or so with them. Want to save money and help them since they also have their health problems bothering them every once in awhile with their age.

I just keep getting hung up on problems, the 'what ifs' when looking back and other things that just distract me more during the day. It wasn't like this for the past half year of being with them but it feels like it's getting worse.

I suppose the best thing is just taking a step back and working through it like all of us have to do it just gets weird when your mind gets cloudy with these sorts of thoughts and you lose focus.

>Get caught on phone in Engineering class
>Has choice of singing in front of class or doing 50 pushups to get said phone back
>Choose pushups, my best was 35 in rapid succession, but i wasnt gonna sing
>Visibly not fit in the slightest, everyone assumes i can do 1 pushup, let alone 50
>Rack off 40 pushups
>Arms start to wobble, people start snickering
>Finish off last 10, maintaining a good form
>Get nods of approval from sports kids in class and teacher
>First ounce of respect i've ever gotten from some of these people
>No longer the fat looser of the class

Is this what making it feels like? I might just quit video games entirely and dedicate myself to the Jow Forums lifestyle.

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Give us the prompt / requirements, and the length that it has to be.

I am afraid of talking to woman for romantic intrest. Everytime I want to try I mentally give up. How do I change this. I can talk to girls but I can never cold approach.

meditation is a pretty good habit to establish cause once you get good at it it can be implemented during your everyday life e.g
>walking to work, school w.e and feeling the sensation of breathing in and out and how the wind and sorroundings affect you while walking.

by being present you avoid making a mental plan to what your gonna do when you get home and drop the plan either way cause you are overwhelming yourself, and decide not to do so.

Once you are present you will notice what happends to you during stressful situations like my stomach tense, shortness of breath or dropping your spaghetti cause being caught off gaurd.
Also its a pretty good practice to do so you avoid overthinking stuff that happend years months days ago that people dont remember cause their a caught in their own problems and reminding yourself how you felt terrible etc is just plain stupid to do.
Just try to do it 10 min everyday either it being while walking, sitting queitly or waiting for something and you will notice stuff that you didnt before

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The absolute state of the american university

collegefag here, anyone have any resources for good study habits? Like apps, guides, websites, etc. I usually get bored in lectures and get distracted by my phone, so stuff on notetaking and staying engaged would help too.
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Rate my sig stack:
Nofap and noporn (day 12)
L-arginine, Lecithin, zinc, fish oil, vitamin d, kelp and multivit
Every other day have 2g phenibut (only just started), L-theanine where possible
Still autistic kind of

I feel as though I'm on the verge of breaking out of autism I just need opportunities to meet people, I work in a small warehouse with a knit group of lads, so work social gains can't be had (I talk with most) and my outside work friend group is only 4 people big and go out rarely. Anything else I can add? I go the gym 3 times a week and I'm thinking of starting to do yoga/pilates/a martial art. My ultimate goal for now is to get a gf.

Do you have any resources or recommendations to start? I feel I get too caught up over what's been in the past or what'll happen in the future and seem to stall at times in the present.

Phenibut has addictive qualities when you quit which are mental and physcial. Dont take alcohol on it either.

Yeah I've had the pills for a while and have been scared to take them, I started with week-on week-off cycles of 250mg per day but didn't feel anything off them. Can you recommend any good, affordable alternatives?

Cold approach is fucking hard. The only way to overcome your fears is to expose yourself to them and learn how little of your fear is justified.

Try not taking notes in class and just listening and paying attention as much as possible; except what you can't look up afterwards. If you've done meditation you may be familiar with the idea of paying attention to something as much as possible, and whenever you notice that you lost attention, your return to it. Try to do this at your lecture.
If you keep getting distracted; then maybe turn off your phone and put it in your bag or something; I guess there's not a lot you can do but make it as hard as possible.
Notetaking should be done after class.

I achieved a lot in the past year:
>worked my ass of to get a body that i am proud of
>switched university for something i actually enjoy and putting effort in>
stopped smoking weed and reduced alcohol intake
>overall much healthier
>did some introspection and learned a lot of myself
>social anxiety way down from continues social exposure
>generally more confident
>did some looxmaxing and have gotten lots of mires especially in recent months
I got into a cycle of improving and getting happiness and more motivation from my positive results. Until recently. I realized that all of these things didn't fix what's wrong with me deep down. I somehow still feel like i'm just some weirdo that no female would be attracted to if she just got to know me. I blow off any interested girls and shy away from every making a move myself because i feel like i will just embarrass myself with my lack of experience. I've literally had girls come up to me in clubs or at parties and i just nervously ignore them until they get bored and leave.
This last hurdle seems like a mountain in front of me that i can't climb. The worst part is i am now somehow even more crushingly lonely and somewhat depressed than i was a year ago, when my life was in shambles compared to today

Sorry for the /blogpost/, fucking mods deleted the feels thread while i was typing this

I hate myself.
I don't fully know why- it's my biggest block I've ever encountered
I know I've got good skills and I can appreciate good moments
but I feel hollow or quickly dimsiss the positive, -it's not even I dwell on the negative moreover i'm trying to accept I'll always not love myself and deal with it
it sucks but I don't know how to fix it, counselling doesn't seem to be working for it

I heard of SAM-E. Unsure about it, do your research on it. You can also buy this on amazon. And I'd try to personally fix problems instead of using drugs to cope with social anxiety. There's reasons why phenibut has studies you can find that shows the addictive nature due to people ramping the dosages.

My fear comes from thinking I'm a fat fuck or too uggo. And I'm neither but its deep rooted insecurity from childhood. Im getting fit and I just need to cut now with my mass, but I do look like I lift to normies a bit. I guess the only way is to try right?

> I guess the only way is to try right?
Yes. You can grow moderately more confident from working on your looks I suppose, and it will probably affect your chance of success, but the thing is: No matter how good you look, there's still a big chance of rejection, no matter how shredded you are, and most of your fear will remain until you just try. Actually; you probably will still be as fearful afterwards, but you'll have an easier time getting over it next time.

I liked this, could you please share how your introspection process went? Did you follow any sort of guide or simply just set some time aside to really think about yourself? Thank you

Jesus do you live in a Hallmark movie for retards

God I miss sitting on a chair and playing games all day, being a lazy fuck and having my mother bring me food to the desk.

I'm 27 yo now and it seems like I can't get a moment's peace nowadays.

I've got my work to think about, getting the necessary amount of sleep, groceries, cooking, paying bills, cleaning up the place, working out, making time to catch up with my friends, or spending time with my gf.

I literally only have time for vidya 1 to 2 hours a day if I'm lucky.

What should I do?
I feel like I'm gonna burn out soon if I go at it like this for much longer.

drdavidlawrence.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Mindfulness-Based-Stress-Reduction-Workbook.pdf

I used this book it is great but having a physical copy is way better to write into the workbook it is possible to do it on a word dokument like I did. I suggest reading the everyday mindfullness and doing some of the exercises they arnt that hard and its really well written
and the benefits of meditations is countless just read the foreword

Huh, I never thought of not taking notes in lecture but it might help, I'm going to give it a try next quarter and see if it makes any improvement

How do I clean my room?

Get a gym membership.

People who struggle with motivation, watch those videos. They're short and explain how our brains create dopamine and seratonin, the neurotransmitters behind motivation. You can see what the body uses to produce them and how you can change your diet and supplements to help.

youtube.com/watch?v=kWqg5fwb3U4
youtube.com/watch?v=Jq3GY27qWXM

Man up and get a gf that will provide actual support if your current doesn't.

She cooks and cleans when she's around so that lightens up my load a bit.

But she can't help much regarding everything else.

>put myself through uni for 3 years whilst working full time to support family
>graduate top of class, industry award due to excellent work on work placements
>get dream job, leadership absent but helps me make further name for myself
>all the while losing weight, meditating, abstaining from drink, porn and excessive vidja
this was me until about 2 weeks ago, feel really burnt out I just want to quit everything, become a shut in neet with no responsibilities or expectations and get drunk 24/7 halp

Pour the vodka down the toilet and go lift. Is this what you want to hear, or do you want to be absolved of your sins and told, thats not you, you're better than that, in which you'll lose the shame you feel for your behavior and won't have the necessary incentive to change.

How do I meet a qt and stop being lonely? I joined a club and I also work, and see girls at both who show interest in me although I don't know how to make a move, flirt, or talk to them. I also don't have that many friends, mainly because I have been putting off going to church because always procrastinate. Please give me advice guys, how do I make more friends, talk to girls, get a qt and stop being lonely? I am saved in Christ and never truly lonely although I seek fellowship with other Christians and people

I-I´m gonna start drawing that webcomic!

How do I make some cash gains?

Manual labour and hospitality are mostly out because of an injury from an old job that isn't worth the risk of recurrence (at all). And I'm pretty much unskilled/unexperienced apart from variations of those two, apart from having a uni degree that (unofficial, but accepted by industry) requires minimum 6 months volunteering to get employment. Probably need to start on some work experience in admin or sales, but I get so damn lazy/distracted/bored/unmotivated/jaded.

Just got accepted to grad school in another town, thanks to which I have been feeling optimistic and even good, sometimes, for the first in a very very long time. I REALLY need to move out from my parent's (pretty sure that's contributed to some problems), but I'm pretty much broke. At least short-term I'll need to organise a rental. Need to save for a deposit and ideally get some do-able part-time work once I've moved as well.

Also maybe relevant to here, if you have a spare day for introspection:
youtube.com/watch?v=vl-44jDYDJQ
Meaning to try this, but I'll probably need to go out camping for a day because things like this (even fasting) are impossible around my parents.

Holy shit you just reminded me that I have anemia and haven't been treating it.
Thank you

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Hey man, join a youth group.

You will start to meet people inside and outside of the group and church.

I did this. 2 really cool gi4ls in my group but I won't make a move because I don't want to compromise the group. Also, i asked the one to.go out twice and she had "plans".

But met some cool people through Social occasions and at church.

I am 21, in college, graduate in one semester. Ain't that a little old for a youth group?

block out small chunks of time. do say, 20-30 minutes in a burst, take a ten minute break, then do another burst. worked for me anyway

>sing or pushups

What kind of High School Musical shit is this?

Good job on the push ups son i can barely do 3

Oh boy

get an old fashioned /sig/ going.

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I'm 36. I don't have a career but currently have an online passive income of approx $1600 a month which won't last much longer. I'm a 6'2 skinny framelet but have gained about 8lbs in the past 10 weeks or so and feel like working out and diet is becoming more of a habit now. I'm introverted and lonely as fuck.

My problem is that I waste so much time. Literally weeks and months at a time where I basically do nothing despite having constant anxiety about the fact I do nothing. I don't enjoy being lazy, it makes me feel terrible. But whenever I try and go David Goggins mode, I can't stand the thought of the constant discipline and sacrifice.

If only I could increase my productivity by 50%, my life would be so much fucking better. I live in fear and I don't face my fears. I've stopped making new years resolutions, they are retarded. You either start NOW and stick at it or don't bother at all in my opinion.

I want a better life. I worry its too late and I'm too fucked up to change. But I will keep trying.

>- Meditate for 5 - 10 mins a day
>- Read for 30 mins
biggest baits there are, those things are good as supplementary, but wont do shit on their own. You should do them for higher purpose, e.g. read book about programming to have some project of yours.
You are man, you are here to create or build something, not just read about the fucking thing

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Yes. Read "How to Become a Straight-A Student" by Cal Newport. It's exactly what you're describing- he works with high-acheiving students to figure out what techniques they use to achieve their success and finds strong, consistent themes across them. I used his techniques to get a distinction in my last degree.

Willpower is a muscle. You don't hit the gym for the first time and rack up 120kg. Maybe you're trying too hard.

Try to just do one productive thing each day, even if it's only a 10-minute task. Keep track of this on a calendar, or just a piece of paper. After a week work up to two productive things a day. Train your willpower to get better gradually, and don't be disheartened when you fail.

I'm 28 and I'm in a church group with 11 other people between 23 to 39.

I'll give you 2 options

>drink all of the vodka you can, no breaks, dont stop, if you pass out keep drinking when you wake up

>pour the vodka and other booze away, rinse it down. Get some healthy food in the fridge, take a bath and start to plan your lift

29 y/o teacher here starting to get my shit together too (though not yet at your level).
We are all going to make it.

>Basically what that means is that if you are lazy and just lay around eating shit food, watching series or playing games all day everyday and are in no way productive and just waste your days away, you have been defeated by yourself.
Having one of those days once per week on week-ends is a treat I still want to have for myself though, user.
There's nothing wrong with being hedonistic and lazy every now and then imo, as long as it is not your whole lifestyle.

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I didn't follow any guide. I just tried to work on my social anxiety and in the process had to understand where it came from.
Read up on some basic psychology and personality types etc.
Realized my underlying problems and what behavior i needed to change

I have a hard time feeling motivated when i don't feel like i'm progressing.
What do you do to fight that?

>What do you do to fight that?
Stop looking for motivation and develop discipline instead

Met a cute girl last night and she slept over. Waking up having her on my side, resting her head on my chest with her body close and warm up to mine, was a great fucking feeling.

She mired my arms and she got a bit naughty about other things...

We are all gonna make it brothers! Work hard and it will pay off.

Stop taking phenibut right now. Quitting it was harder than quitting my pack a day ciggy habit, by a country fucking mile. I know it feels great but it isn't worth playing with.

Have bot had sex in over a year now...

I'm 28
Feel like i have hit the wall

Plans for 2019
>no alcohol until I graduate (~march/april)
The dilemma here is that the main social activity I have is "getting drinks" with my friends. I know that I can do it, and I know that I feel 1000 times better without alcohol, but I fear the impact that could have on my social life.
>no (as little as possible) sugar
especially now it's almost impossible because there's always some candy around. I always try but break down sooner or later and end up going back to what definitely is too much.
Strangely enough, I managed to quit cheese very easily, which is the same situation, there's always a lot around and all kinds of really nice hard cheese, but I almost don't even like cheese anymore.
>no porn
I did 4 months of nofap last year, and noporn a bit longer, but since the I always fail after a week or two.
>replace 4chins, >leddit, yidtube with reading
I have enough books and already read every day, but I need to get into the habit of just shutting off my PC in the evening and read something instead of basically "waiting for bedtime" while watching youtube. And in general, grab a book instead of refreshing my browser when I'm bored.

But priority number one right now is to work on and finish my thesis.
Pretty much all is secondary to that, and I need to get my shit together a bit better.
I spend too much time watching/reading/thinking about shit that will only be relevant after I finish this.

>sing or pushups
What kind of teacher do you have?

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You have to accept yourself for who you are, all the experiences you've had and all the decisions youve made.

I don't have any major plans for 2019 yet:
- Join a gym
- Squat at least 80 kg
- Stop watching porn
- Continue reading philosophy, more specifically ancient Greek philosophy

I'm currently lifting weights at home using 2 x 20 kg dumbbells, but I need more weight in order to progress. Since I don't have enough room for a barbell, I'll join a gym.

I feel like porn is a waste of time and affects my mental state in a negative way. So that has to go.

Reading books on Stoicism and Ethics improves my ability to reflect on myself and others. So that's a definite keeper.

One of my plans for 2018 was to get myself a girlfriend, but I didn't invest any time in it. At least not enough. I thought I found a candidate, but she's looking on Tinder. So I take that as being disqualified. On a positive note, that makes me one year closer to being a wizard. I'm not sure if I should put this on my list for 2019. On the one hand I'd like to have someone to care for me and vice versa. On the other hand I want to be as free as possible.

What kind of clothes do you suggest for weightlifting? Compressed clothing? I don't want to be the fashion king, but neither do I want to look like a clown.

You may be looking for progress too soon.

Reminder that if you need to wait until a specific time before making positive improvements to your life, you really won't make it.

Goals for 2019:
>save up for a new car and a road trip around the country
I need to leave my godforsaken town.
>read more
I have an entire shelf full of books that I have yet to read. My problem is I'll start a book, put it down, and pick up another one without finishing.
>develop a better sleep schedule
I go to bed late and wake up early, so I'm not getting as much sleep as I should
>reach my weight goal of 200 lbs
Currently at 235-240 (haven't checked in a while), down from 270 in August.
>build more muscle
My legs are pretty muscular because I run a lot, but my arms still need work. They're too fatty imo.
>less vidya
I don't play as often as I used too, and they're starting to become boring to me. On the bright side, most of the 2019 games look shitty anyway. (My guess is companies know they're games are shitty so they're raking in pre-orders with flashy cinematic trailers instead of gameplay.)
>work on my confidence and self-image
I have self-esteem issues, and I have gotten some help with these recently from friends but in the end the one whose verdict counts most is the man staring back from the glass.
>no porn
Wrong for many reasons, kinda self-explanatory
>get over my Jow Forumstard self
This one is also self-explanatory

I'll add to this list if I can think of anything else.

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What if you’re waiting for the application period to apply for something?

this.
Overcome the "I'll do it tommorow" mentality

This is my problem. I keep putting things off like diet change, dating, working on projects, etc. because I keep feeling like i need to 'do this first' or 'work on this first' or whatever. But all I end up doing is procrastinating on things, daydreaming about accomplishing those things, and never actually getting to them.

How do I get past this?

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daaaamn I saved the text from that post back then.
I knew that was familiar.

>How did you beat laziness
>Beat laziness

You don't seem to understand. Laziness is not a headache, and there is no simple solution or cure you just haven't found for it. Laziness is your fate. It's what you deserve.
You will never, amount to more than a pathetic slob, barely surviving in this world with nothing accomplished and nobody to remember you when you die. You will have changed nothing and left the world no better than when you came into it. You are erased from the universe entirely. Laziness is not an enemy or an obstacle, but rather the fate of those who do not understand that they are wasting their lives, only to wake up one day on their deathbed and suffer the regret of their "laziness", all before it's too late.
The universe does not care if you sit in a chair and drink beer all day, which is why so many people do. It changes nothing and therefore is easy. Success on the other hand is difficult, because you are actively changing your role in the history of everything, and should you work hard enough, you will be remembered forever.
So go ahead and do nothing - blame your mild exhaustion on the blanket term of "laziness" and allow you and everything you could have achieved in your short time on this planet to be lost in time.

and then everyone clapped

>Doing things because you enjoy them and they practice good and useful skills
God imagine actually enjoying something.

kek where the fuck do you go to school that you still get treated like you’re in middle school? No ones making you be in college like nigga just walk away

using minoxidil on my face to grow a beard b/c i still had a babyface in my mid-late 20's. full coverage isn't there yet but it's working and looks miles better

Kek, what kinda university do you go to.

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I absolutely don’t want to do shit today, but right now, I will force myself to go to the gym.

>>Get caught on phone in Engineering class
>>Has choice of singing in front of class or doing 50 pushups to get said phone back

You had more choices than that. How did your phone get into your professors hands.

Fuck off redditfag

What is a good routine I can start to start building some strength without going to a gym? I have shit tier flexibility (can barely squat down) and want to work on a small routine since I have a lot of pains probably from being so inactive

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Here's how I do it. People will tell you you can't just change everything at once, and they're right. Do it anyway. Change everything you want to about yourself, all at once. You'll fail at maybe 90% of it, but 10% is still a lot of change. Then you repeat the process.

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what do I do if I cannot socialize without alcohol? right now I socialize once a week, can't even manage a facebook message to my closest friends most of the time

holy shiet how tf do you forget something like that?

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anyone got that image of the isometric exercises?

I fucking hate my dad.

Really want to quit my night shift job. Work 2 nights a week and it’s killing my sleep cycle but I need to make rent.

What are some chill jobs you can get as a student that won’t kill my gains and will make me some decent money

Did anybody see David Goggins' Rogan interview? I found his attitude very inspiring. The thing that struck me was how utterly pointless his goals were, with respect to my own values. I know he's built a career on being a "hard cunt", so his goals have more value in his life. But most of the time his behavior is pointless and at times detrimental to his health and longevity. All this for what?
I'm fascinated by this because if I were to put even 10% of this mans initiative into my own value system, I would become a completely different person. Literally all I want to achieve is top grades at uni and a fuckin aesthetique physique. This is nothing compared to what these fruitcakes go through during navy seal training and ultramarathons etc.
It seems however that sometimes they are cultivating discipline for discipline's sake. Take Jocko waking at 4:00am every day for example. This behavior is completely pointless in itself but it does encourage self-discipline. And at the end of the day this discipline does bleed into other areas of his life.
After watching the interview I think I'm going to set more ambitious goals within my own value system and be more mindful about cultivating discipline towards those goals.

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