Social autism

remember this is the guy who is always blogging, he's asian and from toronto
always whining about stuff like this
yet he never listens
that guy who always posts unattainable models
i think it has been going on like this for more than a year on Jow Forums, almost daily blogposts

he makes threads like these, whines, has more and more self pity and does not improve

I used to be like him, but I gained friends, removed my anxiety and social autism all in a year.
I'm not a social god but I have fun with other people and enjoy conversations now.

Improvement is possible just stop goddamn feeling sorry for yourself.
And stop blogging.
I'm in a good mood I won't report you this time.

when u don't have stories to tell because your life is boring and you're not witty or funny, social occasions are hell.

who is she?
source?
can only find asian links i can't read
help me BREHS

Continue going out with coworkers/friends and you will have to tell something one day because stories happen there you tard

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>Work an actual career where people don't do things after work with one another because they're all married or whatever
>The boss of my boss comes in the room one day
>I start autisming as usual
>He asks "why are you like that?"
>Probably the meanest thing anyone has ever said to me since highschool
>Say sorry I don't know
>Wait until he leaves
>Go to bathroom and cry

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anyone... brehs???BREHS???

My milktruck gf.

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The worst thing to do is to stop going out with them. Just stop stressing, and get immersed in the situation.
Ask them questions and react to their stories - even if you have to fake interest. You don't have to tell a story of your own to engage with the convo.

bruh i found her. her insta is juasicko venmo me 10 dollars

Actually do something with your life besides working and lifting. Travel. Do volunteer work. Get a hobby.

You're a legend breh. I hope you have a 8" x 6" dick so you can satisfy many grills like that because you deserve it BREH....

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>juasicko

instagram.com/p/BlASOnPnfJ4/
she's pretty and has nice titties
but man...
she has no hips and thighs and ass whatsoever

When I started university I was terrible at social stuff and honestly the first time we went out I said I would go to the bathroom and then went home to watch series.

But I worked on it and after 4 years I heard something like this.

>Party starts but not a lot of people
>Friend calls people on speaker
>Ask if they want to come
>Guy reply's "Is user coming?"
>Yes he's here
>Yeah I'm coming

But it took 4 years.
It had lots of failures, embarrassing moments, and missed social cues but now I'm a guy with lots of stories to tell.

You work on it over and over again.

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this won't work in a small social circle which user undoubtedly has

i wish mate, at least my stalking skills are top tier

imagine having to take photos of fucking nothing everything you spend time with your gf

sounds horrible dude but
>I start autisming
needs some detail

what if she just autistically carries a tripod everywhere

How to make wit gains?

where is that pic from?

>I used to be like him, but I gained friends, removed my anxiety and social autism all in a year.
how?

>go out with hipster friends
>they're all craft beer enthusiasts who spend literally hours talking about hops and malt and how their microbrews are doing while i just sit there and nod along

>go out with jock friends
>they're all ex-athletes who spend literally hours talking about football and hockey while i just sit there and drift off

>go out with artsy friends
>they're all leftist NPCs who spend literally hours talking about orange man bad while i just sit there and pretend to be apolitical

Probably started saying something off-handedly rude or completely unrelated to what his boss was talking about.

Honestly if you're attractive it doesn't really matter what you say. You can say the weirdest shit and if you have a good face and project a modicum of confidence people will roll with it. Even if they think you're weird they'll think it's charming, not autistic. I've legitimately asked chicks in bars if they think they could take a baboon in a fight just to test this theory, and it's always been a success. Don't do this if you come across as an incel, though.

People love being listened attentively, it caresses their egos, makes them feel special. If you are a good listener, you'll be liked. This entails having genuine interest in what they are saying.
Its hard though, i cant do it, it shows all over my face and body language how bored and uninterested i am:p. But if you want to get friends that's what you need to do.

Guys, what do i do?

>at uni
>prof asks me to get into a course of his
>dont know anybody in the course but try to get into discussions as much as possible
>two weeks ago a qt strikes up a conversation with me, not just uni related , but also private stuff
>chats with me during class, giggles at stupid remarks i give during discussions
>next week, wants to sit next to me, catch her glancing at me a couple times
The signs are there, but the only reason i dont proceed further is, that she is way out of my league. Srsly i dont know why someone like her would even talk to me. But still...

Ask her to study with you for the next project or exam or whatever. It's standard ops. But for me at least it's finals week so ask her to study for finals. Otherwise just ask her to "hangout" and take her somewhere because if you don't do it now you'll probably never get the chance to do it again

>not knowing that Jow Forums is just Jow Forums for closeted homosexuals.

It's not about whether the story itself is funny. It's about delivery. I can get just about anyone I talk to to laugh at something I say because of how I build the story. I still use things that happened to me.

Truth is I've had years of social interaction to get it right(and I still don't sometimes). Watching people and how they react. Learning what's good and isn't. micro expressions are a thing. I'm so autismo, when I was a kid I practiced my smile a lot in the mirror so I could get it right and it came naturally. Learned(and still learning) safe and unsafe topics.

Doing pretty good so far. People like me. Some don't. Practice, practice, practice. That's what it takes.

Step 1: Be Conan O’Brien

>conan
>wit

Maybe in 2006.

I miss John Stewart from 17 years ago.

Why bother forcing yourself to be social when you don't enjoy it? Just be a hermit and improve your internal life.

forget the leagues, why give up before even trying?

>Gah.... Right in the feels

>out of your league
This isn't fucking r9k nigger. BE A BETTER MAN TODAY THAN YOU WERE YESTERDAY. DO IT MOTHERFUCKER

Try to get more hobbies and broaden the topics you can talk about.

Embrace not being a normalfag already.

I have the opposite problem, though I'm not really sure it is a problem. I can socialize just fine, but I don't really have any motivation to do so. I can go for months at a time without talking to another person for non-work related reasons, and when I do end up in a social situation, I find myself getting irritated with the NPC mindset most people have nowadays (though I don't let it show and still try to be polite). I prefer solitude more and more the older I get,so I don't see why so many people feel compelled to socialize against their will or "get a gf" when it feels like more of an imposition than anything.

user,speaking from personal experience that is a sign of autism.Especially the part where you feel almost no compulsion to socialise.

by getting yourself out there and keep trying. you couldn't bench 100kg day one too

>speaking from personal experience

So not from psychological expertise or anything concrete like that?

No,but it was a big part of why they sent me to get tested. Not saying you have it,but it might me food for thought.

I was tested in middle school. I don't have autism. I just don't like people all that much.

>iktf
i have 2 circles of friends: one i play video games with and one from high school. i went to get food with the former group and the entire time i just sat there, listening to them and nodding my head. occasionally they would joke about me being Jow Forums and that would be my way into the conversation but that was about the extent of my interactions. they were all laughing and having a good time and i was just waiting for it to be over. i've been told that introversion is just something you need to keep fighting and eventually you'll improve but i have no idea how long that takes

Don't know, sorry.

I think I found it on /fit or /ck.
Maybe /lit

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>drinking from a can with a straw
Fucking disgusting gook.

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Imagine having a gf lol

>that she is way out of my league
NIGGER
SHE TALKED TO YOU
YOU HEAR ME, AND NOT EVEN ABOUT UNI RELATED STUFF
JUST HOW FUCKING DENSE CAN YOU BE
IF SHE'D BE OUT OF YOUR LEAUGE SHE WOULDN'T EVEN BOTHER TALKING TO YOU
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

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get out there how?

Benching is easy, I just keep doing it and eat more

Where do I even meet people that will talk with me and want to be my friend?

Shit, i might just fucking do it. Worst thing that could happen is, that she thinks im pathetic...which i fucking am anyways...

>introversion is just something you need to keep fighting
No you don't have to. You can't magically become a extrovert if your introversion isn't caused by trauma or something.

Volunteer work might be an option.

im not saying that you can completely change your personality. im saying that being sociable is a good trait to have, despite it being difficult. unless you're some comp sci autist that programs by himself all day, there's a good chance that you'll need to talk to co-workers or go out on occasions where you'll need to talk to people. it's better to try and improve your personality than just give up because it's hard

Leagues exist but are trumped by individual action. If she seems interested, she’s probably interested.

No one is out of anyone's league. You are just you. You're gonna regret if you don't try. If you miss this opportunity I hope you die.

>a qt strikes up a conversation with me, not just uni related , but also private stuff
a girl in my class has come up to me 3x and tried to talk to me about anime (because of my halloween costume). does this mean she's interested in me?

>Will never get into a long loving relationship with a beautiful asian woman who can handle the bbc

"out of my league" is just coping for pussies.
Man up

Badda bing

>practice
I don't really know what should I practice. I've tried striking up more conversations at work, going out with coworkers multiple times also tried volunteer work at weekends and it's always the same.

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You're the NPC in that story dipshit.

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take user. She's interested in you, because you despite knowing no one, tried to get into as many discussions as possible. Which said qt3.14 is basically saying "hey I'm friendly, chill, and respectful; and I want to be the guy in class that everyone can look at and say 'yeah, that guy's cool, reliable, a good person.'"

Which is boyfriend material if the girl is looking for something long-term, if not fuckbuddy material if she's looking for short-term, or failing that, pure friends material.

But since she's escalated beyond mere friends, and keeps glancing at you, sat next to you, laughed at your dumb antics, she wants the D--but likely wants more than that long-term. Play your cards right, and you'll make it.

umm no sweetie, that isn't me

coworkers don't invite me out for beers
feels bad man

>spending another weekend inside and alone

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HNNNNNNGGG
My heart
My cock
My dick and my heart

Go join: a rock climbing gym, or take dance classes, or do co-ed casual sports. Build your social circle outside of work. They don't invite you probably because your body language gives off the kind of impression that says "this guy is just going to keep to himself and has nothing to offer to the engagement."

USE THIS: meetup.com | TO MAXIMUM EFFECT

There's this handsome guy at the gym, 7/10 to me which is all I want. I can't tell if he's gay due to my autism. But every time I talk to him I get excited and our conversations have been interesting. You ever just look at someone and know they have a good heart?

I can't tell if he's gay or just lonely looking for a friend since he recently moved back to the area and does nothing all day, allegedly. I usually only see him on the weekends, so like today I saw him, but we didn't speak, since I probably scared him away. I want to ask him to lunch so badly.

Ask yourself ''why do I think that they will find my input boring/useless?'' The answer most likely is, that you have nothing to add besides gym. Don't talk about gym, only when asked. If I were you I'd pick another hobby or a fun side job like working at a club in weekends just one night, or at a gold club. Be around people, learn to socialize. Don't just think ''I must strike a conversation with a person'' have better goals. For example ''I must learn as much about this person without seeming creepy'' you can do it by asking open ended questions from time to time. after they answer, give your opinion or add to it. Even if you have nothing to add, it doesn't matter, just talk.

> Yeah I grew up in new york but our family was quite poor so I moved out to CA just to see how it is here

Even if you have nothing to add, you can still engage with this information, for example : Man NY, that's a whole different thing than here. Wasn't it cramped as fuck, I bet the noise and could get to you....oh well, at least you get an endless amount of thots on tinder, am I right ayyy'' You see, it's autistic, but it doesn't matter, just talk shit.

another thing I can suggest is to just lie. Make up autistic small stories that never happened. Not like ''oh yeah mate, we went to thailand and I fucked a tranny and after roda a crocodile.'' Just some very subtle little shit ''yeah I've heard that/ oh I know them / dang I think my cousin had that etc''

You must focus and put effort into it and with time it will come naturally. But set goals that are detailed not just ''talk to people''. Look at it as a job and you gotta earn your salary. Nobody will judge you if you are a bit odd, we all are odd and almost everyone has social anxiety,

he's probably not gay my dude

thanks
been taking dance classes actually, a lot of them
no friends from them

>always first to leave the class
>while others seem to take their time leaving
>maybe they stay and chat or something?

i'm also this guy thinking of skipping this company party and going bouldering actually

>co-ed casual sports
i am pretty bad at all sports

>meetup.com
joined it, none of the events really interest me
there are way too many spam events where the host has +99 guests just to make the event look full

in my area, most of the events are women only, 40+ only, tech related events, and a lot of English as a second language groups

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>can't hold conversation on any topic
>blends into background regardless of company

Who's the NPC again?

nofap srs

Yeah. I don't know if I'm projecting my want onto him. Him and I lock eyes, sometimes when hes lifting hes looking at me and vice versa. He comes and spot me when I ask no matter what hes doing. Rrally nice guy.

post more milkers

>out of my league
Hahaha pussy you are probably better than you think. Just keep rolling and don't change what you are doing right now. Ask her to work on the next project with you like the other user said

Seriously, just try to talk about it. Ask questions if you don't know who's who in sports, even if you don't really care. It's called small talk and polite conversation, it will take you far. Also, being able to talk about beer is always a good thing, especially when in the company of older men. Just listen, engage and ask, then sooner or later you will be able to make your own contributions to the conversation. Lastly, you should subvert your leftist friends extremely slowly with small remarks that seem innocent but are designed to make them think from a different angle. Or just prat along with them; why not take control of the conversation and talk about actual art with them or try to talk about literally anything else.
Lastly, make new friends that have the same interests as you. Just steer away from actual autists because you will be influenced by them and slowly get used to anti-social behavior and bad habits which you really ought to be trying to get away from. Only one autist allowed per group of friends because then he will become more normal with time and not the other way around.