I need motivation, I'm stuck in survival mode and neglecting my lifts.
Basically cheating wife is moving out in 3 weeks and shes already acting single, staying out late, etc. Like she hasn't destroyed me and the kids enough already.
Anyway, I can't focus and I'be been drinking heavy again to cope (was sober for years). Yesterday I said no more again.
Working out didn't help, what are some coping mechanisms I can use to keep a positive mentality and be healthy when all i want to do is curl up and die until the demon moves out? Days feel longer and slower the closer it gets.
There is no magical recipe. All you can do is carry the weight on your shoulders. At least make sure those shoulders are broad my friend. Look after yourself.
Luis Watson
Take control of your world man, ride the wave of life, don't get caught in it. Start mogging her. Get up before her every morning, lift in the house or gym, go through your daily life disregarding her presence. Work on your bond with the kids and plan to build a better life. Start building now for the qt 3.14 that you wont WANT to cuck you in the futute.
Brody Stewart
Just be yourself
Juan Hernandez
Kick her out earlier and find you a new woman op
Tyler Perry
Kill your cheating whore of a "wife"
Austin Stewart
I do have a half assed dating profile i need to finish. Although I'm going to try to meet a church girl if I can find a legit one and not one who's just as bad.
But other threads ive had highly recommend I find a fuck buddy for now while i rebuild myself.
Based stroke poster >getting married I too fell for this meme. Motivation comes from inside; but try to fake it until you make it
Logan Garcia
The best revenge you can ever have in someone who has done you wrong is to live a happy and successful life in their absence. Also rub it in her face whenever you can.
Landon Sanchez
Take ownership of your life, dude. Watch this interview of Jared Kushner... age 37, married father of 3, similar to Trump he turned millions into billions. In this interview, he sits with literal perfect posture for nearly 45 minutes straight, all while being grilled intensily about his career and Trump... yet he never gives away any signs of weakness.
That is my inspiration for taking complete ownership of my life, even down to my emotional reactions. Don't get me wrong, he's a bit too robotic for me, but the inspiration is there none-the-less. If Ivanka suddenly cheated and divorced this guy, he definately would not be balled up, crying on fucking Jow Forums, that's for sure.
My guys. I appreciate this. I guess I am being pathetic. Since we're still legally married I've been trying to keep the sex going until she moves out, so with her acting thotty again it's getting me riled up again even though I already moved past that phase months ago.
I know I'm being pathetic. At this point she shouldnt have the power to hurt me anymore, and I've been letting her have that power back just to get regular pussy.
You’ve got kids to consider; so you can’t exactly just bring thots home whenever. It’s also going to suck as you go through the divorce, there’s always going to be feelings and raw emotions, but try to move past it daily. Seek a therapist if you think it’ll help. As for your lifts, make yourself every day get in your car and drive to the gym. Once you’re in the parking lot, you’re golden.
Tyler Roberts
Thanks bud. It's a 50/50 custody schedule so those weeks off I'm definitely finding a loyal woman. If they even exist anymore.
I've actually already gone through most of the emotional pain since the affair stuff started over a year ago, and I told her it was over in August. I'm really in the home stretch my man, it's going to be such a burden lifted from me... 3 long weeks.
I've worked in family law op, seen a lot of this shit
It's alright to feel like shit but dont let it turn to anger or things can spiral out of control really quickly and it can affect your chance to see your kids.
Your priority is your kids wellbeing followed by your own. If you remain in control of your emotions, you stay calm, respectful, a loving dad and just keep it up you'll get through it (that goes for any divorce proceedings or custody disputes too) Your kids will know you're there for them and you'll be right it takes time.
Ive seen guys self destruct and they get absolutely screwed over not just in legal terms but it winds up with them not seeing the kids and soon enough the relationship with them is damaged beyond repair.
tldr focus on your kids act smart and over time itll get better
Thomas Ross
Start getting into philosophy, occultism, mysticism, etc. In a situation like this, I would expect you're having difficulty with being confident and being completely comfortable with yourself. I just went through a breakup a few months ago that tore me up, but I recently started reading into the stuff I just mentioned and its been giving me a lot of self confidence and control over my own life. If you're not into the whole magick and occult stuff, perhaps just start reading monumental philosophical texts like the Tao Te Ching or Meditations. I don't know what its like going through a divorce with kids involved, but in this situation you need to be the bigger person and give your children the stability they need in such a vulnerable situation. The future state of society depends on you.
Logan Nguyen
Very true. She probably as risky as Tinder at this point.
I just threw away the rest of the alcohol. Took a bunch of vitamins and made a healthy meal. You are absolutely right, I'm letting getting laid put my children's future in jeopardy.
Don’t beat yourself up for feeling bad. You need time to recover, the worst thing you can do is pile more guilt and shame on yourself. All you gotta do is make it through another day. Love you user.
Ian Clark
Honestly I read relationship books to help me. Makes me realize I can get better women. -How to be a 3% man -Way of the superior man -Then watch the Venture bros because it's the best cartoon ever made after season 1.
Angel Harris
Stay strong for your kids and yourself! You can do it!!!!
Not OP, but I've read Way of the superior man. Really great book. Its very low-commitment because each chapter is a 2-page life lesson, but they are nonetheless incredible lessons
Michael Walker
That must be hard mate. Lot of people would call me degenerate, because I'm a male thot and don't plan to bore myself settling with qt oneitis, but even I recognize, that now the most important thing is your kids. Especially if there's a son involved. What behaviour he sees in his father in this brutal hardship will affect him for the rest of his life. You must show him raw masculine strength - realize that no matter what, there will always be at least one person at the end of the hardship - you. No matter what happens, you will be ok. There's a great comfort in that. Don't argue with that whore, don't act emotional, but don't let her fuck with you. I can't stress how important these things are right now. Do everything you can for your son to stay with you. Strengthen the bond between you and your children. Your kids, your legacy come before your anger, frustration, sorrow and fear.
You will be ok mate, but prepare for shitstorm
Jayden Jenkins
I'm adding Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi on this list
Ian Morales
Thanks friends. Funny how one of the most caustic and raw places on the Internet can be a source of support.
Thanks, I'm not big on occult stuff except to research how to recognize and avoid it. The last few years have drawn me deep back into Christianity, and that will definitely be the strong Foundation that fix this family on. You got the right idea though buddy.
Benjamin Perry
Op, i'm sure you have already considered this but you know the only real cure to all of your solutions. Do the right thing Op.
Colton Jackson
That's really fucked up, sorry you fell for the marriage meme. I haven't been through enough hardship yet to say much. But I will post my motivation quotes that help me get through a rough day. I hope you get really strong.
This is what you get for being a low iq capeshitter OP If you had watched arthouse/read the classics instead of watching this tripe you wouldn't have ended up as a faggot
Gabriel Bell
Women just aren't the same anymore. Stay strong brother.
Wrong. Aristotle never said that. Will Durant did.
"If you ever see a quote in completely modern English attributed to some ancient philosopher or important person it's probably deliberately misattributed so people will think someone smart said it and therefore true"- Sun Tzu
Christopher Rogers
I hope so, stay strong. I fear it's too late for me. I've been exposed to horrible female behaviour in the past over and over again, despite giving all my love out. Now I have three girls I sleep with, I started a company with my friend and I am finishing college. Maybe if I ever feel that some woman will be worthy, I will have my finances right and I will be prepared to teach my children all the life lessons I learned I will give way to a new relationship. Until then, I fear I don't have the strength to be vulnerable. Ironic
Jordan Morales
Why are you so butthurt? I'm just trying to help, sorry I didnt fact check every single quote I download. I thought it was a good saying.
Not him but the quote is perfect for Aristotle’s moral teaching as the truly virtuous man acts virtuously as a habit after years of acting morally right
Ian Wood
Is this supposed to show women as ungrateful or did someone make this unironically?
Owen Adams
Get your house in order and worry about gains after she has left. In the long run separation has shown to effect men harder so your going to need to do some deep digging because with every break up you either become a better man or a complete mess. But you get to choose.
I've never had a situation evolving kids, sorry to hear man. But I have had a long term relationship go south like yours (I think)
But it's awesome being single after. Good luck
Nicholas Gonzalez
evolving, involving.
lol sorry
Logan Smith
Lolwut, if she cheated you go "no contact" and ignore her at every turn. Do not even initiate contact with her. Find/fabricate evidence to get a restraining order between her and you/your kids then file for sole custody ASAP.
Do not let a cheater reap any of the potential benefits of their consequences.
Go nuclear.
Cameron Rivera
I can't believe peopel unironically unashamedly buy this shit
I want to burn down their fucking headquarters this makes me sick.
Wyatt Cooper
Praise be
Jason Peterson
fuck her. start taking cold showers and running in the forest. winter is coming
i just had a friend break up with his drug addict gf and she got full custody because 'muh domestic abuse' (never happened but hes a big guy)
poor guy. feminists are pretty bloody silent about equality when it comes to Custody.
Brandon Thomas
re watch Rocky. see how it is only through your will power that you can overcome anything
Josiah Brown
You are exactly right.
I've been running at Emperor Palpatine levels of playing this divorce game just to secure the 50/50.
You know whats really fucked up? We've submitted the paperwork for an uncontested divorce that hatches out everything we've agreed to like alimony, child support and custody. But when it gets in front of a judge, depending on the judge they may not like that and they could potentially award her primary custody.
Id probably flee the country with them at that point. This is a horror I've had keeping me up at night for 13 months now. In 5 weeks we will be in front of the judge to hopefully get this agreed to.
Besides the adultery proof which I'm holding unless needed, my only advantage in the worst case scenario is that she will have moved out ahead of time and works fucked up hours , so it's possible the judge may award me primary custody since the kids are accustomed to living at my home.
So fucking scared and my only move is to shower her with money to possibly pull this off.
You are a stronger man than me, I mean that. I would have killed her in the worse ways. I could forgive a murderer before a traitor every time. To betray is evil - and to let evil prosper is to be evil yourself. I would not want my children to see evil going happily. Anyway, best of luck - I meant it when I said you were stronger.
Benjamin Nelson
I'm only able to be the bigger man as long as I get my 50%. Then we'll also have a good co-parenting relationship so I'll see them more past that.
If I get less, I wouldn't say I'm any stronger than you because I can easily see myself taking them out of the country. No lazy thot is going to be their primary example of what a moral life looks like.
stick to a routine that gives you time for taking care of your self. ie. you'll make more gains on a 3 days a week routine thats consistent than a 6 days a week routine that's patchy.
once you get into the swing of things you wont even wanna drink because it fucks with your gains, ruins your sleep, makes you feel awful and is counterproductive to being a good father.
I’m pulling for you man. In LA right going for a PR. I’ll makebit if you make it. Keep going!
Christian Thompson
Can I help you, friend? You really don't want to fuck with me. I'll end you, got it, bud? Why don't you piss off now and run home to mommy, pal. By amigo. Bye bye.
Evan Brown
I don't know if this is real or not. Thought I'd feel like shit if it we're and I never said anything. Good luck to you OP, I hope oh and your children are alright in the end of this horrible situation.
Joshua Price
Someone help this man and post the smug pepe advice image. I don't have it on my phone but it's what OP needs to see.
