Self Improvement General - /SIG/

It was a kind of trial by fire, first time things went seriously bad since i was 16. I regressed a lot, but i am emerging stronger than before!
Could i have done better? Barely, insignificantly so
Have i fucked up? Yes
But i now have the experience and strength to handle similar things when and if they happen again.

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thanks brah

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Seriously, i lost 25 kgs once, mad respect from me too. It was a grueling experience.

I lost 5kg and I still need to lost 15 more to be 80. If you guys made it, so should I.

My dad died and it's forced me to grow up a bit. I've finally got a job and a car and I'm working towards getting my own place so I'm less of a burden.

Are these threads getting deleted or what? There was another thread earlier where the OP was complaining about it

>turned 24
>lost 25kg
>built muscle
>got first gf
>lost virginity
>broke up with gf
>had a change of career and going back to uni next year

not too bad all in all

I regained 20 of those over 2 years, but because i've been lifting i look much different. The pants i used to wear at the same weight a like a sack on me. I'm getting compliments on being buff.
However, i'm also starting to cut, i want abs, and this time i have more experience in getting there, in how maintenance works, and when to iron it out at the first signs of fat gain.
This time it's different. Also, i'll recommend counting calories, my fitness pal is pretty good

It got weird, there were 2 to 3 threads up at the same time. Some were bumlocked, some weren't but people weren't posting, so many threads died.

This one is screwed up. OP didn't bother posting the links

Let's just keep it alive, and after we'll start making threads with propper OP posts.
I made one with a propper OP post, and it died quickly.

I'm so sorry for your loss, brother..

Was drown in work. Stopped lifting for a while. Left by the girl I love, even if she still loves me. Lost my grandfather, who was a bit of a role model. Lost any life perspectives. Put a lot of emotional weight on my mom. Lifted again to avoid going back home and to forget about depression. Ultimately burned out end of october because I drown myself into my work. Had to stop lifting again. Waiting now patiently for 2019 and hopefully new hopes.

2018 has shown me that it is always possible to have it worse than you expect.

should add that I started to suffer from insomnia, which is not helping gains.

>so much work i cant train
Fuck off mate

I did already.

Had a bit of a year of it 2bh
>Got to my target weight, lifting for maintenance now
>Got a hair transplant in March, just seeing results of it now and happy with ir
>Gave up recreational drugs, fizzy juice and cigarettes
>Got a tattoo I've always wanted

On the other end of the spectrum
>Passed over for promotion at work in June
>Dog, gran and dad died within 2 weeks of each other in late November and started drinking heavily while taking extended leave from work

I kinda want the year to end

Well done bro, hope you keep it up.

Based user, it'll get better bud.

Good on you fren.

Got an inheritance and invested it, hopefully wisely
Voluntarily took a grade and pay drop at work bevause the stress wasn't worth it
Developed my side hustle, hoping to formally create a limited company in early 2019
Worked out more than in 2017
4pl fiddly for 5 reps, almost 1pl OHP for 5, other two lagging behind
Got the news today that a childhood friend had died. Hadnt spoken to the guy in a few years but we were on good terms. Bike accident, now his wife is a widow and his daughter has no daddy. If that isn't the inspiration I need to seize the fucking day, I don't know what is.

Good: I've gotten more comfortable with having moments of solitude.

Bad: For the first time in my life, I can't have have the confidence I will be ok in the long run.

why can't you have the confidence brother?

What is /sig/ currently reading? I'm reading Models by Mark Manson

Struggling through House of Leaves

>noticed myself that i became an unbearable person
>really nasty, side jabbing cunt for no reason at all
>close friends still liked me, still wonder how to this moment
>was in uni but always half-assed it
>picked up 5 classes and 2 seminars
>started working part time student at known company, pay is (for part time) really good thanks to one of my friends
>became in such a time hassle (who would have thought?)
>neglected my friends/family, realized it halfway through
>apologized to both groups by not being there for them like they are for me
>positive reinforcements ("no problem dude, we see you are working on yourself, keep going we are always here")
legit teared up at that moment, and now when i think about it.
sadly, could only workout 1-2 time a week because i'm still super bad at time management. Since last week i went 4x/week training, am still skinnyfat bitch. I've never had the desire to be the best at the things i do, i wish i could remember the moment when i made that turn. life's weird.

/blog out

You're going to make it. Acknowledging there's a problem is a bigger step than we give credit for

Thanks user.

> shit image
> no text dump
> no links
Kill yourself OP.

2018 made me realize how much of myself I absolutely hated. So I decided that by 2019 I would have at least begun the process if self improvement. I started going outside and working out of course. At the same time I never realized how fucking boring some people are. Its probably because of working out but i'm more outgoing now and confident. Started nofap meme or not.

The process has fucked with my mind and emotions though. One minute I feel great the next I fanaticize about killing and murder. I just cant get a stable good emotion anymore. Maybe its all the years of escapism and /vg/ is catching up now.

discord.gg/xwjyF2

Not OP, but a SIG discord server with fitness, philosophy, advice, fashion, and some politics. Tends right wing but all are invited.

Very comfy people

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>>shit image
Son, I think you must be gay
BIG OL TIDDIES ARE AWESOME
POST MORE

>lost v card at 24
theres still hope for me...

>Passed over for promotion at work in June
why tho

If in 2019 my sleep won’t improve I’m gonna lull myself
Other than this thing are decent

*kill
Also whats 48888888 going to be?

>start talking to girl
>she obviously likes me, flirts with me and gets jealous when i talk to other girls
>texts me that she wants to get drunk sometime, plan a weekend she comes over after work
>long story short she tried to fuck me but my dumbass had no condoms
>goes thru my phone while shitfaced drunk, finds nothing
>leaves and ghosts me
>find out a month later she has a new boyfriend in time for Christmas meanwhile im just obliterated and a depressed piece of shit to which my friends don't even want to hang out anymore
>what do

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>Moved to a big city
>Broke up with GF who didn't move cuz of school
>Started lifting again and lost around 15 pounds in the past couple months
>Got a crush on a new friend I made
>Told her my feelings
>Got rejected because I'm too young for her
>Still having a lot of fun since my move
Feels neutral man

Step 1- stop obsessing over her. Good potential gf doesn't get jealous before the relationship even begins. Jealousy is caused by severe self-esteem issues, you don't need that shit. And getting drunk as a hookup date is just pathetic.
Stop being depressed, you tit, you're alienating friends.
Can't get a gf? Fine, get a guitar, start rock climbing, kill a hobo, do anything but wallow in self-pity.

>too young for her
Are you like 15 or something? I dated a woman 7 years older than me.

>Started at 200lbs
>5 week bicycle tour, dropped 10lbs
>Started swimming laps / lifting again
>Bought a business, developed confidence in myself, working for myself, rather than the man. Gained respect from everyone I knew and met since
>Dropped another 12lbs in the desert
>Slowly building up muscle while counting calories to maintain weight. Might not be doing it right but I feel good and am looking younger.
>Went out of my comfort zone and have gone on a few light dates with a trad girl. Nothing too fast cause I can't handle the rejection/soul crushing pain again.

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I've made a ton of progress this year but it's all kind of superficial stuff like weight, strength, money etc. In 2019 I'm gonna have to really put in some hard work on trying to embody my higher self and stop being such a thirsty, autistic, nice guy fuck.

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22, she's 28
I think she kind of had a point since a lot of change happens in your 20s. Also, I think she probably cares about how others would perceive the relationship which I can understand. Still salty tho since if the genders were reversed no one would really care.

>got some got scores and a good shot at some good universities
>got a sweet summer job that's a first step to a STEM carear
>became fluent in Spanish
>started learning Portuguese
>created my own language (long story, exactly what it sounds like)
>started noporn, haven't cheated
>started lifting, 0.4/0.9/1.4/1.6, gonna get to 1/2/3/4 next year

only been on /fit for a few months, but it has helped a ton, we're all gonna make it

What I was working towards fell through.

How do I get social gains, /SIG/? I'm in good shape, dress well and I'm not ugly. But my autism is stopping me from meeting new people
>just talk to people bro lmao
What am I supposed to talk about with them? How am I supposed to start and escalate the conversation? I'm boring and can only talk about niche things that normal people don't really know or care about. I can do some small talk but that's not enough to make friends.

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Bump

Keeps on being bump locked or deleted.

>Dress well.
If you think that, you need /fa/
Also realistically to make friends get a hobby or goto events.
For example I hike a lot and instead of spending Christmas alone I'm eating dinner with the group.

After my 18th birthday in August I decided to stop being a lazy slob.
>Lost 10kg
>cut out sugar and sugary drinks
>Quit all social media
>Cut out most of my 'friends'
>Started at a new school
>Started to run, little progress so far, but I’ll keep at it
>Go to krav twice a week, instead of once
>Found a few new friends
>Stopped eating like shit
>Stopped visiting Jow Forums no matter how fun it is
Working on:
>Became more of a recluse, but working on getting out there more
>Almost got a gf, screwed it up, do better next year
>Failed no-fap again and again, will do better
>Going to start lifting after Christmas
>Still deciding whether or not to have a home gym or buy a membership to a real one

All in all, I think I’ve made some real progress, but I have a lot to go.

I've made alot of improvements to my body and mind in 2018 and now I think this year will be the year I actually make social gains and leave this place or at least limit it harshly

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Merry Chrimbus gents. May your nog cups be full and your feasts plentiful.

Surely You Are Joking, Mr. Feynman!

Does anyone use self authoring suite by JBP? I've started keeping diary but interested what advise it has to offer. Don't mind paying for it, but since thirty bucks is like 10% of my months pay, I'm interested what's this all about.

I have spent this year NEETing because of my inability to get an internship, but I don't regret it too much though.
This year has changed me a lot. Mostly in good ways.
>I am going to leave college. Sitting on my ass all day, programming games for man-children isn't a future I want and I have lied to myself about liking it for too long now.
>I got back into reading and also read a bunch of non-fiction books. It is a hobby I dropped a long time ago to make more time for vidya.
>Reading non-fiction got me into stoicism, which helped me make peace with my past and present and also helped me to set some goals for in the future.
>Got into callisthenics. I am finally starting to see some ab gains after being chubby and skinnyfat for the majority of my life.
>Got my first haircut in two years.
>I stopped browsing Jow Forums. The place had transformed me from some normie with adhd into a bitter edgelord who looked like a hobo. I am considering dropping Jow Forums completely, with the exception of browing Jow Forums in between sets.

My goals for 2019 are:
>Conquering my lust. I fap once every 1-2 days, but I still have the feeling I am addicted to both porn and masturbating because of the ways it occupies my mind and makes me use all kind of mental gymnastics on myself. I never have gotten past 26 days of nofap and have failed countless times over the years.
>Getting a job. Preferably in the army or at my fathers company. I haven't worked for 4-5 years now, but I would like to make some money again. Both for paying of my student debt and getting more out of life again.
>Restoring my past social life. I have the luck of not losing my friends, but I see them a few times a year at most or talk to them on whatsapp, although they life within 10 minutes from my home.

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review from reddit
>It is extremely powerful if done right. The main take away is that it gets you to write coherent and relevant goals that are detailed to the level of concrete daily/weekly actions and, most important, those daily/weekly actions are connected directly with the upper levels all the way to the top most.

reddit.com/r/JordanPeterson/comments/5qoe4d/selfauthoring_anyone_completed_this_program/

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Happy holidays, all the best to you and your families. Stay strong, we will all make it!

Good job user!!

Thanks for this, merry Christmas.

Mates, I just graduated college and I don’t know what to do with all my freedom. I’ve just been lifting and giving up smoking but I dunno what else to do.

He’s not the only one user.

Ive slept with 3 girls within the last 5 months which is nothing spectacular but I did it coming out of a several year neet run. I may be far behind in life experience compared to my peers but I’m slowly checking off my list of things I can do to normiehood. Travelings next! I wish you luck in losing your virginity user.

I have improved in many ways and quite significantly but there is one change that supersedes all others and it is in my mindset. I dont see myself as a victim anymore and I accepted that I did before. I finally truly know who I am and have always been since I was a kid and knowing that pushes me beyond my limits. Ever since that realisation I didnt have a single day where I didnt do some form of workout be it heavy lifting or cardio.

I have goals that are very ambitious and maybe somewhat dangerous but honestly I dont mind anymore. I was destined to be great I know that with every fibre of my being, my body just has to follow my mind and I will do what I set out to do.

bump, have a good xmas yall

Was living an okay life. Lived in Miami with 8/10 THICC Latina gf, okay shape, decent job at trauma hospital, not really any hobbies outside of Netflix and going out to drink with gf. Gf was okay but drank a lot and was kind of a basic party girl. Eventually started feeling very unsatisfied with my life and that I was not reaching my full potential.

About halfway thru the year I said fuck it, quit my job, broke up with gf, and moved to rural Wyoming. Found a good hospital to work at, got into rifle hunting and bowhunting, fermenting, canning, gardening, and rock climbing. Haven't touched alcohol since right moved here. 90% of what I eat is wild game or eggs/veggies I buy from local farmers. Wake up at 5-530 every day. Volunteer with local churches a lot. Life is pretty fucking good right now. Been talking to a cute Mormon girl but I'm content with staying single for awhile.

Why are SIGs so vague? No links, no studies, no books, no how to into self improvement

wtf

/sig/ has been having some troubles posting the real OP, the text or name seems to keep the thread bumplocked, here is the regular OP sticky 4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky

>spent the last two months self improving
>become more responsible
>winter comes and makes things harder to do in the morning
>dad comes over for Christmas
>suddenly I'm my lazy self again
He's leaving on 1st Jan, so I'll hopefully be back on track.

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Talk about opposite ends of the spectrum. I live in Miami now, it sucks. Was just out in Utah over thanksgiving, pretty cool out there. Dafuq made you choose Wyoming?

DOESN'T WORK

has anyone ever completely turned themselves around academically?
throughout high school i always had low grades, no good study habits or work ethic, was bad at math and only cared for athletics. 2 and a half years after graduating i am realizing that my interest is in business and finance and i would like to study at a good university. this would require me to redo a lot of my years 11 and 12 courses and score high marks in them. i plan on using online resources such as khan academy to build my confidence in math and science, i am required to do a language study as well. any advice is appreciated on becoming someone who can study with discipline. i am honestly scared i can't achieve this, would like to become pic related

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My dad was a kv until 28. He's now on wife #3
It's partially my grandparents fault, believe me he told me horror stories, controlling assholes.
Downside for me is that i never got any good advice. "Hey dad, i'm a virgin at 21 and feel horrible". "JUST STUDY AND WAIT"
After losing virginity and having going through some fucked up relationship stuff, multiple breakups. "Why don't i have any luck in relationships" "NEITHER DID I UNTIL I WAS 35"
"Just finish college and get a good job"
"Dad i don't want a woman to love me for money"
Ok, here's the only decent advice on women he gave me. "Women don't go after money, they go after success. A woman will choose a chess grandmaster over a millionaire who won the lottery".
There's a bunch of infographics, threads just need to get back on track

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>Had my very first job working at a car dealership
>Boss was a cunt so after 3 months I literally just walked out in the middle of the day
>23 years old, In really good shape so I could still join the military I guess.

Life is shit

I wanted to live a more authentic life and be more self sufficient. Wyoming is a lonely and rugged place, especially in the winter. It forces you be self sufficient and you're far away from the noise of modern Life. It's a good place to go to redefine and rebuild yourself.