How did you improve your self-worth/self-esteem?

I'll have a try, thanks user

for me I went from loser fatty kid to what some would call chad but an outside chad where inside it still might have moments of past self-doubt and self-esteem when I'm alone with too much time to think.
how? I started lifting, got a proper haircut and started dressing well so I was flooded with compliments(still am), had girls wanting to bang me or hitting on me on social media and irl, dudes show more respect since when I go out with my gf and her friend they always asks if they're with me/are my gf's and obviously I say yes and I either get a fist bump or high five kek

that plus some narcissism and an attitude of "I don't care" even if you do makes wonders
if you lie to yourself long enough, you start believing in it and it eventually sticks

this

bought a squat plug so no more embarrassing gym moments

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Just realize what your worth is, its most important to have value in your life, of course if you a bum, you will have low self esteem and feel like nothing, but if you actually doing great in life, it will follow. And if it dont follow, you have to always remind yourself that you are doing great

In my life i always done better than 90% of guys at my age around me, but always felt low self esteem, no confidence, and like life is just not going for me. But after i looked at myself and told myself "DUDE, you worth much more than what you think you are worth", kept smashing that shit onto me until i felt confident and felt better about myself

Now i could literally fail at anything and still feel good, even getting rejected by girls means nothing now (Thing i used to fear most), but im also goodlooking so there is a few girls out there that want my dick but still

that's a trap right

200mg test E ew

By getting laid. Which, ironically is impossible to do with shit self esteem.

TLDR: you're fucked kid.

Getting laid won't change anything for you

>took lifting seriously and started tracking calories and macros
>stopped drinking alcohol except when it was socially unavoidable
>cut video game time significantly
>worked my ass off at my job 50 hours a week to get promoted and raises
>whitened my teeth
>took beta carotene to improve skin glow
>skin moisturize routine
>went to toastmasters to improve social skills
>went to several weekly hobby groups to improve social skills
>studied books such as "the charisma myth", "how to win freinds and influence people", "conversationally speaking", etc.
>studied stoicism books such as Meditations
>studied books on "game" and "red pill" topics
>studied books on my white collar profession
>made flash cards for the above 4 categories of books and introduced them into daily and weekly study stacks
>got the best hairstyle I could
>used minox/derma rolling to make my hairline a little better (not dramatic but good enough to help even it out), fin to prevent loss
>used melanotan II + tanning bed on a quarterly basis to get a light tan that faded much slower than regular (I was vampire pale)
>spent time researching a better wardrobe full of tailored items to fit my physique
>started practicing building my family relationships such as with my mother and father
>got a few professional photographs in various casual settings from my photographer uncle for Tinder and Bumble

Basically I worked my ass off every single fucking day to build myself into something worth self respect. The hardest part was forcing myself into social situations after 10 hours of work since I am an introvert. Now I have a ton of freinds and am well liked in any social situation.

how's tinder going for you

>get into bed with a hot girl
>can't get hard because low self esteem makes me nervous
heh

are you a masochist

Why do you virgins think that fucking a girl will do anything for your life, only thing i got from fucking with thots is more depression and realize how empty my life is.
It even fucked my future wife up so much, like how can you trust any girl after they let you fuck within 30 min of meeting her? And not to mention all that cheating these thots do.
Meeting a decent girl in 2018 is impossible

pls be me from the future

Nihilism

That bitch is as disgusting as your post

Positive reinforcement.

We are very alike, even if you are ahead of me in certain ways. Thanks for the ideas and motivation, I always get a bit depressed during the holidays so it's helpful to refocus. Going to go order some books and things now

So basically you went full meme. The ultimate artificial human.

Fuck that

get out of the comfort zone.
thats about it.
I know its fucking hard with no self esteem but you have to do the first step.

Either start a hard job, get courses with new people.
In general try to talk to new people.

holy mother
checked

It's like if american psycho weren't a movie and were real life, instead of having conflicted admiration for the character you see he has sacrificed his entire contents to fulfill arbitrary social objectives

How is that artificial you fucking incel?

I became a server as my first step out of my comfort zone.

Going to the gym doesn’t really count.

I was raised in rural Midwest with a 4.0 and IQ north of 130. I’m super introverted and ended up at 6’2” 255lbs when I was 15.

I started dieting and running and ended up at 185lbs.

I started lifting but still wouldn’t eat so I stayed normie and ended up at 6’4” at 215.

Over the next few years I attended university and slowly gained to 235 where I finally could see my abs everyday.

I left UNI, got engaged to my HS virgin QT catholic gf (no, I don’t need your input on this).

Over the course of the time leading up to the wedding (~1 year), I upped my volume linearly while also increasing my calories. Real food only unless I was doing a mini cut (90% every day while hitting chest and back and then shoulders and arms on a 3 day rotation at limited calories.

In those 2 weeks, I dropped ~5% bf and looked like shit 3 days out from the wedding.

No sex or lifting for the 2 days before and I hit 12% bf on my wedding day and looked like I was on roids.

I’ve been PLing ever since and am at 285 at 3/4/5 but I’m transitioning back to BBing for the new year

Cause it's all memes. A bunch of meme books, a bunch of meme fit vitamins, and a bunch of meme routines.

Notice the post doesn't even say he's much happier and his life is amazing. Literally just "oh now I can make friends". And the bit about self-respect.. if that's what self-respect is then you have the wrong definition. When you take fit too seriously.

For me, it's medication

check neomasculinity, read roissy, roosh, rollo. bang two, three girls, start lifting and reading books, after a while things will start falling into place

Skin maxing helps. I have almost no acne now. Wearing comfy clothes and engaging in daydreams from books and the like also mean I have less time to doubt myself. Just the imagination pill broa.

Nice blog faggot

Choking people out in bjj, psychology made me less afraid of people and helped my anxiety

Fucking random tinder hoes

I agree, however I am also a bit fucked up and my self worth is entirely dependant on my achievements and outperforming my peers. still it worked for me, now I am just a slightly arrogant asshole but I have high self esteem.

Losing weight and meeting people

i stopped saving pictures of hot women on my computer

your life isn't empty bro, life is just empty in general. we just set ourselves up with empty goals and distractions. the only thing that makes most people get out of the bed in the morning is just survival, habit and social competition

Nice mediocrity you live in, fellow homosexual.

Did you get laid after all that autism?
It sounds like you just do what normalfags so and follow every social trend but deep down are you doing anything other than giving a performance? None of that matters if you aren't at least a 7/10.

Honestly idk how to feel
Before I started browsing Jow Forums and Jow Forums I felt mildly miserable but ok with being a total neet manchild

Now I realise how fucking terrible that was, but learning that has given me WAY more expectations for myself that I'm not reaching, like having a good career, a family, a good body, women , my shitty hairline, my genetics etc etc

I can't figure out if I feel empowered or just shitty honestly

Diet and hard work from 250 down to 190. Thought I'd feel better about myself but I'm still disgusted with who I am and how I look. I want to start lifting but I dont know how to get into it and I have no friends to help.

I feel like I went from a fat ugly piece of shit to an ugly piece of shit, and I'm just going to turn into a fit ugly piece of shit if I get shredded.

this. People don't wanna hear the easy answer.

Went and did every thing I was afraid of

What makes you so special?
What makes you more real, authentic, or interesting that working hard to improve yourself is beneath you?

>how's tinder going for you
It went pretty well. Building a photomaxxed set of pictures is worth it for a lot more than just Tinder. The standard advice you hear of:
• No bathroom selfies
• Shirtless ONLY in socially acceptable situations (i.e. At the beach, Halloween costume)
• One pic with an animal
• One pic with friends and especially females

is all repeated for a reason. I'll jump ahead of your next question and tell you that i'm 5'9, so I didn't get to put the magical ''6'0'' on my profile and yet I still was satisfied with my match rate.
Quality photos that are striking and tell a story of a successful life will breed success on these apps. I'm dating someone right now, but when I was using it, it was such a good supplement. Having attractive options at your fingertips that are matching you makes it impossible to put up with bullshit from women.

Weirdly enough, getting a professional photo improved my LinkedIn game too, and now I'm getting more out of the blue prospect (white collar client services) invites than ever. Literally replacing my shitty ''professional' photo from work with a better one gave my profile a bigger boost than any credential and recommendation I had put.

Yes. But I got more than just laid. I made friendships. My increased social skills let me excel at my job, which is client facing. Knowing a lot of people gets you into a lot of cool ass scenarios you'd never get to see on your own.

Do something with your life so you can take pride in it and improve your self-worth as a result.

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Good job my man

I did a cut, started grooming better and thats when i realized i had some solid potential

Unironically fake it till you make it works

I used to be a beta fag. Made a few funny jokes but was known as the 'weird kid'.

Decided to start Gym, and act like I was the shit, think Ferris Bueller. After a few months I started gaining actual confidence.

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Self-esteem isnt a thing

I should be impressed but I sense miserableness.

>forcing yourself to do shit you don't like to fit in a mold you hate because you detest yourself
Seems healthy to me.

An easy answer perhaps, but not necessarily an easy solution.

Are you happy?

really wanna be happy for u my mans. hope u still make time to just b urself

Happiness is a myth, emotions are like the seasons learn to embrace all of them and you'll be content

Complete and utter apathy is the only true redpill.

I experience happiness more often that I used to. 'Happy' is not a descriptive term, but an emotion. I experience happiness more because I have stronger bonds with other human beings. I worked hard to become a valuable person, which in turn attracts valuable people to me.

I'm getting the impression a lot of people reading my original post get scared and think ''oh shit I don't want to do all that work, that sounds bad''.
First of all, I did what I had to do to make it, your path may be completely different than mine.
Secondly, I worked as hard as I did so that I wouldn't have to today. My social life is basically on autopilot now. I went from being miserably alone in my room on Friday night to now having multiple groups invite me to something new every weekend. I have a qt 3.14 video games playing gf. I max my 401(k) and Roth IRA every year. All this shit snowballs, my brothers.

Nice blog faggot

Good shit. In the process of doing this myself. What books do you recommend for the "game" and "red pill" topics?

>tfw work hard
>haven't achieved shit
>realize social position, opportunities, social skills, looks and connections matter most of all
You think the factory worker in some 3rd world country that works 14 hours per day isn't working hard?

Same with everyone else. Luck matters most.
Protip: most trust fund babies think they've worked hard too

>I’ve been PLing ever since and am at 285 at 3/4/5
Haha oh no

Just go do it, it’s not rocket science, you’ll be starting at baby weights but will progress

this. in order to be successful, you have to

>be lucky
>know potential people
>have little to no disorders

good luck finding that here

Working hard won't do shit if you're not working smart. You have the ability to improve your social position, find opportunities, improve your social skills, improve your looks, and create connections.

Someone that is working 14 hours a day with and not doing anything with the money they earn or looking for other opportunities does not deserve to achieve anything.

Pathetic

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What is your morning routine like user?

I live in the American Gardens Building on W. 81st Street on the 11th floor. My name is Master Bateman. I'm 27 years old. I believe in taking care of myself and a balanced diet and rigorous exercise routine. In the morning if my face is a little puffy I'll put on an ice pack while doing stomach crunches. I can do 1000 now. After I remove the ice pack I use a deep pore cleanser lotion. In the shower I use a water activated gel cleanser, then a honey almond body scrub, and on the face an exfoliating gel scrub. Then I apply an herb-mint facial mask which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine. I always use an after shave lotion with little or no alcohol, because alcohol dries your face out and makes you look older. Then moisturizer, then an anti-aging eye balm followed by a final moisturizing protective lotion.

Got a better job.
Bought a car and started driving myself.
Moved out of parents house into a townhome.

It took pretty much my whole 20s but I can finally talk to other people my age without the crippling social anxiety that they're going to eventually "find out" how I live.

hard work just like making gainz in the gym. gotta fake it til you make it i.e. get out of your comfort zone (talk to a hot girl) and trust that you're going to be okay. Once you've done this and it works out ok a few times you net confidence. Don't be afraid to speak up, every chance to put yourself out there is a chance to gain confidence.

*gasp* thats peepee

nice

I started doing things that scared me.

did that get you a gf?

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Holy-

i hate that look so fucking much and every single whore whose had over a thousand cocks in em only have. is a look of seduction and disgust, tempting you to even try and see if she'll get wet for you

Short term
>Get a haircut
>Buy some new clothes
>Clean or room or house
>Cook yourself a meal
>Make your bed every morning
>Go lift
Long Term
>Make a todo list
>Work towards what you want to do in life
>Eat better
>Fuck bitches
>Lift

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this and get off Jow Forums

>lost weight
>got stronger
>made money

autist

you are most likely not working hard and just tell yourself that to feel good. also work on your weaknesses and stick to successfull people and you will be successfull yourself. it isnt that hard if you are somewhat smart and willing to put in the work, for any flaws you have there are a ton of ressources out there where you can learn how to fix them if you are willing to change who you are.

You sound extremely superficial

i feel like if i gained some self esteem i'd solve all my emotional problems, and the way to gain self esteem is to actually become a better person
the problem is i have no self discipline or dedication to do anything. i can never stick to a routine involving self improvement and i always go back to procrastinating, but now that just makes me feel like shit - yet ironically I can't stop. i feel discomfort at the idea of having duties because i see them as burdens, but in return that makes me depressed because i feel worthless and weak
what should i do?

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Grow some balls

tried, not sure it works

>Guy goes full Patrick Bateman mode and brags about it on Jow Forums
i can't tell what's real anymore

You don't want it bad enough. If you're just going to sit there and complain that you can't then you don't deserve it

not sure how to reply to this. so i want to improve but not bad enough? should i be more motivated is what you're saying?

Isn't it fucking obvious

you're so fucjing fat hahahaa

but motivation is a meme. motivation won't carry you through when you feel like shit because it's just how you feel
>today i feel motivated
which is why i was hoping someone here had experience with learning self-discipline or similar
unless you have a trick to me motivated all the time, in that case by all means do tell

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You want to look like a whore?

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