User, you spent so much time at the gym, why don't you instead spend that time with me?

Unironically trying to get fit and improve myself in general. Gf not so subtly discourages me whenever I talk about it or tell her about it. Rolls her eyes tells me i shouldn't workout in fine the way i am and she likes nerdy guys. Told me once under her breath that she was scared I would leave her if I got in better shape. Trys to get me to stay up late so i normally get 7 hours at best but typically 6 or 5 of sleep. Discourages me from running in the morning. Complains about her own fitness but whenever I tell her then workout with me or change it she always has a exscuse but then will whine about feeling fat. I honestly don't understand women. And i agree that they are gains goblins and even more time goblins. They want to monopolize your every second.

>he doesnt take his girl to the gym, start nearby, do different exercises and split up, occasionally banter when you see each other in passing, then finish up and leave together
Fucking loser.

only correct answer

because i don't fucking know you

who are you

based southern poster

D-D-D-DUUUUMP THAT BIIIIITCH and get U A FIIIIIT HOE!!!!

"No"

She looks like someone I know and I can't think who

>They want to monopolize your every second
Jesus Christ this. Since I started lifting I'd go to bed earlier and the gf would complain and whine since I'm spending less time with her but that ain't stopping me from getting my gains. She's just gonna have to deal with it.

dump her
prove her insecurities right
she deserves it

stick with her, be kind and understanding towards her, but never give up the fit dream, you CAN get fit despite your gains goblin. You'll know when it's time to leave, when you've finally made it and everyone on the streets recognizes you for it

>der
>thot

no.

based

I care about her too much at this point. She's the first girl ive dated who's not been psycho. I just recently gave up my virginity to her. And she does try to be accepting of my eccentricitys. She just doesn't like to encourage growth rather promote laziness and self contentment. Its bad i know. But I don't think I can give her up just for that. Plus I'm not fit or attractive enough(and definietly not confident enough) to pull a fit hoe lmao. I normally have at least one girl interested in me but rarely good ones. And I'm really bad at talking to them I have no idea how to approach or meet girls. It just has happened in some cases. I actually only contacted this girl cause i had a question about school. And then she chased me for several months.

Just a heads up if you decide to propose to her: The second you say "I do" starts a countdown timer to her eventual transformation into Jabba the hutt. She's that kind of girl. Sounds like you should get in the market to trade up real fucking soon my friend

cut her into pieces and dissolve her in the bathtub, then she will be gone

fpbp

I could literally never get a girl this hot

Every second of the day I swear. If I don't respond back in like thirty minutes she gets upset. I'm not naturally someone who likes talking to people a lot or spending all day on my phone only reason I do is because of her.

you could if you abducted her, then cut her up into pieces and put the pieces in different dumpsters all around a major city

I understand where you're coming from. But it would be a asshole thing to do. And would cause more problems then it would solve.

>If I don't respond back in like thirty minutes she gets upset
Holy FUCK same shit dude.
>get a text from her
>don't respond back within 10 minutes
>get another text "busy?"
Thank fuck she has a job and works most of the week or I swear to god I'd lose it.

I try my best to be kind and understanding cause i do appreciate her. And I'm not gonna dump her unless it becomes a legi problem. I just need to get her to learn that I need space just like she needs attention. And unironically if she doesn't have anything nice to say not to fucking say it. It would be nice of her to encourage me to get fit. But being passive aggressive cause she's afraid I'll leave and doesn't want to put the effort into doing it herself is just a dick move lol.

if youre REALLY committed to not leaving her, try your genuine best to help her fix herself and change her outlook. if not, she's going to continue to revel in her mediocrity and continually try to bring you down, and when you don't give in she's going to go resentful more than she is now
this girl is BAD news, she's definitely not 'not psycho' like you said earlier, she is a big fat bottle of bad habits.

Still in highschool so pretty far off from that. I hope you're wrong though. I have no current plans to leave her if I can help it.

drop her like a bad fucking habit
if you seriously refuse to, you have only yourself to blame when things go downhill

Thanks for the idea but I won't be using it fren. Her company is too nice for that. And i have morals.

This.

Yah sometimes she talks about not getting enough attention and hints maybe other guys would give it to her. I just give her the silent treatment for a couple seconds and she normally apologizes and says that was wrong of her to say and a asshole move.

That's because deep down I'm worried you're only with me for my money, my car, my height or my body. That's why I work long hours and spend time at the gym, knowing that as fickle as the modern woman can be, you could leave me at any minute for another guy who makes 10k more a year than me or that is a inch taller. It's the wrong kind of motivation, but motivation all the same.

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>hints maybe other guys would give it to her
Yikes, mine doesn't ever say shit like that bud. If she does it again you should make a big deal of it and tell her to knock that kind of shit off or she can go and find herself someone else to give her that attention. I wouldn't tolerate my gf saying something like that and you shouldn't either bro.

I have been trying to help her. Though i could probably try harder. It just feels like people my age are all the same way as her though. I only know one other person my age legit who has any ambition or wants to improve themselves and shes only that way when it comes to academics. I go to her and let me tell you its refreshing and encourages me to get mentally fit along with pyschially fit. Like evwn my best friends who want to get fit and do better. Dont have the mental discipline. I tell them if you keep sitting on your computer all day amd sleeping bad and not eating right or training not to mention not doing anything with your life that actually matters of course you're gonna be depressed. You have one life. This isnt a practice round or a tutorial how darw you keep wasting it like a child. I know I'm partially guilty of the same but at least I have enough self awareness to realize what I have to do and try to fix myself.

dammit this hit too close to home

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I hope to help her fix herself and get in a better mental state so shes less lazy and stagnant when we're in collage. I know she has potential. She just wastes it.

I know it's a problem. But honestly I feel like I'm dealing with a child that doesn't understand or think about its actions most of the time when dealing with her. And she self destructs if I'm negative towards her.

Damn man

nigga you need to delete this

>And she self destructs if I'm negative towards her.

>pussy negotiates with terrorists
It must be difficult for you to do squats with no backbone

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>I feel like I'm dealing with a child that doesn't understand or think about its actions
Holy shit dude if you see her like that then can't you see that she might cheat on you first and think it through later? You have to destroy any and all thoughts in her mind that you might stay with her if she goes and gets gangbanged by tyrone and his nigger crew.

Don't care for the message but I had to kek at the delivery. Its a good perspective. But in the real world we do have to negotiate. But also to be fair i suck at squats.

And how am I supposed to do that? Threatening her doesn't sound like a good basis for a relationship. And of course if she did that I would leave. Id use it as motivation to better myself more and go fuck my ex whos been asking for it for months.

no

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>And how am I supposed to do that?
Next time she the "hinting about other guys" shit, tell her to knock that shit off and never mention it again or she can go find someone fucking else. Don't tolerate that kind of talk in your relationship dude.

Fuck u clown

lad you really need to stop compromising everything with her
take the bull by the horns

Because your lazy ass won't wake up at 4:30AM anyways.

because you only exist in my head and the doctor said to stop indulging in these fantasies

I need help. My trainer is asking me to do 3 sets of 12 pull ups(wide grip)
, 3 sets of 12 dips and 3 sets of 12 pushups, everyday before he starts two muscle groups exercise.
Problem is I am very exhausted during core exercise and can't into 3 or 4rth round without fucking up badly, like 6 reps less .

Is this warmup normal or am I overdoing it?

I suppose you have a fair point. If she does it again I'll be solid with her and tell her thats a fucked up thing to say.

Wouldn't it be funny if someone just came and ejaculate into her cleavage. Haha, that'd be so rad.

Why are you limiting yourself? You've now gained experience in having a gf, and you work out, there are better girls out there. You deserve better, and you subconsciously know it, that's why you posted in the first place. Either you go back to how you were with her and live a meagre existence or you continue to level up bro.

Cause I'm not just trying to ascend some hiarchy of females. Yes ambition is a big factor in my life but not when it comes to relationships. I like her. Thats why I started dating her. She chased me for months before I agreed. Yah she has some bad things and there's defiantly some problems that need fixed. But I dated her to have a relationship not just take a step up the ladder. If it doesn't work out though I might follow your suggestion. Won't lie and say i can't agree with it at least a little. I saved it for future refrence and motivation.

Based Alabama redneck fucking hick. YEEHAW

haha imagine if i was there to lick it up haha

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your post kinda screams reddit desu senpai

Based haha posters.

If she doesn't seem psycho now, she will in time. These are red flags. Eventually her insecurities will cause her to do something stupid or you'll get sick of dealing with it.

t. someone who used to date a similarly almost-psycho and now dates a practical, reasonable chick (yes, they exist; don't be afraid of being alone till you find one, it's worth it)

tell her not to fuck with your fitness
if you set clear boundaries and make it clear that your health comes first, she will either fall in line and respect you or get scared and break up. either outcome is acceptable.

YOU'RE GOING TO FUCKING MAKE IT
THOTS BE DAMNED
FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION

>I have shit to do, I'll see you later
>she now mires your discipline
Women are easy. If it sounds like they want something, do the opposite.

Because I haven't slept with all of your friends yet.

Pass the ketchup.

hmm this is good advice desu

You might be right idk. I haven't had a good relationship. I had a weird one when younger as my first. Then that burned me and I was off and on with her for years and turning down other girls. That i got another one that was actually psycho. So this is my first experience with a semi normal relationship. It seems good to me because of that maybe.

Good advice I suppose. Its just hard to get in that mindset. I feel like i have to take care of her.

Friend, I am a master of the long game. You listen to me, and you will have peaceful, happy, long, and loving relationships. My short game blows though. Basically the Happy Gilmore of dating.

Lack of experience will do that. My ex was my first serious relationship, and even though I knew things could be better, I didn't know how *much* better. So I went with it simply because I could handle the negatives. They worsened over time and the whole thing blew up.

Comparing the current situation to the last one is like night and day. I wouldn't have believed it was possible before meeting her.

At this point, I pretty much live my love life by the saying "being in a good relationship is 10x better than being single, but being in the wrong one is 1000x worse." In other words, find someone who will join you on your journey or at least support it. If you can't, don't settle for less. You'll get more done on your own than with someone who actually drags you down.

Based and truth pilled. Women often feel insecure so they try and sabotage your progress so you'll be too insecure to cheat. Then they get bored with you

>I feel like i have to take care of her.
She's your girlfriend, not your fucking child. If she's not going to respect you or your healthy life choices, give her the boot and don't look back.

Don't let your protective instinct keep you in a shitty situation senpai. If she's able but unwilling to take care of herself, you're wasting your effort.

take it down clown

Smells of insecure woman.

Yah I see your point. I'll defiantly keep it in my mind. I'm not sure if I'm ready to end it. But it defiantly needs to change some because its not healthy the way it is.

Yah i think this is why mine isn't supportive(is the opposite)

I know I know. I didn't really think it was that bad but this thread and kinda self reflection caused by it has made me realize it's worse then i thought. Theres problems i haven't even mentioned that you guys would tell me to just drop her for. I have a protective nature and it has been a problem before maybe it was just causing issues in a less obvious way this time and i need to rethink things.

>She just doesn't like to encourage growth rather promote laziness and self contentment. Its bad i know. But I don't think I can give her up just for that.
End it. You'll feel like shit, but eat right and train hard for the next few months and you'll feel better about yourself than you ever have.

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Not sure if you mean me or my gf. Either way you could have a point. I need to get less insecure and more strong for sure and so does she.

Fuck off gains goblin, now suck my jimmy and then get back to the kitchen

>In the real world you have to negotiate
No you fucking don't, because in the real world there are more than 2 women. I get you had a shitty relationship before, but you are letting inexperience fool you into thinking that what you have is good. Letting her manipulate you like this is not a good basis for a relationship. I don't know if invertebrates have feet but if you do you really need to put yours down before shit goes bad. I've seen bros fall for shit like and its never pretty.

Or at least have a serious talk about it and if she's not game (or says she is and falls off the wagon), you'll know what to do.

Idk about that. I'll be seeing her every day and everyone will hate me lmao. She likes to say people don't like her and its true shes not super popular or a party girl but the whole class likes her well enough while I'm just the odd kid thats kinda quiet. Everyone would hate me and I don't want that for months. And then probably well be at the same college.

Why should they care? If anyone asks -- and only if anyone asks -- you can tell them straight up. You wanted to lead a healthy, active lifestyle and she was guilting you about it. If they don't understand your reasoning at this age, they're bound to in the future. Worst case scenario, you're ahead of the curve and have a few years on them to get fit so that when everyone else does mature, you're ripe for the picking.

Gonna add that reading your posts almost gave me 'Nam flashbacks. It's eerie how similar your situation is to mine. And I toiled to stay in that toxic relationship. Oh, how much bigger I'd be now if I had those years back.

But yeah, public opinion is an even worse reason to stay than anything you've outlined so far. You could do so much better. I won't tell you it'll happen immediately. It could be a few years, even. But if you stay the course with fitness and food, you'll be in a better spot at the end of it. And it sounds like you're still in high school. Shit, I didn't even figure this out until halfway through college. All the friendships and experiences I missed out on because my ex was too insecure to accept them, Jesus...

Haha i-imagine t-thinking this way

I already spend too much time jacking off to figments of my imagination.

Yah I'm still in highschool senior year a semester left and then off to college. I guess I see your point. I'll just have to see how hard i have to push to get the space I need to train and if I cant get it then maybe its time to move on.

no you tell her that you will leave her ass if she talks like that ever again.
And you better mean it when you say it otherwise she will cheat on you since the worast she'll get is a stern talking to which she'll make you feel guilty about later.

I see your point but it seems very aggressive. Idk maybe I'm not aggressive enough

OP can you please delete this?

and threatening to get attention from other guys isn't?
I'll cut you some slack because you're still in high school but saying that is completely unacceptable in a relationship you would have every right to threaten to leave.
Saying I'll have to get attention from someone else is a manipulative and passive aggressive way of saying "I will fuck someone else if you don't do what I tell you".

How is that acceptable in a healthy relationship, it's rude, disrespectful, manipulative and selfish and yet you're the one worried about being mean.

Just think on it man.

>Threatening her doesn't sound like a good basis for a relationship.
None of what she does sounds like a good basis for a relationship.

You both have fair points. Idk I'm just tired and confused. I just want to go to bed. Fuck bros. I probably should soon here.