The gym has kept me sane and schoolwork has kept me busy.
chill aquaintances but people arent really friends besides my roomates and theyre busy
no swole friends since they all graduated
people i try to make small talk in class usually never text back or are weird
half the school population are dyels who only talk about partying and wasting cash on alcohol, the other half keep to their own social circles from high school
plus ive never had a girlfriend and still a virgin
Is there a youtube guide for how to be social or something I am a bit autistic
Jose Edwards
Holy shit that tattoo is autistic as fuck
Parker Green
Have a seizure in front of everyone
Logan Wilson
>STOP TRYING TO BLACKPILL Jow Forums >WE ARE TOO STRONG Too deluded by "muh redpill"
Jordan White
jutting the shit out of that jaw do you think we are stupid?
Joseph Nguyen
>are dyels who only talk about partying and wasting cash on alcohol You're being a fucking nerd, why not go out with these guys and have fun. Easiest ways to meet a girl aswell especially if you're fit. Then once you make a good group of drinking friends they will eventually become friends you'll chill with sober etc etc.
The only way to get laid is to not try to. Just work on yourself and develop hobbies and passions and make some friends.
If you are under 30 it is so easy to make friends. Just tag along when some guys you barely know go out to drinks or join a rock climbing gym or a still-life painting class.
But that’s not my point. My point is that you should not be /trying/ to get laid. Just become handsomer, fitter, funnier. Read more books. You will be shocked at how much conversational knowledge you gain. Reading literally anything is the best thing you can do for your social gains, assuming you weren’t already born with the high-school Chad confidence. Watch interviews with people that interest you - chefs, musicians, artists, athletes. Borrow some conversational quirks. Become witty and interesting.
Just be confident bro. Go out and do things. People like guys who plan their own events that they invite others to; don’t always be the invitee.
Matthew Parker
No one is uni actually wants to achieve anything, they just want to find a chill job so they can spend all their free time watching Netflix and buy a new phone every year. That's my experience from the engineering and business schools.
Once I got a job lined up for after graduation I noticed this. No one sees beyond this city, myself included. Small city feel. The only thing that goes on here is mining, oil+gas and the financial services which support them.
When my mind was freed of the goal "I've just gotta get a job." then I started to ask what I really wanted. I don't have a clear idea yet, but since them all passive consumption activities are boring to me. This has been terrible for me socially. My high-school friends make endless references to facebook memes. I love the guys but they are 90% NEET/minimum wage. My uni friends do nothing. My co-workers just drink, which wouldn't be too bad, but they are all much older than me. I think in total there are 3-5 people I know that I enjoy my time with 100%.
Actually, probably one of the biggest reasons I have a hard time interacting is because EVERYONE IS DEPRESSED BUT ME. I'm just lonely-horny.
who here has accepted eternal loneliness and found peace in it? Im just gonna float through life and focus on gym for myself as well as work.
Carson Gomez
>The only way to get laid is to not try to. This. No girl wants to be with a guy who's running around and desperately attempting to get laid. You have to be a master seducer to cover up your true intentions, and even then it can be hard as fuck. Also every single guy that I know who is constantly drooling over girls 24/7 is _never_ getting laid. The chill relaxed, casual dudes do get laid though. Also ignoring girls and establishing yourself as an actual desirable confident man is 10x more sexy to girls than being arrogant.
OP, without being social you're not going to get a girlfriend honestly. To women your social credentials, aka you're normal, funny, happy, cool etc. is 1000x more important than what you say. If a girl sees her friend being friendly/relaxed/flirtatious with you then that is a way bigger attraction bonus in her eyes than ANYTHING you could say to her. Also, it may be that your school is very cliquey and not really open to 'socialization'. The fact that you said that the other half keep to their own people from high school is indicative of this. It's pretty hard to break through into established circles on your own, especially without a friend to introduce you to everyone else.
Also looksmaxxing is total idiocy, there is no true single paragon of attractiveness. Even in ancient times different deities were displayed with different physical properties based on what their strengths were. ie, youth, strength, intelligence etc.
Benjamin Nelson
>square jaw >hunter eyes >failure at life Jow Forums was wrong
>the only way to get laid is to not try to >oh btw you should do all these things and create a new interesting personality and train yourself to be a better conversationalist in order to get laid
You're contradicting yourself. "just don't try to" is the worst fucking advice of all. If someone seriously and honestly takes "stop trying to get laid" or "stop caring about sex" to heart, then they're just going to continue getting zero pussy because you DO have to try.
Agree, but you have to try in a subtle way. If you go around drooling after women, you won't get far. Actually, you may get laid a few times but they won't be quality girls.
But giving yourself high value and setting a confident tone you automatically give yourself choice, which is the most powerful tool you can have
Benjamin Martinez
I agree with that. But stop saying "just don't try" because that's not what those words mean.
Me not trying means staying home and masturbating and playing video games. If someone doesn't try, it doesn't matter how good they are if they never put themselves in a social situation and attempt to talk to and swoon women. What you're actually saying isn't "don't try", it's "try in the right way, don't try in the wrong way". It's still trying. Don't tell men not to try.
Jeremiah Adams
This is what I'm doing rn. But does this really work?
Brayden Perry
>tfw I was born with high-school Chad confidence but had it bullied out of me after moving countries and being the new kid so I get it back sometimes when my walls are lowered but am permanently broken inside
not permanently i can assure you senpai change your mindset
Nathaniel Stewart
same here now I simultaneously hang out with the geeks and popular people
Camden Brooks
im 25 just graduated goin through quarter life crisis phase. gettin laid less than ever and no gf. Gotta find a job, shit son
William Cox
>people i try to make small talk in class usually never text back or are weird >half the school population are dyels who only talk about partying and wasting cash on alcohol, the other half keep to their own social circles from high school >plus ive never had a girlfriend and still a virgin You're referring to people that willingly or unknowingly subject themselves to predatory universities that provide them useless degrees for literally no life skills and tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt. And you expect them to be normal? They're brain dead sheep dude, what do you expect?
>tfw I look much better than I did before back in HS, but I have less friends now. This is because in high school normal AND abnormal people are all forced to interact with each other. In university, besides a select few usually within STEM programs, it's literally all the abnormal ones. And you expect to get along?
