I finally figured what a relapse is about. People are made to think that a relapse is some crazed junkie going insane restlessly and craving his next dose of his addiction, but it's the exact opposite. An addict who's about to relapse is the most rational person he can be. He will rationalize his relapse with how shitty the last few days been, how his head hurts, how useless it is to keep going, and how they deserve to get a small break only for this one time because they've held out for so long. There's no fuss or crazed fit of rage, If there was, then we would recognize it as irrational addict's behavior and manage to hold ourselves. But the moment of trying to make our relapse justifiable to ourselves appears to be the most convincing moment "just this one time won't hurt". This goes for every addiction, alcohol, drugs, porn, food, gambling, etc... The moment I realized that those moment of clear "rationale" I should be afraid of, and not the moments of crazed junkie cravings, I managed to overcome my addictions and find peace.
Took too many psychs while I was going through a bad time and now I have constant intrusive thoughts. I've learned to live with it over the last few months though now that I understand where they come from and why I have them. Other than that I've finally kicked porn addiction this year and I'm hoping to finally establish a consistent gym routine this month now that I've got a friend who will workout with me and hopefully help motivate me
David Mitchell
Are people literally having trouble not masturbating and watching porn? All you have to do is literally just NOT do something.
>All you have to do is literally just NOT do something. Oh shit, it's that simple? Guess my heroin addiction just went away then
Brandon Myers
I sometimes think to myself that enjoying something in moderation is way harder then just quitting outright, since a while after quitting you just get used to it, but moderation requires more discipline. Any thoughts? Is my brain trying to scam me on this one?
Thomas Kelly
Oh, I get it. You must be one of those "challenged" folk.
I'm obviously being hyperbolic to make fun of how you framed quitting an addiction or a bad habit as " well just don't do it". Congrats you figured it out
Ryan Sullivan
Literally just don't go to porn sites and keep your hand away from your peepee. Thats how easy it is.
The same with the heroin.
Nicholas Robinson
Oowee mama, I jerked off for the second time today already. Feelsgoodman, I feel like I'm walking on air now. If I don't nut every other day I get angry and feel like I'm overflowing with cum and my dick is always hard.
I struggle with sadness and having the daily habits leading to the lifestyle I want really bad. Honestly though, I know I can overcome it and that's why I talk about it
moderate drinking is hard af, stopping when the buzz kicks in makes no sense, so i quit completely (since 14 months now). being sober around drunks just validates my decision every time. no more hungover weekends make it all worthwile, i used to drink till blackout regularly.
>quit smoking >stopped coffee >stopped drinking (12 pack a day) >got a job >back to school >new hobbies (working on car, boxing) >gym 4-5 times a week (from 150 to 190lbs) >relatively clean now, still working on this >quitting porn >stopped for a whole month at times >full blown porn addict at this point
I think it all comes down to having a fear of going up and talking to girls. After watching porn my frustration and racing sexual mind get some relief. Im 26 and have never just gone up to a good looking girl. I’ve had girlfriends but always with coworkers which is lame. I need to sit down and figure my approach to getting a girlfriend. Any advice would be great.
Carter Baker
Meeting people online isn’t always bad :)
Besides that make sure to not make yourself seem perfect - just seem human :) don’t brag about shit just be invested in the person while conversating and if they’re a nice person they’ll reciprocate- otherwise fuck em they’re not good enough :)
Parker Nguyen
Absolutely true in my experience. Probably why overeating is one of the hardest habits to kick. What's especially insidious is trying to be 'moderate' with something which reduces your self control, whether directly (most drugs) or by eroding your self-esteem and concentration (a lot of media).
Landon Brooks
No. YOU just broke your streak. Take some responsibility.
Oliver Cruz
You fuck coworkers? That is insane.
Nathaniel Hughes
Maybe practice your english more before posting jose? Also your gif is pure shit only half reps
