>be fat fuck >10-15 close circle friends >go on trips together, get wasted together, go for dinners together, concerts etc etc fastforward to gym curse >get Jow Forums lift religiously for 5 years >best shape of my life >everyone starts avoiding me >guys dont wanna hangout >can’t make new friends cuz 30 >only get women on social media but took the blackpill so no thanks jeffette >alone for a year now >yearning for days when I would receive bro tier texts to hangout >yearning for days when somebody would care >sit at home yearning to go out for a meal or movie >nobody wants to hangout >nobody wants to say hi
Wasn’t prepared for this. After 2 months I went out alone today and sat in a restaurant alone eating my meal staring into space. If I die tomorrow nobody would give a shit. Thanks Jow Forums
i did this at 14yrs old but with no progress. (isolation exercises only with no regard for diet or progressive overload and i didn't even know what volume was)
William Miller
get a best friend type wife.
Robert Ortiz
Your friends were shit
Nolan Lewis
obviously not true friends but if you avoid them, this is what happens
Dominic Barnes
Oh... So THAT'S what "leaving humanity behind" means
>go on trips together, get wasted together, go for dinners together, concerts etc etc
Kay...
>yearning for days when I would receive bro tier texts to hangout
Yeah, you must have pushed some healthy lifestyle stuff on them. It's common. Misery love company and you stopped being company with your healthy eating.
Matthew Jackson
This is less about you lifting and more just a fact of life.when you get older you just stop hanging out with friends as much. It sucks but it happens
Henry Scott
Do you try reaching out man? You can't expect people to put effort in if you don't do the same. Message some of your old friends saying that it's been a while and you'd like to catch up. It's worth a shot
Jonathan Young
>10-15 close circle friends no
John Baker
try lifting heavier
Bentley Harris
where are you from? i'd hang out with you.. i got no friends... i live in London
Julian Smith
you're the alpha now so you have to invite THEM to hangout
Camden Wood
that's just part of getting into your late 20s and 30s. You see your """friends""" a couple times a year and spend most of your time with a gf. If you don't have a gf by now, try to get one. Just plow through the hoes until you find a good one. Realistically, most dudes won't be able to hang out and do fun stuff anymore while juggling a 9-5, career prospects and the potential for a family. You have two choices:
1.) Sit back and daydream about yester-year 2.) Becoming a normie and get a girl and advance your career
Wish it were different.
Austin Walker
Had similar, you're in a transition phase where you're going through the lonely and slightly bitter/angry phase of improving yourself - and then realise that some people (not all in my case, I'm lucky) are threatened by the fact you're trying to improve and figure they can either learn to live with it, or avoid the thing that's causing their cognitive disonance.
I still get down days, but I'm caring less and reminding myself that for the most part, people are in it for themselves. Equally I've found that having raised my ego, actually learning to not take myself so seriously is helping my mood and puts me in a good place whether alone or dealing with others. Not about putting yourself down, just realising that nothing really is worth taking too seriously because one day we'll all be dead, so might as well see the funny side in things.
Either way, even in this painful phase you're in - you're learning about yourself (mindfulness is a good thing) and you're learning about other people. So, in a funny way this pain is making you more of a well rounded person who will cope better in the future. Good luck.
Isaac Nguyen
There is a small part of this that could be the result of getting fit, but it’s much more likely that it’s due to your age. I’m fit and my friends don’t lift and we’re drifting apart now because we’re around that age as well. Many of them are simply busier with their own lives, and so am I, so it’s harder to hang out spontaneously.
Tyler Walker
dude go to a fucking bar, grab a vodka water lime, and bullshit with faggots at the bar. you're 30 its time to learn how to socialize with adults you autistic fuck
Juan Murphy
Damn user thats one of the most high quality answers i have seen on this Board. Thank you have a nice week
Thomas Young
So how do I make frens in my gym if I want to avoid such consequences?
dude same shit. i was either the goofy fat friend or the nerdy anorexic twink. as soon as i took the gym seriously and my body started to change and I took the attention of the girls in my social circles, my dude friends became dickheads. its nothing to cry over. keep lifting and put that energy into the universe and good things will come
Caleb Cruz
You didn't lose them because of lifting, you're losing them because you're 30. That shit happens, especially to a big group of friends. I'm only 27 and my friends have dwindled down to two close friends i see weekly and a handful of friends I see every 1 to 3 months. I imagine it'll continue to shrink as we move on in life.
I currently live not even a mile from my best friend of 15 years and since his wife got pregnant I've seen him 3 times in 4 months.
Joshua Howard
This
Henry Baker
People just grow apart in mid 20s.
Jordan Bell
Can confirm. My best m8 moved interstate due to work (and a shitty family situation). Still see him a few times a year
Zachary Hall
Do rock climbing. People talk to you at climbing places
Samuel Jenkins
Yeah not only will you climb rocks but also climb the social ladder haha
Nolan Ortiz
I suppose this is sort of happening to me, although I'm 19 so I'm lucky to hit it just before the 20 something social circles begin to develop.
I've spent the past four months living in hell trying to deal with my psychological/emotional problems and sorting out my depression.
I believe most of it was rooted in the idea that I was entitled to a good group of friends, a good family, a cool University experience, because that's what everyone told me would happen and that's what I think the world should be like.
I've been learning how to take responsibility for my life and am currently shaping it in the direction that I want it to go.
Hopefully because I'm doing my improvement transition now, I'll just lose a lot of my shitty school friends that I was probably going to lose anyway, and only build relationships with cool good people, who will only have known me as Jow Forums.
Jack Brooks
That shit just happens as you get older bro. Friends start to drift away as you age unless y'all make a serious effort to stay in contact but even then you'll probably only maintain like 2 or 3 friends at best and probably wont see them more than once or twice a month. At best once you get older you have "activity" friends, so guys that you meet playing a sport, at the gym or at the bar, playing d&d or whatever that you only really hang with during those activities but the old days of just sitting around doing nothing or going on trips with your buddies is usually over between 25-30. Sorry man, its part of growing up. People start to have lives, gfs, wives, kids and careers to take care of between mid twenties to early thirties and dont have time to kill with their buddies anymore.
