The thread is not about /nofap/ and is generally not about solitary sex life.
Here, we will talk about our sex life, our issues around it, and what can/should be done about that.
ie: libido, erectile dysfunction, sexual performance, premature ejaculation, techniques, psychological blockage, physiological issues, etc.
Has anyone tried Maca? What was your experience with it?
I wonder if it could be a solution for a couple when one of the two partners has a lower libido than the other.
I WANT SEXY
MACA increases my sex drive a lot. Otherwise nothing to report.
What dosage do you take? And what can you compare it to, it is like after a week of /nosex/ when your body is making you think of sex all day long?
What can I do to fix my delayed ejaculation? I can fap just fine but when I have sex I don't feel a thing. I even tried cranking it with my gf but I can't feel anything either. Currently on day 20 of nofap to see if I can get horny enough to cum
>I can fap just fine but when I have sex I don't feel a thing
You mean physically speaking, or even psychologically, where you don't feel arousal?
I don't know much about your situation but it seems like a classical case of death grip/conditioning due to years of porn/fap.
Continue your /nofap/, and possibly even more important, do /noporn/.
When I got my first GF, we were fucking several times a day every day, and it took her more than a month to make me cum. I think it took that long for my usual sexual pathway through my usual routine of porn consumption and masturbation to go away and for a new one through intercourse to settle in.
Quit porn, quit fap, and let time take its course.
I just want a gymbro to cuddle with
Lately Ive been watching a lil bit of porn in moments of weakness. Did I fuck up? I get aroused really easily and my boners dont go away quickly when having sex but I just cant feel any pleasure from the entire interaction
>have a qt3.14 gf for about half year
>she's 19 and still virgin, says she doesn't wanna rush it
>later she admits that most of the time she has zero interest in having sex with anyone
>never initiates kissing
>every time we talk more about it she starts crying
>everything else is just perfect about her, she's super smart, /lit/ and Jow Forums, 8/10 looks
>we share the same group of friends and live in the same building
>don't wanna break up with her
>find out it might be a hormonal issue, she had undergone some hormonal treatment for kidneys in the past
>wat do
Well, it would be better to go cold turkey, but it's not a big deal, it probably just delays the results.
If you're interested on how habits and habit circuitry works, I may interest you in this podcast:youtube.com
The thing is, your brain has associated a particular pattern of behavior and events to your circuitry about sexual pleasure and satisfaction. You want your brain to retire that route, so you want to not use it for a while, it's about a month or so, neurologically speaking.
Then, with your gf, you will slowly create a new circuitry and there you go.
I hope your GF is comprehensive, maybe try to explain to her that you're working on it and that you don't want her to worry about it.
/nofap/, /noporn/, and time.
It'll do the trick.
It won't do anything for me. Super dosed it. I'm 34, BTW.
gf not even giving me one shag a day now
last few couple of nights she's said she can't because her twat still hurts (I shagged her 3 times on saturday which is a total cop out imo)
going to fucking cheat on her soon if she doesn't start behaving ffs, how do I get her to have sex more?
If it's hormonal, it can be solved by taking the birth control pill.
Some women end up taking/changing the pill if they have low libido issues. She should talk to her gynecologist about it.
If it's psychological, it's more complicated. Also for women kissing is not overtly sexual, it's weird that she does not even kiss you. And the fact that she cries when you talk about it is fishy too.
You don't want to insinuate that she's crazy or has problems or whatever, but you might tell her that she should book a therapy session with a psychologist.
Tell her something like "I don't think there's inherently something wrong with you, but I'm worried that there might be some underlying cause that's plaguing you and hurting you, and I want you to feel good on all levels, so just try and see if it's useful, if it's not, then good. If it is, then good, we can write off this possibility and try something else."
If you're supportive, she'll probably go along with it.
Also, don't let her use Tumblr, she might end up thinking that she's asexual and that it's a real thing.
It's not.
What the fuck is wrong with you mate.
Are you 15, is your brain still developing?
I was going to answer you seriously, but you seem fucking retarded or immature as fuck.
I used to take 1 to 2 teaspoons in a shake. I would compare it to the boost of not jerking off for 3 days
I'm a 25 year old adult, with a uni degree and a decent job.
sex is the most important part of a relationship to me. There's literally no point in a relationship for me unless I'm getting to shag as I want. I don't get what you mean by saying I'm immature, not everyone has the same attitudes to everything, maybe you want emotional attachment and I want something else. Grow up.
Okay, you're immature as fuck, thanks for confirming.
at least I'm not braindead like you seem to be
maybe she's not fucking you because she thinks you're forcing her and that doesn't arouse her?? use your idiot brain for 1 second maybe
my gf hardly fucks me anymore. Im only 20. She's turning me off women at this point, the way that she acts towards me brings me stress. The time we spend together is only sometimes good. I'm still with her for that. idk. I'm beginning to not like her.
Before figuring out how to extract more frequent shag out of your GF, maybe you should better yourself and try to extract meaning out of yourself and life around you.
Come by /sig/ sometimes, maybe go through the Jow Forumslit/ route.
But maybe I'm over reading it. Try to excite her more, you seem like the king of guy that does not care about the girl's pleasure, take care of her.
Make her try maca too, why not.
Also, not everyone has the libido of a horny teenage boy.
In a relationship for the past 6 moths.
Still orgasm 1-3 minutes after sticking it in. No way to circumvent or prolonge it. Why the fuck can't I last longer?
The only good thing is that after a few minutes I'm ready for the next round. I'm unable to cum then mostly.
>maybe she's not fucking you because she thinks you're forcing her and that doesn't arouse her
and why say that it's because of some phantom pain then? if she doesn't want to shag she should just say, she should be too old to play silly games like that
>I'm still with her for that. idk. I'm beginning to not like her.
Doesn't seem like your problem is sexual by nature.
Your romantic relationship suck, therefore your sex life suck.
Fix the source. Fix your couple.
If you can't, leave her.
It's better to leave someone before hating her or all women. You don't want to become resentful.
idk maybe she thinks it'll placate you more than if she straight up says she doesn't want to have sex, which might make you bother her more
Can be a lot of things, probably performance anxiety.
You gotta trust your dick to get hard on its own and relax your abdominal muscles my man.
>and why say that it's because of some phantom pain then?
I'm sure you're very insistent, she doesn't want sufficiently at ease to speak to you honestly. Maybe she fears that if she tells you that she doesn't want to fuck every day you'll get mad at her or cheat on her (you already threatened to) or leave her.
So she resorts to lying, it's ugly, I agree, but it's partially your fault.
>underage faggot
I know but its hard, shes my first real relationship and highschool sweetheart, we've been together for 3 years.
idk how I'm going to fix it or if I can. But I'll give it a shot
>you seem like the king of guy that does not care about the girl's pleasure
I actually do, I love eating her out but it seems like she wants that maybe twice a week and then she's had enough. I really don't like the thought of having less sex, maybe if I was 35-40 but it's actually depressing right now. I jerk off once or twice a day which makes me feel even more depressed.
so what's the answer? I can't make her want sex more so that's that?
>idk how I'm going to fix it or if I can. But I'll give it a shot
It's the only thing you can do. The other possibility is to do nothing, but an untreated disease will kill your couple.
Maybe talk about it. I'm sure you never talked about "the problem".
Sit down and just say to her (without accusing her of anything) that you feel like the couple isn't going very well lately, and that maybe, just maybe, there's something going on, something that should be mended.
Approach it from a neutral position, as if "the couple" was a third person you were both taking care of. She'll be more likely to invest herself in fixing it.
Hard for me to nut during sex unless I perform a specific move that calls the nut out of me, I can do any position fast and hard but it feels like shit to me but if I fuck a girl nice and slow from behind I cum really fast.
Is this normal or is there something wrong with me, it was so bad my first time took over 3 hours of experimenting before I could nut
psycologically though It feels way bettet fucking my gf than other girls, I cheated on her a couple of times and it isnt furfilling at all, I get no emotional nut
You could try talking to her about it before thinking about cheating or her like a traitor.
Don't accuse her of failing her marital duty, just talk to her about how there seem to be a disynchronicity in your sexual needs. At lease you'll know where to stand and she won't feel like she needs to be a filthy liar anymore.
End it. Don't try to change people. You're young. Go bang some chicks.
I think you just have to find the postion and speed to go at to get into the physical mood, mentally though you need to find what peaks you, for me its impregnating the girl even if Im wearing a condom something about it get me going
When a girl is immediately into submissive stuff I have no problem (slapping, spiting etc), but I don’t know how to bring it out of girls. Any tips?
I have this problem where I’m hyperaware of the fact that I’m doing it and it kills the feeling. I can still get hard and pump her forever, which my gf likes but she has no idea it’s not because I’m particularly good at holding my orgasm in or anything. How do I get more ”into” it? I still find it very hot, but just a millisecond of awareness and I have to ”start over again”. I usually don’t cum during sex, which is fine, but I would still love to do it sometimes yknow.
Start by talking dirty.
Choke them (slightly, you imbecile).
Spank them, everyone loves that.
How is your pull out game Jow Forums?
She should check her hormones + blood. My ex's sex drive went reeeaally low all off a sudden. Turned out she had developed a brain turmor on the hypophysis [Glandula pituitaria]that messed with her hormones
My gf has a very hard time getting wet, basically she's aroused mentally but it doesn't translate into physical excitation. Lube helps but we're fucking for like one hour or two everytime and she can barely walk after that.
She stopped taking the pill like almost a year ago, can it be hormones still fucking her up?
Firstly wat do in greentext is poor form
There was a time where I was exercising and eating [not eating enough/not hitting macros] unhealthily to where it caused me to miss periods and dry out down there. I didn't abstain from kissing, although I can see the relation she forms there. I did abstain from mostly everything that CUMS after kissing out of embarrassment and shame mostly. I was single at the time so I could play it off. I was even pretending to have my period so my friends wouldn't discover something was up.
is right, help her seek medical advice. Either that or your gf was not always a girl.
How the fuck do you guys put condoms on when i roll it past my (dick) head it gets stuck in the skin that accumulates under when you roll your foreskin. I can force it to go past it but its a fucking pain to do it. Thank god my gf is on the pill
Got diddled by her uncle by the sounds of it
wtf
Also checked
>I can force it to go past it but its a fucking pain to do it
No pain in my case. You have the least severe level of phimosis.
>"Score 1: full retraction of foreskin, tight behind the glans."
Don't know if i can post this but the condom gets stuck in the Retracted foreskin
>pull out game
Pull out is retarded as fuck, there is sperm in precum.
Who the fuck got pregnant from precum lmao
She should see her gynecologist about that.
You can fix it with lube, so it's not a problem per se, but it may be the symptom of something more troublesome.
have any of you tried a penis expander?
im going to buy an ADS and probably a vaccum
You got phimosis. Your foreskin is too tight. Don't let a doctor talk you into getting circumsized, but try to strech it. I recommend rings like "phimocure" they are pretty cheap and get their job done. Been using them for 1-2 months and slowly but steadily make progress. Hopefully will be rid of it within the next 6 months.
Remember: Streching skin is like wokring muscles. You dont actually "strech" it out, but you stimulate growth. So strech ~3 times a day, but let it rest for the remainder of the time. If you strech too hard you will damage the skin, which could lead to less flexibility, making it worse.
Good luck
She's not attracted to you, retard.
Retard, go tell that to some grade 8s fucking pedo
Either
1) You don't know how to put a condom on (you unroll it, don't slip it like a glove)
2) Your dick is abnormal.
Look up a few videos about how to put a condom on a dick, and see how it's different for you.
You may have phimosis, like said or a very tight frenulum.
I'm 19 and my dick is still below average. Is there a chance it will still grow a bit?
>I'm 19 and my dick is still below average.
How much is below average to you? Don't compare yourself to pornstars.
>Is there a chance it will still grow a bit?
Not really, no.
I'm serious when I say it's below average. I'm 4". That's about an inch before being the medical definition of a micropenis.
Whats the chance of my GF getting pregnant if i cum inside her if she is on the pill?
How do I make my gf more adventurous when it comes to sex?
The only type she really wants is loving missionary with creampie.
>10 centimeters
Oh.
That's unfortunate.
That being said, you're above average in South Korea.
>The only type she really wants is loving missionary with creampie.
Good.
I post this every thread
>Get herpes off a girl 4 years ago
>She didn't tell me she had it
>Haven't even tried to get with a girl since
>Wake up every morning dreaming about burying my face in a big squishy butt
What really gets me is that I know that most people who carry just fuck around and not give a shit, either because they don't know they can pass it on without symptoms, or just legit don't care. I can't live with the idea of giving someone a disease without them knowing the risk (however slim) as happened with me. I also can't face telling girls outright that I have it. Maybe if I get big enough I'll be confident enough to not care, or maybe I'll just get over it and just slam tinder thots, but for the last few years I've been stuck in this dilemma.
Bros I just can't last at all during sex.
I can last all day when given a bj but soon as I stick it in its 30 seconds and im done.
Even with a rubber, it takes longer to get erect with it on, but soon as im hard and its in, the countdown starts.
Its infuriating and embarrassing, i want to actually enjoy humping
Wat do?
Cum and keep going you dummie, are you 50?
your condom is too small you dumbass hahaha had the same shit happen before
Close to 0, that's what the pills are for, and they're pretty reliable.
Make sure she doesn't puke it, and that she doesn't forget to take it.
If she's forgetful (my wife was), look up the implant or the IUD.
I've been cumming deep inside her several times a week for 9 years, and never had any trouble. It's fantastic because it's my fetish.
>nofap and noporn for 10 days
>visit massage parlour
>literally cum in under a minute
Maybe if I do another days my dick won't go soft inside a prosties vagoo
you are living my worst nightmare bro
it honestly depends on how well she adheres to it, if she's taking it 100% correctly, at the same time every day (plus or minus 1 hour) then it would be about 99%, same as condom effectiveness.
Talk to her about it, tell her that you fear that things may get too monotonous and routine, and you would really appreciate if she would look up stuff or practices that she would enjoy doing/trying, and that you will explore it together.
Don't just try and slip your dick in her ass out of the blue.
Herpes literally are nothing who gives a shit about them
Wtf if I cum I go limp, even when I was 13
Do people really stay erect even after cumming?
my bf is good to go again 5 minutes after cumming
I just wanted to know if there was any hope. Guess I'll just avoid women from now on.
I can go 3 rounds before pulling out, i'm 26.
I agree with you. Doesn't change the stigma surrounding it. This is one of those think v feel issues. I personally hold that (in this case) the cost to someone's feelings by giving them herpes outweighs the literal fact that it's a 'nothing' disease.
Could be worse. Could be HIV.
Don't worry that much, it's herpes, not gay cancer (AIDS as people call it nowadays).
It may be trouble if you want to fuck random whores, but if you seek and find a girl that likes you a lot and all, she'll probably accept it.
I'm too focused on myself atm to look for a committed relationship. I'm just fucking horny.
>literally cum in under a minute
Did you still paid the same price?
The time I went, I paid for one hour, I came after 50 minutes and she stopped.
I'm still salty, where are my remaining 10 minutes, reee.
Yeah but there was time left so I asked her to finish up by massaging a bit more
I cum too quick.
If I get a hand job or blowy I last ages. Cum in a few minutes or so most of the time when banging. Unless I'm been drinking then the anxiety goes away.
Help me fit
should I resign to a life of prostitutes if I failed to find a girl to gf/sex in college? 24 and kv, career is 99% of men, friend group now down to one guy who's in a LTR.
>visit massage parlour
how do these work in Australia? cost?
Buy those durex rings that make you last for like 30 minutes before you have to take them off. I used them for other reasons and they are decent, doesn't hurt or anything
I only achieved it once.
It's a training apparently, some people learn to do it. Try to stop moving too much when you cum, so you won't fully empty your balls, bit like a "ruined orgasm", then accelerate more.
No, come by /sig/ and be a better man.
A good man attracts women.
>how do these work in Australia?
You give doolarydoos to Chingchong Tao and she does the vietnamese strangling snake on your dick.
Try durex.com.sg
It desensitize your dick, you "feel" less.
When I tried, I couldn't even cum, I felt like my dick went to the dentist or something.
But then again, I don't have premature ejac issues, it was for fun.
She didn't like doggy because I'd hit her cervix but once we got to prone bone and that works better for the two of us. She doesn't like being on top either, she'll do it but will let me know she doesn't like it.
It took her 6 months to finally suck my dick. She's bad at it but I'm giving her pointers and it feels nice to have taken her mouth virginity.
I just wish she was more enthusiastic about different things. She likes sex for sure but mostly just regular missionary and getting creampied. Like she doesn't even want me to pull out, which is fine for me, but I think it just fits with her tame attitude (and slight creampie fetish maybe, she calls it "draining" me).
but i've been a good man all my life, while handsome drug dealers/crims get all of the pussy.
Yeah I can go again after 5-10 mins, but again 30 secs and im donezo
I don't know if I believe you
I mean I its just not natural I thought, you're supposed to go limp after cumming so you stop humping and let the sperms do their thing
Isnt a refractory period after cumming supposed to be a natural thing?
>creampie fetish
The most wholesome of all fetishes.
Tried that, not the same one but similar
Just makes it that I can't even get hard
Thanks for the thought though
>It took her 6 months to finally suck my dick.
Props to you for not dumping her before.
My first girlfriend was annoyingly shy in bed too.
Then she found a bad boy with a leather interior car and left me to get fucked silly by him.
Since then I always assumed that women who are reserved in bed are just not interested in you and are with you for ulterior motives.
But hey I'm just a bitter faggot don't take my word for it.
>but i've been a good man all my life, while handsome drug dealers/crims get all of the pussy.
They get all the whores, that's for sure.
But that's not the women you want.
Look around you. Most men around 30 are in a stable relationship. Are they with whores they met when they were criminals? No.
They're with good women, because they are good men.
You see and hear about all the bitches because they're loud, in your face, and have no discretion.
You don't hear about the good women, because they're not attention whores.
Yet, here they are.
You put it when you are already hard dummy