/sig/ Basics: >Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. Hold yourself responsible. >Meditate ( youtu.be/F0jedwTzIJg ). >Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones. Use digital Calendar reminders. >Have a steady sleeping rythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. >Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego. >Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once you’ll burnout. Little by little.
Do you drink so much that you think it's a problem?
David Hall
Post exercises to be done with a EZ bar... just bought it with no weights and need tips
James Johnson
I get proud when I take 3 nights sober in a given 7 day period. I can't "just get out there!" on the weekends in any other way, my best friend works every night but sunday and we drink that night, and Tuesday I have a few drinks and dinner with my mom at a local bar that has a good special that night. And once I start, I can't stop. AAAAAAAAAAA MAKE IT STOP. And tonight's valentine's day. MAKE IT STOP.
>tfw did dry january and life started to improve >mid feb I fuck up and everythings gone to shit Keep your streak going m8
Angel Wilson
>Started socializing again >It feels fucking great and has improved my self-confidence >Ego starts getting inflated >Start acting like an asshole >Now I feel horrible for the people I've hurt
I don't want to feel like a loser again but I don't want to be an asshole, how does one go about controlling their ego?
Andrew Reed
It's like orbiting a planet Laser on an elipctical trajectory. There are peak points you're the farthest from the planet, but still not strong and fast enough to leave and you get pulled back. Eventually with enough push you will finaly leave this orbit and head for the stars without looking back.
Daniel Wood
Planet Looser*
Wyatt Ross
Yesterday I attempted to rise my bench PR but failed. But it didn't struck me too much since I asked random stranger to spot me and we ended up chatting everytime between sets, seems like a nice guy, good physique, lifting for 4 years. I didn't make a new PR but made a new friend and that makes me feel closer to making it than benching new records every week (although I'd be happy to).
Sebastian Harris
Are you telling me to just let go or that with enough experience I won't ever have to worry about my ego?
Cameron Morales
What are some exercises that I can do with a bad knee? >mfw I get a sharp pain whenever do something similar to a squat. Think it might be back or weight related... walking is fine tho W100kg
Jose Clark
The latter. People are not hurt because of you, but because they were wrong about you. Once you get enough self-confident (but also self-concious) they will face a decision - they would need to either respect you or leave your life. You need to know that it's you who is making your own reality. Your own perception is what makes things real and it's only up to you to bend and remake it to your image. In the end of the day it's you and you only who will live it your own reality the rest of your life.
Joshua Nelson
I'm an electrician, like 2 days ago, and got my first independent job, is doing wonders to my confidence, the money is good and its a great momentum, learn a trade anons, we're all gonna make it!
>going to sleep early and waking up early really makes me feel better (anxiety, productivity, energy, mood, emotions, etc.) >currently my sleeping pattern is all fucked and I feel like falling asleep at 9AM (right now) >can't use caffeine because of anxiety >alcohol could easily get me to stay awake for ~9 hours so I'd fall asleep at the right time to wake up early tomorrow >been sober for almost 5 weeks >contemplating whether getting my sleeping schedule fixed is worth it to break the sobriety streak FUCK, brehs.. I hate sleeping during the day like this, but I'd also rather not drink. And being awake for 9 more hours seems impossible without alcohol, as I'm already on the verge of dozing off. wat do
Trying to become more social, used to have a bunch of friends, now i rarely see them, but maybe it might be because im now 25 and live with my gf and have a full time job. The loneliness is kicking in hard. So hard that i cant even play games anymore that dont have a large playerbase out of fear that ill be the only one left behind.
On the upside, im hitting the gym 3-4 times a week now and had my first run in a while yesterday. Also making sorta good money for someone working in IT-Security.
Keep at it. There are ups and downs. I have pattern of going to bed at 2100 and waking up at 0500 and there are super exhausting days that make me feel tired even after keeping my sleeping schedule. If it's a permanent issue for you, try sleeping a bit more. If your body asks for more and is persistent even through all your efforts, you should listen to it.
Hunter Sullivan
I know having a gf is a ultimate goal of most of the fitizens, however if you feel she is draging you back from your friends, you have to do something about it. I had a gf and left behind all my friends because of her - and she didn't even made me to and had nothing against them, I just prefered to be with her than my bros - and after breakup I had nowhere to go. It was like being left alone in a great desert of your corrupt feelings with no one around from horizon to horizon. Good for you you're working on yourself, but be there for your bros. Hook up, host a great party and create some memories. Or maybe go for a hike. Or for a game of paintball. Just don't cut off your friends.
Andrew Perez
Man this is some real shit... Im actually in the same boat as you. My gf is actually encoraging me to spend more time with friends, however i just like spending time with her... If we ever break up im going to be lonely as fuck... Shits hard... Because spending time with friends after a long day of work is also hard... I just wanna go home and chill play some games. But im glad someone else feels the same.
Nolan Ross
And you don't have friends at work? You don't have to spend every day with them, I'm seeing my bros only few times in a month, but it's enough.
Easton Mitchell
Lads, what are you supposed to do if, whenever things in your life finally seem to be getting in order, the most impossible of shit will go down and fuck it up? And you are again filled with stress. Holy shit, that stupid law of "Whatever can go wrong, will go wrong." is real
Just started here, so not really. Also i dont think of myself as being 100% autistic, however people who work in IT-Security really are. They are not really the kind of people you bring to a bar. How do i make more friends?
Samuel Ramirez
Being distant to your co-workers is what will make your job eventually unbearable and you'll end up alone AND bitter. Take and work with what you have. Find out wheter these guys are susceptible to your ideas and maybe try nudging them gently into /SIG/ - slowly but surely you'll become a pack leader. If they are not do what they do. You don't have to be best friends with them, but you need to be that person they can rely on and can't say anything against you - the genuine good guy, everybody loves those. If you're new in your workplace just be eager and hungry, but also effective and precise. You'll see yourself with them on every coffee break in no time.
Justin Cooper
Finally going to take th eleap into trying to become a Physio.
It's going to be hard as fuck and cost at least £15k of my own money but It's what I want to do(Only costs because I tried comp science twice and hated it)
>Personal developer tells us the truth about personal development individuals who are not himself
Whoah what?
Jason Johnson
Oh nevermind I just watched these, he's based
Brandon Diaz
good luck user! All the best
Anthony Hernandez
Wait, isn't Dan Pena some kind of con-man and professional semi bullshiter himself?
Andrew Barnes
>"I have no friends, friends are problems."
That is an incredibly sad thing to hear from someone so old.
... I'm sure the things he says resonate with some people here but before listening to him, I'd have you ask yourself if someone so full of anger is really in charge of his life?
Samuel Lewis
Just watched these videos I have to admit, there are a few quotes and ideas absolutely true BUT! you need really the right mindset to use them, to live by them.
They give me some inspiration.
Tyler Thompson
congrats! i believe in you chief
Evan Howard
nah he's legit. literally nothing bad i can say about him and i'm highly skeptical of people who teach success. Dr. Klaus Kleinfeld, Gov. Rick Scott, etc. are all his mentees and they're extremely successful
Anthony Collins
god damn this man is the father we never had
Angel Russell
Realise that you're human and that you make mistakes. The fact you feel bad about it means you realise it was a mistake. It takes time to adjust. The best thing you can do is to talk to that person, because they might be blaming themself.
Hey, thank you so much, man. I've been looking for those forever. It's time to rethink things now.
Andrew Martinez
I have some more, going in that direction but sometimes with some not so nice undertone.
I don't really want to dump all them in a /sig/ here.
Jose Bennett
I understand. I'll keep the thread open in case you stop caring and post them. Any harsh realities pictures will serve today. I need to toughen up so much.
Jeremiah Lee
>"Notice how women go on about maturity..." >Insert two massive walls of texts about how men are more mature.
Also: >"Man up." "Big boys don't cry." "Be a Man." "Put on your big boy pants." "You're the Man of the house now."
Some women are immature. Some men are immature. Some men are more mature than some women, some women are more immature than some men. A 60 year old is likely to be more mature than a 20 year old.
This is a pretty bizarre comparison to make, and I can't see how adopting these views are helpful in making yourself grow as a person. I mean, if you need to compare yourself to 50% of the population to feel you are "better", your sense of self is going to be extremely dependent on things you can never control. It seems neither mature or effective to me.
I think I will put the folders on mega. Just have to go throught hem before.
At least we used to call out those immature men and tried to have some basic level of masculinity. With every additional year things are getting more fucked up.
Jonathan Ramirez
Good luck, user. I'm glad as fuck I never touched alcohol, one less thing I to worry about.
William Davis
What is your definition of masculinity?
Jonathan Rivera
>read the sticky >started SS >got a date this weekend
We're all going to make it
Jace Evans
The idea is not to compare ourselves to women. Comparing yourself to another person serves little to no purpose, because none of us have any power over what other people do or think. The only thing we have power over is how we act and think, and I would rather act and think while being informed of how harsh and unpleasant things are in this world. Because if I can have no feelings, no attachments and not be resentful in a world where women act like they do, I'll be one step closer to being non-judgemental.
Carson Moore
How does being non-judgmental mesh with saying the world is harsh and unpleasant? What is the way women act "like they do"?
Zachary Bennett
Good on you user! I'm proud of you!
Jordan Garcia
Being non-judgmental doesn't meen I don't get to point out the reality of things. Life can be harsh and unpleasantly unfair. I strive to be non-judgemental in the wake of such suffering. To have no feelings and not become bitter because of my failures or how I perceive the world.
Women do things that are not in accord to how I think they should be done. By informing myself of how they act and why they act like that, I can then move on to not be resentful because they do things differently, which is harder than you think it would be sometimes. It'd be easy to greentext this and mock this, but you go ahead and try to not get bitter or resentful in a world where women so honestly lack maturity.
Joseph Perez
Exactly, you just have to keep your chin up and keep doing the things you know will make your life better
Nicholas Sanchez
I'm not going to mock you. I appreciate you honestly taking the time to explain your reasoning to me. I'm going to try to focus on one point you make at a time so don't think I'm "ignoring" some arguments you make, I've just come to notice that these discussions tend to go all over the place otherwise and become tedious to carry on.
>Women do things that are not in accord to how I think they should be done.
Give me an example? What do all women do that you think is wrong?
Ayden Morris
Thanks, she's a 6' sticc which is great for me because I like lots of legs.
Michael Richardson
That sounds really great, lucky dog.
Evan Allen
What exactly do people like about this guy? What did he tell you that you didn't already know? "You need to take action to achieve success", wow, thanks dude. What a fucking meme. Your words don't become more meaningful by sliding a bunch of "cock"s and "cunt"s between them.
Christopher Hall
You know how teenagers start to cuss in front of their parents to assert their independence?
Some never grow out of it, because they are still trying so hard to assert themselves.
David Ortiz
Feels bad bros, getting sucked into it tonight friends want to go out, I’ve played the designated driver card too many times they said. What do bros just nurse a beer the whole night?
Robert Harris
Can't you just say that you really don't want to drink? Try to put it in a way that doesn't make them feel like you think you're better than them or something.
Christopher Stewart
Hey, I was having lunch, sorry about the delay. I wouldn't say women do things "wrong", because I don't have authority over any of that. Women do things in a way that I don't think serves my purpose which is to reduce unnecessary suffering in the world.
For example, in my experience, women have a much much harder time coming to terms with their lack of competence and tend to seek someone to blame way sooner and more times than men do. (men also do that) Women also tend to get way too hung up on life's vicissitudes, their mood and how they feel about something GENERALLY changes faster and harder both for good and bad. They lose perspective. Example: A woman finds clues of what she thinks is an extramarital affair. She's way faster at removing the benefit of the doubt from the guy than the other way around.
I'm using generalizations.
Kevin Morris
Yeah I can probably do that. They’re good friends so they’ll understand.
Adam Stewart
It's cool, was cooking as well. Sorry for putting words in your mouth. I'll try to be more careful about that.
You admit to using generalizations. Why do you admit it?
Henry Morgan
Then you don't have anything to worry about my dude. Hope you have a great night!
>tfw only need to gain 4 lbs until I'm no longer underweight >tfw might actually beat anorexia
Hudson Perry
I mention I'm using generalizations because some people would think they would be counter-productive or not worth using in the quest for truth. I believe generalizations to be useful when speaking about such broad topics.
Levi Torres
>quest for truth
Do you consider yourself to still be on the quest for truth?
Nicholas Murphy
Yeah, I don't see why not. A desire to see harsh realities drove me to ask that other user for those pictures. I needed to remember how cold and harsh truth can be as a result of how soft I am.
Ian Roberts
Okay. So. I'm going to return to an earlier point you made if that's alright.
>Informing myself on how women act and why.
Let's put that to your example in >"A woman finds clues of what she thinks is an extramarital affair. She's way faster at removing the benefit of the doubt from the guy than the other way around."
I assume you have informed yourself that women generally behave like this. How did you come to this conclusion?
Asher Miller
That must have taken so much work. I'm so happy for you!
Hunter Sanchez
After observing the interactions of a series of friends that had fights in which the female was faster to sway to one side or another. In one of the four cases, the dude was cheating on her. In all four cases, the women caused more unnecessary suffering while processing what was happening than me or any of my male friends would have. They lied, got some of us against each other, got parts of groups to stop seeing each other, etc.
I don't resent any of them, they must have been feeling awful. I just wish they did things in a different way
This is just the raw collection without anything really sorted. There are picures which are pure garbage. Don't believe everything and think for yourself, don't start to hate, just be aware of it.
Just hope you can handle the true nature if women.
That sounds absolutely awful, it sucks you had to have such a shitty experience.
I get that having to go through something like that will leave an impression but that doesn't quite answer how you can come to the conclusion that generally women behave this way.
Cooper Cruz
I never understood normie culture that well so I didn't get too emotionally involved in any of that. Just the one with my best friend.
I can conclude that women generally behave that way if I experience it throughout my life (by it I mean the cheating stuff and hundreds of other examples) and if someone comes along and reveals to me that this is how women act (that image I asked for) and then I go "ah, everything makes sense". I don't know what to tell you.
Just out of curiosity, what do you think about the differences of men and women? I'm not going to meme on your reply.
Hunter Carter
I'm just gonna answer your question, just to keep things tidy.
>Just out of curiosity, what do you think about the differences of men and women?
I think biological women have tits and pussy, I think biological men have a dick. Generally, there are hormonal differences that have different effects, such as testosterone building muscle and estrogen making your ass big. Beyond that, I don't think I can make any fair assessment about the differences because I can't get large enough sample size. Neil Degrasse Tyson is a meme but his bit about extraterrestrial life had a good point that applies here too "you can't take a cup of water from the ocean and conclude that there are no whales".
Logan Cooper
You can however pour hundreds of cups into a big bowl. Some of the anecdotal evidence might not be good enough, but then you pour more water into it by learning that for every philosopher and leader that championed equal rights for all and female sexual liberation, there the same number denounced the lack of "soul" in women and other ways to put it. I think your vision is too idyllic but uninformed and my vision is too exaggerated and too cynical.
I'll try to write down what a 50/50 version of this would look like in my computer in the coming days. Like, a vision of men and woman that wouldn't be so "blackpilled" but also not leftist.
Nolan Baker
DAN PENA DA PENA
Nathan Hall
even philosophers are anecdotal and shaped by their own experiences, whether for or against this idea; if you ask me, it's a rather stupid and pointless gesture to attempt to claim that billions of people of a biological group are exactly the same, especially since upbringing and lived experiences, just as biology, certainly play a significant role.
Blake Sanchez
I would really be interested to see your write up. If I'm not around in this thread and if you're interested in continuing this discussion, hit me up on Wickr Me. Nick: tantratan
Thank you so much for taking the time to explain your view to me. Obviously we disagree on points but at least I felt that this very interesting.
Yeah, a rare sight on Jow Forums. I don't care so much that we disagree, I just want to put something a vision of the world forward that I'm actually proud of.
Jacob Fisher
Fuck bros, I am losing the ability to initiate sex with my gf. Her sex drive has started to drop off. When we have sex she often turns me off midway through by saying things in a completely non-sexual way. We have sex about once every 7-10 days at this point, despite seeing each other daily. I used to kiss her a lot or touch her body, but at the moment it just feels wrong. Feel free to tell me she's cheating on me etc etc. Just felt like venting this bullshit somewhere.
Matthew Morgan
Sex does become less frequent after the "honeymoon" phase. It's only a problem if there's a clear difference between your sex-drives, in which case you two need to have a sit-down.
Don't jump to conclusions before talking to her first and foremost. None of us know about the entirety of your situation.
Levi Johnson
You're right user, and thanks for the level-headed advice. But, I don't think I'll talk to her about it. I don't think anything good can come from a discussion on sex drive and will just make her insecure.
Isaiah Myers
Well, try to talk to her about it indirectly. Ask her if there's something she'd like you to do when you're having sex, like "is there anything new you'd like to try".
Also, do you tell her things like "you are sexy" etc. ?
Adrian Rogers
>"is there anything new you'd like to try". Yeah, we talk about what we like a lot. She's quite hesitant to let go during sex. I've tried to get her to be more vocal and talk dirty during sex but she is stuck in her head and can't do it. I always talk dirty during sex as it's a turn on for me, so I tell her how hot she is etc.
Owen Thompson
Maybe she juar isn't into talking dirty or hearing you talk dirty? Have you tried being more romantic and sensual instead? She might be afraid of disappointing you but it's starting to eat at her.
Cameron Reed
I think she just has a low sex drive, if it has been a while and she's really horny she loves it. Otherwise, it's just average sex
Jonathan Cook
Okay. Well, you know your situation best. There is no rule about how many times a week you must have sex or how it must be. Just keep up the communications and you'll be fine.
Cameron Watson
>unemployed 2 months >financial stress >anxiety getting bad from not leaving apartment more than twice a week >don't want to spend money if unnecessary How do I chill my depression/anxiety the fuck out? It's winter, the weather is shitty, this city sucks, there's no where nice to go for walks, nocar, and don't want to spend money on bars or a coffee shop just to look at other people. >tfw lateral patella tilt Wallsits. My physical therapist rec'd a bunch of bodyweight leg raises (front back side inner) and wallsits.
Hudson Gutierrez
Go for a walk in somewhere that's not so nice then ( provided it's not literally dangerous )? I think walking in the city can be nice too. Try not to attach a narrative to your surroundings ( "people litter because they're shit, nobody cares, that guy is a junkie" etc. ). I admit though this can be pretty difficult.
Tyler Wood
First of all, mourn how close you came to getting quads. That's the real tragedy here.
And second of all, you should seriously consider getting on a mild dose of SSRI's.
If you don't want to go the Psychiatrist route, then double down on the next best thing: meditation. But not the boring kind of meditation... build a mindscape. Close your eyes and use your imagination to visualize your favorite place during your favorite season. Over time you will become more proficient at imagining all the little details and sensations that make it feel real. Whenever things irl get too brutal, you can go to your mindscape to reset and refocus.
Mine is a log cabin on a lake with a little dock. I like to sit on it and just stare across the water to the other side. Sometimes a loon will cry out. It's amazing. Godspeed to you, user.
Jackson Jones
This is almost based but he keeps trying to justify his pedo rationalism like a faggot. Many such cases!
