/sig/ - self improvement general

all of fitness is healthy living, not all healthy-living is fitness. Dumbfuck

My sleep schedule is completely fucked
It's 4:14, I went to bed half an hour ago and couldn't fall asleep
When it's 5:20, I'll finally sleep, then I'll wake up at around 13:00 - 14:00
How do I fix this? All nighter? I've never let it go this bad

I've been listening to Wolf Brother audiobook before falling asleep

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>read up on schizoid personality disorder
>basically fits me to a T

why the fuck dont i go to a psychologist to get diagnosed then

>desperate rationalizing

Stay mad

Go to bed.
Adjust sleeping rythm at most 1h at a time ( at least a week between every adjustment ). Avoid naps.

I was at about that point just a few days ago. Having a backwards sleep schedule absolutely wrecks my productivity, and makes me feel like shit compared to waking up ~4am.
I've pretty much never been able to change my sleep schedule by sleeping less than I'm supposed to, to make myself fall asleep earlier the next day. Ive always had to do it the other way around; so stay up longer than I'm supposed to so I wake up later. Basically an all-nighter. Even if it's the longer way around usually.

And as I quit caffeine ~6 months ago, this process usually takes me a week. Unless I decide to use alcohol to stay awake.
It's pretty taxing, but time flies, and I don't really fall asleep drunk. Did it yesterday. Now I'm hungover, but at least I woke up at a more sane time (1AM or so), compared to the 5PM that I've woken up for the past week.

I don't recommend alcohol - or other psychoactive substances for that matter - for this kind of use, though. If you're able to, you should adjust your sleep schedule by just sleeping less/more, as needed.

was meant as a reply to

Same.
>People with schizoid personality disorder rarely seek treatment for their condition. This is an issue found in many personality disorders, which prevents many people who are afflicted with these conditions from coming forward for treatment: They tend to view their condition as not conflicting with their self-image and their abnormal perceptions and behaviors as rational and appropriate. There is little data on the effectiveness of various treatments on this personality disorder because it is seldom seen in clinical settings.[7][53] However, those in treatment have the option of medication and therapy.

I've posted the wiki article a few times to some random discussions on Jow Forums, and usually at least one person will say that it describes them eerily spot on.
I'm guessing/hoping that the way it's described is just something that fits a lot of people, even though they don't necessarily need help because of it.

Dunno, tho'.

i cant believe this man, this is terrifying. when i took abnormal psychology in college i always felt a handful of PDs described me (mainly avoidant and dysthymia) but this wiki is scary how much its like my autobiography

I suggest not getting worked up about it. You've always been the way you are, and nothing changed now that you think your personality could be described as schizoid.
You just learned that there are other people who fit that description, and that there's a name for it.

You might want to just go visit your psychologist and talk about it with them. Not necessarily as a plea for help or medicine or treatment, but just general info. What the diagnosis could mean, how to live with it, etc.

Or you could just not care. You are who you are.

>9th page bump

the beauty with all bjj gyms is that its easy to research and see if the teacher is legit, gracie barra is a legit brand name for sport bjj, and will teach you very solid fundamentals. check out the head instructors name and you'll be able to track the lineage.

but yes, it will be expensive, more so than other small time mma gyms where its harder to track the instructors credentials

im not gonna get worked up over anything, but its absolutely astounding how many of the symptoms and stories of living with this i relate to

Starting out gym on Monday and going out on a dance today, wish me luck boys.

Well boys I'm officially playing soccer this year. Hopefully this can help my social anxiety a little

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>tfw soccer referee
>social anxiety means i allow players.coaches to dissent me and dont care

>What books have you read this month?

The Prince, a couple of Oscar Wildes, Brave New World and the Dubliners.

I still don´t understand how I can go through days and weeks of extreme motivation and self disciple and i can suddenly disappear in a moment.

I have paid work project due Monday, I have been on it for a couple of weeks,

it´s for my own startup company and i´m sitting here wasting time and doing nothing after sleeping about 15 hours.

I dunno what the problem with me is sometimes.

It´s all there for the taking, but I don´t want to pick it up and run with it. i could slap myself sometimes.

All these big dreams but I´m so fucking lazy sometimes.

I've overcome my social anxiety and now I'm just as asshole.

Based. This'll be my first year playing again after 10 years, enjoyed it as a kid, but constantly losing week after week and poor coaching staff ruined the experience for me. I'm not in a particularly good place atm and wanna get into the army so I'm using the next 2 years to fix myself up and one of the things I promised myself this year was to get back into a sport I enjoyed as a kid.

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You say this like asshattery isn't just a manifestation of social anxiety

What said.

Being an asshole is a shortcut to not being timid in social situations, but it won't actually help to overcome any of your issues.
You need to start again, with honest introspection.

You have big dreams but what do you actually want? Do you want to lay about all day? Is that all? What are your needs?

First time posting in sig but I feel like I have something worth the thread

I've started to stick to a diet, and I've gotten 4 pounds down. I plan on restarting my gym membership this next week as well so hopefully I can get to my first goal weight by this summer

I've also started working more on my hobbies again, instead of just laying around watching youtube. Hopefully I can get myself into these habits long term

Just wanted to share, helps me feel like I've actually achieved something

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It's not about being an asshoe, it's all about being 100% honest.

I might be willing to part with the cash because it's very close, a 10 minute walk to it. Thanks

Nice job, just don't fall back into your old habits.
The hard part is staying on track when that early motivation fades away

That's great user! Make sure you stick to it and don't try to do everything at once.

Please do feel welcome to check back here and tell us how it's going, regardless of if it's going good or bad.

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Lads, I need some help. I've been doing a pretty good job of /sig/ging my life so far. Diet is on point, workout routine is solid, I've signed up for lots of activities, social skills are coming back after years of atrophy, and I've been ruthless in cutting shit out of my life - vidya, porn, mindless internet browsing. That last bit has been hardest, I never realized that shit was taking up all of my time, and now I'm crawling up the walls with too much free time and no dopamine drips.

Anyway, I'm running into some problems with socializing. I've never really had that much of a social life before now, and trying to figure out how to build a social life from scratch has been grueling. The main problem I'm having is that I don't really know what people do socially. I do a number of regular activities (classes, clubs, etc), and I get along with plenty of people in them. However, I've come to understand that going from 'person that I do x with' to 'friend' requires that you socialize with them outside of the one regular activity you share.

What sorts of events/activities can you invite people to? What do people actually do when they 'go out'? It's not all barhopping, is it? Should I be keeping track of 'What's On'-type publications in my city? Should I just invite people over to my house to check out [hobby] stuff? If so, what kinds of hobbies would be suitable for that?

Another part of the problem is that I don't want invitations to come off as date-y. I'd like to befriend certain women who have an interest in me that I don't intend to reciprocate. In past years I'd fuck a 1 if she mired, but I've come to realize that does more harm than good to my self-esteem. My point is, I'd like to know how to go about inviting women to social events non-romantically. Are you limited to group activities, with the attendant logistical headaches? Would it suffice to encourage them to bring a friend?

tl;dr: How the fuck do normal people spend their time?

You're asking the wrong people bud

Sounds like you're making good progress though so keep it up

Remember that you should allow yourself to unwind as well, doing whatever activity you enjoy, in moderation.

As for your question, how do you like museums? Do you keep track of events in your city? Any events related to your hobbies? Music? You can go to a bar without drinking as well, though it's better if there's some other activity involved as well ( dancing, live music, stand up comedy etc. ).
Those are all things you can ask people to come with. As for avoiding being date-y... if you're asking just one person, you're better off just straight up saying that you don't mean it as a date. Else, bring more than one friend and ask them to bring one as well.

I discovered that having a friend lend me a book every few weeks makes up for a great reason to go visit him. We can discuss the book and then he lends me another one, rinse and repeat. Granted this is a really old friend but I kinda almost let the friendship die out and have been struggling to rekindle it up until recently.

I know im an absolute fatty dyel now.
Im 6ft 207lb

Ive been eating clean for a month and I can feel how I lost some weight but I still feel so fucking far from making it.

Last week started doing 5x5 3 days and core/cardio 1 or 2 days and Ive noticed some nice strength gains.

What do you think? Im I doing it right?, if I dont, what would you recommend me?
Do you think it is possible to reach summer not being a fatass?

Thank you Jow Forums you are a source of motivation and keks.

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Dude, you can absolutely make it. You don't look anywhere near as bad as you think.
You've only just started. Stick to it diligently and you'll be golden by the time of summer.

I believe in you user!

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Got rejected by a PhD program today, it really sucks since I thought the interview went well. Kinda just feeling like giving up.

That really sucks. I know you must feel disappointed now and that's okay but don't give up. You'll feel better later, I promise.

thank you man, I'm trying to believe there's something better around the corner right now

Just like Bob Ross we are waiting for the good times now.
Lets make the good times come user.
youtube.com/watch?v=ugJfjmxOR2I

thank you user

Can you tell me what some of the activities you do are, out of curiosity?

How do I permanently get rid of my digital vidya collection? I could just change the passwords and emails to some gibberish but I spent some money on them and wanna get some back.
It's really small (about a dozen in total on gog, steam, origin) and the games aren't mainstream. I tried selling them on reddit with no success.

brave new world is such shit

Why? Just keep them and play them moderately. They're just games, they don't have power over you.

War with the Newts, Wheelock's Latin, and just started Tae Kim

if I do 100 push-ups, 100 air squats, 100 crunches every day will I see decent results?

You'll become really good at doing push-ups, air squats and crunches. If that's the results you want to see, then yes.

Do you lack access to a gym?

Switch crunches with russian twists, and air squats with split squats and yeah

compared to using weight, not a chance if you're looking for no equipment get on a calisthenics routine

i saw your post 2-3 times. i thought i am the only soccer ref in here, man.

I allow the players and coaches to bitching. But if it came to disrespect, i look them in dead eyes and give a yellow.

Allow bitching and moaning, punish disrespect.

Dude I read this when I was like 12

Me too. Now I'm reading it again.
I like falling asleep to it. It's a nice thing to imagine, running around the world with your pet and a redheaded qtp2ty ;_;

These are my numbers doing Coolcicada's PPL for less than 1 month of gym, should I stick to it? I want to increment the weights as fast as possible for both strength and hypertrophy.

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Also I did Phrak's Greyskull LP for the first week but didn't like that little volume.

>wake up 6:30 because muh early mornings productivity
>do jackshit
>go to gym at 2pm
>come home 5pm
>rest of the evening spent here
I used to have hobbies but now they feel like coping mechanisms. This place is too but I enjoy it more because I can at least think of jokes and laugh. I want friends but cant never feel normal around people.

What does normal mean to you?

Is careercucking just not for everyone? If I'm chained to a desk 40+ hours a week I get real depressive, resentful, and want to blow my brains out. Been doing some soul searching and I just don't like corporate office jobs. Would it be retarded to do 2 part-time jobs instead, if they're both relatively high paid (not 60/hour consulting work unfortunately, but not mcdonalds shit either)? I think it would help me be less bored and depressive in life, but not sure if I'm shooting myself in the foot going that route. For example, I'll never receive benefits like health insurance or PTO.
Is it worth being miserable and depressed to aim for the corporate fulltime job if I think doing hustle would be more fun? Any factors I'm not considering?

Good luck mate, I believe in you.

Don't forget to cash in on the social gains. It's a team sport so it'll behoove you to go out for a beer with the guys after matches/practice.

Keep up the good work!

It's okay to fail user. What matters is getting back up again. Do you have a plan in place for re-applying?

If you're just starting out, keep with it for a few more months. You'll never progress as fast as you can in your first year or two. At some point you get diminishing returns, but you have a long way to go before that point.

I don't think it's for everyone. It certainly isn't for me. Discovered that while it means lower income, I rather do physical labor where I can just entertain my brain with something else entirely ( audiobooks ). Gives me low-intensity cardio too and I never have to bring work home.

Figure out your priorities. Don't get stuck doing something because "you're supposed to", because who decided that?

If you're young without many responsibilities, I'd at least give it a try for a few months. That said, I'd also be mindful of what kind of opportunities the part-time gigs would give you. If there's no path forward to a better position (senior level, management, etc) then it would just limit the opportunities you might have in the future.

Idk if you need conversation advice but just social events advice I really enjoy spending time with friends pursuing the same hobby, for example for me it’s MTG, I’ll have a game night, people can bring food and drinks and we’ll have a good time.

Regarding going out, I’ll take last night for an example, I went out with a bunch of friends and it’s generally just talking with people who’s company you enjoy, everyone cuts a little loose, dances, telling good stories, and just generally having fun. It does involve a bit of bar hopping which I’m not really a fan of but it’s more just s change of scenery then anything drastic.

>If you're just starting out, keep with it for a few more months.
The problem is, I read in /sig/ sticky that full body routine 3x times a week is better for beginners (pic related) but I'm doing P/P/L/P/P/L/X since I find that I'm not going enough to the gym or something.

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How do I find meaning in my life, /sig/? I only feel truly alive when doing sports or travelling, yet those are not viable careers paths, although I might become a P.E. teacher in the future.
I just don't know what to do when I'm not doing sport or travelling, everything just feels empty and meaningless. Any tips?

You guys I have to cut with my friends. They are all stoners.
I don't want to smoke weed anymore. It's costly and it doesn't help me. I shouldn't smoke weed anyway.

I hope this will be a beginning of something big.

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Read Tantra Illuminated, the philosophies in it might give you some pointers on how to sort through your head. dropfile.nl/f/ruR

It can be rough to cut yourself out from that situation but being around lifestyle stoners is draining.

Give it your best effort and you can do it. Maybe you'll even inspire a friend to do the same.

>Maybe you'll even inspire a friend to do the same

I hope I can be an example. But I don't expect too much. They are smoking weed on the daily for years.
I have to look at myself first. Cut weed, get Jow Forums and get a job. Maybe at the end of the road there is a solid 7 in the horizon...

That's a solid 10, and the 10 is you my man.

I am in similar situation and I have needed this post. Thank you

as long as weed isn't the only thing you have in common you have no reason to completely cut contact with them

Anytime. We all need encouragement sometimes.

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>Dialectical Behavioural Therapy self help resource. Particularily useful for those struggling with anger, depression and anxiety issues.

This is still hard for me to admit due to being an autist who embodies the deadly sin of Pride, but I recently found out I might have BPD, likely sourced from family/childhood dynamics and environment. Caused me to lose a pretty stellar chick.

Really need to get back to my grind and improve. Now more than ever, before I end up like those around me. I just hate the idea of therapy. Sigh.

I'm really sorry to hear that. I know that BPD diagnosis is pretty damn devastating to get.

Don't let being ashamed stop you from getting help. Way too many people who absolutely could get it under control with therapy, avoid admitting they have it because of it's horrible rep.

Still, it's great you have at least taken this step to admitting to it here. That's a lot more work than some are willing to put in so I am really proud of you.

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thank you user ill stick to it till I make it

I appreciate your words.

Thanks for the vote of confidence brah, we're all gonna make it.
Thanks for the advice, I'll see if I can come up with something along the lines of your suggestions and try it out. I've got some lingering discomfort since none of those things sound particularly 'me'. But then I realize that's because the only activity I've done for the past way too many years is zoning out in front of the computer for 16 hours a day.
>doing whatever activity you enjoy, in moderation
Honestly my brain is so fucked from those wasted years that I have no idea what I actually enjoy. I'm just throwing shit at the wall and seeing what sticks at this point.
A hiking club, soccer, chess, ballroom dance classes (because pic related), a swimming club, and an a capella group. I basically just signed up to a bunch of shit while trying to figure out non-internet stuff to do.

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>I can tell you what kind of person you are by the friends you keep
If they truly have no inspiring qualities, it may be best to let go, or at the least distance yourself.

can somebody recommend a good gum for jaw gains? I want
1) relatively cheap
2) Mint flavored or at least tasting acceptably fresh
3) without aspartame or sugar
4) good chewing resistance, at least higher than regular gum

If you're old enough to post on Jow Forums, you're too old for that shit to work, sorry

this. it angers passive aggressive soys to see people behaving honestly. they label uninhibited people 'assholes'

help guys im about to jerk off but today i was gonna start my nofap challenge. help im bored and horny.

First time posting in /sig/, but I'm finally on the road I need to be. Finishing up a 5 year contract in the Navy this March, can't wait to get out. While it's done a lot of great things for me and provided many opportunities, the last year has destroyed my mental health. I'm very good at hiding it, but I know I can't keep going on like this.

Anyway, finished up my back piece of my patron goddess, and now that it is done, I can devote more of my life to the ideals that I want, not ones that other people think I should go towards. Once this heals up, I'll be entering a period of introspection and essentially be cocoon-mode for a while, though I'll be trying to pursue a more social lifestyle when I can (I don't know many people out here besides through work, and my interests aren't really conducive to meeting people). I'm a fantastic socializer, I just don't have the hobbies to meet people.

We're all gonna make it, brahs.

>pic related

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Go for a walk

>Don't forget to cash in on the social gains. It's a team sport so it'll behoove you to go out for a beer with the guys after matches/practice.
Hopefully this happens often, but I don't drink alcohol, I'm happy with a glass of water.

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dammit i nutted FUCK

Which god, if I may? Looks quality.

Artemis in the style of Tibetan line art! You can tell it's her with the symbolism my artist wonderfully was able to portray: the crown of a lunar goddess (the phases of the moon), her bow and arrows, the hunting dogs and the stag, as well as amaranth and asphodel plants.

I asked to add the vitarka mudra hand gesture both as a representation of the Buddhist ideals I follow, but it also induces the energy of the teachings and discussions of the spiritual principles which may also involve the arguments of the ideas.

Buddhist?

Interesting. I hope we can talk about that someday. I've been looking into Buddhism and Hinduism to see what I can glean self improvement wise. There is good stuff in there. Really good stuff.

Buddhist is what I call myself, because it sparked the beginnings of my spiritual refinement, but I learn from all cultures and assimilate what I find to what I practice - recently I've been reading into Stoicism, which has amazing similarities to early Hindu thought.

Comparative religion is a bit of a hobby of mine, and I'm always down for discussion.

I've recently taken an interest in Hinduism because I met a Krishna follower. He ended up not being the filled with love real deal that Krishna is, but what I've read and seen seems powerful and interesting. Like you, I incorporate different religions and philosophies from all sources (even working on creating my own).

If you had a discord that could work. I might join the Navy for a few years myself, oddly enough.

I've been meaning to read the Bhagavad Gita - currently working on the Dhammapada. My name on discord is Carthago delenda est, I just recently made one, so still learning how it works.

I'm in the submarine fleet, so my experience is vastly different than the rest of the Navy - we're a completely different culture.

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I have an idea.
I'm doing OMAD 5 days a week and a 48 dry fast once a week, with the firm belief that carbs are the devil. Whether or not you agree with this doesn't matter, it's not the point.
>Every time I fuck up and carb-load, which is once every other week, I incorporate a lifestyle change with the mentality of "I am doing this as punishment for my choices" to motivate me.
>Fuck-up 1: Have to get up at 5AM and run to the gym, instead of driving at 7PM, fuck-up 2: No more fucking around. I now have to follow an uber-strict daily schedule, etc.
And on and on and on until I either have ascended or stopped cheating entirely. Would this work?

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Picture of Dorian Grey and am about half way through Moby Dick.

Never used to read at all but have finished 12 books so far this year and am really enjoying it. Feels good