Which do you want more? Acceptance of others or acceptance of yourself? Which is more useful? What is the ONE constant in your life?
/sig/ Basics: >YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do. >Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. >Meditate ( Guide: youtu.be/F0jedwTzIJg - important: relax your jaw, lips almost parted ). >Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones. Use digital Calendar reminders. >Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. >Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego. >Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once, you’ll burnout. Little by little.
Will a cigarette a day give me test gains by blocking estrogen?
Adrian Russell
i bought a thing of butter pecan tarts and ate all of them. eight.
Jeremiah Cooper
Why does it always seem like most people who do self help seem to settle for mediocrity? If you are gonna put all this hard work into something, why not something that you would be the first person to ever do or at the very least something only 1% of people who have ever lived will ever accomplish?
Luke Gray
Achieving complete liberation from mental constructs and social conditioning is rare as hell.
Most people settle for less because it's easier to live in delusion.
Aaron Collins
Then honor it
Sebastian Hill
But if you are going for self improvement and I mean true self improvement, shouldn't liberation from the social dogmas be the least you should strive to do? What's the point otherwise?
Nathaniel Barnes
Nice. I'm also trying to bulk, but don't have as much discipline as you, unfortunately.
Nolan Jones
Sharing it here to since it contains a lot of improvement stuff: Dumping my (semi unsorted) folder for you guys.
PLEASE read these 2 posts so you know what it is about: mega link in last line
I agree but most people who go towards "self-imporovment" are fucked up, or at least believe so, in some way. Otherwise they wouldn't think they need to fix something.
Lincoln Mitchell
career and social life are the only hard things The rest needs just proper dedication.
What are you struggling with exactly?
Ethan Murphy
For me it’s easier to do them together. If you exercise, you’ll drink more and you’ll be tired, so you’re more likely to go to bed early. That’s 3/7.
How the fuck do I get over my fear of being touched. So I'm in a lot of lower back pain at the moment and know I need a massage, but I'm so self-conscious of my body I don't want anyone touching me.
I would say i tend to self improve because it helps me become the best version of myself. Everybody have something they need fix about themself, and everybody properly have a diffrent view of what ''making it'' is. Just because you want to change doesn't mean that you are fucked up. What do you mean by fucked up also. I take issue with that for some reason.
Ryan Martin
Just think about what kind of lard asses get massages, you'll be a breath of fresh air to the masseuse
Charles Lopez
>Autism
William Morales
I have a comfy life and am above most anons around me. But I know I can get more and improve my life. So why should I stop?
Self improvement is not always about fixing broken stuff but even more enhance the current level.
Carter Evans
I would assume too much focus on improvement is unhealthy. Got to balance it out with rest, introspection and meditation.
After quitting my vices nothing really feels fun. I can laugh with my friends but it feels empty and fleeting. Binging video games six hours a day was fucking over everything else, but I was content during those times. Setting and achieving goals was a great replacement, but now that I reached a certain level/flat, things don't seem too appealing.
Luis Johnson
everything in moderation and in the right amount.
I feel you, I got myself a goal which will take me a dew years to reach with a lot of small steps. I really want to reach that goal so I have some motivation. But yes, a lot of fun is gone but it is ok. Being a normie is a fun life in the matrix. Once you unplugged yourself (I am really sorry for the matrix comparison but it is really fitting) you know the truth but a lot of simple fun is gone.
Fair comparison. Plugging in isn't an option, unless you want to feel miserable for other reasons, again.
Hunter Cruz
when building habits, is it better to focus on it one at a time (meditate for two weeks, then add exercise habit) or can i do them simultaneously
Luis Cox
Well I do have autism.
David Morris
Generally multitasking is harder than focusing on one, but it's also very easy to make many little changes. So i'd suggest you focus on one big one and do a lot of little ones, but never focus on multiple things, take challenges one at a time. I'd suggest you start lifting first and add protein to diet. Then as lifting becomes a habit focus more on cleaning up the diet. I think that's a good example of what i just described.
Connor Powell
That may be true but I sffer from body image issues and don't believe I should be touched until I look fit and healthy. No one should have to have their hand touch my fatty areas.
Mason Gray
Do both. You can start meditating in few minutes sessions, anyways.
Brandon Turner
Why is it whenever I'm at a cross road of my life and have to make an important decision I feel so helpless, stunted and useless? I admire individuals who can take their life as theirs and do things that they deem important, but acting out in the same manner to do so seems easy at first, only to be realized that this shit is hard. I don't want this "thing" to be any easier, but I wish I could be more confident in myself. I don't like the idea of my life being dictated by others but at the same time it seems like I let them do it for me, like my family.
Ive been learning French for a year doing classes once a week and doing duolingo on the phone during the week when im on the shitter. I just feel like when I learn something new I forget something old. For example some of the words ive not touched in class for 3-6 months I just forget.
Any tips other than moving to France?
Easton James
Consistency is key. Dedicate one hour every day to studying the language. If you can find a decent textbook read that. Once you finish with the textbook start reading other stuff in the language. For example, if you're learning French then go to LeMonde and read a couple of articles there. If you want to get an idea for the sound of the language, find a TV show in that language. Or say you like watching football, find a French stream. But as I said, the most important thing is that you are consistent.
Daniel Wilson
Listen to the radio on your free time (when you don’t have to listen to something else)
Jaxon Gutierrez
This
Chase Diaz
Surround yourself in it. Play vidya in french, read books in french, change your UI language to french and so on and so forth. It's how I learned english as a kid
Julian Myers
The more someone attains freedom from mental and social conditioning, the more harmoniously they will naturally live with their surroundings ( "social gains" ). Conflict arises from opposing views threatening each other. The better you realize your innate freedom, the less threatened you are by views opposing yours. The less conflict there is, obviously the easier it is for you to navigate social situations - even ones where your views ( "I am free" ) are extremely threatening to others ( "I don't want to admit that there is such freedom because I'd have admit that freedom is within me as well and it's too much responsibility" ). More open people will naturally be drawn to you because you're easy to get along with - you won't make them feel stupid or wrong because nothing they do can shake your inner foundation. You also are more compassionate because you know by the experience of shedding your shackles, how much they weigh - a person who has always lugged them around has no idea what it feels like to be without. This will become charisma in it's finest form. People will come to you, look up to you and want to be like you ( except those who are too afraid of facing themselves - and you won't miss those people, though you will, again, naturally feel compassion towards them ).
You are thinking in terms of "rules". Then you will meet conflict and suffering because inevitably, you'll keep running into people with different rules ( that they think are just as correct as you think yours are ). People on /sig/ are always looking for a new and "better" set of rules to follow because they can't even begin to imagine that their whole belief in "rules" is the reason they feel the need to improve in the first place.
Alternative route is to adopt a set of rules and only hang around people who follow the same rules. It remains the easier route... so long as you can avoid people with conflicting rules.
I'm not sure I understand what you mean. By "people who do self improvement" do you mean the people who read books on this subject and such?
If so, I can speculate a bit. Self improvement as a concept is addictive. Besides, it has to be applied towards something. You can feel great sense of achievement when you know what do do, but you may become blind because you have no object to apply it to.
What do I mean? Self improvement information is applied knowledge, and you must have areas of interest to improve upon.
It is very easy to know how to improve but due to a lack of abundance of like not have what do improve - - no skills to be improved, for example. However, knowing how to improve skills give you the illusion of wisdom because you can Talk, oh you can TALK, and you can THINK about it a whole lot.
The other possibility is people, through self improvement, manage to find inner peace and stop striving towards something and seem to have stopped improving. All the people who stopped striving that I know, however, do it out of terrible anxiety. I only hear of these non-striving satisfied creatures in books about monks and sages.
Nicholas Howard
I do.
If I happen to masturbate, I give it my full attention, I aim to experience the pleasure fully. I don't feel any shame because it's just me, with my body, doing what the body wills to do. It's natural, it's sensual, it's pleasing and I venerate the experience with my full awareness.
And once it's over, I let it pass on it's way, without forming an attachment, thinking that I NEED to keep doing it, or that I NEED it to be even more intense or better. Because I don't. I accepted and consumed all of the experience as it was, and I'm at peace with that. If I feel like doing it again and again, I'll start to ask, why? Am I bored? Then why not do something else? I had enough of one thing, variety is key, temperance is a virtue; satisfy my needs with something else.
Language learning largely has to do with your innate ability to learn languages. The tabula rasa fags will tell you otherwise, but it's true. When I was in the Army, I was selected out of my entire brigade to learn some of the hardest languages the military has to offer. But before I even started, I had to take something called the Defense Language Aptitude Battery. Like the name implies, it's a test that assesses your ability to learn a language. If you score low, you won't proceed because they're not wasting time, money, and resources on you because it's highly likely you will fail. In my first 12 week block of instruction, I learned a language and was tested near fluent on it. Their teaching methods involve total immersion. You live and breathe that language for 8-10 hours a day. More importantly, you learn to think your thoughts in it.
I'm not attempting to discourage, it's just reality. I have a good friend who attempted to learn Spanish through high school, as well as college. Failed miserably. So first determine if language learning is even for you.
I'd advise you to pick a language, and dedicate a certain number of hours per week to it. You need to totally immerse yourself. Watch french programs without subtitles, try to pick out cognates, converse in french in your mind, and read children's books or newspapers in french. Don't just memorize a set number of vocabulary words per week, like they do in your typical American shitter high school. Thanks for reading my blog, good luck.
Angel Sanders
Guys I had the deepest realization. Buddhism is the broscience of self-improvement. That's why you end up with hundreds upon hundreds of little bits of "knowledge" passed from buddhistbro to buddhistbro, like the list of the 42 circles od suffering or all that mystic bullshit. There was this one guy who became big (psychically) and wisdom-mogged everyone and then everyone just repeated a number of half-truths about his methods.
You should probably actually read into occult and mystical practices before shitposting about them, frogposter.
James Rivera
just do mewing + meditating. :P. cool cool.
Bentley Jackson
Not the guy, but active social and romantic life are pretty damn hard to me. How do I you go about starting having an "active romantic life" if you've never been with a girl?
Carter Brown
what do you do when shit's tough and your environment is very unpleasant
Lincoln Young
Learn to deal?
Gabriel Diaz
how?
Isaac Sullivan
Do you really want to know, or are you looking for a magic pill that makes it all better?
Evan Garcia
Do you want to self improve, become the best version of yourself, physically and mentally?
Are you a man of principles and faith?
Do you do nofap, do you want to get the maximum out of life?
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there's an age limit, you need to be 21, or atleast not be so fucking retarded like most zoomer kids.
like meditation, nofap and ascending? this is for you.
i have a question bros im a student and there are days even weeks when my workload requires me to stay up late, i wake up at 5:30 - 6:00 to go lift, and i have to be in bed by 9:00-10:00 ish to get enough sleep so that i will actually go and not just sleep in until my class. last couple days the only ones of my peers who were able to finish all this stuff and do well were up till 3am.
i just dont know if my thoughts stem from the truth or from being lazy or wanting to shift the blame.
the way i see it, its not my job to stay up until 3am ever, for anyone else. and because i am paying for all of these classes it their job to make sure they are all planned out correctly and not forcing students to stay up so late.
my fear is that i go through a week of not exercising and i lose the habit that took me so long to build, then the depression comes back and i start eating like shit
It's great that you question if you are correct or just feeling lazy. Good on you.
Second, I don't think you are being lazy based on what you said. Unfortunately circumstances come up where there is simply too much being asked of you. You just have to make most of it.
I'd say consider your immediate priorities. Also, remember that if you keep telling yourself things like "I will fail", that will inevitably happen.
You know what the right choice is my man. You are just avoiding making it because you are telling yourself a story that is solidifying in your head the more you keep holding on to it.
I believe in you man.
Tyler Diaz
Well I've read the fudoshinmyoroku
Caleb Allen
How does one accomplish this?
Isaac Miller
Mom may not be supportive about lifting, but today she asked me if i signed up for bjj, so i'm very happy she's supportive about something. We were talking about martial arts yesterday and she approved of bjj when she looked it up. It took my by surprise, honestly. She doesn't want me to do judo or boxing, and doesn't like me lifting heavy, i get it, she's always going to worry and be protective, that never goes away. Call your parents if you haven't talked to them in a while (assuming you don't live with them), or give them a hug if you do, /sig/
Andrew Powell
Such an underrated post, fucking 10/10 user
Develop compassion by appreciating everyones own individual viewpoint and subjective reality, realizing we are all in this together, and essentially one at the end of the day. user was right, once you don't judge other's viewpoints, even if they "conflict" with your own, you will have inner freedom and outer freedom, and so will those you meet, because you are above challenging them. There's an Eastern term for this, "drala", it essentially means a state of having no enemies, being above the need for them, and seeing all as your equal.
You might need to meditate or at least dive into your spiritual side to fully grasp this concept.
Anthony Bailey
I've been dipping my toes into my spiritual side, but don't feel like I've really done anything. I read the Bhavagad Gita last year and am currently doing a daily Bible reading along eventually reading the Quaran and Tao Te Ching.
Nathan Sanchez
Oh, and been taking my meditation practice really seriously this year.
Angel Jones
You have to accept that it is possible ( for you too ). This is much harder than it seems because your Ego, your very sense of self is dependent on mental constructs. Ego reigns supreme over all of your experience and it won't easily be subjugated. I'm not telling you to get rid of your Ego altogether, but you need to realize that it is only a tool to navigate life with. Mull this over. Over and over. Write down "I am..." and start adding things that you think of yourself. Things you like, things you don't like. Take time with each thing and ask yourself what exactly it means to you and why you think of that.
"I am ugly". What is "ugly"? Unpleasing to look at? Who decided what is pleasing to look at? Is it an universal truth? Are you sure that EVERY person who looks at you would say that? Or are you just looking at media, ads, comparing yourself to that and seeing the difference. "I am smart". What is "smart"? Capable of solving the rubics cube in 1 minute? Capable of understanding complex physics problems? Capable of navigating an emotional mire of an exposed love-triangle? Is it the same as being wise? Why? Why not? Or are you just comparing yourself to people who in your opinion do things less optimally, and thus you feel intellectually superior?
Gradually, you should start to see what I mean by this being hard. It's like you are finally daring to take a look over the edge and realize the plunge is deeper than you could have ever imagined. And you have to take it. Your Ego will start to rationalize why this is all bullshit. Or it will start to look for shortcuts ( "just get rid of these negative self-images, that's enough right?" ). This might not be true for everyone but I'm inclined to say, the more resistance you feel, more fear you feel, the closer you are to facing it.
It's not a simple on/off switch. You work your way up to accepting your ability to do this at the same time as you work your way up to actually doing it.
>stop using shampoo for a week and a half >dandruff is gone What the hell. Someone redpill me on nopoo quick. Is it real or am I just losing my mind?
Alexander Hernandez
I would like to take this test.
Liked and subscribed.
Aiden Myers
Maybe you were using the wrong shampoo
Asher Lee
Would you be willing to share more about how you learned it specifically? Im trying to learn German and would like to know. I currently watch German tv with German subtitles but you mentioned not using subtitles. I try to immerse myself as much as possible.
I would like to become fluent enough to open up job opportunites.
Thomas Foster
Couple of anons told me to post again after reading my story. Here is an update
>parents died in late 2018 >left me with a big ass apartment that I had to renovate on my own because no money >parents left me with huge debt that I had to pay off >dog died 1 month after my parents died >no family left, no girl, no friends >uni wasnt going well >masturbated all day, playing guitar and smoking weed was my day >suicide was very close
>decide to just fuck it all and go all out in life >find a good paying job and another illegal job >paying off my paretns debt, almost done with it >slept in my car until I found a nice small apartment for 200€ >stopped, masturbating and smoking weed >stopped smoking cigs >started learning for uni (CS) >started eating healthy (cheap) and working out every single day >lost 50lbs so far >managed to get though all my exams and not fail once >get together with an old friend and hang out with him on a weekly basis >started saving up money >follow my strict daily routine like a maniac
I'm making it guys, I'm so close to free myself of every shit. After my weightloss I will try to dress better and find a girl. We all can make it if we put in the work. This story is not fake.
I dunno if it´s the same guy who always starts this thread, but kudos to you if it is. I´m staring to like these threads more and more.
Can´t I have a mix of acceptance, myself and others?
More useful? Probably others. Constant in my life? Probably me.
Books.
Not really enjoying that Meditations of Marcus A. Not a flowing read because of the language.
Am enjoying The Catcher in the Rye and Brave New World very much.
Christopher Price
The problem with Languages isn´t the remembering. The problem comes with interacting with people and having to understand them when they are talking at full speed and in a colloquial fashion.
Joseph Hernandez
>not a flowing read.
It's not conventional prose, it's more of a personal diary. You're meant to read maybe a page a day, and reflect upon it, and integrate it into your own life.
>self improve >join a tranny spyware botnet >is a frogposter
Go away.
Aaron Walker
I am sure you can find practice tests online. It basically features a made up language. You're provided with some rules, and then answer questions about the made up language based on those rules.
Sure. The languages I had to learn were Pashto/Dari. It was in a typical classroom setting. First, I was taught the alphabet (which you were expected to memorize in a day). Then introduced to the linguistic typology. Pashto for example, is a Subject-Object-Verb language. Every sentence follows that structure. Once you memorize key verbs, and have a decent vocabulary down, you can easily form sentences. Getting that structure imprinted in your mind is key, IMO.
The reason I say not to use subtitles is this. Have you ever encountered difficult math problems? It is easy to look at the answer and then go, 'Ahh, that's how that works', and move on. You feel like you understand. But you're missing out on a key aspect of learning, and that is working through the problem and really exercising your brain. That's how the actual learning happens. Trust me, it's more rewarding. I'd advise you to turn off the subtitles and listen to 30 second increments. At each 30 second block, stop the video, record what you think was said, and then check the subtitles for the answer. This way, you're actively learning.
Speaking to yourself or others in the target language is also very helpful. I think there are websites or apps that facilitate this. Read books too. IIRC, German is a category II language according to the military. If you actively learn, you will pick it up quite easily.
Juan Peterson
>unemployed, no idea if/when will get job, lots of interviews and interest but I'm never the top candidate for anything >trying to stay motivated and productive as my savings dwindles >just no fucking jobs hiring right now, maybe because it's winter and miserable >have to hold out another few months until lease is up and I can get a cheaper place, save money, live in a better economic area, and start unfucking my shit >feeling burned out, bitter, and miserable >another illegal job What was it and how did you get it? I want to join the mafia. Also good job bro. I wish apartments here were that cheap, damn.
Anthony Rivera
( The comment about acceptance in OP is worded a bit badly, sorry )
Accept yourself first, don't worry about being accepted by others. You accepting others comes naturally after truly accepting yourself.
Alexander Davis
>What was it and how did you get it? Construction work. Was able to find it though a guy who works at my legal job. Pretty much tax free money >I want to join the mafia haha dude >I wish apartments here were that cheap, damn. well its cheap because it looked like shit before I moved it, I had to renovate and do some work to make it look good. Its also like a ghetto, full of turks and shit. Its a very small apartment in a huuuuge house.
Ayden Brown
>You're meant to read maybe a page a day, and reflect upon it, and integrate it into your own life. This is pretty bad advice. Have you actually read Meditations? It has a couple of key points which are repeated over and over, they're just phrased differently. Which is to be expected from what was essentially his diary. Reading only a page a day is a waste of time.
Levi Robinson
Anyone have experience with walking dogs for pay? Thinking of applying to this app. Get paid to exercise, sounds good to me. doggos are cute. Oh alright, it's just under the table work. Man idk, fuck it all. I want to join the mafia, get to bust kneecaps for a living. Sounds good to me.
Is there any channels on YouTube you would recommend on Tantra? I have trouble reading ebooks and it will be awhile before I would be able to get a physical copy, but something to give me an overview in the meantime would be appreciated.
I took a class on Late Greek/Early Roman philosophy where I studied it in depth. Yes, it addresses mostly the same ideas, but each time, it's about a different aspect of his life. There's really nothing to be lost from just meditating on a few key passages a day. It's not a race. Otherwise, just skip the book and watch a youtube video for its salient points. It will probably be forgotten like everything else done that way.
Xavier Morgan
The more I'm trying to reach for these ideals the more I feel a struggle inside of me, basically telling me: you're becoming a NPC, a boring piece of shit with no personality whatsoever, a reasonable "good boy". I feel better in self-destruction than self-improvement.
Doesn't prevent me from improving, but I do feel like I'm moving away from having a personality even more, for about a year I've been the perfectly predictable Peterson boy, perfectly basic in any shape and form.
Any thoughts of that? I'm just starting mindful meditation, maybe it'll help, or maybe I need to be more impulsive on certain things.
I want to know. I mean honestly I am doing very well considering the circumstances. still, I would love to have some extra input
James Moore
I studied languages as my major, speak many, and work in the field of translation. Those are my credentials.
Firstly, dump duolingo and dump any other apps you might find. Duolingo is the biggest meme you can imagine - totally pointless. Classes aren't that useful unless it's a private class in which you're practising conversation in that language one on one.
You need to take an active approach to logically, and equally intuitively, figuring out how the grammar and patterns for vocabulary work. I like to find videos of people speak clearly and slowly, of which there are usually many online, with some even intended to be extra slow and clear for the purpose of learning. So what you do is you listen to that video through, and you watch the speaker too, just like if you were watching any video. Then you turn the subtitles on and you figure out what they're saying in one sentence and write it down, and you can use a dictionary or google translate to help work out what they're saying. You write the sentence down and you think about how it's structured, and what grammar points you can take from it. For example, if there's a verb there, think about what person the verb is in, and write down how to conjugate that verb (if there are conjugations in that language). If there are no conjugations in that language, then great, you've worked that out for yourself and can internalise it so that everytime you see a new verb you know how to use it. There are plenty of other examples. For example, if you find a noun in the plural form, figure out what it is in the singular, or how to say 'a chair' from when you see 'the chairs'. Stuff like that will help you internalise grammar you find, while at the same time figuring out the meaning of the words themselves will make it easier to memorise them, then by rote memorisation and trying to strain your memory glands (not a real thing).
Jaxon Morgan
Once you've learned how the grammar works using your own logic, you can begin to spot it everywhere, and then you intuitively will understand the structure of the sentence and pick up new words more easily using your logic to understand what they must be.
That, for me, is the real learning. Since I'm working at a professional level, it's a bit different, because instead I have to learn specific fields in a particular language rather than just ordinary conversation. It's the same idea though: active learning rather than passive. That's tough work, and it requires a short but intense period of study (half an hour is GREAT). If you start slipping, which you will, then it is equally valuable to just watch a TV show or film or listen to a podcast or whatever in that language and just let it play so you get used to the sounds and rhythm. With French especially, there are lots of words that are similar or identical to the English, so even at a low level you'll be able to recognise some words and familiarise yourself with plenty of new words.
Don't worry about speaking too much. If you don't have the opportunity to speak regularly then your speaking skills will tank. If I go a significant period of time without speaking that language (which I do) then I find it almost impossible to have a decent conversation in it until I get back into speaking it regularly, and my level is high for many of these languages. I can understand some perfectly but then the words just come out jumbled. The same can even happen with my English, which is my native language, if I haven't spoken it in a while. The same often happens to people when they speak for the first time in a day.
Speaking and listening are skills that you tune, not that you learn so much. You really LEARN a language by just understanding it, but you need to tune in to the speaking and listening to be effective at those. They can go a bit dormant until you get back into practice.
Connor Barnes
jesus christ you /sig/ faggots are so full of yourselves. you just jerked off its not a god damn out of body experience for fuck sake
Carson Robinson
I feel boring, I've been on self-improvement for about 3 years. If I'm on a bus, I can close my eyes and just relax but that's no help when it comes to social connections, (especially with girls). I just want to be quiet, don't really want to talk anymore but this isn't beneficial if I'm trying to build deeper connections.
How do I learn to be fun again/be more engaged in building a social life?
Seems like self-improvement is to a path of not caring and enjoying the present moment but at that point, you're becoming a tree just existing grinding out whatever passion it you like (i.e. lifting/studying all the time) which is pretty boring imo.
>24, work part-time at a gas station >trying to get into Uni to be an RN >volunteer once a week in a nursing home >go to night school Monday-Thursday to upgrade my Biology and English >entry into the nursing program is highly competitive >think about volunteering once a week in the hospital as well to get an extra edge >volunteer chick says she has hundreds of volunteers who come 6-7 days a week for 8-12 hours >wut >doesn't know if she'll be able to accommodate me as much as I can accommodate the hospital >I just want to volunteer >also need prior hospital volunteer experience to volunteer in a hospital >don't know if nursing home hours would beat out everyone else's hospital hours >starting to doubt if I'll ever even get accepted into Uni if it's this competitive >starting to doubt what all this has been for >don't know what to do anymore I could just spend 35 weeks and $7k to become a welder or 24 weeks and $4k to become an electrician. Why am I choosing the super competitive 4 year $50k nursing route while all my buddies are getting married and starting families with good trades? Why did I try so hard in high school and night schools for good grades when i could've done either of those trades this whole time? I haven't felt this upset and lost in years. Everything I've been working for feels so unrealistic now.
You should volunteer user, good for character development. Nursing homes are good places to build interpersonal and 'soft' care skills such as empathy and listening, they're as important as clinical ones. It sounds like there is a lot of competition but I think you should keep on trying if it's your dream. Don't worry about the late transition to work, nursing is a career that takes on people from all walks of life - your life experience will go a long way m8. >t. psyche nurse who qualified age 32 and now has house, wife and kiddos
Ganbatte! Might do you well to take some classes and take up a more creative hobby Classes mean you can focus on what you need to if you feel like being quiet or establish relationships with others who share the same hobbies as you In addition to what that user said - trades are easy to get into but are very hard on your body in the long run Welding comes with all sorts of cancers and all other trades come with a gurantee of knee and back problems Shifts can be very very long and you'll come home much more tired Sure it's great for them now but they'll really feel it as they age As well as that a trade will always be there if you "fail" but a career in nursing won't
Julian Wright
tandem.net/ use this to find native speakers and then talk to them on a regular basis
