I did it bros, after 6 months away I’m back in the gym and had my first sesh tonight. Shit was difficult and my lifts are pathetic but everyone’s gotta start somewhere.
>what’s something you’re proud of recently?
>what’s something you can improve on/do better in the near future?
Post motivation for other anons struggling. We’re all gonna make it
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Today I got up before 11 but I just played vidya all day instead of applying for jobs
Proud of recent gains, could be more confident.
>Been a month without drinking.
>Find social hobbies that revolve outside of drinking.
>start studying again after about a year of neglecting uni due to apathy/loss of interest. For some reason I just could not stop procrastinating up to 5 minutes before an exam, was a lot harder to overcome than I had thought.
>start seeing gains, diet is easier to maintain.
Whats bothering me is that I can´t maintain a steady sleeping rhythm. Some days I just don´t do anything at all, leaving me with a lot of energy so I just stay up later and later everyday. Any anons got tips for going to bed earlier and falling asleep faster? Going to the gym and studying hard help but often not enough.
After almost 10 months of searching, I’ve finally found the job that will be the beginning of my career. I’m moving into an apartment with my girlfriend and eventually getting married.
Truthbomb: if you aren‘t lifting to get better looking girls you probably had a shit face and never stood a chance in the first place.
Everything else is ugly cope
Feels like I have become a completely different person in the past 2 years.
I’m 28 now and I cringe at my past behavior.
>laziness
>blaming
>unmotivated
>complacency
>no understanding of human emotions
The only thing that changed was I started reading.
Reading everything I could get my hands on: novels, biographies, self help books, audiobooks during work, everything.
I don’t actively try to be different than my past self, but I just am. My current girlfriend who I’ve been with for over a year would absolutely never date who I was just 7-8 months before I met her. I was just a normal worker and now I’m on my way to owning my own company doing the same stuff I’ve been doing since I was 18.
It’s crazy how much people can change.
Brother from another mother, you just described my life.
>tips for going to bed earlier and falling asleep faster?
I did the usual stuff, wasn't easy to be honest. You'll have to set an alarm around the time you wanna get up (and definitely get up when it rings), less screen time before bed, no hot showers before bed, less sugar overall and more water.
Try to do some cardio or other activities that exhaust you, even if it's just an enthusiastic hike around the block.
You'll probably only sleep a few hours some days until you adjust, but after a week it should be much better.
>went out to a party on saturday and socialised even though I didn't feel like it at all
>spent sunday eating and relaxing with gf, never left the bed
>managed to sleep for eight hours (this is big for me), got up with gf around 9
>made a clear TO-DO list for the week (in physical, written down form - I recommend this to everyone who usually do one on their computer. It's much more satisfying and easy to keep track of)
>got to the gym, was feeling weak and still slightly hungover, yet did my program and only failed last set of OHP
But most importantly, after years of struggling with poverty, depression and insomnia, I'm finally staying on the program and keeping my shit together for four months now. Lifts are finally going up, I'm finally bulking like I mean it (gained 12kg over last year), I'm applying for jobs and getting shit done - without anti-depressants or over-reliance on caffeine.
If anyone here is struggling with sleep, anxiety and self-organisation, I urge you to limit caffeine to the mornings, cut all drugs, write to-do lists and most importantly, put sleep above all else. Even if you're just laying down at night and listening to podcasts with closed eyes, still better than endless loops of staring at your laptop/phone and then sleeping till 3pm.
We're all gonna make it, bros
Thanks user, I'll definitely try the no screen thing and drinking more water. The no hot showers thing surprised me, I thought it was the other way around.
Concerning getting up I do have a little cheat. I keep a can of energy next to my bed and drink about half the second my alarm goes. It's impossible to fall asleep afterwards and the sugar probably gets converted to glycogen anyway. I think it is the only scenario in which energy drinks are genuinely useful. Still getting up with willpower alone is better obviously.
>nazi song
Lol, you incels always play your hand too eatly. Get help my nigger.
Jow Forums is mega country nigger faggot
oshit a meme image reuploaded by an anonymous user has a nazi reference
better call him out for the racist bigot he is
Good on you user, keep it up.
>Be me circa 4 years ago (26 now)
>Start lifting/dating through apps/socializing more
>Get laid
>Decide I dislike partying, drinking all the time, and casual sex - going for the peaceful gf life
>Decided I didn't want to do this millennial bullshit anymore and just want a nice comfy life with a room containing squat rack, bed, table/desk, heavy bag, computer w/3 monitors, dog hanging out on the floor or with gf, watching horror /anime /documentaries /whathaveyou, shitposting, and/or playing some gay RPG with gf that I actually like spending time with on the bed reading or playing something or whatever and actually enjoying the same scene
>Swear of casual sex, keep dating with that in mind
>No luck, every girl I meet either in LTR or only interested in casual sex
>Realize to attract a woman I actually like who values stability, need to max out stability and charisma
>Make a plan to pay off student loans, get a car, get a dog, while becoming aesthetic
>Just payed off student loans, about to get car
>Moving to a more moderate-to-conservative city (don't give a fuck about politics, just want a good chance of sifting out poly/casual/open chicks)
>Towards the end of bulk phase, gonna start cutting (215 iLbs, figure cut to 185, then bulk again)
>Have apt. lined up with bro in new city, says he hasn't heard one chick talk about poly/open/casual since coming there
>Maximizing autism by watching romance/slice of life/action anime in my spare time, and walking around with acid jazz/animecore/lofi hiphop in my ear to get me in that protag mindset
We're all gonna fucking make it lads
Going out on a sesh used to depress me when I was younger. I stopped drinking altogether when I was 21.
Try a martial art mayne
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jokes on you girls are gross
Based user you're an inspiration
Get as much sleep as you need. I go to sleep when I'm tired and wake up naturally. It's unfortunate that most people don't get enough sleep. Very self destructive.
Good work user
Just finished treatment for a herniated disc.
I’ll try to not forget about working out my core more frequently
honestly i've been doing reaaallly badly, stopped going to the gym and taking my meds, had been drinking almost daily, and i've been fucking binging on junk food for 2 weeks straight, all the weight i had lost is back on me.
but i'm going to better myself, bros, tomorrow im going to the gym again, gonna stop drinking and smoking weed, and i made a psychiatrist appointment, i really wanna get better :(
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I want to see the better world I want to build superimposed on the dark world around me.
I want to be a better brother to the ones around me. I don't want to be bitter and sharp.
What I am proud of recently?
I did manage to express my true feelings, which I've always been terrified of and repressed. I did so without angst or dependence on outcome. It feels good to be true to oneself.
I hope the best for all of you, and wish you future energy to be constant and a positive force.
Dude that sucks. If it's any consolation you always have the power WITHIN YOU. You changing your life for the better, that ability, or window of opportunity, has always been there and will always be there
I've recently gotten over this, the trick is setting alarms for when you should go to bed rather than for when you wake up, plus staying out of your house/room as long as possible each day.
First try pushing your bedtime to around 11pm, then to 10pm, after a few days of sleeping at 10pm I've been waking up naturally a little before 7 every day, with an extra alarm set at around 8 just in case I oversleep
Yeah it is, I lived six years like a fucking disgrace and it's awful. Feelsgood to be a bloomer.
>setting alarms for when you should go to bed
This is good advice
>i made a psychiatrist appointment
good shit user, you're on your way.
don't sweat it and take things step by step, and don't look back.
I just turned 27 recently and I'm still a NEET living with my single mother.
I don't have any goals, aside from fitness goals. What am I supposed to want in life? I've never been interested in relationships or sex and I've never been interested in money. I'll do odd jobs for family members and just ask them to pay me in food or gas money. I have almost $1000 saved up from shit like birthdays, Christmases, or odd job work that have just accumulated because there's nothing I want to buy.
The only times I feel sad are when I get texts from my drug addicted dad that constantly berates me for being a loser that still lives with his mother, and then he begs me for money so he can buy more drugs. Although I am also disappointed that I can't be a mad scientist. I always looked up to the "villain" mad scientists in cartoons that were doing unethical experiments to further humanity. After my first year of Pharmacy school, I realized just how much everything cost and how well everything was regulated. There's just no way for me to genetically engineer cat girls or create my own black market designer baby market in an underground lab with the ultimate goal of creating a new supreme race of 160 IQ athletes with superhuman strength kicking off the great eugenics war.
How do you find a new goal when you find out the only real thing you want in life is unattainable?
>the trick is setting alarms for when you should go to bed rather than for when you wake up
thats fucking brilliant, thanks user
>single mother
No wonder you turned out to be a loser.
Leave the house no matter what
Why? My mom is my only friend, and it's too expensive to buy a house.
You have your health and your fitness goals, plus you are still young m8.
A good idea for your savings is to invest them long term.
Maybe meditate 20mins a day.
God bless you.
>My mom is my only friend
That is just so fucking sad.
Proud of my wife or maintaining saint-like patience when dealing with her boderline personality disorder daughter. Proud of plowing through school and getting closer to finishing my degree. I'm proud that I stop myself from complaining and belittling people and instead of enjoying their achievements and encouraging the great moving forward.
I can improve my bench, my deadlift, my routine for making to the gym and consistency in my diet.
Everyday we can renew our virtues and make them habit.
Honestly its better to just say that you have no friends.
Nice post man. You manage to live ok with bpd wife?
>boderline personality disorder daughter
There's like a 90+% chance that you fucked up her upbringing, and that's why she's like that. Just saying.
>>what’s something you’re proud of recently?
The bulk is going well, making solid gains.
>>what’s something you can improve on/do better in the near future?
I've reduced my porn intake a lot (down to 1x per week), now I just want to force myself to get rid of that 1 too. I also should ask that girl out.
If I'm happy, why does it matter to you how many friends I have?
Investment seems like a good idea, I should open a bank account and try my hand at the stock market or something. Could be fun too, thanks buddy.
It's an everyday struggle, starting a new medication regimen so we will see how it goes in two weeks.
No offence taken, we are trying to see what happened between the years of 2 and 4 or during what other developmental period things went to shit.
It doesn't. I have plenty of friends but don't see them that much because I prefer to be alone. I've also been a loner pretty much all my life and I like it that way, so I don't see it as a sad thing.
But idk man, being friends with your mom... Your mom is not your friend, she's your mom. Treat her that way. Being friends with your mom sounds like a step towards incest imo.
Just started lifting again after a 6 month break. Lifts somehow miraculously barely even fucking go down at all, but the doms were so bad I could barely move. I think staying active and eating clean during the break helped. Was focused on studying and my career and was burnt out, but it paid off. Got promoted from a 40k/yr position to 60k/yr position with a guarented route to 100k/yr with solid performance, and soon I can get away from the city permanently where I can raise kids, work from home outside in the sun on a laptop, while dicking off, lifting, and playing with my dogs in between work. Meanwhile my wife is about to graduate from a dental hygiene program as a member of several honor societies with a 4.0, so she can be a part time housewife like we've both always wanted. I think I'm making it lads.
Did your wife start working too early or something? Not show love to her? Not have enough skin-to-skin contact or eye-to-eye?
Also, other things to investigate are
>no consistent rules/borders for the kids (too much of this is bad as well)
>"no frustration" parenting, i.e. giving in to every wish and whims of the kid
There's a higher risk of divorce if you cohabit with your partner before marriage.
Yeah but it's not too high. Her being a virgin is much more important.
I hear ya dude I fell off the gym around may or June last year and now I'm on my third week of lifting again it feels good to be taking care of myself.
Can't wait to hit chest tonight.
I just call her my friend because we have a lot in common. We go hiking together, running together in the mornings, similar interests (she's a Pharmacist and I went to school for Pharmacy). Neither of my parents were particularly authoritative when my sister and I were younger, unless we were being bratty or clearly doing something wrong, so I guess that has always made it seem like my parents were more friends than actual parental figures. I do want to note that my sister and I almost always chose the objectively right thing to do in most situations and never gave our parents the opportunity to chastise us.
Im big homo thoe
As of this morning I am free from porn, kinky sex toys, cigarettes and alcohol. I deleted 10 years worth of porn, including the stuff I made with my ex and my roommates girlfriend. I deleted all pictures, music and documents tying me to the past. I threw out my expensive vape and all the juices that went with it.
If you don't want people to find out, don't do it. So that's that.
I want to be like you when I grow up
>be 27, living with mom and dad and paying rent
>have mba degree and no debt
>work for my dad's business
>single with $25k saved up
>been lifting on and off since i was 14
>trying to avoid vidya during the week to practice piano 1 hr a day after work before the gym
>reading the Bible every night, just finished Mark, and attend a home bible study every Friday night
things that i need to figure out:
>commute to LA, been spending 4 hours every day driving, leaving barely any time to do other things
>don't want to be a wagie, want to work for myself, but not passionate about anything, and am a jack of all trades master of none
>scheduled dentist appointment
>got prescriptions filled (daily thyroid)
>have stuck to diet plan with only a few slip ups
>filed tax return
>will go and hit PR for deads and The Press™ later
feeling good about this monday my dudes.
my life is better than ever, but at the moment I'm feeling like shit bc I drank about 1.5l of milk, ate half a kilo of greek yogurt and fapped twice. Shit makes you feel down. Tried making music in the style of bowie but only got 4 chords down
almost a month without weed. after smoking it almost everyday for a little over 10 years (give or take a year or a month or few weeks of abstaining) I've finally gotten hold of myself and gone cold turkey.
first two weeks were hell because one of the reasons I stayed with it as because it cured my insomnia.
but even after a month my thinking is clearer. not just in having that shit out of my body, but from the harsh reality of the times ive wasted but isntead of feeling sorry about myself i see it as a challenge. im doing a lot more positive and have been even finished a draft of my latest writing project today!
Just landed a position at the job I really wanted. Feels good
>commute to LA, been spending 4 hours every day driving
Get a motorcycle. Not even kidding. Your commute will be cut in half at least. I can typically get anywhere in LA at any time in roughly 30-45 minutes.
The entire city literally opens up to you when you ride a motorcycle.
Today i finally drew something im not disgusted by. School is sucking up all my free time but we'll all make it bros, sometimes you have to put your dreams on hold.
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Am I the idiot for reading LA as Louisiana instead of Los Angeles?
Girlfriend broke up with me due to various reasons (nothing negative just stuff like her moving across country for school to her hometown soon), the pain is great but this fire burns. Went to the gym and had some great lifts, any advice on trying to get over it?
Riding a motorcycle sounds like it would be fun, and easy to get everywhere. But i dont want to be killed by a zoomer texting and driving on xanax
Pretty cool user, what is it? Looks like a scene from berserk
Good job user
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Elisha Long the godpilled Leb is helping me regain control and spit out blackpills
haha thanks user. You guessed it. Glad I found a manga i can relate to on many levels, it's helping me fight my own demons
Some of us do actually do it for general fitness and health. You know, the people that do have respect for their body and dont need someone else for validation.