Eye contact

How to improve eye contact skills? It takes conscious effort for me to maintain it. I tend to look away as soon as I catch someone's eye.

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If eye contact is overwhelming:

1. Focus on the space between their eyes, or

2. Consciously “flatten” your vision while looking someone in the eye; blur your vision on purpose, in other words. Gets easier with practice.

Makes it a little easier and people won’t notice you doing it. You don’t need to overdo it. Normies are as put off by too much eye contact as too little.

Smiling really helps to no feel weird when looking someone in the eyes

Bad advice, that's dodging the problem.

>my shower gets too hot
oh just turn on the cold a little bit
>THAT'S NOT SOLVING ANYTHING

Wouldn't it seem rude if my eyes glaze over while they're speaking?

Well I’m in the same boat, here’s what I’ve learned.
In college when I began to look a lot better. Lost weight, got tall, started lifting. girls were actually always looking at me. And I was always darting my eyes down when I made eye contact. I began consciously focusing on holding it. After I was friendzoned by some art thot I became very bitter towards women and decided being a beta maybe wasn’t the best idea if I wanted to fuck pussy so I put in a ton of work. Heres where I think I fucked up. I would hold the eye contact until the girls looked away, it was hard the first few days but after a week I was getting off on it. It made me feel powerful (yes I know this is pathetic). I also started to get a lot stronger and bigger so I figured fuck it I’ll have these “stare downs” with anyone I want and began doing it to men too. I don’t think trying to be an intimidating cunt is the right way though. I would instead simply force yourself to hold people eyes when you make eye contact until they look away first even if it’s just passing a random stranger on the street. Simultaneously if you “get on your purpose” (set and follow goals, work to make money even if some shitty minimum wage weekend job, get your health in order so eat right and lift do liss cardio atleast 4 days a week, etc.) the confidence will follow.

So many dudes don’t fucking realize why they’re insecure and unconfident bitches. You unconsciously know you’re not doing shit right if your not taking care of busisness. Yes there are guys who can be confident as shit sleeping on someone’s couch no car with a pot belly, but 99% of guys are not that nigga and you don’t wanna be.
Eye contact is as in your genetic makeup as smiling and scowling. You KNOW how to be normal with eye contact. Start doing the shit you should be it wil just begin happening, granted you need to go outside and be around people too, you can’t just be a hermit and expect to feel good doing social shit.

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Bad, eye contact should just be normal and happen naturally. This can be a good way to gradually “get your feet wet” so to speak though
This, which is my post, is the way to go

I don’t make eye contact with anybody

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>I would hold the eye contact until the girls looked away, it was hard the first few days but after a week I was getting off on it. It made me feel powerful (yes I know this is pathetic).
lol, this is kinda true

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Low T.
Staring people down is the best feeling.

I think it’s helpful for people who find eye contact overwhelming or cognitively demanding. Normies are programmed to think “no eye contact = no confidence” but I’m assuming those may be entirely separate issues in some cases.

I think it is usually just confidence. It can be caused by a lot, like shame, guilt, insecurity. Like if I were beat off 10x right now and then immediately leave the house and go get groceries I wouldn’t be able to look my cashier in the eyes. That’s not to pull nofap into this, just an example. Like I still suffer from the eye contact issue, I was doing great after I put in the work but circumstances have brought me back. I know how it is to not know why it’s so hard to look people in the eyes when there’s no immediate reason for the issue too.

But I do see what you’re saying, I think that’s simply a bandaid for a much bigger issue though. I perosnally would rather be able to make eye contact and do any social behaviors normally rather than have to consciously focus on doing them. Whether we’re normies, dumb, smart, autists, were all just humans and these are things we should be able to do.

I grew up with a parent who said "look at me" before he would punch me in the mouth so I associate eye contact with getting knocked the fuck out. I'm trying to improve but I think people can see that I'm really uncomfortable.

Dude take up Muay Thai or boxing. It will be the greatest thing for you in your situation. It will probably be harder as fucking shit for you at first, but a few times sparing or getting hit and you’ll make a complete turn around

I find it's easy to do unless I've fapped a lot recently or am just exhausted in general.

>I grew up with a parent who said "look at me" before he would punch me in the mouth

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Lol somebody went to the wrong rehab

Shouldnt have trusted mom to call the 800 number huh champ

I fucking hate people.

nofap, and improve your social skills