Mine comes from this story....I was talking to some chick at the bar, and at the same time some long haired, bearded soiboi dude looking like those posted here posing with their mouths open wide, was trying to flirt with her.
After sometime of him trying to flirt, I say to this chick "I think that guy likes you", and she looks at me with a look of disapproval, and tells me "it would be an insult for me if a guy like that liked me"...I laughed my ass off, and realised how cruel and evil women can be, by judging someone just from their appearance.
Funny thing is, that outside the bar, I heard that nu-male talking to some of his friends with Jow Forums / reddit reffrences
>Tfw you realise you're just trying to make the best of your insignificant spec of a timeslot that is your life and you're just going to be cucked by your own inenvidable entropic decay in the end
wow, so guys who spout memes and Jow Forums nonsense IRL struggle to attract women in social situations? Get right outta town...
Grayson Gray
i literally caught oneitis like 3 weeks ago and it hurts my heart so fucking much, i lift so i can feel less anxiety whenever i think about who shes talking to or if she'll ever like me. I hate this oneitis shit
Elijah James
I'm a narcissist. Nothing more.
Jeremiah Young
When it comes to women I care mostly about appearance. I want to have a happy family, the white picket fence etc and I have an ideal of how this would be. First I want my children to look like me, I want them to be tall, and I want them to be attractive. Essentially this means I am trying to make myself as Brad tier as possible to attract something close to A Stacy.
Unfortunately I seem to have made a huge mistake somewhere along the way and think obsessively lifting weight will somehow fix my problem with women instead of being more social. Now, I am less social than ever to the point that when women approach Me I am actually terrified of them finding out I am an antisocial loser that obsesses over his image, they will see me for the unlikable fraud that I am and abandon me.
These aren't problems I've created though. I've always had a problem with anxiety and feelings of inadequacy and been extremely sensitive to criticism for some reason. Lifting and looking attractive is just a symptom of me hurting inside and hoping if I just make myself look better the pain will go away.
>Be couple years ago on a date with qt in high school. >I started lifting but was DYEL acoording to Jow Forums >I managed to start lifting with the football team cause they were impressed I wasn't a soiboi >Girl tells me," I think alot of the guys that look at you just want to be like you. Cause you're hot but damn they all keep staring." >I laugh and say it's just cause I'm with a hot qt 3.14 >"No user they stare at YOU, not me." >Kek internally cause I was self conscious 24/7 and took it as an insult and a reason to lift maxx and lookmaxxing.
Because when you don't look like shit you realize Tinder chicks are all vapid broads.
It's quite fun. Try it I'm serious.
Samuel Cox
been an ugly skelly most of life started lifting just to look like a human being now i'm kind of attractive already, just doing it for pure vanity
>realised how cruel and evil women can be, by judging someone just from their appearance. they are, i hang out with a group of f*males from uni and their level of cruelty towards men is something scary (if a man says that kind of shit about women publicly he'd be socially shredded to pieces) just a little appetizer: they speculate how good men fuck by their behavior
>Now, I am less social than ever to the point that when women approach Me I am actually terrified of them finding out I am an antisocial loser that obsesses over his image, they will see me for the unlikable fraud that I am and abandon me. This is the most relatable post I've seen on this site in years
Connor Stewart
I've discovered that looking good is the thing that means the most to me in life. I'm not insecure or trying to cope, I enjoy working on my looks. It's something I'm passionate about.
The only prob is that I can't talk about it and you have to make it seem natural.
I only go to the gym because my self esteem is so low and my face is so round that I want to look presentable for my oneitis bf. It's been working for 6 years so I can't stop now.
Owen Rivera
I think about my future sons and my daughters having a strong father. I think about teaching them to be strong too.
Jack Adams
I'm a recovering anachan; I want to sculpt my body into something more human. Our biology is a spectacular thing. Despite depleting my body of essential nutrients, it still manages to keep me alive and fight diseases. Imagine how much more my body could do if I treated it right. I want to find out. That's my motivation.
Sure I'm vapid too. But why rub it in for ugly chicks? Or ugly dudes if you're a girl or gay? You can just be nice.
Julian Williams
Having a son (and first child) in just over a month. My son will know his father as not being a lard-ass.
I lift for the unborn.
It's only too bad I really am losing my love for my wife, and I don't know for how much longer I'm willing to put up with her and her issues.
Austin Allen
Why don't you like your wife user?
Austin Collins
Because it took me years to realize everyone just says "be urself" without the supporting rhetoric of being the best you humanly possible. Once you start doing the things that make you physically and mentally successful, people start to show disdain because you're out working while they took the weekend off to party and you get ahead. Arnold said something along the lines of while you were out goofing off another guy was in the gym working his ass off (creative liberty there). I kind of live by that mantra that if I can put more effort in at the time I will while also balancing out the need for recovery and rest.
It led me to understand I am not perfect and must struggle, something that makes me feel alive. And if I dont enjoy that feeling it's time to chill out or relax, maybe reward myself because the next time I show up it'll remind me just how much progress I had just possibly lost.
William Hughes
Clingy, worries too much. Has a very Disney-fied fantasy outlook on marriage and relationships. I was a very independent person before her and had very little in the way of relationships. What started as a nostalgic pining for a girl from my HS years has actually encouraged me to get back into shape and take more control of my life. I'm rediscovering my sexual value and I really want to have the kind of fun I didn't let myself have during my teens and early 20s. I feel like I settled because it seemed like the best thing to do at the age I did (almost 32 now), now is better to have a family age wise
Brody Sullivan
Sounds like she deserves better too
Kevin Robinson
Know that feel bro. Either talk to her about your issues and work them out like adults(lol women adults) for the sake of your son. Or dump her and enjoy the powerflip of turning 30 and being just a tiny bit fit makes you a literal 9.5/10 to women unless your face is absolute trash.
Benjamin Rodriguez
Cont.
Half the time I just want her to go away and quit being a distraction. The financial and emotional security of always having someone to come home to is nice but she's a damper on where I can go and what I can do with my life plain and simple.
I will say that I do take my wedding vows seriously and so much of what I did was to make her happy because it seemed like right thing to do. If I could convince her to allow for an open relationship, at least for me, I would totally do so. But naturally she would say no though I like to joke around about banging other women to her and she knows I would if given free reign. I don't want my son to have a broken home either, and this all feels like a no-win scenario.
Brayden Edwards
Shit, my future better not be like this. I can't maintain a relationship for more than a couple weeks because women get so boring. It's like watching the same movie over and over again, and I'm not talking just about sex. Everything gets boring. Maybe we're meant to be lonely forever.
Isaiah Ramirez
Tbf she's not that ugly. Just a big forehead. How dare you call someone ugly.
James Price
She thinks she has it great AFAIK. Regardless of how many low key fights we sometimes have and how easily she devolves into bawling her eyes out (she cries at the drop of a hat), she likes to tell me how lucky she is to have me. A lot of it has to do with losing her dad when she was 18.
Cameron Lewis
>women get so boring Relationships get boring; they're not supposed to be a constant high. Many women feel this way about men, but they don't have the urge to walk away from their vows or cheat. This is just fucking depressing.
She says that, but I know I said I had it great despite being with someone who abused me. Minimize and deny is a thing we humans do. She seems like the kind of person who needs a stable and consistent figure, but you are the type who wants to try everything on. It's not a good match senpai.
Ian Butler
With such a surplus of prospective mates, there is a lot to be distracted by. It's easy to want to trade up to something better.
Easton Ortiz
Mins sharing more about your plan? I’m interested
Julian Rogers
I know this feel too bro, I like looking good
Gavin Miller
Yeah I just want to naturally branch out and extend my strength and experience. I really did miss out on so much fun in my youth. I was also worried about looking like a failure or not doing the right thing like my parents who lived out their vows to the day my mom died (I was 13). I don't want to disappoint my family but the urges are so strong now.
Joshua Miller
I agree she's not that ugly, but I wouldn't talk down on somebody unprovoked anyway. Negativity is not the way to live.
Angel Gutierrez
Well thanks user but there’s not much to share - just the basic principle of being in peak physical condition + making actual “adult” money + owning a house + no drinking, drugs, porn, etc. Just basically getting my shit together, having all my ducks in a row, etc.
Nicholas Thomas
Are you me?
Josiah Jones
I like feeling good and it's impossible to truly feel good if your an out of shape and dont take care of yourself
You're an adult who has to make his own decisions, good luck whatever you do. I would just hate to be the woman in that situation. Imagine raising the child with a man you vowed your life to, who said he'd protect you for as long as you both shall live, but he's out test driving some random's pussy. It's an absolute inhalation of trust despite all the shitty things in her life she's been through, and was vulnerable enough to tell you. Many males will now look down on her if she tries to date, for marrying you, as if it were her fault you just found out marriage wasn't your thing.
This is why I'm terrified of relationships. I can't imagine feeling comfortable with someone for years, and suddenly having the rug ripped beneath me for no other reason than, "I just want to try other people out." People aren't things; they have individual feelings and aspirations. All of who she is meant nothing to you. It's pure sociopathy.
Matthew Scott
Because why would you not want to max out your genetic potential? It’s a waste of a life to not be the best you can be.
Connor Lee
She's been the only love I've had my life. And you mention people having individual feelings and aspirations. I told her how much I wanted to get my private pilot's license (and maybe commercial) last week as part of my long term goals and she immediately quips that she wants to go through the process too. She always has to think about worming her way into something just because I like it. But she thinks I have to like what she does or has to be a part of it all the time. I highly respect a good number of her activities and actively encourage her participation in them, but she tries to get me involved directly when I don't want or need to be. This is a fair bit of our relationship dynamics. She wants all of someone whereas I only need part. Arguing with her over what marriage is or should be always ends up being an insightful probe into how we each think.
Tyler Harris
Have you tried telling her that you don't want her involved in everything you do? I know you probably have, but in a way she understands. I know if my partner didn't want me to be in everything he does I'd respect it, but being a pilot sounds ambitious, and a thing I'd like to try as well. Is she genuinely interested in your aspirations, that she wants to do them herself? Or is she worming in, in a way that is clingy you mentioned in your first post? If it's "clingy," and it's consistent behavior from her in almost all aspects of your life, despite asking her not to, and she makes excuses for this behavior, the word you're looking for is "controlling" and the excuses are probably gaslighting. In which case, you're being abused and I would totally understand why you'd want to leave.
Thomas Howard
I've had to explain to her that I don't want to be around her 24/7. That was some time ago and she's been more willing to find things to do for herself that she likes and wants. She's not manipulative as much as I would say she's sorta codependent in a sense fueled in part by a Disney fantasy mentality coupled with a traumatic loss and a totally broken family that preceded it. She's relented some in the 3 years we've been married thankfully for both our sanities. Bringing up these issues I'm having will probably trigger crazy tears. She has some friends with an open relationship and we've had a serious discussion about how and why a couple could benefit from it if boundaries and expectations are laid forth and the individuals are respected. I know she would not stand for the idea in terms of possesiveness, and me in terms of self respect.
Jaxson Kelly
as "ghey" this is going to sound, tell her how you feel about her being involved in all parts of your life if it's at that point women think through their feelings; but this might greatly backfire on you to the point where she thinks you don't want her around at all, striking that "hey honey i love you but i gotta do my shit on my own sometimes" balance is tough
do you work on your car/other machinery? something you KNOW she won't be a part of? start doing that a bit more often, eventually/hopefully you'll start missing her more and if you grow colder towards her as sucky it would be for you your kid and her it might be time to call it quits
one of my ex's was like that, there was a point where i was living two lives one for myself and one for her. it was fun for a while but after that it became a chore to me so i cut it off, naturally it's not the same (youre married, we were in college) but acknowledging that fact was a solid one, we still hang out every now and then.
mostly because im not seeing anyone nowadays, i dont want to be that guy that hangs with his ex while in a relationship
Dominic Nguyen
bless you, user. you'll do it. we're all gonna make it.
Wow, I like that you made this a five year plan. It made me realise that too many people try to achieve too much in too short a time period. Gonna make a five year plan too, cheers mate :)
Luke Sanders
>Speculate how good men fuck by their behavior
I've noticed this shit too. And I guess it isn't surprising because I do that with my friends about women too. But it still makes me feel self conscious.
Jaxon Sullivan
I've been severely depressed for a long time. Lifting helps.
Easton Anderson
Holy shit bro, you're me. Replace son with daughter and we're basically the same person.
However I will say that your wife sounds significantly better than mine. The sex dried up in our relationship very early. And she never says anything along the lines of how lucky she is the have me. It is extremely helpful to have the extra childcare but honestly, I feel as though my wife just wants a relationship for the sake of checking off the box that says "relationship" and not because she's a good partner.
