What is the difference between being constructively critical of yourself, and being judgmental of yourself?
/sig/ Basics: >YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do. >Work your way to becoming the best YOU you can be - one step at a time. >Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. Use short-term Goals to keep yourself going. >Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones. >Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. Get 6-11 hours of sleep. More Info: pastebin.com/h4CDDtKu >Learn Mindfulnes Meditation. More Info: pastebin.com/0NMDEUNh >Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego. >Have the balls to follow any beliefs to their logical conclusion. Think critically, question everything. >If you need to put others down to feel good about yourself, you are putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on the people you look down on. >Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once, you’ll burnout. Little by little.
good morning /sig/, i hope you've all taken a cold shower this morning
Nicholas Ramirez
Cystic acne is back after a course of roaccutane. Been struggling with digestion since. Going to try see a new doctor this week to talk about my options. Considering going into the woods to fast for 7 days to decide on whether I should leave my girlfriend. Bad times are coming.
Nathan Morales
how do I get smarter /sig/? I'm clumsy and keep making mistakes and people are starting to talk about me as "that guy". I've tried writing down the things I have to do and being more careful when I do them but I keep messing up or missing something.
Asher Adams
Why the fuck do i feel so sick in the stomach, I stopped drinking soft drink and immediately I feel physically worse
Julian Ward
Withdrawal
Parker Cox
Maybe you wanna expand on that last part?
Jace Hughes
That's what I was thinking, but the more I did the less sense it made, been two weeks at this point but I'll stick through it anyways
David Stewart
People that talk about you in that way are not worth your time, dump them immediately. I had this problem a few years back where I'd forget words sometimes. At first I thought it was a consequence of being a NEET or speaking three languages. And I realized that there were two types of people in my surroundings- people who ignored this issue and helped me pick the words when I got lost. And cunts that made fun of it to draw more attention to themselves. I dropped the cunts from my social circle. Turns out I have a very mild case of dyslexia that was worsened by the stress.
Isaac Ward
Do you jerk off a lot? How about drink coffee? I find abstaining from the former and taking the latter (in responsible amounts) helped increase my focus and build confidence.
Ryan Anderson
I have tried everything to fix this shit. I'm mentally ill and think that the stress of staying with my girlfriend is causing the acne. Acne started at same time as I started dating her. Maybe I'm just going crazy. Staying with this girl with fucked up skin is very difficult. Social events are terrible and I don't eat anything apart from meat and fruit. Eating anything thing else results in undigested food in shit and weight loss even at caloric surplus. So basically I'm becoming socially incompatible and will drag her down with me. She's an amazing person so I want to let her go and continue her life in a better way.
Parker Myers
Didn't mean to respond to last user
Anthony Collins
>Completely quit porn and only jerk off once a week. >Since then I talked to a girl seriously but it fell through and I completely blame myself for that. >Now a ravaging sense of loneliness gnaws at me. >I can't help but feel a tad jealous of my friends who are in love with their gf's. >Swing from intense motivation to improve myself and wallowing in grief How do I move on from this?
Anyone ever got a sebaceous cyst removed, mine is on jawline and am wondering how bad the scar would be
Nathaniel Evans
Anyone have some good shit for sexuality? I know it sounds meme but I'm at the age where I'm worried I've never had the urge to date anyone, I still jerk off and find people aesthetically pleasing but my own family shits on me for never having a girlfriend, I'm not sure if emotional abuse fucked me up or if there is a term for this
user, take a breather. Finding a solution to acne takes time! Go see the other doctor before doing anything rash, but also look into homeopathic options. From experience I also know OMAD helps with cystic acne too, look into that. Also, go see a therapist instead of sitting on Jow Forums. They can help you with your mental issues
>She's an amazing person so I want to let her go and continue her life in a better way. If you really feel this way about her you'll stop at nothing to improve yourself for her. So, get to it.
Parker Rogers
Is 'The daily stoic' sig approved?
Eli Morris
Once a day and I stay away from coffee because I thought it would be better for my health. I'll try out what you said.
Anthony Gray
Stop investing so much emotion and stop relying on women to give you a sense of place.
Ryder Ross
How often do you talk to women?
Justin Turner
>Eating anything thing else results in undigested food in shit
This might be due to low stomach acid. I had this problem a few years ago and supplemented with betaine HCl for a few months and it got rid of it.
Apparently the betaine HCl jumpstarted my own stomach acid production, because after a while I was getting very acidic shits and bad stomach problems and had to stop with the betaine.
Blake Brown
Not often, more a consequence of not talking to anyone in general, as well a job / education workplaces (computer science, mainly male) but it's been like this for as long as I can remember
Jason Adams
Thanks user. I have tried betaine HCl in the past. Was on it for about 2 months and it definitely helped at the time.
I'm going to go to a gastroenterologist and talk about all of this stuff.
I have tried the following :
>Fasting up to 48hrs >Keto 6 months >Keto carnivore for a few weeks >Intermittent fasting >Omad >Probiotics/fermented foods >Cold showers >Betaine HCl >Vitamin D >Fruit and meat only >Cardio >Nofap >Roaccutane I have tried a fuck lot of shit bros
Carter Garcia
Maybe that's part of the reason. If you're up for it, find a hobby (e.g. a sport club or something) that puts you in situations with more people and women; then talk to them.
Blake Perry
This is a bit embarrassing anons, I'm sorry for having to put you to read this. I suffer from premature ejaculation. I do not watch porn anymore (quit a month or two ago), I don't fap more than once a week, and I recently started having sex with my girlfriend. We did 5 times this week, and I ejaculate very quickly whether i'm drunk or sober. I was a virgin before this so she kinda bears with it, but I'm feeling insecure about it. Obviously it takes a bit more time for the second (or say, third time) but she gets dressed and I don't know how to put that prospect forward. I cannot buy viagra over the counter here, and it'd take me atleast a month or two to get antidepressants from a psychiatrist. What are my options? Should I masturbate before seeing her? Should I try numbing condoms? Is there anything else that I could do?
I don't get easily turned on by porn or erotica, or seeing other girls, but merely kissing her does the trick. I'm 23 and skinny, if that factors into anything.
Kayden Barnes
I would advise you against antidepressants. Might be all in your head and might get better with time.
Jaxon Hill
>gaining weight >On my feet every day for a retail job >Go home, too tired to move >Do nothing
I don't know how to get out of this hole. I'm too tired when I'm home and work is early in the morning.
Mason Smith
Why not just keep fucking after you ejaculate?
Look for a new job.
Christopher Wilson
Dude stop eating so much and just go to gym. You can do it brother. Don't be a pussy I believe in you
Tyler Morgan
would it be retarded to start a twice a day bike riding routine around my local park (once in the early morning and once in the late evening)
I live in a very hot place and get sick easily from the heat but i also want to start a daily bike riding routine to help with depression
Joshua Ross
I’ve found that mid-intensity sports like tennis, badminton etc. often have a very decent male:female ratio. Try and go for those if you’re looking to meet people.
Ayden Sullivan
If you want to start with a biking routine, why not do it once a day first?
Easton Howard
fuck you are right
Jack Anderson
If you chase every rabbit, you'll catch none. Start off little and keep progressing, one foot at a time.
Hudson Cook
I have been putting that off for a long while now, seeing a shrink I mean. I am depressed, if I did not have something to live for (my family), I would've probably killed myself by now. I took a long time accepting it, had a few mental breakdowns and am basically waiting for an appointment now. This PE issue isn't directly related and is more recent, but I read that low serotonin levels might be a reason and anti-depressants might help. I do, until it gets softer and the condom slips and makes a mess.
Jose Robinson
as the other user said one time might be better, especially if it is less hot in the evening.
Brayden Gonzalez
I don't have an answer to these questions. >What's the one thing I'd do every day if money were not an issue? or >What would you wish you had done if you were close to death?
Jacob Howard
Second is easy pick something you want to do but don't, silly
Elijah Scott
I do, until it gets softer and the condom slips and makes a mess. Sex with a condom isn't even sex, it's just mutual masturbation. I genuinely don't see the point of sex with a condom, it just feels like masturbation which is something I try to refrain from doing anyway. You need to be ejaculating inside your girlfriend regularly if you want a relationship to last, but female birth control is pretty bad for them so it's a tricky one. If you're using condoms you're just using each other as masturbation tools. Obviously I 'count' the girl's I've had sex with using condoms as girls I've fucked, but as far as I'm concerned I really only consider the sex I had with my ex to be real sex.
Nolan Roberts
But picking something I want is not easy, that's the problem
William Davis
It probably is stress then. How is your diet? For alot of people milk and whey protein causes huge cystic acne.
Nathan Rivera
All I eat is meat and fruit. This is after extensive experimentation with different diets
Hudson Martinez
i cant sleep unless i smoke weed.. its either smoke and get awful shit sleep or dont smoke and sleep for 3 hours a night. it's been a month since i quit at this point please somebody help
Christopher Perry
How do I stop thinking about my ex girlfriend? It's been almost a month now and I'm still a pathetic fuck. I lift, I eat right, I read, I do everything I used to to, but just in mental agony. The memories are the worst, it's like I'm on a constant highlight reel of good moments we had together.
Find someone hotter and fuck her. The end. You have to realize you can mold any girl into what you want and that whole "special original girl" is fuckin BS. Don't be a fuckin cuck
Evan Mitchell
This
Camden Murphy
What languages you speak brah? You living somewhere that doesn't have your native language?
Parker Howard
I moved yesterday. I was previously in a small appartment which was convenient and cost me $540 a month, yet it wasn't sexy and I never had people over since it was so small. I also didnt sleep well because I could hear all my neughboors, plus I think overall it contributed to vidya/drinking/gym-skipping So I moved in to a nice big one that's 750 a month and it feels so good... I actually want to repaint it and make the place look good. I WANT to train and diet better so I can look better and have girls over so they can see I live by myself in a nice big appartment
I think I'd just feel disgusted if I fucked someone random now. But you're right, I think I just gotta ride this one out.
Jeremiah Green
Surely, I know how you feel. Time heals everything.
Robert Barnes
Wait until marriage.
Brayden Parker
congrats bro enjoy
Isaac Peterson
looks good user
Landon Walker
Probably a dumb question, but how to annotate books? I'm not really sure what I'm supposed to be doing. I've started reading the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius for context
Any good audiobooks? Got a bluetooth headset for my job so I have time to listen to a lot of stuff now. Any good relationship/PUA ones? I don't necessarily like PUA culture but shit man I gotta get laid and understand their tricks at the very least
Camden Barnes
tomorrow i embark on a dopamine fast leaving Jow Forums and the internet in general will be the most difficult part i don't know how long i'll do it, but my goal is a week, with my stretch goal/ideal being a month. daily goals of stretching, working out, reading, writing, and meditating. removing social media, video games, internet. i chose tomorrow as a new term at school begins, so i can try to focus on school work in order to fill my time. i also have a lengthy reading list to get through for my major.
wish me luck.
Dylan Baker
It's not bad, but its a cash grab. Just read the stoics yourself. >How to Read a Book by Mortimer Adler
Logan Campbell
hi /sig/, I came to this thread because I've been having trouble with my sexuality and shit for some time and I have nobody to talk to about it. Would anyone be up to talk off of here, on kik or something? It'd mean a lot to me. Thanks.
Been dating a woman for 2 months, got really intense, I lost frame and turned to a beta, going to attempt NoContact, to de-beta myself and stop being so obsessive, then might attempt to contact her after a month, if she comes back then awesome, if she doesn't then I guess it wasn't meant to be.
I've been eating right, sleeping right, lifting right, meditating and setting goals for myself.
Cannot dwell on the past must pick myself up and move on.
kek, don't think too much about it, i recently started to cum quicker than ever before, and before i could go as long as i wanted. My problem is probably porn and wanking too much, compared to before. I think you just need to change positions and the speed of things
Charles Kelly
Drop the identity obsession brother
David Brooks
I need to learn how to do this. Every time a girl gives me attention I throw all my chips in. I don't consider myself a beta, but doing that sure makes me look like one.
Nicholas Bennett
How do I become more motivated/keep my motivation? Every time I'm on vacation or in a different country, I get very motivated for life in general, e.g. to become a better person, get healthier or fitter, volunteer, do better in my job/education, etc. But when I get back home, I quickly lose all motivation and fall back in my usual dull routine. How do I keep my motivation and 'spark' when I get back? It really bugs me that it constantly happens.
Brody Gomez
Hi guys, I struggle leaving this place because I enjoy reading threads like these where fitizen give you advices. The thing is that I'm a shut in socially and a scared neet and never manage to leave my bubble and make my own mistakes. So, I just browse these threads thinking that one day I'll manage to leave. But I know it won't come. How to build the confidence to leave, anons ?
Josiah Rogers
HOW DO I STOP MASTURBATING holy shit
This website is making me go insane, even when I do not masturbate my hand is on my dick and it reaches this point where I just HAVE to get off because of the buildup
One image is enough to make my heart race. Does it really have to be this way. Even MILD triggers are enough to lead me on a self-deceptive journey of looking at skimpily dressed ladies which inevitably leads to me ejaculating. What the fuck to do.
I didn't think I had a problem until I tried to stop masturbating to combat my tiredness and lack of free time, but now I see I do, holy shit.
>>Swing from intense motivation to improve myself and wallowing in grief I personally feel attacked by this last part
Jonathan Kelly
I think I got stuck in friendzone again. I'm retarded. Why don't I establish myself as interested right away? The fuck is wrong with me?
Nathaniel Sanders
I'm working part time and struggling to maintain a regular work out schedule since they stick me with night and day shifts randomly. They just recently offered me a full-time position though, and I'm thinking it could help me set up a routine of eat, workout, read, job, eat, sleep, repeat.
Anybody else went through a similar issue? Its retail and I hate this field in particular, but if it helps me make a routine to improve my body and mind, I'll do it. Not a big fan of full time though.
looks like it could be pretty comfy given some work
Jordan Ramirez
What happened was slowly I subconsciously stopped taking care of my responsibilities to be more attentive to her and her needs, and in doing that the person she found attractive ceased to exist, I'm in a precarious position which could result in her coming back or having to move on.
This is the second time this has happened now, the first was before I started lifting, either way if I don't learn how to cut this out now, I'm doomed to repeat the cycle over and over again.
Jackson Rogers
It's gonna take longer than a month bro. Time heals all wounds.
James Phillips
Are you like 16 dude? what the hell.
Parker Miller
I'm 24 which makes this all the weirder to me, I didn't have much of a libido before and masturbating once a week was enough for me
I got employed last year so this might have something to do with it, now my cock rages on constantly and I'm having troubles with GF which means not getting off through her
Jackson Brown
Bump
Jeremiah Taylor
One of my eyes is higher/lower than the other and it's completely eating me up from the inside. I'm a quite attractive person, 6ft3 and great facial features, but whenever I see my eyes in pictures I just want to off myself.
Luckily it's unnoticeable in motion but I consistently avoid photos because of it. When I look in the mirror I can't see it and my confidence will be sky high but when I see a picture of myself I just crash and want to die. Do I have body dysphoria? Sorry for the blog post but it's sad nigga hours.
Come off stronger... but not too strong. Let your intentions be known and be ready to accept their reply.
Andrew Price
You're 100% right. Godspeed.
Jaxon Reed
Maybe it's because I only meet women via common interests and hobbies, we never actually talk about personal stuff, unless very very drunk. And I've been sober for the past five years. Oh well, I'll try.
Luis Morgan
scarface here. don't worry about it get that shit removed. a scar wont look as bad as a cyst and facial scars make you look more masculine.
Elijah Taylor
get a new habit/hobby, improve, focus everything on that instead
Hey bros, it's my 20th birthday today. What should I start doing now so I can make the most of my 20s?
Evan Ward
Spend less time stuck in mental automation; for example mindlessly scrolling through Facebook looking for cheeky shitposts or memes or whatever the fuck. Turn your energy towards reading something mentally challenging, or just something in-line with what kind of future you want for yourself, or your idealized self-image
Put away as much money into savings as possible
Stay fit (duh), don't let your youth waste away
Make sure you don't develop a drinking problem like i did lol
Get plenty of fresh air and sunlight whenever possible
General live-in-the-moment shit as well, don't let your mind run on overdrive thinking about the anxieties of tomorrow or the regrets of yesterday if you can help it. Focus on being both mindful and mindless
Juan Miller
Do you ask them to go out formally?
John Parker
gold
Alexander Hernandez
>one shot at life >fat balding manlet pajeet At least I can change the fat part. Started taking fitness seriously this year.
So I either have a very bad concussion or a bleeding in the brain, I suddenly became dyslexic as fuark because of it, will go to neurologist tomorrow. I'm scared bro's
Anthony Sullivan
if you don't stop jerking off you'll be 29 like me and have both erectile dysfunction as well as premature ejaculation. orgasms are 1/1000th the power they were when I was in my early 20s. little sperts of semen come out. I haven't been rock hard in years. forget about ever having a healthy sex life at this point. you better stop user.
Caleb Foster
Good luck user. Let us know how it goes for you
Ian Moore
Do not let yourself fall into a spiraling mindset of self-pity. Accept that you lost an opportunity with a woman in part due to your own actions, take it as a lesson and apply it to the way you interact with people. And the voice you use inside your head to speak to yourself? Make sure it isn't a harsh one. With external factors bearing down on you discouragingly, the last thing you need is for you to add your own self-perception to that list. You cannot change the past, obviously, but you can change the present and in turn, the future
Jayden White
Honestly just pick up a copy of Aurelius' "Meditations." Read one passage and reflect on it throughout the day
Brandon Moore
Dan Peña is a great man to listen to while you’re working out. Check him out.
Motivation never really lasts. You have to force yourself. You'll fail a thousand times but at the end you'll be slightly better. Even if you get a one day streak it's better than nothing. Stop thinking. When you think about doing something you give control to the lazy part of your brain. Force yourself to do it and don't think about doing it. Make it as automatic as brushing teeth. You don't think about brushing you just do.
Also, read >the power of habit
Jose Fisher
Barely visible scar assuming you haven't messed with the cyst yourself.
