/sig/ - self improvement general

Having one of those days where I want to cave my fucking head in with a rock and nothing seems to help, I've already worked out today, video games won't distract me, watching videos isn't helping, reading isn't helping. I just can't concentrate on anything and it's making me ridiculously angry at myself and I wanna fucking scream.

How do I solve this, /sig/?

i was in your place, then this girl from my past made up i raped her and i lost everything including 9/10 gf.
if i went back I'd value her more, so keep that in mind.

How do I stay productive when operating a computer for study work? I doze off too easily. I also developed this bad habit that I can only study in the evening (like past 10 pm). And it has been fucking up my sleep schedule.

What about you now how you holding up.
Did you rape her then for real for revenge?

starting lifting and trying to rebuild my life because of it, but the past 6 months have been awful, i used to get chicks all the time and had many friends, all went to shit.

ALRIGHT /sig/ HOW DO I NOT FUCKING CUM SO DAMN QUICK I JUST WANT TO LAST ENOUGH TO ENJOY IT FUCK

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you should probably rape her for real if true

i wish someone would desu.

Hittin the gym for the first time in a month tomorrow morning, I am hyped. Anyone got motivation/informational pics?

Any Jow Forums bros gonna get into politics? I see alot of blackpilled posts about how the world sucks so why don't we try to change it for the better?

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bros..
I'm a neet loser, but I wanna be better, but all I've ever been able to do is play video games..
What happens when I stop? I'm just not good at anything then..how do you even break the cycle of addiction and move into other things..
Since I was 14 I've religiously played video games as many waking hours as possible, how do I break this without being bored and worthless..
I'm already not amazing at games so giving them up just feels like giving up on the one thing I have any slight chance of every doing well at..

Current daily routine
>Wake up, open Discord, Jow Forums, Youtube
>Browse mindlessly all day
>Frequently view "cringe"/flat earth content to feel better about myself
>Go to sleep
What can I replace these activities with? I used to enjoy learning languages but now it seems my attention span is too low for that. Whenever I sit down to learn things I want to get back to browsing after a short while.

>Hittin the gym for the first time in a month tomorrow morning,
just did this today. i started rotations and am working 12 hour work shifts at the hospital and just drinking a six pack when i come home. i gained 10 lbs this month alone. gained 30 lbs since october.

disgrace. i need to cut hard and fast as the weather's getting nice.

You could

discord, youtube etc goes at the end of the day for more focus in the beginning. force yourself to do certain whatevers, like going to class every day. you may not want to some days but you just gotta. you dont have a lower attention span, and if you want to learn languages then go for it, i also really enjoy it. books are a pretty good way to prevent the browsing problem. just begin with something small that seems cool and it will eventually bloom into something. for example, i began learning where are the countries were solely because americans are bad at geography and i didnt want to be another example of it. this would later turn into me picking a random country and learning whatever bits and pieces around it, which got me into the disputed territories, and history. its a slippery slope if you do it right. having no one to guide sucks penises and you will often grow lost as a result. but this is the best advice i can give for now. out of curiosity, what languages do you know/are interested in?

Thanks for the advice
Got lost on the catalog and I have so many tabs open I didn't even see the reply

I used to be fluent in German so I'd like to pick that back up, but I'm currently interested in learning Spanish cause I know several south Americans on Discord and Mandarin cause I used to speak that a little and it's meant to be "useful"

cold turkey is bad, dont try it unless you think you have an iron will, which it sounds like you dont. if you get into a routine of doing stuff, slowly you will play video games less and less. even if you put a bunch of restrictions on it, cravings will overpower you at the "fuck this" point. its all about familiarity; you only enjoy video games because of your history with them. think of a skill that would be cool to have, doesn't matter what, you just need a starting point. once you think of one, slowly start getting into it. learn it like a body: start with the skeleton, the basic structure and basic rules, the foundations, the simple stuff. after that, the skin, where you learn the "meat" of it, all the smaller segments that make one large whole of knowledge. after this, it's clothes, where you put your own personal spin on it. this is something usually acquired by one's self.

i too fell into the trap of video games, solely made to waste time. for many years i played video games until i picked alternatives, and now i do it rarely. after that i tackled my YouTube addiction, which now i dont watch that much of it. in reality, it's all about finding oneself and self-discovery. i normally dont care for philosophy, but the philosophy one learns in the pursuit of happiness is good. not a religious guy but i would recommend reading Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. if you dont know it's about some dude in India thousands of years ago who was praised for his potential, smarts, good looks, etc, but wanted to find meaning. theres several good lessons in the book i would recommend. the one about being at your lowest point and "rebounding" into a better person stuck with me. as fun as it would be to suddenly turn into a work maniac, it's all about baby steps.

Slow your breathing until you are relaxed enough, besides that it's just practice.
You can't fixate your attention on anything, bad days happen, perhaps you can do something in which you dont need to focus your attention, like exploring music or cleaning stuff. What is there that you can actually do?

Kegel exercises
I dropped out of college and got to be diamond V in Season 3 in LoL back in the day. I'm phoneposting so ill keep it short.

What are you proud of user? You value your skill at videogames, thats ok, but do note that YOU value that, just as you could value other things, and I think you do.

You probably value stuff like dedication and discipline, you like the idea of having done something even if you didn't want to, don't you?

Do you value getting to do what you want? Maybe even getting some of the things you want?

Videogames won't go away user, it's a well established industry, why not try to focus on other things, give them a try? See how you fare?

Do you picture regretting dropping videogames? Or do you picture regretting not dropping videogames? Even if it's temporary? To see how it plays out?

same guy, here's a couple other things. first, you need some bit of confidence. it will likely be different for you, but for me, it began with polandball. i saw "remove kebab" on there all the time, which led me to find the serbia strong video, which led me to songs by Roki Vulovic, Lepi Mica, among others. these guys would sing very high praise of their country, serbia, which i hadnt even heard of before that point. it was baffling to me - since here in America, i had always been under the impression that this country sucked and was riddled with issues and corrupt politicians. afterward i had this ironic serb nationalism in me, which later would cause me to begin loving America patriotically. by being proud of America combined with the ironic serb nationalism, it created a fake confidence and cockiness in me which later became greater confidence. i still fuck up in some social situations but i still feel much better about myself.

here's another thing: time. time is always in your favor if you make it so, which on paper isnt hard. january might seem like it wasnt very long ago, but if you think back to a specific memory for january-march, you may find that it's feels a lot farther away. by using time half-decently, you'll be miles ahead of so many others.

another thing i use to motivate myself: i am the savior of this country. american patriotism is at an all-time low, and the pursuit of happiness and such is a lot more minuscule now. (i used to browse imgur all the time, and is a prime example of what im talking about. its all memes like "when you say you're going to do well today but you eat chicken instead" or something stupid.) so many people believe demotivational crap and so now, i must be the one who leads america into a glorious age for my eventual presidential election. forcing yourself to believe you are a prodigy can work. be careful, because real cockiness and narcissism can seriously hurt one.

a self-journey is how you make real progress.

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i will leave with one last post. telling yourself "today is the day" and "i will be the best" really dont do a lot of great in reality. they hold as much power as motivational quotes. dont be that guy who says he wanted to start working out, goes to the gym for a week and never touches it again. slogging through something is great. you may not like it, but destroying familiarity to useless activities is pretty strong. this is why cold turkey doesnt work: your familiarity is still there, you will still dig it up and do stuff with it once your craving is high enough. slowly get it out of your life. at the same time, self-improvement is a long and annoying progress, so telling yourself todays the day isnt so bad. ive dicked off my path of being yet another college good boy but in that time i found a lot out about myself and im better off for it. its been a year and i still havent fully recovered but i certainly am better off.

so often it must be done by oneself. self-improvement is supposed to be done with parents to get you on the right track and help learn lessons but many dont know this because their parents never self-improved. baseless motivation has small power, and you've gotta take action no matter how small. self-improvement is momentum based, so starting slow is natural.

i know based off what i said, i shouldnt say this, but whatever.
We are going to make it.

whenever my mind is racing. i try to focus on a single object. for example, if i have my fan on, ill focus on that. keep thinking about it and try to block out thoughts. you will have thoughts about how you're blocking out thoughts, but block those out too. focus on the sound, the details of the sound, because sound occupies the mind best. knowing how to think about nothing is step 1.
waiting until late to study is a sign of embarrassment of one's work and wanting "peace" when working since night is calmer than day. to start studying, like ive stated before, it's about momentum. Thomas Jefferson would take walks for a clear mind, and talked about how it was the best exercise (for the mind). i recommend you do this too, and let your mind wander as you walk without thinking about the action of walking. plus making a hard bedtime could help.

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I do as well. Reading before bed and meditating when I wake up has helped with it.

I am. Got a good background for it, and I'm insane enough to actually make a congressional career my main goal.

Got waitlisted at a few really elite law schools. I don't want to practice law, it's just the useful education to have for a legislator. Think its worth the 300k in debt though?

How does /SIG/ reasonable set goals? How does one to find something worth pursuing, something allows one to exercise his will to power and squash all lingering feeling of lethargy?

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Don't legislators make a fuck ton of money? If you think the probability of becoming one is fairly high so you can pay the debt off.

I think congressmen make 170k a year.

But yes, I do actually believe my chances of holding an elected office in the future are pretty good. I have the temperament for it, and after interning for a high level politician I realized I was very similar to him.

The other path I was considering was a PhD in history or international relations or something because I enjoy studying it. I applied to law school somewhat reluctantly because the knowledge is very useful in actually being a good law maker. Knowing the structure, limits, and application of the law is a good way to avoid embarrassing yourself when making policy suggestions. And it opens doors to certain connections that academia would not.

Still, I wonder if I'm selling my soul a little here.

Where are you from, user?

The U.S.

I'm from California originally. I've since settled in Virginia.

shoutout to the radio user's killer playlist

Good luck user. I believe in you.

your people need you, user. the world needs good leaders.

thanks guys.

Any tips on whether I should go to law school?

How to make voice gains without smoking? I sound goofy, I need to make my voice deeper and more crisp and clear, it as a fuzzy scratchy sound

>Huge guy giving me the tour around the school of medicine building for my next project shows me the gym and says I should give it a try
>People are constantly talking about lifting on Discord
I want to get back into it now but I'm worried about how weak I'll look when I go in there and start benching an empty bar. Should I start with that or add on 10kg?

Also I'm still staying up late even though I have this meeting tomorrow
I fucked it all up again

I mean you should go for it if is required to reach your goal

It's not required. They call politics 'the blackbox' because there is no pre-determined path into it.

However law school is the most common path, as politicians are inherently writing law, so studying the law helps.

If you're good at it then study law. But yeah you're right about there being no predetermined path. I've know people who got into politics who started as a machinist, then got a civil engineering degree and then got into politics. Others became a CPA first...etc

>Kegel exercises
I do them every fucking day

and now we're all doing them. pulsing together as a unit.

Remember brothers, rumination is one of the biggest detriments to self improvement. Catch yourself whenever you ruminate and distract yourself with something more worth while. What's done is done, the future is still in your hands.

ok. I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do a no fap and I'm going to work to kick my porn addiction staritng tomorrow. Get my life together before it's too late. Letting porn dictate my life has been a serious problem and I need to change it.

I'll probably post here daily because why the fuck not. See you on the other side anons

Can you go into more detail bro, so the rest of us can understand how to handle something like this? Understand if you don't want to.

sig, how did you learn to truly let go of the things you can't control. I'm 22, balded past the point of no return, 5'4, and a whole bunch of other things that can make my gay sad blogpost longer. I went through the motions of getting on finasteride for 2 years, the results were negligible, so I ended up just shaving it off. Half of the people I show online tell me I have a hideous head shape and I go back and forth from not caring to spiraling out and taking fin again. I've barely just started on my weightlifting journey but I find it so discouraging some days, because i feel like what im working with is just a total shit of a person. I grew up in a household where my mother would call me ugly pretty much daily, and I'm still having a rocky time trying to adjust to functioning like a normal human being in the real world, being a complete friendless isolated hermit who can barely talk. My insides feel just as fucked as my outsides, especially considering I get contradicting advice from literally everyone. My abusive mom is in the middle of dying and now I'm the one who is expected to deal with all of that and I have so much pent up anger and confusion. Anger towards my mother for making me, and myself for not being able to deal with this. I realize that I need to take responsibility for my life, but life keeps dragging me back into my problems by the legs and I can't ignore it. I want to just run away from life but my dog keeps me here. where do i go from here.

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Yall got a discord?

I'd join one

Yeah it would be awesome to have a SIG community to surround yourself with and maybe work on goals together.

A while back but not everyone posts it.

What is your long term goal? Plot a path to it with little goals.

There have been a few attempts to make a discord but they've always withered out. You are free to try of course.

I don't think you should let go of the things you can't control but instead continue to resist them. Let yourself "off the hook" I suppose in the sense that you didn't choose your situation but never stop fighting.

Also man I think that change comes from within and the first thing you need to change is your mentality. Imagine what a hero or capable man would do in your situation and tell yourself you are that hero.

Are you the OP? I prefer you do it because you seem to post this regularly.

Anyone into the Law of Attraction here ?
I wanna hear your success stories

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You shouldn’t derive happiness from others but from yourself

I would say the so called "Law of Attraction" works, but not because of any kind of cosmic or spiritual reason. More because of what you perceive is literally your subjective reality. If you constantly will your thoughts to be negative, then of course bad things will happen to you. Good things will happen too, but all of it will be underneath a "everything is shit" filter, so you probably won't notice. On the opposite side, if you at least open yourself up to the possibility of good coming to you if you try for it, then it will start to trickle in.

How do I get over stalking my ex on social media? She dumped me in December, but I'm still checking her social media as much as possible.

Not only that, I've recently started to check up on my oneitis from 4-5 years ago, even though we haven't talked in so long.

get out more.

From a rational point of view, I agree with you user.
I personally believe it in a 'spiritual' way, and I must say it feels great.

How did she dump you?
I have to dump someone.

Love this thread OP, Jow Forums needs more uplifting threads like this one. Keep it up!

I don't feel like I can until I get Jow Forums and fix my skin. I don't feel worthy of dating or anything social right now.

I brought up problems we were having in our relationship, she said I was being abusive (she took it that way, I brought it up in a reasonable way) and a day after that, she said she wasn't invested in me anymore.

Yesterday's bloomer thread was awesome too. Hyped me the fuck up.

Join a martial arts club. get out more means literally get out. You have too much free time

Reminder to always keep at it with some activity. No matter how stressful your life might be at the moment, at least get a little exercise in. I felt super fucked lately, without having an idea why. A 30 min run changed my whole outlook on things.

>get out more means literally get out. You have too much free time
You're right, actually. Lately I spend my days in a haze doing almost nothing.

Taking a quick glance so my understanding of it is hardly complete but it seems like one of those philosophies that have taken a few good ideas but inserted their desire for "feel good" at the price of missing the point of the original teachings.

>Originated from Blavatsky
Ah. Figures.

Go to the source of the teachings instead of listening to the Chinese Rumours version.

Start here:
dropfile.nl/f/ruR - Christopher Wallis - Tantra Illuminated
I want to man, but lately they've been getting purged. I suspect we have some overzealous jannies now.

Fuuuu. Forgot to link to it.

It got 404’d but there’s a new one up I think.

Ehhh... I don't even have a Discord, I'm an IRC generation boomer yo. I'd have to learn the whole damn thing and you know how old people are about learning new technologies.

Meh, I'll look into it.

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where else do you post this SIG? Are you the only one? Are you the OP?

This particular OP with the 3 follow up posts are something I do when I start the thread. Haven't been doing that lately because jannies have been deleting these threads ( so I've been on Jow Forums but this OP at least doesn't work there very well ).

There are few other people who start /sigs/, sometimes they quote my OP but sometimes they use something else. There's no consensus though.

jannies are fucking shit heads. Mental health is part of Jow Forums thats always been the case Ive been here 10 years.

JANNIE YOU AREN'T WORTH THE SPIT OF MY MOUTH.

You dont post anywhere else? I think you should make a discord its easy. Just needs a general chat that is all. You dont have to make any special groups. You dont need to download it either. Literally takes 30 seconds to set up

Speaking of books, this one is THE book for mindset, definitely check it out guys.

>The Book of Pook:
bookofpook.neocities.org/TheBookofPook.pdf

I absolutely agree. Besides /sig/ isn't purely about mental health. It also collects sleep, hygiene and nofap questions and it provides motivation ( and from what I've seen, motivation threads are not being removed ).

Eh, working on the Discord. Not getting verification for account. I'll post about it when I get it set up.

Well, now there's a new and shiny Discord channel for /sig/

discord.gg/YJQQSQf

Yep recommended this book here some weeks ago, glad you liked it. Solid book.

Thoughts about keeping a diary?

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do it nigger
just dont do it to ruminate and beat yourself up about shit
Should make sure to always name 3 things you're grateful for/happy about and some small way you'll improve
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What do I fill my day with now that I have gotten better impulse controll and time management skills?

>My brain gets fried if I study for more than 4-5 hours a day
>To be restituted before my next workout I can only work out for 2 hours a day.
>My hobbies also require restitution time, no more than 2 hours a day.
>No marketable skills for a job/ no jobs available even if I was skilled
>Still 5-6 hours left of my day

I end up returning to Jow Forums and Reddit to waste time because I don't know what else to do with my time. This in turn forces me into a masturbation or idle video watching which is what I worked hard to avoid.

All advice appreciated.

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Well boys, after 3 months of being unemployed I finally got a new job. It is just Maccas however, but a job is a job.

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No shame in that, good for you, mate.

Thanks. Gonna try and work a bit hard there to try and get some career progression. I know Maccas progresses careers really fast, anything for managerial experience

She’s cute, and thats pretty much it. Will probably do nothing. It’s hard to think I’m attractive, either in body or mind. I’m fucked in the head. Hard to believe in myself during some days, most of them, if I’m being honest. A lot of them are cute, and here I’m, locked in my room, full of hunger due to barely eating yesterday, thinking about how they are cute, and how I wish I could be with one of them, instead of wasting this day away. I tried to call one of them out on a date some weeks ago, the one I’m the least close to. She said she was busy, and that was it. Should have called her friend, the one who inspired this post, the one who makes me feel silly, with a mix of nervousness and lightness, but even with her there’s just distance, just acquaintanceship and a mad craving for human connection. She probably doesn’t even like me, I’m just deluding myself. Then again, I was able to fuck things up even when a girl liked me. Why must I be incompetent in such sphere? Yes, every person is inadequate at something, but must I surely be at this? Being defined by childhood and trauma, by the incompetence of adults who failed to guide and care for a developing being, that’s just unacceptable.

Apparently makes your days feel longer.

>>My brain gets fried if I study for more than 4-5 hours a day
Is it a mental block or can you literally not retain information anymore?

>To be restituted before my next workout I can only work out for 2 hours a day.

one of joes guests mentioned this. They train 10 hours a day by lowering their intensity way down. They said they were able to train every day and not take days off which meant by the end of the weak their accumulated lifts were twice more volumetric than usual

Allright boys I'm gonna be real
I basically want to be as good at sex as possible, Austin powers tier.
Taking all advice and reccs.

Thanks for the (you) my friend

>Is it a mental block or...
I think it's a bit of both. I've only very recently made good changes to my life so my capacity for work is not all that large yet.
>Lowering intensity
Would this not weaken my strength gain? Strength gains are the sole goal for me, I don't care about aesthetics, but I am told higher volume works better for body builders and less well for weight lifters.

Guys I want to get Jow Forums but I'm a neet without a driver's license and an autist who wouldn't do well at a gym. What should I do? Just calisthenics/weighted calisthenics at home?

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Find her and rape her. Violently

quitting smoking today. its a worthless habit i picked up months ago. gonna drop that shit before it becomes an addiction. thoughts? anybody want to quit as well?

get a pullup bar and do the reddit bw routine. its the way i started before getting weights. if you cant to pullups at first, get a thera-band or something like that to assist you. add some running or skipping rope if you want to train cardio. also, get a buddy to aid each other in sticking to your routine, you dont have to leave your home for that. good look user