This thread endorses both physical and mental fitness in order to promote healthy living for everyone.
/sig/ Basics: >YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do. >Work your way to becoming the best YOU you can be - one step at a time. >Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. Use short-term Goals to keep yourself going. >Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones. >Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. Get 6-11 hours of sleep. More Info: pastebin.com/h4CDDtKu >Learn Mindfulnes Meditation. More Info: pastebin.com/0NMDEUNh >Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego. >Think critically. >If you need to put others down to feel good about yourself, you are putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on the people you look down on. >Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once, you’ll burnout.
I broke up with my girlfriend last december. I broke up mostly due to long distance, but also because of her lack of motivation, dull sex life and her negative attitude. I've been thinking about her constantly since we broke up. I know realistically she's not a great partner (In her current state), but I keep telling myself that she could have improved. We had talked about the bad things in the relationship, but nothing really improved, those talks were on different occasions and not that serious though.
Right now I feel like I didn't give her a real chance to improve and that I gave up on the relationship too early. Should I try giving the relationship another chance?
I am currently separated from my girlfriend because I didn't listen to her when she outlined issues she had with my behavior. I hope she'd still be willing to give me a chance as a person afterwards, since I did a lot of thinking and made some decisions which should make me a better person in general but also a better person for her.
/blog, I just wanted to give you some context as to how my situation is the inverse.
My perspective has always been that the only dumb mistakes are ones that a person does not learn from. It is very important that you've actually had conversations with her about these things. If she feels a desire and motivation to improve, you should really try to work with her on that.
One key point I want to make, which is what led me to fuck up enough times to where my gf said she wants to cut contact for a while, is that you should approach every issue from a causal perspective. It's just like medicine, there are symptoms and then there are causes. The symptoms in this case are the way the person acts, the causes are what makes them act that way. I was trying to treat the symptoms and just behave differently as opposed to understanding why I behaved the way I did and either working through it or accepting a lack of compatibility with my partner.
Sit down with her and together try to figure out WHY there are problems and what's causing them. Only then can you actually work towards something healthier for both of you or you accept hat you just aren't compatible and try to move on.
My philosophy when it comes to relationships is that people should never break up if both sides are willing to work through problems. Love is a fragile thing, it has to be nurtured and taken care of. It's also like the tide, sometimes it's high, sometimes it's low, it's about figuring out what to do in those moments that people learn how to stay together even when things are hard.
TL;DR—Give it another shot, just talk about the causes of the issues.
I made this self-improvement server yesterday, it covers noporn but the entire idea is of rejecting entertainment as a whole and concentrating on self improving until others wish that they had your reality.
>It is very important that you've actually had conversations with her about these things.
Resonates with me. I casually brought up the issues at times, but never in a serious enough manner.
>My philosophy when it comes to relationships is that people should never break up if both sides are willing to work through problems.
I like this approach. When I broke up I felt really overwhelmed by all her 'problems'. I just felt like it wasn't worth it even though we probably could have solved most of them. There was just too much at once. Some of the problems have already solved themselves.
I hope your relationship works out in the end. Give her space and show her that you are a different person without it looking like you're bragging about it. If it doesn't, just remember that there are 3.5 billion other women out there. At least some of them are good partners.
Kayden Ramirez
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Justin Cook
Resident /fa/ggot here, ready for all your fashion questions
>When I broke up I felt really overwhelmed by all her 'problems'. Yeah, this sounds similar to how my gf said she felt.
>There was just too much at once. Some of the problems have already solved themselves. Getting some distance from things can really help, seems like it has in your case, hope it does in mine.
>I hope your relationship works out in the end. Give her space and show her that you are a different person without it looking like you're bragging about it. My tactic for when she eventually decides to resume contact again is to just lean into the qualities which she fell in love with me for and be as positive and confident as possible without pushing anything into her face. I'm not going to say anything about getting back together or how bad I've been feeling. My hope is that she sees there is a change and falls in love with me again at some point.
>If it doesn't, just remember that there are 3.5 billion other women out there. At least some of them are good partners. This bit of wisdom is wasted on me right now, since me and her got along really, really well and I haven't really met anyone like her before. If it doesn't work out, I'm sure I'll find someone I can be happy with at some point, I'm just kind of stuck in it all right now I guess.
Thanks for the support, man. If you do decide to give your lady another shot, I hope there's enough substance to her that you can both work through it and find your happiness. We're all gonna make it.
Dylan Edwards
Bare essentials in terms of formal to casual wear? How often should I be buying and replacing clothes?
Nolan Kelly
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Henry Sanders
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Christian Jones
Even though red-pill is kind of stupid, it has a good point about oneitis. Don't get too hung up on this one girl.
>I'm not going to say anything about getting back together
My experience is that you should make your intentions clear. She'll just wonder why you decided to contact her otherwise. Also there is a real risk of the friend zone if you don't. You don't have to explicitly tell her that you want to get back together, but subtly let her know that you want something romantic/sexual atleast. Do not become a friend, that will hurt more in the long run.
>went out partying for the first time in a month >got way to drunk and made a complete ass off myself, again I think i have some form of alcoholism. I stay sober for a month and then the second i allow myself to drink for an occasion i just can't stop.
Luis Moore
Drinking is an optional part of life. Just don't do it if you have problems user. If you can stay sober for a month you can stay sober for longer.
Caleb Morales
>My experience is that you should make your intentions clear. She'll just wonder why you decided to contact her otherwise. The situation right now is that she'll contact me whenever she feels like talking again.
>Also there is a real risk of the friend zone if you don't. I misspoke, I meant that I won't say that I am actively trying to get together with her, cause one of her problems was that I was pressuring for the relationship to move further along forcefully. I'll certainly let her know that I'm into her, we'll probably start having sex pretty quickly since we're very sexually compatible and find each other really attractive.
>Do not become a friend, that will hurt more in the long run. Yeah, I couldn't do that, I'm too active to let things stay at just friends or something like that. I'll just have to balance being attractive as a partner to her with not pushing her into it. The idea is to make her want to be with me again.
You should put a hard limit on yourself and share it a friend at the occasion. If you can't keep yourself in check, you can tap a friend to do it for you. Just ask a bro to stop you after you've had a beer or two or whatever.
>How often should I be buying and replacing clothes? That depends on your budget and the quality of your clothes. Decent clothes should last you at least 3 years. As a rule of thumb, everytime you replace an item, buy one that is a bit higher quality than the one you are replacing. That way your wardrobe will be constantly improving.
The top of my head is somewhat smooth but the sides are all straight and spiky. What's some ways I can make my entire head smooth ish? If you get what I'm saying.
Grayson Diaz
Yeah. I use habits and todosit. Both pretty helpful.
Joshua Jackson
Are you going to do the 3 mile run now?
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Easton Bell
Remember that no big task is impossible if you chunk them up. Split them up into small parts and do them step up by step, you'll be done in no time. Wanna finish a book? Read 30 mins a day. The world is your Oyster.
How do I get over looking at my ex's Twitter account? We didn't even date long (only 4 months), but she was my first girlfriend.
Elijah Butler
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Gavin Hughes
Partying and subsequently drinking is large part of my social circle. I enjoy it when i don't have one of those days. I already distanced myself from that lifestyle to an extend. I stopped smoking weed and really cut back on the partying. But when i do i go full retard with it.
I do that and after a certain point and just don't give a shit anymore. I kinda get too drunk to fast and fail to realize i should stop and then go completely overboard with it. And i tend to be a completely obnoxious retard that will get pissy if friends try to stop me. This is my main issue. It's not like i hurt myself, try to fight people, lose my phone or whatever. I just embarrass myself by being a total cunt for a couple of hours. I also blew a couple of chances with some girls at those occasions by acting like this. Which is ironic because i'm usually too much of a pussy to approach girls sober...
Asher Collins
She's only interested in me as a good friend. I deleted every chat etc.. Now, how can I replace the time I dedicated her in last months? Should I find new friends? How can I do that? 21M, attending university
Logan White
Incredibly motivated to fix myself, but don't know where to start exactly or how to commit properly. Got a lifetime opportunity lined up for me and I really don't wanna fuck it up. My biggest problem is being on the computer and a fucked up sleeping patter; it renders me inoperable and too exhausted to focus on academic work or anything outside of that. Most of the people I know suffer from the same thing. I really think that just creating a schedule and sticking to it would fix 70% of all my problems, but my sleeping habits are abysmal. Please help.
Set yourself a fixed time to wake up and stick to that. No matter what. You will get used to it soon. Also doing stuff during that day that is mentally and physically exhausting makes it much easier to get sleep
Connor Myers
Onitis eh. I'm the guy who's separated from his gf currently. For the first few days, I would check to see when she's online on Instagram, because it made me feel connected to her for a little bit. I stopped doing that today because I've decided to focus on myself instead.
You need to internalize the fact that getting that tiny little bit of connected to her feeling from doing that is actually unhealthy, it's not only wasting your time, it's drawing your focus away from what's important, which is yourself and improving to be a better man.
I'm sure there is stuff you've been neglecting recently, we all have that. Try to fill your time with that, go out and socialize more, do not let yourself become dependent on a shitty fake positive emotion. >attending university I'm not starting with that till September. I WISH I was attending Uni currently, there are so many opportunities to socialize and meet new people. Get involved with activities on campus, go to the social events, talk with your classmates. Set an alarm an hour before bedtime and do not look at screens after it rings. Cook, take a shower, read a book, but do have a set time of day where screen time is OVER. Also, install f.lux and run it 24/7.
Isaac Allen
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Eli Walker
32 here
>quit games >gym >lost 25 pounds >running more >learning more guitar >took up photography
Made huge strides in the last 4 months, but i still hate myself.
How do you let go of your past failures? I don't see a future for me. I have been depressed for so long. I feel so lost.
Landon Bennett
35 here, maybe similar issues. No gym, but running as well. Need to gain weight. I don't know what your core issue is, but let me try this question: If you imagine looking from the outside into your apartment, with this guy sitting there hating himself -- what would you describe the situation as? Try to be as neutral as possible.
Jace Flores
Ill add it is showing in my social life as well. I have trouble being focused in my friends conversations. Im checked out. I focus so much on my misery which is very tiring. I left a social gathering after 1 hour last night and sat in my car for a long while to think.
Can anyone relate to this? How do i overcome this, preferably without meds
For what purpose? It's good the way it is, /sig/ doesn't need instant messaging and namefagging. It'll just turn into a circlejerk.
Lucas Cox
How do you prevent burnout the final week before final exams? I've been going ham on the books for the last 2 weeks and I'm approaching a stall in productivity. what do Jow Forums-bros?
John White
I would probably think that person was extremely lonely, however I am surrounded by good friends amd family
Adam Gomez
Recently started wearing expensive suits. After a hectic day of wearing them,the armpits have a slight smell. Wot do? Should I take them to the dry cleaners? I have only worn them once.
Bentley Morris
I think I remember reading somewhere electrolytes helped. Google it.
So you mean lonely in the sense of a romantic relationship? I can tell you from personal experience that trying to mend your flaws with a significant other won't work at all, long term.
You said you lost 25 lb, did you feel a sense of accomplishment at that or no? What I'm getting at is that you need a sense of purpose, whatever it is, to feel contentment. If you are at peace with youself, the rest will come.
I can very much relate to leaving social gatherings early and then brooding over it alone; I don't feel that way anymore. What I did is replace the larger gatherings with smaller meetings with friends, maybe two or three people.
Also, and I don't know if this will work for you or not, but if you can laugh at the absurdity of it all, that can be a great relief as well.
Aaron Collins
Of course that's important, that's what the thread is for.
Thank you for your post, i will give it a lot of thought today
Xavier Campbell
Find friends, find a good hobby, read books
Read The Rational Male, it's a good book.
Jeremiah Ward
Recommend me shops for female clothing. I want to dress better but I'm not interested in fashion. What do you think about Na-kd?
Caleb Richardson
Yes hello I also have a question. There's a couple of scenes in the IT Crowd that revolve around "women's slacks". Photographic representation related. How much artistic license is there? From what I understand, the waist in women's trousers is too high for a male anatomy, the fly is in the wrong place (also, like with shirts, opened from the 'wrong' side). So, what means?? How can he wear. Thank you for any clarification.
I recommend anyone here to read Inward by Yung Pueblo. You can finish it in 2 hours and leqrn q lot about your thinking
Elijah Rivera
I'm starting to think some self improvement authors are using /sig/ to shill their shitty books
Joseph Richardson
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Carson Bell
im not a dirty bitch roll again
Jaxon Edwards
If I want to do cardio 2x a week and lift 3-4x a week, is Westside for Skinny Bastards a good lifting routine?
Carson Brown
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Justin Ramirez
Where's your difficulty in understanding?
Kayden Flores
Who else here on exam season? How do you deal with the stress? Do you still lift ?All my gains are slowly going away due to not lifting and stress eating. What so you do to suppress your hunger pangs AND have enough glucose for your brain to retain all information
Studying all day is counter productive. Also exercising has been proven to help you concentrate. This is my schedule >get up at 7 >go to gym at 8 >do chores until 12 >study 3 hours >eat and chill for 30 minutes >study 3 more hours The important thing is that you study effectively. Drowning yourself in information won't help
Cameron Morales
Me, studying is hard because I already had neck problems, recently got a whiplash, am reading slower right now because my brain is still, I should stay away from screens and textbooks. Also am told to not lift for 3 months Just focus on school, lift again after finals
Dylan Hall
This seems like the best place to ask I guess; please direct me elsewhere if it isn't.
What are your thoughts on Ivysaur 448 as a beginner program? After doing a lot of reading into SS and SL this seems like a better alternative with the downside of being more complicated. I have a 30 week chart though that tells me the exact weights and reps so that's useful. I know people recommend Greyskull to those that don't want SS/SL but I'm just curious what /sig/ thinks and maybe get some insight from people that did one over the others or something.
Cooper Bennett
Don't overthink it. Any program that has you do the big four in a linear progression is fine for a beginner. Just run that shit for a couple of weeks, don't neglect form, and then hop on an intermediate program.
Jacob Adams
Thanks. This is what I've noticed as well. I guess I'll do Ivysaur since the bits of variation will keep it from getting stale to me. The simplicity of the others will make it boring I think.
Grayson Brooks
Worked my ass off these past few years, got into a very competitive professional grad program. My first choice. However, my second choice rejected me. I had already accepted my first but that news has left a bad taste on my mouth. End rant.
Moral of story: Work hard to keep your life options open and don’t rely on any one thing. Goes for school, work and girls. Sometimes you’ll get rejected by a thot but get a better one. No rhyme or reason why. Just work hard and play the numbers game.
Zachary Wright
Don't you eat breakfast before the gym? My stomach is fucked and I'm scared of going outside for a couple of hours after eating incase I get those really loud stomach noises or need the toilet
Andrew James
>Got my heart broken in a horrible way and hit rock bottom half a year ago. >Finally recovered and decided to ask a girl out >she says yes and the date is ok for a first >Ask if she wants to go on a second >ghosted
im so fucking done, im actually genuinely happy on my own and have inner peace i just sometimes wish i had someone to hug when life is hard nothing more
i know that you have to put yourself out there, you wont meet anyone if you dont try, but im considering its not even worth it anymore. I have completely lost the belief that a woman can be sincerely interested in me.
I'm not familiar with women's clothing but Uniqlo is nice and cheap. Cos is also good but a bit pricier. Avoid fast fashion brands like the plague (Zara, Primark, Bershka, etc)
Josiah White
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Elijah Rogers
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Noah Stewart
be strong my guy. It's still not the right time for you to meet the right one. The divine has its way, keep on improving yourself and be a great person both physically and mentally, help others around you to also improve themselves. Once you're worthy, life will reward you with what you deserve.
Hunter Foster
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Blake Russell
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Nathaniel Thomas
You could get it straightened I guess, but it can damage your hair Leave it at the sun for a couple hours and check it still smells. You should probably get a more breathable shirt Sorry man, I don't understand your question I don't have one, but basically wear lighter material for shirts (linen is good), some shorts, canvas shoes or boat shoes if you can pull them off.
Blake Bailey
>keep on improving yourself and be a great person both physically and mentally, help others around you to also improve themselves. good advice
>Once you're worthy, life will reward you with what you deserve. bad advice. you're basically implying that he's not worthy of a lukewarm hole to stick his pee-pee in. way to undercut his self-confidence.
All this talk of men not being "worthy" of women is bullshit and needs to stop.
Adrian Diaz
JK Rowling
Sebastian Cruz
I did all this with my most recent girlfriend. She wouldn't budge on anything; I would have to make all the changes. Fuck that. So we broke up.
Tyler Rodriguez
Gayest half-ass "casual/formal" wardrobe ever. It's the equivalent of a "hardcore centrist" political position, taking no sides. PICK SOMETHING! Swallow the suitpill. Just wear jeans and t-shirts. Wear your fursuit outside. Whatever. Something other than "a light blue shirt and khakis".
I said: >How much artistic license is there? I meant: >In the show, they put "women's slacks" on the actor, he looks fabulous, everything is fine, sunshine and rainbows. How realistic is this? From my understanding, there is no instance where women's pants fit a man well.
Alexander Howard
>current year >still believing in free will
William Gutierrez
Unless you have a digestive system disease, man up and stop being a pussy. Everyone has a stomach. Geez, you fucking twats.
Parker Russell
>From my understanding, there is no instance where women's pants fit a man well. Clearly there is at least one since you said >he looks fabulous What information do you want to gain with this question? Are you asking whether it can be fashionable for a man to wear women's clothes?
