Guys, I made a girl fall in love with me

im sorry for whatever happened user. also i thank your good intentions. but i have to try this relationship with her, at worst im going to kill myself which i was planning either way and shes the one holding me back now anyways

Just wait mate, it will all seem like flowers and love for the first long period.
You REALLY have to be in control, and make sure she doesn't feel bad.
If she start getting moodswings and you don't rescue her (EVERY TIME) She will literally kill your passion for life.

It's gonna be intense, like the best thing in the world, but it can go the other way, very quickly.
And you won't know what hit you before hell breaks loose.
Seriously, listen to her, understand her, don't fuck up, or else you will be fucked, like seriously fucked.
8 years ago a girl did it to me, and i'm still fucked up, and i still love her.
BUt she was batshit crazy, she was the one i loved the most, and hated the most.
Be aware user, seriously.
Godspeed.
And enjoy the amazing sex while it lasts

No you do NOT.

Listen to me bro. Please. There is a third option. If you do this you're as good as dead.

You leave her, and you enroll in therapy RIGHT NOW. You find out why girls like this can smell the manipulability on you. You find out why you're attracted to being on an emotional whirlwind, and you fix it. I know you can do it. You're worth this effort from yourself. You will put a lot of effort into this relationship. YOU deserve that effort more. You can be successful and happy. You don't need this crazy girl.

You're seeing the red flags and having second thoughts but you're too weak to do anything about it - I was too. Listen to your REAL conscience deep down, not the part of your brain that says you can live happily ever after. At BEST she is a waste of time and effort, and at WORST she will be the end of you.

Thanks for humoring me - if I didnt warn you after seeing the OP I would have felt like shit about it for a week. Please do the right thing. Please at least say you'll think about it-genuinely.

>BPD

Feels really good right now, doesn't it? Well, mate, you need to start running like fuck right now. Because if you don't, you're going to find out the hard way why you should have, and by then it will be too late. I'm sorry, I know it sucks, and I know I'm telling you to do something extremely difficult, but you're going to get profoundly hurt if you don't.

Seriously OP, you not gonna listen to any of this, i know this because i did not either.
Just enjoy the crazy sex, and the passion.
But you will get fucked in the end, there is absolutely no way out of it.
SO enjoy it you nigger

>diagnosed BPD
>did i hit the jackpot?
Are you retarded?

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lol'ed pretty hard at this

OP here
she's starting therapy with her psychiatrist soon. also will possibly take antipsychotics
am i saved?

No, you are not, you will still get fucked no matter what.
Well, if you can convince her to keep her on the medication, then maybe.
And only a maybe.

Geet the fuck out retard, i wasted 6 years of my life on a BPD bitch that ruined it all.

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THIS X 100 ITS NOT HER FAULT THAT SHE IS THE WAY SHE IS AND ITS FUN TO GET OFF TO THE IDEA OF FIXING OR SAVING HER BUT YOU ARE GOING TO BE DESTROYED BY THIS FUCKING LEAVE HER AND DONT LOOK BACK SHE WILL MOVE ON FASTER THAN YOU THINK SO DONT EVEN FEEL GUILTY BUT LEAVE NOW HOLY SHIT OP YOU ARE ON THE EDGE OF A VOID THAT LEADS STRAIGHT TO HELL

BPD is almost totally untreatable. It's possible -- not likely, but possible -- that if she is genuinely committed to improving and never makes the mistake of assuming that she doesn't need to take her meds anymore, then maybe things will work out for her. But you don't buy a lottery ticket assuming you're going to win, y'know.

Also keep in mind that part of what you find attractive is her clownshit craziness. If she does fix herself, you're almost certainly going to find her no longer attractive, given the constellation of traits you've described as positives.

This user has it right. YOU NEED TO BE IN THERAPY YOURSELF.

You're trying to wheedle us out of a particular answer, and you're not going to get it, because for some reason everyone in this thread is actually trying to help you. It's your funeral if that's what you want, but our advice to you isn't going to change.

The medication will almost certainly not help. The therapy will probably not help. She will lie to her therapist and her psych.

Most of them do not want to get better because being a full-on human being is literally the most terrifying thing in the world to them, if they can even achieve it, which is debatable

she does seem very committed to recover from BPD. she is most certainly not happy being like this. we talked about what will be if she gets rid of the disorder. we were both worried whether she will lose her identity after it. i probably managed to console her into thinking it wont and i will still love her after it.

Look at how many people in this thread are trying to help you. Look at how many people walked the road you're starting down RIGHT NOW. We have all shared this experience. We don't even know you and we're scared for you. Please listen, user. I know this is a fucking imageboard but all of us are real and the pain we went through is real as well - you are NOT going to be the exception to the rule. Save yourself while you still can and at least let us redeem ourselves through you.

>lol I gave a girl with pathological addiction to attention and validation some attention and validation
All that other shit about anime and literature is just window dressing OP, and someday you'll discard the packaging and realize what exaclty it was you just bought

>be OP
>stays with the psycho bitch
>haha awesome sex
>woow sooo crazy XD we're both suicidal
>she gets me lol (i wish she would stop saying really hurtful things :( ... even as a joke )
>years down the fucked up line they decide to have kids
>one day OP comes home from work
>praying to god shes in a good mood today
>opens the door to a quiet house
>kids are all drowned in a bathtub
>bitch is passed out in the kitchen foaming at the mouth from the pills she tried to OD on
>his face because he is clearly a retard

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She's already got her hooks in you, I can tell. I went through this same shit with my ex, user, and she was "recovered" for two years. Two years of relative normality after 1 year of heaven and 1 year of hell. Then it all came back, and I felt the worst emotional pain of my life. She's going around telling people I was physically abusive and raped her. It hurts so bad. I was engaged to this girl. The second you think everything is okay is the second you will be destroyed. Don't do it man, please. PLEASE.

Okay maybe he listens, and then he decides, okay, i'm gonna fuck her one last time....

Oh user... Look, if you are absolutely determined to destroy your life in this manner, at LEAST go to therapy yourself as well, and actually mean it.

Hard truth.

Listen to us user.
is right too. Get yourself in therapy at LEAST if you wont leave this girl. Maybe the therapist will help you get the strength to do something about it.

op here
plausable but she would rather fuck me next to the dead body of our daughter in which case im okay with it
shes really protective about kids though, she told me she would cut me into pieces if i ever hurt our daughter when i joked about my daughter-rape fetish

i mean to

>daughter-rape fetish
Okay, never mind. you deserve this. I take everything back. Don't go to therapy. Have fun in hell.

>a fat bpd degenerate
>jackpot
gee you tell me

>daughter-rape fetish
Okay, now I'm a little concerned that you've just been wildly successfully trolling us. If not, though, you definitely need to go to therapy yourself whether you stay with this girl or not. I'm still not going to wish evil on you because I see no evidence that you've actually hurt anyone yet, but dude, get help.

Look, i know it's hard to break it off and move on man.
It's even harder when it's this kind of girl, but when you gone through with this girl, and sit and wonder wtf happened.
You will think back to this thread, and you will think, fuck, i should've listened.
Not many, if any, listened to this kind of advice.
Because it sucks, and there aren't many cuties out there, we all know, we all are having trouble replacing that kinda girl.
But it isn't fun, at all, not even for a twisted insane in a sane world kinda person, it really isn't fun.
And that's life, and it will not only benefit you, it will also benefit her.
Both of you don't deserve to go that path, she needs therapy, and it sounds like you do to if you can't see through your own ignorance.

But what ever, what ever you do, i just hope that you do what is right to you.
Take care user

>diagnosed BPD

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i'd never hurt anyone, but you can't choose what turns you on. part of the reason why i love this girl so much is that we are similarly fucked up and dont need to mask it you see.

You actually can choose, you need internet detox right now. You should have to mask it. Get off the internet, stop watching/reading/looking at porn. Get back to the baseline where just seeing a girl naked could make you bust with you hardly even touching yourself. Where you are at now is deeply, deeply unhealthy and dangerous.

Just let him do his thing man, it's not like we would've listened either.

No, he's right, attraction and fetishes are become very deeply hardwired at a very early age and are pretty much impossible to change. You can, however, choose whether to act on it, and therapy can help you deal with it. But dear god they both need to get sterilized so the potential is never there.

>it's not like we would've listened either
I really want to dispute this, but the evidence is overwhelming that you're right.

Atleast he know what is waiting for him, that's all that we can do right now.

Do it, OP. Dont listen to these guys, theyre just jealous of your happiness. It sounds like you guys have a lot in common and I, for one, am happy for you.

>the one thread ever everyone actually offers good advice
>be OP, absolute mega faggot
>lol guiz u dont understand ill never do bettr i wont be sad when she leaves ill kill kill miself
Yeah fuck off cunt, im sure you started this thread expecting positive yous, but instead your getting cold hard facts, an anecdote stops being an anecdote when many people share the experience. But at this point you deserve to suffer

i know i might regret this but i dont care
living without her was suffering so even though it might backfire i'd still like to at least enjoy myself for a while, even if its just months, im content with that
but i appreciate everyone that posted in this thread, if you are right and she breaks me eventually, you might get all the vids she sent while sexting

I had a girl like this I got her to jerk off her dog on the reg for me but she prob wants to kill me now for being abusive like that. Its also one of the only things I feel truly guilty about. Arguably have some fun with fetishes but dont let them become destructive evil, a thin line. This corrupts the spirit.

Also if you only have 1 gf thats intense try not to obsess post relationship. Idk man. This is rocky waters. Navigable but dangerous.

I had the same thing mate it was hell. At that time I was only depressed occasionally, but when I was with her it was hell. Constant "I want to kill myself"'s, "I'm going to kill myself right now". And dealing with that is no easy task, you take on a load when you choose to put up with this. And it's a very heavy one, it's going to make you feel like shit, what she's feeling will rub off on you because of your helplessness and attraction to her. Basically it's going to be very tiring, very very depressing, and with little satisfaction. That's not even considering the further emotional manipulation, such as sending you screenshots of her talking to other guys saying she loves them. But you're way too far over your head to accept or listen to any of this. So go ahead and fuck off. Oh, and take your sociopath "girlfriend" with you.

ignore all the retards in this thread that know nothing about bpd
bpd can be a hassle but its treatable and there is good aspects to it

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Not him, but I'd like the link. I don't know anyone with BPD, but I think it would be an interesting read.

>diagnosed BPD
>is a nympho
So, do you just hold the camera while she fucks, or do you also rub your willy?

>t. BPDIDF
Fuck off, nobody loves you. Shoo, shoo!

>>diagnosed BPD
Run.

Is she aware of it and working on adjusting her behavior? Anyway, run.

have fun fucking your entire life up OP

kys

>I made a girl fall in love with me
>>diagnosed BPD

You may think all is good now, but in reality you are fucked! At some point this shitbomb with blow up and shit all over you and then you will realize your mistake, but it won't matter then because you will already be covered in shit.

And don't listen to anyone who says this relationship is doable. They are either mentally ill themselves or they love someone who is also mentally ill so they will be heavily corrupted and biased. The mentally ill ALWAYS lose it and have a breakdown at some point, and it is ALWAYS ugly. It's just a matter of time.

>bpd
>and there is good aspects to it

What a delusional faggot. That is mental illness speaking right there! It appears that you need another visit to the psychiatrist and some more meds!!

So how strongly they react? i don't think anyone should be taking advice from such erratic people

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she is and since she was diagnosed she wants to recover from it very actively but she already wanted to stop producing its symptoms before. i already told that shes rather intelligent, and one of the subjects shes very much into is psychology and philosophy, so shes very aware of the machinery of her mind, subconscious etc. shes very aware and open about her manipulative tendencies

still be careful, this can all be manipulation from her side
or she may relapse and stop being mindful, if she even is

i know. im always keeping an eye on whether she has manipulative motives or not. but with my dominance over her and her trust in me and my complete acceptence of her, shes probably better off being honest.

OP, there's nothing I can really ad to the discussion aside from saying that like you, I was in the same spot maybe a decade ago. In fact if you go through the archive you can probably find me starting the very same threads - the difference is BPD wasn't as often talked about on here because awareness at the time was pretty low.

The attached picture is a preview of what your inbox will look like in about 3-4 years time.

Girls with BPD become super attached at the start and it's pretty fun for a month or two, but then something snaps internally and they instantly think you're a monster. At this point, nothing is off limits.

You might be lucky like me and only have to get a restraining order on her.

You might be unlucky and she'll file a false rape claim or accuse you of domestic violence.

The professional advice psychologists give is to avoid these people at all costs.

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shes been with her husband for 8 years. 5 years married(now shes 23). the guy isnt crushed and dead or has been reported to the police for rape even though she claims he did rape her(and kicked her out of her own flat, with lethal threats) a few days before filing the divorce. she also said the whole rape thing didnt affect her much emotionally. The kicking out and threatening stuff already happened once before, that time she broke down crying, unable to speak to the police. she has good intentions. doesnt want to break the guy or anyone.

>the guy isnt crushed and dead or has been reported to the police for rape even though she claims he did rape her

He didn't rape her.

She's already lying to you.

told you. she didnt even need any comforting about the rape stuff. it was the typical domestic unconsensual sex. when it happened she didnt even start complaining, only started mentioning the word rape after the friend she stayed at told her that it should be called the way it is
still, she isnt using it as a manipulative tool, she doesnt care about that case and i dont care either

No, its a terrible thing to make girls fall in love with you. I broke up with a girl to get back with my ex, who had moved on but I got jealous she moved on so I started talking with her again and she fell in love with me. Now I want to go back to the other girl, so I made her fall in love with me again, but my re-ex refuses to leave me alone.

>still, she isnt using it as a manipulative tool, she doesnt care about that case and i dont care either

You should, because it's a sign of oversharing.

psychopathfree.com/articles/5-signs-of-borderline-personality-disorder.393/

Most normal humans don't immediately unload their personal problems on someone they've just entered into a relationship with, or use rather extreme topics like non-consensual sex as a conversation starter.

youre a fucking chad dude, what are you doing here

ive met many people that "overshare" yby your definition. i do too. didnt find that it correlates to any malevolent motive.

hey perfect thread for bpd mom stories. yep i got a trashy bpd mother, and its greeeeat.

but at least by using her own manipulation tricks against her, i know how she thinks.

borderlines are the queens of the universe, and you are their servant. they care not for you, or anyone else. they will say they do everything for you, but will do nothing. if you feel sorry for them and try to save them, nothing you do will be good enough, there will be no gratitude, and she will find a way to be mad about something (this part can be funny, watching her try to find something anything to get upset about).

also the shit everyone else said too.. but op is a virgin, and has no experience.. bpd girls can smell that. he is boned, and he will suffer greatly.

ok some trufax about my bpd monster mom.. she has two beta slaves that play her save me game. one is a crazy catholic, the other is a crazy alchoholic. she also tries to get me to be her "help" monkey too, and i just say everytime that im not her slave, boyfriend or husband. but she will try again every week, with the same guilt trips and manipulations.

man i could keep going forever. bpd girls are monsters in human flesh, they have nothing good about them and are complete trash, but if you are starved for female attention and inexperienced, they will get you.

Have fun when she eventually cries rape, OP!

Oh, OP is so fucked. I feel sorry for him. I feel in how much pain he's gonna be. I don't even know if its worth having sex for the first time.

>It's gonna be intense, like the best thing in the world, but it can go the other way, very quickly.
pretty much this OP, get ready for the roller-coaster of your life

i have a bpd mother too
she's trying to hurt me every time i let my guard down
and i don't even live with her anymore
and it gets more complicated given that she did a lot for me financial wise, but on the emotional side its a complete mess and despair, i don't even know if therapy can help this or i'm just gonna be trying to make it better for the rest of my life

Would this girl happen to be in florida..

I used to be a robot so I come here to figure out what mindset won't work for improving yourself. I feel like just one loss could put me back where I was at my lowest, so I need to be constantly fighting against it.

Nope. Helsinki and Budapest.
i wish you the best fellow failed normie

No you didn't win the jackpot you got the only thing worse than being alone.

Im happy for you user. Goodluck soldier. Your about to enter normie territory. I did a few tours, good keks were had. Enjoy it

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>BPD
if she's medicated and has worked on overcoming it, then good for you OP. Otherwise this is just the honeymoon phase and what waits for you is a hell of a time

Listen to this guy I'm not him but you perfectly described one of my exes who tore me apart emotionally. In the end you'll find out she doesn't even know what love is but just acts like it to play with you for a bit before she gets bored. This is the worst kind of woman there is. You are literally walking into hell, dick first.

op you are in for a wild fucking ride. you have a good amount of people telling you to not go through with it because theyve been through the same thing, yet you still decide to give her a chance, you fucking retard.
whatever. if she ends up ruining your life, be sure to make a post about it so i can laugh at you

BPD here. It will get worse. I don't know about her, but I recognize when I'm getting BPD and sometimes manage to stop or talk with my partner. Sometimes I don't and unleash nastiest drama. Then feel embarrassed about it. I am getting better and improving. Because I want to. And because I understand that I have a problem. As long as she's willing to work on it, it shouldn't be the end of the world, but again, it will be difficulg

>diagnosed BDP
Looks like a normalfaggot is getting what he deserves

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user, I dated a BPD girl who fell for me as well. She was my first and only gf. Very similar to what you've described. It was nice at first but quickly became hell on earth, eventually culminating in her faking a suicide attempt to scare me and then actually attempting it when she thought my guard was down. I called the cops anyway, and they got to her before she strung herself up.

I don't even mention her when people ask if I've had a gf. Avoid at all costs. Listen to me and the other anons in this thread.

story user? thanks

Never date a BPD slut

This is coming from a male bpd user

BDP mothers raise serial killers dude. Its basicly the female version of disorganized psycopathy.

>diagnosed BPD
Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.

>will lose weight for me
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THIS, BE FUCKING WARNED OP

t. dated a borderline who destroyed my fucking life, she will torture you and dump you even if you are willing to put up with the shit tests and go through hell and back for her, probably cheat on you

You dont understand her. Borderlines are social chameleons, a kind so good they dont even realize it. They are exactly as you want them to be, they change according to their environment. The thing about her that cant change is that willingness and need for affection that cannot be appeased due to paranoia. There isnt any saving her, borderlines are the most fucked people on this earth and they leave a path of destruction and misery wherever they go.

Are you retarded OP? She has bpd, will cheat on you a lot of times, and for the love of god, don't cum inside her, could you imagine someone like you, an autistic robot faggot, and that girl raising a son? He/she will kill her self

Im not him but Ill give my story. The first girl I fell in love with when I was 15 ( she was later diagnosed as a borderline, shortly after our break up) or so, the start of our relationship was kind of fucked and a red flag of things to come but I got along so well with her I ignored it. The short of it was that she left a friend to be with me, I already loved her anyways. I barely remember why, common interests, close emotional bond, she was invested in my creative works and revered me to some degree. Very intelligent, she graduated with a 2 year degree from college when she was 15, I was in the same advanced program with her but she was the star of the program.

We were very close for 5 years, at one point she admitted to me she had been camgirling for some guy in an ARMA group who was like 25 when she was 15. This was pretty early on and I was furious, she refused to stop talking to the guy but said shed break off any romantic intent. I didnt believe her but it wasnt grounds for me to break up with her for some reason. Because I was young and stupid, naive to the assurances and tears of someone I cared about.

ff 3 years and shes in university, im graduating highschool, I spend maybe 1/3rd of my time with her and basically live with her. Ends up telling me about some of her guy friends that come over and asks if im worried or anything and I just shrug and say 'Hey theres no point in getting worried, it wont stop anyone from cheating'

She didnt like this, she suggests an open relationship which I was disgusted by but remember I actually had a girl who had been interested in me. I didnt like this girl, but I wanted to show borderline that its a bad deal. So I agree and instantly start dating the other girl, and I talk about it with borderline. She gets cuckfurious and emotional and tries to break up with me. I manage to salvage it and somehow I was the bad guy, thinking I had shown her that you cant get your fingers in more than one pie. 1/2

2/2 We were fine for another year, untill out of nowhere after I once say something sort of depressing once to affirm her constant badgering of relationship doubt for no clear reason. Which was really jsut me succumbing to the onslaught of her problems. and I indicated that I feared our relationship would grow shallow or distant. She takes the oppurtunity about a week later to break up with me over a steam message she sent while I was asleep. She blocks me and I never speak to her again. 5-6 year relationship gone like that. She messages me about a month later to try and be my friend and I reluctantly accept because I was heartbroken and thinking I did something wrong. My life was basically shattered at a whim and the person I was convinced was the person I was going to spend my life with just pop, dissapeared without any meaning or explanation. She is reluctant to explain anything but she eventually lets it loose that she thinks I was the problem. I message her back and the narrative of me being some subtle, diagnosed autistic manipulator and abuser that doesent know hes manipulating or abusing is spun. I buy it and promise to see a psych (who debunked all this shit later and thought she was a sociopath before I learned of her BPD). Then she revealed she had taken the time when she left me to go and immediatly sleep with several men. I think the total count for how many she had been with over the month was 12 or something. I got pissed and told her that she was just a deceptive cunt, and blocked her. Later found out from a friend she attempted suicide but got caught by one of her male friends who she started to date. Shrink thinks she was doing it for attention. She spends the next 2 years ranting and raving about me on her social media that has no followers besides the new sjw friends she made after being the anti-feminist who made me into one herself. In the end she only said what I wanted to hear, and when she feared I would leave her, she left first.

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Have plenty of first and second hand nightmare stories of BPD girlfriends...your in for a fucking ride.

the moral of the story is that borderlines arent even real people, theyll possibly express some level of existential angst during your relationship with them and hint at 'being a pretender' or that all the emotions they feel are fake and their personality is fabricated. You may dismiss this as just angst of a young intelligent person with anxiety. It isnt. They can change their entire personality and being in an instant, to best fit their environment. They will be vied for by many men, and they will always regard their ex's with disgust and with stories of how horrible they were at the same time having suicidal breakdowns about how they feel they have gone wrong. The core of their personality disorder is the desire for love, which they do not believe when they are loved and will make you not love them with their doubt or leave you before they believe you leave them in order to have the upper hand and say 'Well, im just too good for them. I dont want to have him say the same about me, I dont want to be abandoned, so I will do the abandoning.'

we get it. you fucked a fat girl

lmfao

OP listen to this. BPD girls are bad news, they will emotionally manipulate you and make YOU think you're in the wrong. She will take up all your free time and make you feel guilty for not spending time with her 25/8. Most women love attention, but BPD women literally live for attention and will cause all the petty drama they can just to spite you. Stop it before you get in too deep, you think the sex and dates and all that shit are fun, but you're going to see a very, very ugly human in just a few months.

She's leaving her husband for you?
You're the dude she uses to make her husband feel terrible. You're the dude she uses to get away from her 'toxic' relationship. You're like a snack in between meals for her. You get sucked in the push and pull bpd whirlwind till you're completely broken and then she finds a dude so far above you're league, just to fuck with you. Bpd girls will constantly test you, manipulate you, give you the world and stomp your heart the very next second.

Op is a larper anyway, this is a bait thread.

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this is so fucking true. every borderline girl will eventually fuck your over somehow. you cannot fix her, she is broken and will always be broken. jump ship asap. borderlines are unironically some of the worst people in the world, despite the great sex

don't be like me desu, every borderline girl ended up losing it, gaslighting me and cheating on me

imagine an overgrown child whos extremely unstable and throws sex everywhere for manipulation