Why are guys so emotionally cold and distant?

Women punish displays of emotion and manipulate the emotional.

That's what society wants. That's what women like. There's literally no reason to do otherwise even if you hate it

It's because most people in general genuinely don't care about other people. Most people are selfish. It takes a lot of effort to care about others and be selfless.

assuming this isn't bait it's because if we show emotion we're seen as weak it's incredibly rare to find a woman that doesn't judge you harshly for having emotions outside of your own control

Guys won't show their true emotions to any random skank.

r9k is what happens when men get too involved with their emotions. women don't want emotional faggots.

Far too many females tend to use any emotional opening as a weakspot to shit-test, manipulate and ridicule a guy. Once bitten, we stop showing those easily.
Earn some trust first, we probably need to do so too before you would think it is okay to follow us into a dark lonely corner, right?

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fantastic post.

origo

Women are not worthy of being shown human emotions other than lust.

did school get out early today?

Us expressing our emotions can be likened to women exposing their tits. Some are more liberal than others, but ultimately it weakens people's impressions of you.

Men don't often show emotion because it can make them appear weak or easily manipulated. If they act particularly animated around women it can also hurt them as they come across as a tryhard.

There are no benefits to showing emotion as man.

Maybe if a single woman on the fucking planet didn't weaponize any time a man showed any emotion against them then it wouldn't be this way

This is a bait thread and i will bump it

> be woman
> only talk about mu feels and gossip

yeah its not surprising men are unresponsive

we want to talk but for good karmic reasons being emotionally blanked by a woman for saying something that wasn't funny enough or was too offensive hurts like sex hurts for you

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Its called christian stoicism, thot

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>why are guys so emotionally cold and distant
because you want you don't like it when we act like human you want cold violent sex robots

the amount of generalization in this thread is actually kind of hilarious, keep it going

DUH DUH DER

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Stupid bitch, I hope you get raped.

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>be guy
>share feelings with girl
>rejected, bullied, ostracized
>years later, meets different girl
>doesn't open up out of fear
>girl leaves, claims he was emotionally distant
>even more depressed now
>meet another girl, decide to open up to her
>she freaks out, says this is too much for her, leaves
>guy thinks he's learning, decides to wait to open up
>meets another girl, waits a while to open up
>forms reasonably good relationship, but remains emotionally aloof
>opens up later on, girl doesn't know how to act, breaks up and talks shit behind his back
>from guy's perspective, relationship was ruined by opening up emotionally
>next relationship, just bottles that shit up and hopes that the relationship can survive without the girl ever trying to uncork his eternal torment

Girls don't want an emotional man, they want a sturdy boulder, and a man's heart becomes calloused by repeated rejection and failure. Emotional men have not faced enough heartbreak and pain. Never open up to a woman, no matter how far along things are. I lost my fiance because I opened up about my long-term depression, she left me for a happy, drug-addicted simpleton that probably couldn't even spell depression let alone feel it. The woman I am with now seems to understand the pain I have been through and she knows that the relationship would fall apart if I ever opened up, so she never asks "What's wrong?" when I feel down.

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>have gf
>end up getting sectioned
>incredibly supportive throughout it
>end up breaking up
>she spreads rumors I used to beat her
>admits to cheating on me and says "no one will believe you you fucking schizo"
>start telling tons of her friends about when I'd call her up crying because I thought people were coming to kill me etc

I've never had any issues like this with guys and even if you do you can just get your anger out by fighting them, if you lose they'll most likely stop talking shit because they know you'll fight them and if you win it's the same thing

oh wow what a argument you sure got me

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it means they are nervous

Because if the act in anyway emotional towards a girl who might not feel the same way they'll be ridiculed.

are you a machine? each person is unique and wants something different. it's not a matter of crossing out things you do / timings / strategies off a list, it's a matter of getting to know a person, what they want, what they like about you, what you like about them and using all this - adapting

>implying I was ever going to look at things from your perspective

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And I have adapted based upon my experiences. Right now, I am in a relationship that has not yet failed, so I must be doing better than the ones where it did fail.

that's good to hear.
GTFO my board by the way

if they acted like they gave a shit they'd be your gay friend

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I try not to be cold but I think the most likely answer is fear
bad experiences make men reluctant to show themselves to others, we don't want to be hurt

Because they're playing hard to get in order to score.
Just like some women do.

It's a shortsighted sexual tactic (read: tactic, not strategy).

Also this.

Crush their flesh

Because the second they reveal that they care you find them boring or too easy and dump them, that's why.

Showing emotions makes you vulnerable, and people (especially women) routinely abuse male vulnerability to humiliate and manipulate them. I don't trust my own mother, let alone the hole I tricked into letting me get between her legs

Also I take so many medications that I don't think I really do have many emotions anymore. Everything is just alright, or sometimes late at night, a terrifying and infinite black void.

I don't sincerely care about girls that much. I go through the motions of giving them attention and affection like watering a house plant, but mostly I think they are a warm fleshy place to dump my seed and pass the time with. Truth be told, I love my dog and Richard Yates more than any human being.

Finally, a sadistic part of me secretly enjoys hurting their feelings and keeping them at a distance after first giving them the false hope of intimacy and happiness. Denying women what they want makes me happy because they denied me what I wanted for a very long time. This is more or less the only way to take revenge on them for the meaningless social competitions and superficial point collecting they force me to engage in. Call that petty and spiteful or what you will, but it's how I feel. How's that for some openness?

This but also if you dont have a good amount in common with them this will happen too. If you share a passion this wont be an interest. If he has no passion, go for someone else

It's because they consider women subhuman, everyone here says it on a daily basis. All men hate women. It's as simple as that. They only treat you like a person if they want to fuck you and are incapable of being cordial without the promise of sex.

When you are soft women humiliate you and lose all respect.

Because after shitty experiences with women they care about they become distant and apathetic.

women do the same thing to men who aren't attractive, we are invisible and irrelevant. also why would anyone get emotional with someone they don't want to fuck? that makes no sense and you just come off as fucking crazy

i was more open like that when i was younger (teens to early 20s), but as i hit my mid 20s i became emotionally distant or whatever
i think men are just radicalizing against women in response to feminism (which is largely just women radicalizing against men despite what modern feminists say)
it is pretty interesting because most women arent even feminists (manhating types) however the overrepresention it gets in mainstream culture due to how much the media signal boosts far left shit, leading ordinary women to notice that men are becoming distant, detached, and simply uninterested in pursuing a relationship
im happy with life though, 30 year old retired NEET working an office job and just bought a neat condo last year, dont really feel like i need a woman in my life for anything other than casual sex and hanging out

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I'm the complete opposite.
After quitting anti-depressants I'm way too fucking emotional.
I'm a bloody bloke and I cry over fucking episodes of Supergirl and shit.

Basically, we treat women like we would any other man and they can't handle it

Women expect some sort of perpetual reward for having a vagina
You're just a person, just as stupid and ugly as the next stranger on the street. I'm not cordial to the smelly Indian guy who overcharges me at the gas station, and I'm certainly not cordial to the 6/10 who overcharges me at the pussy station

Dating is one big scam, and if you can't figure out who's the rube then it's you

There's a difference between being crazy emotional and being a rude, apathetic turd to people you don't want to fuck. You could still treat women like humans. You say that women treat ugly guys like they are invisible, but I see them at least getting greeted by cashiers and treated like they exist. Men don't give ugly women the same courtesy, they literally don't even make eye contact or use fake pleasantries. You're all monsters.

>rude, apathetic turd to people you don't want to fuck
This is how women treat me. When I'm not getting treated with outright hostility or disgust.

I promise you I'm not making fun of you. There's not a woman in my life that I care about enough to make fun of.

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Hello daughter

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women either treat me like shit or i don't exist. there's nothing i can do about it. if you're ugly you're fucked. that's all there is to it.

I don't open up to anybody. It's just how I was raised and how I am. If I do I always painstakingly make sure about what I say so I don't come across a way.

My ex didn't mind me being emotionally open....... Very rarely. Either there's something fundamentally different about me compared to all of you or you're all doing something wrong, but I never had a woman get turned off from me by opening up about something.

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Why would I show my weaknessess to some random woman? So she mock me, think I'm gay or manipulate me? Better safe than sorrow.

No we don't, I've literally only ever seen guys get mad at people for being emotional.

>retired NEET working an office job
That's not how it works. 2/10 got me to reply.

There were some episodes of Flash I felt like I could cry at if I cried at tv shows, but I can't imagine enjoying Supergirl unironically outside of crossovers.

I don't know, I always try to treat everyone with respect and acknowledge they exist, I don't get why other people can't show the same courtesy to others.

emotions are for intimacy. we don't get very emotional with our guy friends, we just hangout and do stuff. we don't talk about our feelings all the time like women do with their girl friends. it happens sometimes but most of the time we just can't be bothered with that shit.

weak guys get punished for being vulnerable. you want him to be that way with you but if he's too emotional, you wouldn't like it either. you think your case is special but how's he supposed to believe that? women trash talk weak men all the time. they might praise an example on social media for lack of toxic masculinity or whatever but everyone knows it's hollow.

>Far too many females tend to use any emotional opening as a weakspot to shit-test, manipulate and ridicule a guy.
this

>How's that for some openness
The silence of the roast speaks volumes. You're doing God's Work, user. Keep it up.

The one time I ever opened up to any woman about anything (My sister, in this case after she pressed me to talk) she immediately used it to her advantage in the next argument we had. I learned my lesson, and I'm certainly not gonna fall for that shit again.

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based aspie

to attract a mate, our personalities are perpetuated by western culture... if you show weakness, especially emotionally, we assume you would leave us for the more stable Chad (with money and stability)

if a guy is unhappy about something, you might just leave him for someone better.

tldr; many western women (not all) like emotionless assholes. and we have to perpetuate that

in a guy's mind, if a guy acts emotional and attached to you, you might think he is insecure and is not good enough. if as a guy we act distant and emotionless, it implies that we're more confident and that we always have other options available.

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I do not open up to anyone anymore. Not even male friends, and when it comes to talking about personal stuff I laugh everything off as "Well shit's fucked, such is life".
I'm a man, I shouldn't ever show weakness or indicate that I have problems.
Women need a rock to hold on to, society needs a builder and fighter, parents need a strong hand to help and a high achiever, friends need someone to call anytime for anything.
Nobody needs a doormat. Only place I can vent is here as here we all are anonymous losers fucked up in the head.

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I find it funny how the roast skips over the part where women do the same thing, conveniently memory holed that one.

unprovoked bait, but ok

>tfw unstable personality that shifts between distant/apathetic and emotional/neurotic every now and then

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WHO IS SHE I'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR This semen demon forever

watched too much naruto

Its kind of comforting to know Im not the only member of the dead inside club.

because men learn early on that women are so insufferable to talk to. they go on and on and on about stupid shit like their dogs personality or some retarded basic story about how someone said something in a slightly mean way to someone else at their work. women are retarded and theres no point attaching yourself to their personality because its always shallow. guys just wanna fuck you because theres no brain behind those eyes. give him a reason to invest, like dont be boring and dont be a retard and have some self respect and dont throw your pussy around for guys to use and u'll see that he does have emotions.

>Men get ostracized for being emotional and are expected to be strong & independant
>"Why are men so emotionless?"

Because I've been made fun of my men and women alike every other time I dared to talk about my feelings
This continued to happen well into high school. Everyone I know literally conditioned me to act like an apathetic asshole. A girl who actually likes me enough and is brave enough to prove it to me by touching my dick is one of the only things this conditioning allows me to get genuinely excited over.

Because men evolved to be more emotionally cold because neuroticism is a sign of weakness especially to women. If women don't like you you can't mate. If you can't mate you can't reproduce. Therefore men who are emotionally cold were naturally selected if you will. It's that simple.

The simple reality is that men are given less consideration by society as a whole. Women are afforded a prolonged, if not perpetual, state of childhood in which high emotionality and impulsivity is tolerated, if not rewarded. Men, on the other hand, even from a young age, are punished for displaying these traits.

Boys learn early in life that there are only two ways to make it by, you either make yourself unnoticeable, or you act like you're the toughest fucker in the room. Boys who don't learn how to do either get tossed to jackals to be used and abused.

>"Do men even have feelings?"
>Men share feelings
>"Lol are men actually this pathetic"

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>men get bullied into not feeling anything from a young age
>the suicide rate for men is higher than that of women, depression exists
>women dont want emotional men regardless of what they say, they want chads
>"why cant I find an emotional guy!!"

because you're fucking BORING
if you'd talk to a man you had anything in common with, you'd be able to have engaging conversations and fulfilling relationships. your personality is so dry and lifeless that the only thing he's interested in while talking to you is sex, because nothing else about you is interesting. maybe you do have interests, but none of them are shared with the men you're talking to and complaining about.