Friday night

not him, but anxiety in intense situations gives you the runs. god knows why but I get it too

I don't really like partying. I'd rather just have a chill night with a few friends drinking a bit, eating and chatting or even have a few beers on my own and go to sleep. Normalfag "socialising" consists of getting shit faced to the point where they cant remember anything and being told the "crazy" shit they did while DUDE so drunk.

I learned a long time ago to enjoy and cherish my time to myself. Being with others is hell; learn to enjoy solitude and quiet. Meditation was one way to achieve that for me.

Bros if we lived near each other irl I'd come drink and chill with you guys on Friday. Watch memes on yt and bs about life. Sad that the internet connects us but we're still so far away :(

I found turning to meditation is a way of coping for me. Being fine alone is one thing, but I feel that in anons situation (and mine) it'd just be solving a symptom rather than the cause. Humans are social beings and we feel lonely for a biological reason. There's something fulfilling about a sense of belonging with a group and a hunch of mine is that extended states of loneliness will start to bring up bigger health issues. Whether you buy into that or not, I think a major part of life is creating relationships with others and missing out on that may cause some regrets in later years.

SS + GOMAD

I used to hate going to parties in highschool and college but now that I'm older (28) I'd kill to get invited to a small party (12-22 people)

I miss having a wide variety of people to socialize with.

I know what you mean, but also I fear going out. I’m a stickler for money, and I have a hard time taking to girls

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>last summer at home before i graduate
>full-time internship
>commute is 1h there, 1h30 back
>get home, eat, go to the gym, stay up until 1:30am
>friends from high school are stuck in the past, do the same things they did back then
>friends from college are far away
>girlfriend on the other side of the country

How do I cheer up/not be a lonely mopey faggot? Like I said I go to the gym regularly but it tires me out combined with work. My hobbies are very singular (model airplanes, vinyl records, reading) but I need some social interaction.

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for me anxiety poops arent necessarily diarrhea but what happens is i poop a number of times in a short time span. it starts off normal, then gets less solid and more horrible diarrhea smelling after the third time i shit in the past hour, leaves my asshole covered in shit and i basically have to shower atrwards. its horrible

Embrace the silent big guy character type go through life lifting heavy things

Sounds comfy, out on a high rise building balcony, over looking the city, coming from a heavy gym day eating some high test foods and listing to bones and smoking a blunt.

same brah
most of my time is spent working alone on my hobbies and getting my skill as high as possible
I wouldn't be able to spend that much time isolated if it weren't for countless hours of meditation

If it means anything, you're not alone in being alone

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your friends arent your therapists. Theyll be there for you when things get tough but the only person responsible for your mental wellbeing is you. You need to get a therapist and start socialising more. how you do it is up to you. Join a club, take up a sport, whatever, doesnt matter, just try something. Talk to people at work, even. Dont um and er until youre 70 and you've let your life pass you by.

most normies enjoy doing this too. Meet people who want the best for themselves and who are better than you and better yourself

I am 22 years old have no friends and am a khhv. All I do is lift watch anime and listen to metal. Be brutally honest with me fellas, am I past the point of no return?

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no. nobody is truly past the point of no return. you can make it, if you wish for it to be true.

maybe, but that's not a bad thing

At this point lifting is the only thing that keeps me going, it feels like I am waging a war against god who has damned me

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You're me, and I'm you. I do have a few friends however, but I'm sure they'll be gone soon. I don't know what to tell you. Either try or don't. I'm not interested in making friends, and I've given up on girls. My hobbies are singular and niche. If I could only kill my urges for women I think I could actually be content for once.

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>If I could only kill my urges for women I think I could actually be content for once.
Absolutely, I hope someday to overcome my desires. Very based pic as well user

Parties are overrated, and most guys aren't worth getting to know anymore.
>Go to party
>Drink
>Guys proceed to talk trash on whatever guys are not present at the party, but act buddy buddy whenever they are there like a bunch of girls
>Go to bars to have fun with the bros
>Just kidding, the group splits up because chasing mediocre ass is more important than having fun with friends
>Probably because everyone realizes no one is actually a true friend

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>Right now you can't go to a party, right? Don't worry, you'll go another day
It’s been 8 years since I’ve had human contact outside of work. My childhood/teen years went to this website. It’s over for me bros.

Is it weird to just enjoy doing this more?

tfw im getting old. i remember when i was partying from 15-24 four/three times a week, no wonder i fucking almost flunked uni and school.

but damn do i miss it.. only the occassional birthday every 6 months where its a fucking dinner.

Hang in there brother

This. Parties are fucking awful. I don’t give a shit about anyone there besides the one friend that invited me. Always surprised he’s friends with these faggots. Usually get fucking trashed but I’m still not talkative when I’m drunk so it doesn’t matter.

>go to bar
>make out hard with qt
>she leaves and says "good luck"

why

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>I don't even know where I would make as much as one single friend.
I've made most of my friends through common interests, a lot of them just lifting. First you hang out to do whatever activity together, then that has the potential to create a human connection that turns to friendship. You have to enjoy doing stuff though (wasting away on a screen doesn't count) for this strategy.

Senpai just meet people over the time and ask them if they want to hang out, parties and bars shit are overated imo

Prefer to be alone, i could if I wanted to, have more friends, go to more events, meet more girls. It all comes at a cost though, whether it be a horrid rejection or some cringe bank moment or cost in general. Is it weird that i’m actually rejecting the chance to meet girls to relax on my own? Thinking of getting ferrets instead of a long term gf. Bang a few tinder thots when the great fapping urge occurs. Worried about my t levels desu.

They happen because your body relases cotosol and adrenalin in response to a fight or flight reflex based on a perceved threat. Adrenaline is a sypathic agent so it causes your emergemcy systems to turn on. It causes your hr and br to increase and i would guess it activates your histamine receptors as well which causes hives and fecal urgancy.

But im a medic not an endocronologist so what do i know lol

Or maybe the dialation of your blood vessles cause youe bowls to release similar to caffiene

my friends:
>bros from highschool who just play boardgames/dnd, happy with their tiny insular world, I feel like an outsider now because I lift and am not a virgin
>coworkers and ex-coworkers, mostly girls and mostly at uni, literally talk about star signs and their mental health issues the whole time
>ballroom dancers who just get wine drunk and talk shit about other dancers (it’s the bitchiest hobby possible, all histrionic bitches and gayboys)

I just want some chad bros to shoot the shit with. But I feel like my standards for bros are too high and I never meet any potential bros anyway because I’m real standoffish outside of work. It’s so much easier to make a connection with women but they can’t give me the camaraderie I crave, and for some reason I’m always either a boyfriend prospect or just a friendly acquaintance, never the cool hot guy who gets brought to parties and stuff. It’s all so tiresome bros

sounds like you can't shoot the shit, anyone who spends too much time around women tend to be too passive-aggressive and hold grudges but just hide behind some persona. If you want chad friends, unironically just be yourself and stop spending so much time around women.

Chad here, I also get some mild anxiety before public events, we all do, even George Clooney.
The only thing that works is exposure, you need to suffer at first then you forget about it, or you even start to correlate that fear and the good memories that go with it.

Even chads and Clooney got rejected, laughed at, been dumped etc, it's the normal human experience.

This is city life for you. Sounds paradoxically, but you feel a lot less lonely in solitude.

i cope by spending my friday nights gaming

i dont feel so alone if i'm playing some competitive shit with online friends where we talk strategy and try to win

also smoking weed helps.

>tfw inserted 20€ and it kept the money

This. Separating people into camps such as "Chad", "normie" etc only serves in practice to ensure that you never "become" one of them.

First things first, it is never too late and it's fairly easy to make acquaintances. You can also always hit up people you used to hang out with in the past, catch up with them, maybe start hanging out with them again. Second, for all the days when you feel bad about not socializing: If you have actually made an effort to go out and it just didn't work out, do something productive or something you enjoy. Being able to entertain yourself and keep yourself busy is an important skill my friend.

Friends invited me to a big party recently which I declined because I fucking hate parties. Can't stand the noise and the sheer amount of humans.

gay

WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU EVEN TALK ABOUT ON A PARTY
>friend bday
>he wants to party
>invites people ive never seen before
>everyone is talking about all shit
>some people approach me
>they start talking about some gibberish
>"haha hannah was so crazy, she jumped into the pool naked"
>im just trying to smile but I really dont give a fuck about hannah
>who the fuck is hannah
>try to find a topic to talk about
>"hey guys what music do you like"
>half of them said bruno mars, the rest said radio
>ask them if they know sleep
>"YEAH I LOVE SLEEPING"
>everyone starts losing it
>just stand there listening to their shit and try to smile all the time
>suddenly they walk away
>not sure if I can walk with them now
>just stand still looking around, flexing my neck
>put on headphones and start listening to the new sleep album

I dont drink alcohol. Is this my problem?

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s e s h

You want to know how to deal with social anxiety? Get a customer facing job. You will quickly realize most people, yes, even the beautiful ones, are fucking retards. Everyone is fucking retarded. It isn't until you work with the general public that you gain a massive appreciation of the friends that you manage to make who are few and far between.

>listing to bones
depressing
how about some good music?

I'm not a physician, but I guess you have the autistic

>friday
>ask in groupchat of friends if somebody wants to do shit this weekend
>get 0 answers from the 10+ people
>today
>individually ask a few if they have plans tonight
>all busy with gfs, work, uni

I've known most of these guys for ages and am really good friends with them. Yet recently most of the time when i try to initiate something i get completely ignored and usually only join preplanned activities. On top of that they regularly mention going to parties/doing stuff together afterwards without ever asking me.

Sounds like you are way too much in your own head. Try to shift your focus from obsessing over how you look to them.
Also, that's usually what people do at parties, drink and bullshit without really talking about anything. Randomly asking people about their interests like you are on a date is not something you normally do. If the topic comes up you can talk about anything from music to politics, but the baseline is "how drunk r u bro? lol not as drunk as u last week haha".
So yes, these events are much more enjoyable with alcohol. That might be your problem

being alone and having to deal with loneliness is better than being around other people i find. i just don't give a fuck about anyone else or what they're doing. on the few occasions when i've been out or met someone i never ask about their life because i dont give a shit and they find that odd. i guess i've only ever gone to social events because i feel like it's "good for me" or to keep up appearances. maybe some people aren't meant to have friends.

female autism

I know that feel. Every Friday evening I see people gathering to party, laughing together while I go home after gym to eat clean and go to bed early. And I'm so fucking jealous of them. I know I can't join them cause I can't stand normalfags and their conversations but I wish I could. I wish I was normal.

are you gay..

It is a scientific fact that loneliness is detrimental to health

I know this feel brother. Doesnt feel good.

>girlfriend on the other side of the country
She's not your girlfriend. I'm sorry

I'm in a clan and i'm the 'quiet one', mostly because i feel way too old in comparison to the rest. They are mostly 18-22 while i'm 27. They've become friends, and i'm just THAT guy that plays good.

What gets me everytime is when at work they start talking about all their funny experience they had while partying. They all say they regret partying and doing stupid stuff in their teens but what they dont know is that sitting at home and surfing the chans all up to my mid 20s is a much greater regret than they will ever understand.
No one liked or likes me enough to invite me to such gatherings.

You are me. I feel like a bad person because I genuinely don't give a fuck about people, what happens in their lifes or their opinions. I'm just bored. And when I try to feign interest it's just feels cringy.

It's fucked up because social interaction is required for both mental and physical health. Also you won't get anywhere in life without networking and connections. Being antisocial is one shitty handicap.

You must realize, the parties you overhear are half filled with depressed people looking to escape the never ending torment brought on by feelings of inadequacy. They would rather escape than stand and fight. The other half are people just trying to fit in for the sake of fitting in. So they don’t feel so alone, and yet, the people they’re trying to fit in with are the aforementioned escapists. Once this is realized, you will see that two bit pop music, mixed drinks, thots and thirsty base instinct boys simply isn’t worth being around. Are these the kinds of people you want to associate yourself with? Read, write, focus on your gains, find a woman and have beautiful children. Live a life worth living, not one where you have to escape rampant nihilism.

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Based and deadliftsonFridaypilled.
You. I like you

>find a woman and become a cuck
Come the fuck on.

are you me :)

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I feel sorry for room temperature IQ faggots that have fallen for the ‘muh pussy’ trick. You’ve been convinced that more pussy=absolute Chad. Nothing could be further from the truth. A true test of will and character is finding a wife and raising children with her.

maybe. I grew up with three women and no men in my household so socialising with women has always come more easily to me. Guess I gotta practice chatting with dudes more.

>anxiety poops
Bane of my existence. Went on my first ever date two years ago and we were supposed to drive around to find somewhere nice to watch fireworks together, but instead we ended up in a train station car park because I kept having to run to the toilet under the guise of "throwing up" lol

Bro, you're preaching to the choir here. It's just trying to build a traditional family in twenty nineteen is an exercise in futility. You'll get cucked and divorce raped.

I had my first date at 23 (didn't kiss because I'm a pussy, but that's not relevant). You aren't past the point of no return. But you're getting there. Make changes before you end up like me.

In some places "good luck" is a form of "goodbye".

It’s absolutely not user. You may be looking in the wrong places. Even the act of looking can be to your detriment. You attract in women, what you are as a man. If you are physically fit, intelligent, stoic, and have strong will, then you will attract women with similar traits. You may think no one notices, but someone will eventually, and it will have been worth the wait.

Samefag. There are also times when being passive and having patience isn’t your best option. Sometimes, you have to take what is yours.

How did you know this is exactly what I did tonight right down to the music
HealthySesh

If it bothers you that much, leave and join a new clan with older people and start fresh

I'm just so fucking lonely, but I know deep inside that having a gf isn't going to make my life 1000 times better. I know that there are other areas in my life that I need to fix first. Trying to push the pain, but its so fucking hard.

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go to a party or smth in another city cause you wont see these people again anyways so you dont have to be anxious when trying to initiate conversations or flirts

Same but still gay

>got rejected
>she wont talk to me anymore barelly even look at me
>just want to have someone to talk to who cares about me
why does this keeps happening to me, why do they always stop talking to me, why does it feel everybody keeps me at a safe distance and when i try to get closer they bail

don't think, just do.. wanna talk to a girl? do it

stop larping

Parties are only fun when you party with Chad's. If you party with weebs it's almost certain there won't be any girls and they won't really do anything fun.

Back at college I was lucky enough that the Chad's in my dorms adopted me and always invited me to their parties. Anyone saying parties aren't fun and only for people to get shit faced are coping hard. Parties are where you meet other people who could potentially further your career and run into girls who would be more willing to fuck you than on any other day.

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she could sense your desperation and your willingness to give up your essence
so she used you up for a bit of pleasure and realized there was no chase, no difficulty so she dropped you and wished you good luck on future sex endeavours

>girlfriend on the other side of the country
Drop her dude. Don't make the same mistake that myself and many other anons have made. Even if you stay together there is a very, very small chance that she will have remained faithful while you are gone.

Same for me. No longer obese anymore, actually somewhat good looking, but my social anxiety remained.

VERY Based and Sleep-pilled
I'd love to talk about Sleep with you mang

partying with nerds is fun as long as they're not weebs

Yea I agree with that. I went to an engineers party once and we were solving integrals while drunk lol it was fun ngl.

Can't you just go say hi to your neighbor and join the party?

if you literally have zero friends or family your age to hang out with, my advice to you is to find some activity you like to do and meet people doing it. Friendships are born out of common interests, and you have to put yourself in a situation where you can meet people who like the same stuff as you.

Are you a nerd? Do you like board games or magic the gathering? Find a friday night magic group and just show up. There is nothing wrong with not knowing anybody. It's actually charming to just show up with no friends and expect to meet people.

Do you exercise a lot? Join an exercise class like orange theory or crossfit. You will start to meet all the regulars and over time you can meet people for drinks after etc...

After that, friendships just take time. You aren't going to have a squad of close friends overnight, you have to make memories with them first. But start with activities you like that will get you in front of other people.