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I have two sons and I lead by example. I keep fit and I work hard but I make sure I have time to play with them. I ensure we do lots of physical play like sports and play fighting. I try to keep them away from vidya or tablets as much as I can by limiting their access. I try to ensure they socialise with others more as this is the most important aspect of them not growing up socially retarded. I also discapline them when needed and don't let them get away with murder like some parents. I'm their parent first and their friend second.

Should you tell your kids when they are making a mistake? I have a younger friend, 19 year old girl, who's getting her first car, but she's doing this retarded payment plan over 5 years that will end up costing her nearly 20k for a car worth 11k. I told her that's a really bad idea since her interest payments are so high because she's so young, and she's much better off just buying a used car off kijiji or something. Even if it's a dud, you can go through nearly 7 $3000 cars in 5 years for the same price she's going to end up paying for that one car.

But all that happened was that she got pissed off at me and seems resentful now that I tried to tell her that she's making a mistake, and I feel like it would have just been better to congratulate her on the car and let her find out herself what a bad mistake it was. But then again, that's a really fucking expensive mistake to just let someone make.

She is 19.she wants to think she is all grown up and knows what she is doing. Best you can do is to offer advice but keep it as just friendly advice. Don't try and push your opinion on her. Sometimes you gotta let people make their own mistakes.

That's what I'm wondering when I have kids though. Obviously I want to help my future kids with making smarter choices, but when do you just shut up and let them make their own mistakes?

Just teach them about finances as they grow up. When helping with maths homework, use financial examples to subtle teach them about money. I don't for the life of me understand why this isn't done in schools anyway. Better to let them make mistakes like that when they are young and can afford to make mistakes. They will learn from them. Just don't shout I told you so.

Basically, educate them well enough as they grow up by letting them join in with your decisions and showing them why you made one decision over another and hope they grow up to be responsible.

Bare in mind I'm a father but I'm learning this shit on the fly making it up as I go along.

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i will not let them eat highly processed foods, i want to not make the same mistakes my parents made.

One thing I look forward to is teaching how to be self sufficient. I was raised by 30 year old boomers (who are now 50) and they taught me nothing of value. I was fat, socially awkward, had no hobbies, no people skills etc. My 23 year old bro is still like it now and itr's sad to watch. At least he has a job his finances sorted out but I really want to see him bloom anons ;_;

Don't wait till you're a father to mentor someone. Start with your brother. He sounds like he wants to do good, but he just doesn't know how.

I try but he sees anything "age appropriate" (he's 23) as degenerate. We were raised by a single mother and a step dad who wasn't a great male role model (beta) and my mother has totally emasculated him. As a result my brother (and I) had no real male role models and doesn't know how to socialize as a male. He thinks the way to get girls is by buying gifts for them, even if they're not single, and acting creepy while shutting himself in his room and playing video games. He has a good job and has good money but has also recently started spending money on mTX games on mobile phones. He's trapped in a 13 year olds mind imo. He's never rebelled, never tried smoking, drinking, rarely talks about girls and when he does it sounds so forced, he stutters, has bad skin, all of which is from the absolute dopamine drain he gets from masturbating and playing "games" on his phone all day. I love him to death and think he's doing great in terms of advancing in life, such as his job, car, finances etc. However, his social skills and life style are stunting him.

Every time I try and ask him to come and have a tin of beer or a cigar or something (very rarely) he'll say no and act repulsed that I even asked him. I don't want to turn you into an addict you moron, I want you to socialize and loosen up so I can enjoy having a brother and not a candy crush fortnite addict ;_;

I also tried getting him into gardening, shooting, books, suggest movies and he never accepts. I'm never forceful but I do offer my opinions when asked. He just doesn't show much interest.

thanks nigger

>raising all of my daughters to be wholesome tomboys

I want to believe women like those exist

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I have two sons and I don’t teach them much because one is 4 years old and the other is almost 3 months old. When they’re older I will teach them to not be fat faggots or weebs.

>leg weights
This sounds bad.

They have very light weights you can wrap around toddlers' legs in order to boost their leg strength, so I don't see the issue

I am genuinely afraid of the future when I have children because state school is mandatory or they'll take the children from me, and in school they'll be taught liberal shit with ethos arguments.
WHAT DO?

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