/sig/ Basics: >YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do. >Work your way to becoming the best YOU you can be - one step at a time. >Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. Use short-term Goals to keep yourself going. >Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones. >Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. Get 6-11 hours of sleep. More Info: pastebin.com/h4CDDtKu (embed) (embed) >Learn Mindfulness Meditation. More Info: pastebin.com/0NMDEUNh (embed) (embed) >Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego. >Think critically. >If you need to put others down to feel good about yourself, you are putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on the people you look down on. >Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once, you’ll burnout.
Gym this morning, doing some Billable work this afternoon, did a little bit of Spanish practice.
But got an exam in two months I should be starting to focus on it, but i'm not.
Read another book this week and have consistently read book after book this year.
Still paying down credit card debt, paid off 6 Grand so far this year, but still got another 11.5 to go. Next major milestone/goal is sub 10 Grand.
Been playing the Piano again most days.
Still doing some volunteer work at least once a week.
Still long term sober.
Dunno why I obsess over an Ex, I have her out of my life and not contacting me. But now I'm lonely and looking at the past through rose tinted glasses. Guess I am obsessing cos I'm feeling a bit lonely. I don't really want to start trying to date at the moment, I just can't be bothered with it.
I don't feel like I am living up to my full potential. I have very high self expectations but they are equally matched with my inherent laziness and self delusion.
Got a one year and a three year plan which are challenging but I believe doable. I just wish I could do it all in one day.
Jack Wilson
I have a party tonight with lots of people who I don't know and I'm nervous. I want to be social.
Brayden Taylor
>1) fear of failure drives to you keep working so that you don't experience failing >2) enjoying what you're working on keeps you working because you enjoy doing it
Is there any consensus in motivational theories as to which one of these is the more effective tool to keep someone working at something?
If you are struggling to do a task are you better setting up fearful consequences of failing to do it, or retraining your mind to find ways to feel enjoyment out of doing said task (i.e associating it with happy things, seeing it as a challenge or game you can enjoy conquering, etc.)
I have always told myself that there's no need for the fear-stress approach to life when you can instead retrain your mind to enjoy the challenge of difficult tasks, which is how some people work hard without going grey from stress. However, it hasn't really worked for me, and now I wonder if fear of failure really is the best way to make someone work at their goals. Or it could be I just failed to set up real enjoyment in challenges.
> start /sig/ in 2k15 > defeated social anxiety, can take rejections easily > lifting now too, 203 deadlift / 180 squat / 115 bench / 88 press (not sure how good that is for 5'3) > working on cooking and comp sci > the more /sig/ I do the more I see how my family is fucked
What a complete mindfuck. It's really something else when you see that someone's parents actually care rather than be defensive or power authority or whatever. Both of my parents put zero effort in shit.
about 25K at the mo. But basically living as a largely isolated basement dweller until I can pay this debt off.
Been working my own company for the last few years but been a lot more focused/professional etc since Jan and it is starting to show some returns.
Matthew Bennett
stop blaming your parents, you are responsible for yourself and your actions
Owen Scott
Next time you see an infant, slap the titty out it's mouth and tell that lazy bitch to go get some milk from walmart.
Bentley Torres
>watch is getting tight on my wrist Am i actually making wrist gains? I started as a skeleton and gained probably 5 kg or so since i started lifting. I am still skinny, my goal is to at least gain another 10 kg. This might actually make my wrists bigger?
Kevin Clark
It might seem counter-intuitive but are you also putting money in savings at the same time? If you start saving alongside paying down your debt you're setting yourself up for succes after your debt is gone. 10% of income into savings, 20% to paying off debt is a good system, but once your debt is paid off you can go 20-30% into savings.
Logan Phillips
Nope, just working on paying off the highest interest credit card, then move to the next one. The debt clearing is a 12 month plan, then the following two years will be all about saving money.
Parker Myers
Why do these keep getting 404?
Carson Moore
because the jannies are fucking trash
Elijah Bell
>27, have almost 30k in savings >work in retail at a pharmacy, not a tech or anything >went from full time to part time while taking college classes >just got a letter in the mail that I lost my insurance/benefits because of the hour cut >manager told me I’m going to be working full time again in the coming month, but this letter says I won’t be eligible for insurance and benefits until January next year
I know I need a different job and I’m at a loss for what to do. I’m one class short of a computer science associate’s degree but I don’t think I want a career in that anymore. I’ll take the class to finish up but I’m having difficulty finding work I’d actually enjoy. Technology is soul draining.
Angel Wood
How long until the post workout pump me is the real me? Is it ever achievable natty? I mean like the post workout pump i have right now. When in my training would I have that body..
I mire myself for many many minutes after workouts now. Not gonna lie I could make myself hard.
Camden Peterson
Can high protein diet + calisthenics cure a skinny fat body? I'm 5'10-5'11ish and 170 pounds I have a slight belly and my t highs are a little loose (not fat, but I can move/wiggle them, instead of them beibg right). I'm asking because I can't drive so going to the gym isn't feasible option right now. Also, should I eat at a caloric deficiet or a caloric surplus, yes I've read the stick but I see conflicting options on Jow Forums all the time when it comes to skinny fats dieting.
Brayden Gutierrez
I feel like idiot for asking in here. But I have a decent coding job out of college so I should be happy, but it's a small buisness with mostly older dudes so it feels like all of my social interactions as of late are online as of late and it's eating away at me. Trying to meet up with my old drinking buddy from college doesn't work cause he's in the shitter with no job and stuck with his parents. My other college friends I've grown apart from since I don't really share interests as much anymore.
I want to do something that gives me something to do in real life, be it my hobby, (DJing, ideally at my local college bar), or making a game. But I've just been on my ass in a cycle of work, going to the gym, and wasting my time with my online friends. Part of me wants to get away from that group entirely but I like playing games with them on them weekends and I've met up with some IRL for music fests and had a lot of fun.
Sorry for the rant but I wanted to vent.
Jeremiah Murphy
Serious answer? pic related
I can't give an answer to >How long until the post workout pump me is the real me? because you will chase pump after pump
I feel like nothing is worse for mental health than sitting around all day in front of the computer and not being productive. But today is a "free day". I don't know what to do. I don't want to work. I can't go to the gym because I already went the last days. Fuck, I think I will just leave and walk around the city.
I also woke up way too late. My goal for today is at least going to bed before midnight even if I dont fall asleep and then leave bed tomorrow morning before 9:00 and go to the office to catch up on work I couldn't finish.
Leo Jenkins
No I mean the post workout pump I have currently. The one I have now, how long till that's just me.
Aaron Rivera
This picture usually gets me pretty motivated. It's not too late for you guys. Just try and do something.
I know. But the moment you reached that point, you don't care about it anymore because you surely want to look like the new pump and so on and so on. It will happen.
But to still give some kind of helpfull answer: It depends on how good you train / sleep / and eat. Are you having a strength oriented training programm or hypertrophy? Are you full vegan or eating everything you can get in a good quantity? Are you sleeping 7-8 hours in a good way or 5-6 hours after 3 evening beers?
Aiden White
I was just hit with an epiphany. What I lack is accountability. I am too comfortable. So I will try and post my goals on /sig/ and report back.
First step is stop wasting time on idle games. I constantly keep running idle games and they waste time day after day. Even if it's just 10-20 minutes, it adds up. But I am too committed after playing them for years. Time to stop. I just now closed them all. No more time wasting on shit I do not need.
I wish I went to the gym today. I switched to a new program this week and I love it. Finally so much passion for lifting after years of stagnation. What I need is change and higher standards for myself.
Goals: >write down what is important to me >fix my sleep schedule
Matthew Barnes
Sounds like you can still make your sleeping goal no problem, and in my opinion going out for a walk is a top tier response to momentary boredom or aimlessness. Feeling directionless on free days is a temporary thing that's akin to the first few days if nofap where anything other than porn can seem nonsensical on the internet (in my experience). Its a transitionary thing. Pick up a book or instrument (doesnt need to be anything amazing, fuck around on a 30 dollar ukulele or something) or anything little minor hobby to experience something new if you need something to chew up time while your brain readjusts.
Aaron Perry
If /SIG/ gets shitcanned from Jow Forums I'll have a rage induce seizure. When they got kicked off Jow Forums for being the only productive thing ever posted there I was happy that i was getting pushed to Jow Forums. But if I'm expected to actually frequent Jow Forums for self improvement threads than I'll just abandon this gay polynesian towel folding forum forever.
Angel Ramirez
>>YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your surroundings, YOU.
Damn sociology, psychology and anthropology EXPOSED! Apparently human beings exist fully independent of their surroundings and are not influenced by their environment, material conditions, ideology, religion, etc.
Mason Kelly
Who hurt you friend?
Noah Jackson
So is edging an actually effective way to last longer in bed?
Leo Johnson
So you faggots DID come from Jow Forums
Eli Williams
I dont know if /sig/ started here at the same time more or less as Jow Forums, but from my perspective yeah pretty much. Healthiest thing that ever happened to be tbqh.
Carter Flores
>than I'll just abandon this gay polynesian towel folding forum forever exactly what they want you to do don't do it
Brayden Butler
I found that it is, but 9 times out of 10 it's more psychological than anything else. Edging just helps you come down from that "oh shit oh shit oh shit pull out for a second" quicker and with less of a chance to sudden dump all over her ass.
Jonathan Roberts
>finish workout >feel good >shower, eat, etc. >two hours after working out >all I want to do is lift more I'm addicted to the iron bros
Nicholas Hughes
Is this trend of people telling every to "stop lifting if you're short/have an ugly face/are poor" new or has it aways been on Jow Forums.
Carter Sanders
Jow Forums would make sense as a board for /sig/ except the board's way too fast with people shitposting about crypto, it's not really a board for self development the way an entrepreneurial lifestyle board would be.
Bentley Harris
>said goodbye to gf, shes quite angry at me but says she will be faithful. It's clear that she uses the anger as a coping mechanism but I hope that she loses it >trying to not be angry myself, she hasn't said goodbye yet but I hope she does in the next 2 hours before I delete that email as well and move on. >trying to take responsibility for allowing myself to be hurt rather than blaming the people that hurt me >going for a walk with a friend in 3 hours after weeks of total isolation >going to exercise in about an hour when this meal has settled >very worried about the future but willing to accept whatever fate comes my way and make the best of it >not watching any pornography good luck. Remember that theres a high chance you wont get the waiver, so you need to see the navy as an option and not an end goal. In 2 years you might just get denied by MEPS doctors, but you will still have lost the weight and been off the meds. You will be healthier and better no matter what your fate is. Its almost impossible to not obsess if the relationship was anything real. What im doing is taking it one day at a time and waking up each morning slightly stronger than I did the previous day. Everybody wants to be social, but often its just impossible given the caliber of people you deal with at non mandatory functions. Go into it with no expectations. There's a third option called "will to be something keeps you working so you can be something" If you fear failure then you're likely to fall into the trap of avoiding risk, and often meaning comes from doing some things you don't necessarily enjoy. everybody is fucked, all you can do is unfuck yourself. what did you want to be when you were a kid? Nobody should be happy. I've had a very comfortable and enjoyable lifestyle and I was not happy. Happiness is fleeting and temporary, meaning is meaning. you're here forever
I used to post things like that, but now I cant afford to. Why do you want me to? If I'm attractive is everything I say irrelevant?
Kevin Jones
Nigga how can't you afford to take a picture? If you don't have a phone use your computer camera. Also no if you're unattractive it's irrelevant.
Unironically have sex.
Jack Roberts
But I have had sex many times. I cant afford to have my face on the internet.
Mason Ross
I assume he means "Can't afford to" as in he can't afford the risk of his identity being connected to Jow Forums
Bentley Edwards
>I have had sex many times
No you haven't
Nolan Wright
What is your goal here? Sex is just a bonding exercise. When I was a virgin I thought having sex would make me a man or something, and then I was having sex with a beautiful girl twice a day and I was still depressed and often taking it out on her. But tell me about yourself please.
Landon Taylor
Jesus Christ you people here are autistic.
Jeremiah Butler
who here on the longevity anti-aging pills?
Austin Martin
Can anyone upload the /sig/ megaupload cloud?
Juan Martinez
What is the best way to deal with it if it's psychological? I find that I get nervous whenever I'm about to have sex. I the focus so much in calming down I almost lose my boner. I focus on foreplay and make sure my gf is still satisfied but it's God damn annoying.
Isaiah Mitchell
how do you "set alarm after 5 sleep cycles"? Aura ring?
Sex is also a degenerate habit. You must only and only have sex for procreation.
Michael Carter
I dont really know the best method honestly. Might be an individual to individual sort of thing, but the swing from trying to calm down so much that you lose wood to getting too worked up and blowing early is a living hell. I'm fortunate enough that I've learned I only have the issue the first couple times just out of nerves, and as I stay in relationships for at least 3 years, it isnt something I have to deal with too much. That said, if it's your girlfriend that you've been with a decent period of time and you're still having psychological problems like this, I'd recommend first talking to her about it (theres no reason to be nervous if it's not a fling, you'll have other chances ffs) and if it's still a problem maybe see a doctor or something.
Wyatt Campbell
t. virgin
Colton Perez
I guess this is a question about health and self improvement.
Are some people just cursed with awful memory and can't do anything to change it? I have terrible memory, way below average, and it's been like this since forever. Both my short term and long term memory is fucked. The memories I do have are all very vague and blurry, I don't have a single clear memory. No I've never done drugs or heavy drinking, and as far as I know I don't have any brain damage.
Adrian Ramirez
I try doing doing some pushups or curls whenever I got the impulse. For whatever reason a bit of exercise always mellowed out an urge to jack off. The most obvious tip is to fill in your time with other, and when you do get online, be incredibly aware of what you're doing and not just brainlessly opening up some porn out of habit. If you're going to sit down at the computer, make a concious decision as to what precisely you're going to do.
My biggest nofap challange is that I'm in so deep that I'm into really bizarre kinks that I can only really get online, but also have a sort of affection for and dont just want to abandon. I've considered writing erotica as an outlet.
Logan Russell
So I went and got home soon after. I was standing alone while everyone was talking in groups. Like I'm not going to join a group where I don't know anyone.
Adrian Stewart
>another beautiful weekend >have no friends/gf/anyone to do anything with >only option of what to do outside is to bicycle around aimlessly the town doing nothing besides just leaving the house
worst part is im 27 years old and lived here basically my whole life. i know how much it sucks staying in my room and if i stay cooped up inside all day i literally get a headache/dizzy and fall asleep in my chair at like 3 PM, but living in an area so full of outdoor activities to do (bay area california) and not doing anything besides aimlessly being outside makes me feel even worse about my horrible life. seeing happy people, knowing im just biking randomly with no purpose to go nowhere and do nothing
Nicholas Lewis
Learn an instrument
Joshua Gray
I'd advise you pick up a hobby that opens up opportunities to knew social situations or communities. I live in marin county (just north of san fran) and if you have the means for gas you should make some trips up here and sonoma county for some outdoor recreation. We do a lot of kayaking and surfing (definitely not the best surf but it's alright for learning) and here's a huge hiking community up here. Even moreso if you make the trips further north. Also, since you already bike, theres a great group of people i know setting up and maintaining all kinds of mountain bike trails. Get involved nigger. In my experience the bay area is a life stealing degeneracy shithole (I refer to addiction to internet and urban lifestyle more than anything) and its heartbreaking that the beautiful countryside is just an hour and change out from you.
Evan Cooper
Why did these threads always get nuked? I can't think of a more Jow Forums related thread.
keep shitposting, fapping, getting attracted to fat whales, be a fat lazy blob there is no motive behind deleting /sig/ threads
Henry Miller
I've been with her for a few months, only started actual sex a month ago, twice a week at most since we're both quite busy. I'll chalk it up to overall nervousness. Still, any tips to become an absolute sex beast are appreciated.
David Price
There's literally nothing fit related in these threads you autistic spergs.
Josiah Phillips
Summoning MEGA-user and his collection of pictures
Darn, the idea of spiraling down into more and more degenerate kinks worries me more than anything else... Gotta stop now. Putting the sexual energy into use by exercising instead sounds good. Thanks, I'll try that. I'm thinking of getting a printout of pic related. Maybe even try etching it from wood... For inspiration's sake.
user there's another /SIG/ thread on Jow Forums maybe it will be more fitting to you. We're not poltard larpers here.
Jace Scott
>want to start working on a tan >too self conscious of chest hair and nips potentially slipping out to wear tank outside I really don't want to use a tanning bed or anything but I don't see any other options
Camden Ramirez
>chest hair and nips potentially slipping So? What's the problem?
Anthony Murphy
not confident enough in my body that I'm okay with that
Isaiah Baker
Best books for making small talk? I've read 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie, and also the Larry King one. I'm really looking for the kind of small talk that's about talking to random people at the bus stop or something. I really enjoy these books I have read, but they're too packed with stories about unique situations of how someone negotiated something by using a certain technique etc. I really just want a good book on how to chat to people, not on how to be the world's most effective communicator.
Jace Clark
I've been a fuck up for a good part of my life but I'm recently trying to wake up.
>neet >lived with father without a license or job >smoked weed consistently >it was going on up until I was 25 turning 26 >last year, father dies from a brutal heart issue >pretty much changed my entire outlook
>Now >Working in retail > Studying IT (aiming for Net+) >have connections with family and friends in said field >got my permit >been practicing driving non stop > been off weed for 9 months > doing breathing exercises to avoid panic attacks and minor anxiety issues >haven't had a panic attack in two months
I know these are things most people have done at a much early age, but I was on the verge of killing myself before my father died. Now, I have some false hope. I just regret not doing this sooner.
What podcasts is Jow Forums listening too/ recommend? I've found them a way of making commuting or other long drives a bit more productive than terrible radio shit
Current listening list: Sleepwalkers The Minimilists Stuff you should know Coffee Break French Firefighter training podcast
Also finished the HBO Chernobyl podcast which was good
Joseph Sanders
You're going to make it. Just try not to dwell on the past too much, it's an useless endeavor that only makes you feel bad.
you need to develop a fetish for busting a nut balls deep in your wife and getting her pregnant each time. Keep exploring this fetish every day until you have at least 7-8 kids.
>In my experience the bay area is a life stealing degeneracy shithole (I refer to addiction to internet and urban lifestyle more than anything) what do you mean
Yes, anytime I exercise in the evening my urge completely vanishes. I should be exercising more..
Owen Lewis
well theres no /fat/ thread so ill post here
i was doing good today until i ate the head of salami, some bbq chex mix and popcorn
did i fuck up bros
Ryder Gray
as long as the average daily kcal intake over the next days is the same it is ok. Which means, eat the next day a little less to compensate todays intake.
Hunter Martinez
can i still get on the treadmill to offset it
Jordan Gonzalez
Never talked to anyone close to me (friends or family) about my depression or suicidal thoughts. Mostly kept to myself but now it's getting somewhat worrying. Should I schedule a one time appointment to a psychiatrist just so I can talk to someone and unload this weight off of me? I don't want therapy or medication, but I desperately need someone to talk to. Just once, and then never go back there.
Isaac Hall
absolutely have an higher TDEE than your intake today was and you are good to go.
Luis Cooper
a good friend a close good friend do you have one?
This or with us anons.
Benjamin Sanchez
The lifestyle there is fucking soul consuming man. People on SIG talk about wanting to overcome the mentality of porn addiction or spending 6 hours just vacantly watching youtube or browsing Jow Forums, but that's the entire culture of the bay area. Its steeped in its history of do nothing hippie masturbatory lifestyle mixed with a sense of "we live in the creme of the crop" urbanite elitism. I know dozens of people from the bay cities, and most of them have this distinct sense of identity just from living there, which is a problem when the Bay Area identity is a hollow and unfulfilling one. Its keeping up with tv shows and obsessing over ones own Twitter feed like it makes an actual difference.
Fuck the cities.
Ayden Wood
>put in my two weeks notice at job of two years >kind of scared of the idea of getting a new job >realize I am much better than I was two years ago, mentally and physically >not working 50 hours a week will give me more time to prep my food and less time around tempting fatty foods >only downside is less money to spend on homegym I'm conflicted bros
Yeah, make sure it's a female shrink also because you'll open up more. Especially on the first sitting.
I've been once a month for the past year, it's a good place to just voice shit about anything and everything.
Luke Bennett
huh, i dunno. well i mean obviously being a friendless incel im not going to say that i dont just keep up with tv shows. but it sounds like you're lumping in this stereotype of all cities to the entire bay area
Levi King
Only one friend from highschool, but he's doing well now, finally found a girlfriend and it's super busy with her and his work. I don't want to bother him with my shit. I need someone real to talk to. /sig/ is good, but I need a person to look me in the eyes at least.
Brody Diaz
also i should say it isnt like i live in san francisco or silicon valley or something, i am in the east bay
