How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? Lifting isn't life, a well-balanced human being is productive, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, is charismatic, and strives to live the best life they can. Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.
Step 1: counciling Step 2: get on a regular sleep schedule Step 3: start paying attention to what you eat Step 4: start exercising daily, start with 30mins cardio Step 5: stop excessive drinking, smoking, masturbating, caffeine Step 6: every day do something you are uncomfortable with for 10 mins Step 7: build from there Step 8: bake a pie, preferably apple that's my favorite Step 9: bring me pie Step 10: new best friend
I'm too lazy to improve myself, but I can't stop feeling deeply dissatisfied with myself. It's killing me.
Carson Fisher
That would be nice. Try infinitych's various /sig/ boards, there are a few of them. Hella slow compared to here, but it's a chill pace, you don't have to check back every 5 minutes to see if someone's replied to you.
Ian Johnson
Poasted this on the last bread, but it was about to die:
What’s /SIG/‘s opinion on dating younger women? My parents keep trying to get me to talk to a family friend’s daughter who is 18 (I’m 23). Her family thinks highly of me also. It feels like an arrangement, which I hate, but this girl is very trad, pretty, and a gymnast. I don’t have the most experience with women, but the ones I’ve dealt with make me question if there any good ones left. Maybe it’s her?
That isn't even a gap. You're 23. Stop referring to 18 year olds as 'younger women'
That's something you say when you're in your 50's and she's 18.
Grayson Gray
Its only 5 years difference you sperg, get baw deep in that teeny cunt
THINK OF HOW FRESH IT WILL BE!!
Jaxson Anderson
You’re not too lazy. You have exactly what it takes to get started. Just try a little bit, and after that inertial hurdle you’ll find it gets easier. If you think you may be actually depressed, get help. Either way, I believe in you.
Hunter Roberts
Does anyone have the link or invite code to the SIG Discord? I saw it a few weeks ago but can't find it anymore. It had a great community of supportive people
Ryan Ortiz
Half your age plus seven, right? 23/2=11.5 11.5+7=18.5. But who the fuck measures in half years, so 18 is okay or wait a few months if you’re really hesitant. It couldn’t hurt to flirt or even just befriend her, she’s probably got friends of similar social station and attractiveness
Lucas Brown
Isn't the majority of infinitych's population even further down the rabbit hole than here?
Evan Reed
>Half your age plus seven What is this arbitrary equation?
Ryder Martin
I have been getting into philosophy lately, read most of Plato. Surprisingly easy to get in to for somethings thats 2500 years old.
Jackson Peterson
Some meme I’ve heard in sitcoms and pop culture since at least the 90s, so normies believe it.
Take her on a date unless you have a better option. Lucky bastard
Josiah Richardson
I realize this would be more appropriate for Jow Forums or Jow Forums (fuck that) but this is my home board. I can't build the discipline to study on my own, programming specifically, I constantly lose focus and get distracted by endless shit. Interestingly enough I never skip a meal or a day at the gym, I don't fuck around with that. How the hell do I zone out when temptation sits one click away.
Get a notepad and write down whenever you notice yourself start to drift or stray from what you’re working on. What are you feeling, doing, thinking about, when that happens? Eventually you’ll train your mind to recognize those distractions and stop them before they start or mitigate them when they do happen.
Oliver Jackson
I know that situation don't programm on your PC
take a laptop and sit at the dinning table, or go to a coffee shop, any different place if it is possible
Ethan Garcia
I'm in my 30s and never traveled alone. Always a holiday with parents, church youth organisation group or family. I'm looking for a city trip to Istanbul and am reading up on airbnb and travels. Is it easy to figure everything out? I want to do this alone, prove I'm capable of doing this and also to subdue my autistic side which wants to have everything 100% prepared beforehand.
I have a hard time mentally processing the fatigue of trying, especially when it doesn't pay off until (much) later.
Example: Being fat makes me feel bad. Exercising is exhausting, and makes me feel bad. Since the improvement can't come until later, I now have two reasons to feel bad, instead of just one. The two compounding things feel worse. I don't have anything good to counter the negatives.
Kayden Bell
I feel you dude. I have a calculus 2 exam tomorrow and yet here I am lurking Jow Forums.
Anthony Wilson
Since your work is computer based, you could download one of those apps that stops you from using distracting sites or whatever while you're studying.
Tyler Watson
Your college extends this far into June? What state (or country) are you in?
Kayden Perez
>new befriend How do you a hive that
Daniel Sanders
Travelling alone myself for the first time in two weeks. The most important part I think is knowing exactly where you are at all times and how to move through the city. I'd also search for places to avoid. Aside from that, you can't control every single variable, but there's not much to worry about with some basic precautions.
Elijah Ramirez
Environmental habits. If I do work on my computer at home I am going to goof off. 100% guaranteed. If I do work out on the balcony in my apartment I can actually focus because I ONLY do work out there when I have my laptop.
Meanwhile in the graduate office I made the mistake of developing a habit of reading forums and it definitely hurts my productivity there. I uninstalled Clover to get myself off my phone but it just made me goof off on my computer more.
Easton Carter
Guys, I am a recovering ‘nice guy’. I’ve been married for 3 years to a great woman, but have been generally unhappy with myself, my life, and most of my relationships for years now. I’ve decided to read up on and undo the “nice guy” syndrome and I’ve genuinely been improving. I realize now that I am so conflict adverse, that the reason I am fat, out of shape, depressed, and nihilistic is because I never ever every put my own desires first.
I am fat (I’m 200 when I should be ~160) because as the designated “fat” guy in my circles, I was everyone’s excuse to cheat on *their* diets. Whenever I tried to diet and lose weight, everyone would tempt me, tell me “I look fine”, and generally discourage me from success. And I would fall for it because the last thing I would want to do is imply that the people I care about are wrong.
I’m the guy that helps everyone move, even if we never hang out anymore; all becaue I have a pickup truck. When I arrive to help load stuff in my truck, I find out they haven’t even put anything in boxes and rather than leave, I HELP THEM PACK, something they could do on their own.
My wife is submissive, I took her virginity, and will make a great mother. But recently I realized that whenever I am getting screwed (by my boss, strangers, friends, family) she has no empathy (or sympathy). When I was going through a major struggle recently and was very very upset at the state of my life and situation there was no emotion from her. As long as her livelihood isn’t threatened, it was like she didn’t care and my emotions were an annoyance. I don’t think this is unique to her, in other words AWALT.
I was completely nihilistic, I took the Jordan Peterson pill, and thought, “ah yes, the reason I’m unhappy is I haven’t taken up my burden and am not responsible enough!” Which is bullshit I’m realizing, in fact it made me an even bigger cuck. Same with How to Win Friends and Influence people. While that book does explain how to get along with people, if you are already a social chameleon and agreeable, it is poison. You will become an even bigger pushover than before.
Ever since I started not seeking the approval of other people, I have noticed I am happier, losing weight, filled with purpose, and it’s coming to me easily. I would struggle and struggle and struggle to not constantly eat junk food, watch porn, etc. Now I resist it with ease because it was my way of coping with being everyone’s bitch. It’s funny, I started going out by myself and doing more things for myself without “permission”.
At first, my wife said “I feel like you hate me” despite not saying anything negative to her and just enjoying myself more. A few days later though, she gave me the most loving and affectionate hug I’ve ever gotten from her. She was never mean spirited, but she was definitely cold/emotionally unavailable before, now she is warm.
I think there are a lot of men on this site who despite viewing themselves as selfish are actually not selfish enough. We live our lives under covert contracts like “If I am good to others, others will be good to me” and we are constantly upset when we get looked over or mistreated. Ever since I started being more independent, I initially got resistance, but now people are having to adjust and I’m actually getting treated better.
literally being served on a silver plate, just fucking take it.
Noah Morris
Dude this thread is a circlejerk. People here don't want to think for themselves. It's basically a board subculture at this point.
Chase Jones
What's the name of this picture? Reverse image search I'm using is no help.
Carter Gonzalez
>they're reading books...? written by OTHER PEOPLE...?? they can't think for themselves!!! Real low IQ post
Dylan Martinez
I got described as "passive" by a girl I liked (I attempted to kiss her and got the "I thought we were just friends" talk shortly after this occurred) and it's been making me think about ways I can be more direct and less passive. I WANT to be less passive and speak my mind more. I guess I just gotta learn to do it without an external trigger? Like she set me off and I probably wouldn't have tried to make a move on her if she hadn't said that to me.
She just didn't like you as a man. That's it. All these things about winning a girl's heart etc. it's bullshit. It only works if she likes you. That's it. Be more active. Find a person who will like you. The more people you meet - the higher the chance of finding one.
Where are you going friend? In this age of smartphones I'm happy I don't have to carry a map around at all times.
Robert Edwards
Thoroughly based. I've been slowly realizing this as well. I'm not nearly as selfish as I should be. Fighting for everyone else and coping for the failures in my own life with video games, food and nonsense.
Trying to activate dark triad mode to make myself a god on Earth. Instituting a, "my cup runneth over" policy and focusing on my little tribe (family/close friends) that can keep up or stay out of my way.
Jonathan Richardson
It's a meme. It was invented by the Japs as a revenge for Pearl harbor. Anime is a way for them to brainwash westerners into weak neckbeards.
Zachary Lee
Opposite of my point. I'm saying my problems WERE my fault. I was getting treated poorly because I was putting others before me. I WAS blaming others, but I'm not anymore. People will shit all over you and your efforts if your ego is dependent on the approval of others. When you inevitably don't get the approval you thought you deserved, you will then blame everyone else for not encouraging/rewarding you. Since you require approval to feel happy, you will then double down and try EVEN HARDER to get the approval of others, making your resentment towards others grow.
The only way out is to become more independent, hence:
>We live our lives under covert contracts like “If I am good to others, others will be good to me” and we are constantly upset when we get looked over or mistreated. Ever since I started being more independent, I initially got resistance, but now people are having to adjust and I’m actually getting treated better.
This doesn't apply to everyone, but it does apply to "niceguys".
How autistic would it be to recreate my journal in another notebook? (i.e. copying all the old entries) I am going on a trip soon and the journal I have now is big and bulky compared to a new moleskine I just got
Ayden Stewart
It was made so anons could become better. It became a "sig culture" much later.
Lincoln Ramirez
>If we let in a billion shitskins out of the goodness of our hearts, then they will return the favor and be good to us kind white people!
>If we (((remember the holocause))) then (((they))) will have no reason to further antagonize us!
Do you see what I mean? The expectation that others will reward you for your good behavior is fundamentally flawed.
Not sure what your problem is.
Justin Peterson
I have a journal where I just log my hiking.
Jordan Davis
Well I'm fine with that, I'm just asking about myself here, and how I can be the man I want to be- which is a more direct person. This is honestly the first chick I've gone out with where I didn't feel like I was spaghetting over or felt like she was a "oneitis."
But why?
Oliver Walker
you will have many journals user. just start a new one
Jose Young
why not just create a Volume 2?
Jackson Lopez
An age gap between a man and woman is the most natural thing in the world. Having a pairing be arranged by both families is a close second.
If you have chemistry, then go for it.
Hunter Ross
read the subtle art of not giving a fuck
Juan Smith
Based. I realized this after graduating college. I am my own keeper, I am soley responsible for my happiness, and I am the keeper of the brothers I choose. Very few people have this mentality. I always tried to motivate, encourage, and support my normie friends/family, but I realized it was a waste of time. Focus on yourself and those you truly care about. Bend reality to your will, which is rooted in good, and life will be more enjoyable
My solution to this is simply to boot into a Linux distro. Fewer distractions.
Camden Cook
And I'm telling you that 90% it's not about you and not your fault. If she doesn't like you - you're passive. If she does - shy, cute and calm. And what do you even mean be a direct person? You ask and act directly in other life situations right? When you need to buy pasta you don't ask for something maybe to eat or maybe not to eat just to look or smell it would be nice too or god I want pasta but what what the salesman think about me no no no no he must realize what I want himself. No. What's the difference here? And if you don't know what you want yourself then you don't really need it that much.
and altered it a bit, I just dislike the notebook itself
Grayson Lee
Visiting some cities in northern Spain.
Josiah Hill
So my life's pretty messed up at the moment bros. I graduated highschool but I've just been wasting this summer inside instead of preparing for college. I keep feeling sick. And I can't lift cause of an arm injury. I have no motivation and I keep fapping to the worst types of porn and going to bed at like 4 in the morning. Does anyone have any advice for fixing my sleep? Or on cutting while losing the least amount of muscle possible?
Zachary Mitchell
It's OK to only take a shower every other day right? I'm optimizing my schedule right now and I just can't afford to take showers every fucking day. It's a waste of time I think.
John Thompson
get a 9-5 job for the summer
Wyatt Ward
how do i self improve my knock knees? i've not worn shorts in public in forever.
... i just want to get a tan bros... and be outside
Tyler Nguyen
People here think that getting their perfect aryan waifu, or finishing college is going to fix their problems. It is important to have goals and achieve them, but solving problems leads to new problems. Life and adversity are the same. You can be responsible and selfish at the same time. You can selfishly be responsible for and charitable towards the groups of your choosing for example.
Pay attention to your resentment. It will show you what needs to change in your life. If you resent others for being better than you, become more like them. If you resent others because they are taking advantage of you, drop them, or at least stop enabling them. Go ahead and blame women for feminism, but DON'T FORGET THAT IT WAS MEN WHO ALLOWED WOMEN TO EARN THE RIGHT TO VOTE.
Living for yourself doesn't necessarily mean becoming a hedonist and letting the world go to hell. It means taking ownership of your life.
Jeremiah Perry
>Go ahead and blame women for feminism, but DON'T FORGET THAT IT WAS MEN WHO ALLOWED WOMEN TO EARN THE RIGHT TO VOTE. wtf is this analogy
Brayden Reed
Lots of negative vibes in the thread today.
Henry Peterson
Oh no not the negative vibes :((
Austin Young
NO NOT THE VIBES THEY MELT MY GAINS AAAAAAAGGHGHGH
Liam Evans
18 and 23 isn't an age difference mate. Also wtf i am banned
Henry Baker
People who blame women and feminism for everything wrong in their lives need to realize that if men hadn't okayed it, it wouldn't exist.
It would literally be more fruitful to stop arguing with feminists and start trying to convince weak men that feminism is bad.
Noah Williams
Start with these three things and do them every day, create a habbit. Take it day by day, mark it down in a calendar. That's your fuck goal, 1 week, then 2. Before you know it you've done a month of good habits. Just fucking stick to it.
Go to bed and wake up early, aim for 8h sleep. Clean up your diet, it doesn't have to be super healthy just mind what and how much you eat. No junk food/candy/soda. Intermittent fasting helps cutting down on snacking, 2-3 meals a day, no eating after 7pm. Light exercise, don't exhaust yourself but don't go too easy. Get some dumbbells, recistance bands and/or cattle bell. Build up strength in core, upper/lower back, chest and shoulders. Dopamin will make you feel better.
I'm a lazy cunt with shit selfdiscipline in my 30s and if I can change then so can you.
Rate my progress with women. These refer to girls (not times) using the baseball analogies: 1st - Making out, 2nd Feeling breasts, genitals, butt etc, 3rd - Fingering, handjob and oral, Home Run - Vaginal penetrative sex, Foul ball - Anal sex
I doubt I'll be able to find anything honestly. Who's gonna hire me for a couple months.
Xavier Thomas
hmmm very interesting numbers indeed i like how you have3 thirds in 2019 and 5 seconds in 2018 very curious yes....
Jacob Reyes
Henry Vii was one of the most if not the most physically fit monarch in human history, until a fencing accident that opened up an ulcer wound that left him in pain for the rest of his life that severely reduced his psychical activity.
I'm actually going to try and see what he did day to day in his youth and try to replicate it.
Joseph Gray
There is an explanation at the top of the post Mr. Man, if you find the numbers interesting, you might wanna check that out as well.
Elijah Perez
plenty of people would love to have you for a few months to help out with summer rush (think of any amusement park, water park). you wont know if you dont look user
William Foster
Why exactly would you do that instead of just doing a modern fitness regimen backed by facts and centuries of scientific findings?
Dominic Edwards
>unironical greek statues pic Embarrassing.
Eli Robinson
Dude. You're autistic.
Ayden White
Yes, hence the low as fuck numbers.
Parker Taylor
they are interesting though...
Samuel Clark
Yes all this redpill all women are terrible fuck shitskins (((they))) bollocks is all wrong and I refuse to let it fuck my life up.
I thought this place was about improving yourself but how can you consider yourself improved when you believe all this nonsense? There's some good shit here, going to the gym, staying disciplined, etc but there's also so much self sabotaging "everyone else is bad" bollocks and people trying to force far right politics into basic fitness/mental health advice.
Samuel Long
Would you prefer he posts a tranny instead? The ancient Greeks had a culture that heavily revolved around health and fitness. Their artwork as a result mirrors this. It only makes sense that some men would look towards this as inspiration. Why do you hate the idea of striving towards this?
>Living for yourself doesn't necessarily mean becoming a hedonist and letting the world go to hell. The world is going to go wherever the masses say it goes. My goal isn't to sway the masses as better men than I have tried and failed to do so. I'm not interested in getting trapped in societies downfall/shortcomings either.
My goal is to adapt with the times and try my best to build a little piece of heaven on Earth for me and my peers.
Like the other user stated, "The only way out is to become more independent".
Elijah Smith
Never forget that almost everyone wants to be stronger, smarter, skinnier, more charismatic, higher status, etc. than others.
The easiest way for weak minded people to possess more of these qualities than you is to manipulate you into staying weak. Fat women want fatter friends. Hot women "want" to be in LTRs with dad-bod soi boi cucks so they can have all the power in the relationship.
Ask yourself, (if you are such a person) are you pathetic because you are truly weak willed, or are you pathetic because that's how people want you to be?
