Social Gains thread

have sex

Unironically, go to the club alone. So much social gainz in such a short period.

Push yourself out of your comfort zone.

interested in this also. I feel like dancing / kick-boxing will mainly just give you things to talk about in actual social situations for the most part, but they might lead to something if you meet the right person there

have done this before but it doesn't actually help in day to day situations, it's a totally different dynamic being in a club

Stealing that. I really need to cut down a couple more kilos though. My lower abs are a mess.

Bars too

I was already pretty social, but I feel like people are more social towards me now. Today while I was cycling to work, a woman cycling towards me waved at me, I took one of my headphones off and she practically shouted "NICE SHOES" and then just kept cycling.

fuck, how do I make feet gains?

pour boiling hot water on them daily, and they will most likely get bigger

So I´m gonna preface this by saying that I literally don´t even lift and just do boxing, run and swim, I just prefer Jow Forums to /asp/ and company.
But those helped me massively socially and I changed from a depressed spaghetti-elemental into someone who walks through life with a smile on his face and can just strike up conversations with random people and generally enjoy life without being scared of having to talk to people anymore. The confidence change of being proud instead of ashamed of your body is amazing.
Only issue is girls. Noone would ever guess me still being a kv now and people joking around or talking about fucking is still awkward. Not sure what to do about that either, I´m trying though.

normies are a bunch of toxic assholes. i give up for now until i get more money

That may sound autistic but my confidence around males is based on whether or not I can beat the shit out of them. Like, if I'm in a group of men physically weaker than me I'm gonna act like a total Chad but if they're stronger I'm gonna sperg out. For girls my confidence depends of my looks, if I'm nicely dressed with a good haircut and shave I'm gonna be 100% confident no matter how good looking the girls are but if I didn't shower or shaved I'm gonna act autistic even around landwhales. So yeah lifting helped.

It improved my confidence. Guys will respect you more and girls will notice.

After enough positive social interactions you stop relying on other people's validation. So if you have a negative interaction with somebody you assume it's their problem not yours and you can just shrug it off without letting it bother you or overthinking it.

I used to be a sperg and have controlled it by generally keeping quiet unless I have something positive to say. People will remember you based on the emotions they felt while interacting with you, what you say is secondary. This has made me a much more likeable person but also much more boring.

I work in academia though and I find that many people, especially nerds, see a Jow Forums person and assume they're stupid because apparently life is like an RPG.

> tall, 6'2''
> more fit than the average dude
> decent face
> have good job, good car
> good grooming and fashion, always clean
> average dick, 6''

Despite having all the tools, and meeting all requirements, I am still a kv who can't hold a conversation with a girl for more than 5 minutes. I have been improving my social skills lately, and have been getting closer with some cuties at work, but I still feel like I run out of things to talk 2 mins into a conversation. Life is perpetual suffering bros.

hahahahahahahahahha

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Actually yes, but indirectly.

Before I got reasonably Jow Forums (was massive fatass before) I just was so self-conscious about how I looked that I didn't really allow myself into social situations. Looking back, that was a mistake. Losing the weight made me more confidence, but had I been more confident back then, I wiuld've handled social situations pretty well too.

But then again, this lonely hell was what made me get fit, so in the end it turned out to be positive.

so the black pillers are wrong. thanks user.

I wish I could make feet losses. I'm a size fucking 13

I feel like this is going to become a thing.

>34 years old
>no friends or gf
>no social media
>haven't talked to another human being in months (other than my parents)
>only go out if I have to buy something

I just have to work on my delts a little bit more, right?

but big dong? at least women will think so even if you don't

>social skills
Social skills is like a muscle and need to be trained

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>how much did your social skills improved since you started lifting?
not at all
>being Jow Forums made it any easier ?
no
>whats the best advice you can give to someone?
kys
>Any enviroment or situation you find specially challenging?
any place where there are people I dont know
>Also post yout goal personality
chad

>getting closer with some cuties at work
Just ask them if they wanna fuck, you're a chad and don't act like one so something is fishy to them...

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>I will ask someone if they know what I'm drinking and cut them off with "ABSolut vodka" and pull up my t-shirt to reveal my abs.
Sound retarded but like it very much

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my social skills started improving after going to martial arts classes and fighting game locals, lifting didn't do anything besides a slight confidence boost. I have a much easier time to talk with anyone now and got a gf.

Jesus fuck that's pretty autistic

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Couple of books I recommend for social gains:
>How to Win Friends and Influence People
Standard shit offered in many of these threads. Deserves to be so because it really does lay the foundation of good social interaction with others.
>The Definitive Book of Body Language: The Hidden Meaning Behind People's Gestures and Expressions
Great for autists like me who couldn't read people's expressions. Gives a biological reasoning behind common body expressions to build a good intuition for them.
>No More Mr Nice Guy
Even if you're not a "Nice guy" this book is recommended for any man who wants to get his shit together. It teaches you some of the basics of self confidence and fulfilling your needs.
>Models: Attract Women Through Honesty
A good complement for the book mentioned above. Not only is it good for what the name suggests, but it also really goes in depth on the basic truth behind confidence.

Don't worry, we're all gonna make it brah

>ABSolute vodka

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>ABS-olute
based

For me PUA sites+tinder+job interviews+meetup groups

I've been on way more first dates and to way more job interviews than I can remember. Bombed most of the early ones, got to where I could easily walk out of an interview with a job or fuck on the first night with a date. Bombed out of my first couple meetup groups, have some good weightlifting buddies from one now. Talking to people is a skill like any other. Practice, study what you did right and wrong, rinse and repeat.

Martial arts is great for bros, dancing is great for women.

>/b/

Ding dong good size, above average here in the Netherlands, thank you.

Netherlands? So do you mean US size 13 or UK size 13? Congratulations on dong

EU 48, UK 13, US 14
Also I'm 205cm / 6'9

>get some social gains
>even start dating a qt
>literally the first time in my life i feel like someone cares about me
>oops, turns out she doesnt
>dumps me out of nowhere and moves on like it was nothing
>now all i want to do is go back to locking myself in my room and play video games all day long

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I've definitely gotten more sociable while I'm losing weight. I'm definitely not where I want to be yet (I'm still a few KG overweight but it doesn't show that much) and I find it a lot easier to talk to strangers. Also completely overthrew my wardrobe a few months ago, from only dark jeans and red/black shirts to a lot of pastel and lighter pants.

For anyone struggling with social anxiety, get a job in retail.

>adidas beurette gf
>never ever

Not every qt out there is a cunt on the inside, keep going user.

Definitely did me good, I got surprisingly few angry customers and had some good chats with regulars.

It literally forces you to be social so yeah

lmao giving up after 1 bad event, your bloodline is weak

The reason she handled it so well and you didn't is because she doesn't need to rely on others to be happy. Still, F for your loss

The reason she handled it so well and you didn't is because you a pussy nigga lmfao. Still, my D in your ho's V nigga ha ha

being tipsy works wonders, i had a 10 min conversation with 3 chicks alone during a park party, and im normally a "yo-you too" person

or im just attractive and tall

Listen to this guy, he's given good advices.

You could read The Game and its handbook are great, specially for understanding that charm is not about learning lines but to develop a complex and interesting personality.

Another way to train your social skills are public performances, but that requires you to have a related hobby or job. Basically, playing music, acting, doing stand up comedy... Go on a stage and entertain people. The first few times you'll be bombing, but after that you will see that you can engage the public and make them do what you want (kinda).

And the ultimate way to develop public speaking and one to one communication is putting yourself in extreme situations. It's a cliché, but you have to get out of your comfort zone and this is the only way out, being in a extreme situation. Easiest way, go travelling on your own.

>>adidas beurette gf
>>beurette gf
>>gf
She is supposed to be the maid

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getting Jow Forums fixed my posture alot, ppl are nicer than when was fatfuck, self-confidence got boosted
best social gains i did were because of speeches and presentations, i started with infront of class presentations then volunteered to go to midschool in another town to talk to some teens why they should choose our school. it was supposed to be speech in front of 300 people turned out to be 2 presentations in front of ~600 ppl in total. also forcing youself to attend to social gatherings is useful and failing/doing some awkward shit gives best social gains

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>how much did your social skills improved since you started lifting?
Dunno. How much did your squat improve after you started curling?

>whats the best advice you can give to someone?
Becoming better in social situations requires you to be in social situations.

There are no convertible skills here. Yes, you will fuck up, yes you will say stupid things, yes you will embarrass yourself. But you still have to do it regardless.

Each time you do that though you wont repeat that mistake again. Eventually you'll get better and better as time goes on.

>ABSolut codka
Congrats on making the New Years comic this year

im size 13 and 196cm/6'5" what the fuck why have I been forsaken with clown feet

Work or volunteer at a social job. You’ll be cured of supposed ineptness after a few months.

Join some kind of sport league or like a pool league. Will force you to interact and you will either adapt or quit. Either way no harm no foul.

Same brotha

This. Look better than 95% of population, get mired at beach or in general life, it still means fuckall unless you go out and get a social life. Am still just as autistic socially, my goal with lifting was never girls anyway but still.