I went from 283 to 170 and trim. I worked hard on my sexual market value over the past few years. It's paid off, too well. I'm what you'd call a "nice guy". Being fat made kind of a push over. Not in a bad way, but I have a hard time turning off that compassion side of me.
Now that I'm Jow Forums, I've noticed something. The sexual harassment. At first it was flattering, gave me a massive ego boost. Fueled me at the gym. The world viewed me as attractive now. But then it kept happening. Over and over. Everytime I got my morning coffee, the ladies at the gas station (cumbies) would find an excuse to come talk to me. Grab my arm, touch my back. I'd go into Home Depot to get something for work, and I'd hardly make it through the door without someone stopping me to talk. I frequent there, atleast 3 times a week, so I've built friendships with the employees. When I was naive, I gave them all my number because "Oh I'd love to hire you!" I thought it was business and friendships. Now I'm getting bikini pics from them.
Sounds amazing, sounds like I shouldn't bitch. But it's not what I want. It's not what attracts me. I want meaningful connection. I don't want to be harassed like this. So lately I've been letting my face look like shit just to drive people away.
I'm not sure being fit is for me.... I finally see why hot chicks are such cunts all the time. Eventually you just get jaded and stop giving a fuck about being nice to people. When a dozen people a day touch you and send you stupid fucking pictures all the time, you become a jaded cunt.
just wear headphones and look unapproachable. If you are approached when you don't want to be, just deadpan "why are you talking to me" to them, and they'll get intimidated and leave you alone
Kevin Bennett
I tend to let my beard and hair get messy on purpose because i don't like attention lol. I've unironically had random women compliment my looks but i am a borderline autist so i just rather keep to myself and I've already got a woman so i don't need that temptation in my life. I'm kind of in your position OP, but my lack of social grace helps keep people i don't like away anyway
Mason Smith
If getting bikini pics from random thots is your biggest problem, you've got a pretty good life.
Cooper Parker
post body
Jason Johnson
This
Evan Hill
post body
Ryder Moore
Just make clear what kind of relationship you want with those people - state your boundaries. It's not hard, stop being a woman.
Sounds like you are the friendly and approachable type of good looking. Being attractive in and of itself doesn’t necessarily mean random people approach you more, sure when you are actually talking to someone they tend to be more friendly to you. Sounds like you need to change your demeanour.
Also you are only uncomfortable with the attention you are getting because you have held on to the insecurities of your former self.
So you have two choices: stop being insecure about getting attention or stop being approachable.
Joshua Baker
I'm 5'7" I will never have to deal with female harassment.
Jackson Murphy
post bod
Hudson Martin
you're delusional, people not being disgusted by you (like they were when you were fat) doesnt mean they're flirting with you you have a case of "nice guy attention delusion", you think any attention a waitress gives you means she is in love with you
post a pic of your body with timestamp and prove us wrong, to be harassed as a man you have to be in the 10% of top good looking men
Joseph Wright
He is literally saying they are feeling him up otherwise I'd agree with you
This probably is bait tho
post body OP
Leo Hill
These
Christian Powell
itt:
lonely virgins lying about being hit on
Jose Ortiz
only op is
Liam King
Post body so that the homosexuals on this board harass you too.
Jacob Wilson
Buy a shitty wedding band and wear it everywhere then get righteously indignant when they send bikini pics to a Married Man™
Chase Bennett
referring to OP and
Josiah Morgan
The last time I received a compliment from a woman was thirteen years ago. It was freshman year of high school, and a girl said I smelled nice.
Kevin Bailey
Not in that situation at all, but i felt it hard man
Kayden Baker
I do have an amazing life. I won't lie.
Had some fucked up shit happen. Went to Iraq, got my best friend preggo before I left. She ran off, killed my kid, hooked up with some faggot we went to highschool with. Went nuts for a bit in Iraq trying to contact her. Everyone lied to me, told me they had no clue where she was. Came back, loaded up Myspace (pre-facebook) to a message from this faggot saying "Lol scrapped your kid" with a pic of the two of them kissing.
Went nuts. Real fucking nuts. Depressed for 5+ years. Gained tons of weight. Massive faggot. Decided rather then blowing out my brains I'd better myself. Turn myself into a beast of a human.
Causes me to be insanely cautious around women. If my best friend can do that to me, anyone else wouldn't hesitate to crush me in an instant. So naturally, I have no interest in fucking a bunch of thots who are going to just tornado my perfect life now with their shit.
I do finish carpentry, I volunteer at various places/events, I produce amazing videogame mods, I'm a part time cop. My life is absolutely amazing. Now I want someone to make it perfect.
Find me a single woman at age 30, that ISNT: >a single mother with 3 kids from 3 different fathers >working Dunkin Donuts as a manager and thinking thats "making it" >a complete low life loser that just wants someone to pay for her shit so she can send her tits over snapchat all day while I work.
>I'm what you'd call a "nice guy" ** I'm what you'd call a faggot
Connor Scott
and needs to get a life
Adrian Howard
how about you shut the fuck up and psot your body you retard
Lucas James
larp, bait, etc
Adrian Stewart
This
I'm nothing to write home about, but I can relate with "having too much attention, most of this is stroking my own ego, but certainly there's been points of my life where conditionally I was at my peak, and it got very annoying, not necessarily the attention but just knowing that wherever I went that I was going to be the center of attention and that people would be looking at me judging me etc.
For most of my teenage years I wore hoodies a lot when I wasn't explicitly going out to be social, hood up, didn't really matter the environment.
I'm sure I looked weird and sometimes I'd even do it in the summer, but yeah, sometimes I just didn't want to be bothered.
Get some bose noise canceling headphones OP. You won't even hear people.
Jose Diaz
Eh, if this stays alive a bit I will. But not here to boast or brag. None of these women are worth bragging about my man.
They're all 35+, 2-6's TOPS. Trust me, if it was a bunch of 20 year old 8's and 10's hitting on me, I would not be here complaining. But its NOTHING but older women constantly fucking touching me.
Is that some truth for you? Believe me now. This ain't no humble brag post my friend. These are haggered women fucking groping my arms and chest constant, and I'm too fucking nice to tell them to fuck off because I smack a bitch in the middle of a store.
