Been together with my girl 6 years now, in the last 2 she's really let herself go in regards to her weight

my man, this sounds like your first relationship. Why would she bother getting fit or listening to your encouragement? You are still dating her when she's gross and unfit, she has zero motivation to change

stop posting this image

soft mode: tell her that it's important to "stay in shape" and allude to health reasons, then force her to go train with you (go ride a bike or something "fun" or whatever)
hard mode: tell her that she's getting fat and you don't like fat chicks, force her to go train with you
bitch mode: do nothing, get obese gf

far from it my friend, like my 3rd serious relationship, im 29, have had many other 'stints' inbetween.

its 6 years in, theres alot that is good about our relationship, the last 2 years shes just getting fatter, im sat online looking at escorts which is pretty unhealthy, but convincing myself its fine.

If we were to split thats 6 years of untangling out lives from each other, like I said its the weight and lack of motivation to get better which is getting to me. I do get propositioned by girls from time to time and the last few times ive been kicking myself because I;ve been thinking I could have got my dick wet with some fine ass, only to come home to fatty.

this right here is probably the indicator to end it.

OP you can't encourage women to get fit, their brains aren't wired like that. They will do whatever they have to do to procure a man or keep their social status, that's the only thing that matters to them. Why would a woman bother to take care of herself any more than she needs to in order to keep you around? Think about it. If you were a fat slob and getting laid, would you care about getting fit?

so you started dating this girl when you were 23 and had 2 other "serious" relationships before that? I don't really consider any relationships prior to 25 "serious" but your call man. I'd give her an ultimatum or leave. It's really up to you at this point:
>marry a fat chick
>find something better

Who cares about the last 6 years, you have to think moving forward. I think you have your answer, you just want validation

>Any ideas Jow Forums
Embrace it

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based architect bro

Maybe start eating something that actually fills you up, like fatty meat, not some vegan bullshit. No wonder she cheats with sweets if you dont eat real food

>5'4
>size 8
>used to be small

dude, my wife is 5'7 and she's a size 4 and she's about average. Your girl has always been heavy.

Join a gym and ask her to come to to spend time together. If you have the possibility, do the grocery yourself and don't buy junk, or just tell her you are inconfortable when she eats junk because you try to be healthy.
Last try is to talk to her and say that you want to get in shape together.
I tell you by experience, she will notice any attempt to make her fitter and by time she will explode in you. You need to make her want it, not to make her do it unconsciously.

>a right big belly and saggy flabby arse its just unnattractive. Her belly overhangs her jeans by like 2-3 inches in depth
stop I can only get so erect

lol, embracing it will have to include me fucking escorts and other bits on the side.

is that American sizes? 8 is about average in my country, she used to have a nice slim waist and bubble-but sticking out, was perfect.

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well quorn is filling, occassionally will have been something, eggs, rice, pulses, all fill you up.

We have had a gym membership with swim the last 2 years, im the only one that uses both regularly, she only comes to swim once a month maybe.

This is the issue is trying to make her want it, trying to 'get' her to do it just isnt happening and hence im here.

do you have a skinny wife youd like to swap with for just fucking.

She's comfy mode now, probably she won't want to exercise anymore.
You could get fitter and join tinder to get tender meat.
Last idea I have is to be direct with her, but this could end bad.
Either she leaves you for someone that likes her body atm, or she will always be traumatized about it.
Maybe if you get in better shape, I mean full fit, she will follow.

That's 24 BMI it's not that bad. Mine is 170cm - 78kg. That's around 27.5 BMI
I got her at 66kg, then she hit 100kg. now she's 20+ less but still a long way to go.

Where I live women are pretty fat so it doesn't bother me much, plus she has an 8/10 face

it grosses me out and indicates lack of self respect, thats why I do exercise and keep clean.

Just because we live in the western world is no excuse to be a fatty.

this, OP your fat gf would probably leave you if she were hot and Jow Forums and you a fat faggot. Just leave her, at least tell her you're gonna fuck off if she keeps being unhealthy or whatever.

read the OP faggot, he is fit already.

>based architect bro
can you explain me the architect bro meme? sorry, newfag here, pls dont bully

>fit doesn't mean anything without a proof

>Any ideas Jow Forums??
Yeah man you should breed her immediately

OP is a faggot, that body type is god tier for sexy times.

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go to gym with her make it a fun bonding experience

Your relationship Game has gone soft. Her letting herself get fat is a form of shit test. If you think there is something unique about this woman and you want to keep her in your life (which is extremely beta, blue-pilled thinking) you must instill a sense of dread in her.

She will lose weight if she thinks you are going to leave her for a more attractive woman. Your relationship will be far better and you will both be much happier if you can embody a positive masculinity. If she's getting fat, has birthed you no children, you are failing. Don't come around here looking for consolation. It's your fucking fault she's fat. If you weren't such a beta she would be making herself vomit after meals so she didn't lose you to a hotter woman.

very red pilled, you think being in a relationship with a woman that vomits after meals to keep you is healthy, you would want that for your kids? your daughter say having to go through that.

I also get you and agree it is my fault, but also trying to rectify it like a decent human being that isnt going to just trash someones self of worth also.

Embodying positive masculinity is tricky without being a complete misogynist, I joke about 1930's shit all the time but then actually saying shit seriously without making her feel horribly insecure...

Going to the gym or any exercise is a terrible way to lose weight... it’s all in the kitchen. 85% of weight loss and nucale building happens at your mouth, why work super hard at the gym for the measly 15%. Be lazy but disciplined at home.

>Her weight is starting to gross me out to the point I dont want to fuck her, but obvs cant tell her this.

Why not? A relationship is a two-way street and you need to be honest with her even if it's gonna hurt some feelings.

>you think being in a relationship with a woman that vomits after meals to keep you is healthy
Not him but I think that statement was hyperbole and not meant to be literal.
That said if she's the one more invested in the relationship she will put an effort to lose weight if you make it clear that her health and fitness actually matters to you.

> tells you that you make her feel like a fat piece of shit
Tell her that'd how she is supposed to feel when she's a fat piece of shit OP. If you're willing to change your body for the better by lifting then so should she. If not, then she's not good enough for you. Tell her to lose weight or you're leaving her. Or just leave her. There's plenty more

You cannot force the bitch to slim down.
As good old uncle Patrice said, put your best tuxedo on even when going for groceries. Show her that other bitches want your dick and jumping ship is a possibility.
She'll be running on the treadmill in no time

No, vomiting isn't healthy. But neither is being fat. And neither is a relationship where the woman does not respect her partner and fear losing him enough to take care of herself. I have daughters. I would want them to respect their husbands and take care of their bodies out of a desire to please then and dread of losing them.

It isn't misogyny. Or tricky. If you care about this woman and really want her to be happy you must instill a sense of dread. The thought of losing you should give her a feeling in the pit of her stomach that would make eating junk food utterly unthinkable.

If you're worried about her feelings you don't understand the nature of women. She wants you to not care about her feelings. She will be happier if you are an asshole. If she is failing to please her you need to make it clear you will leave her. Only then will she be happy.

Nb4 incel
I'm happily married to a pretty woman with 4 young childre.

*And all the children are mine.

>people date for 4, 5, 6+ years

Just why? 3 years is more than enough time to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody. Stop wasting her time

Be honest with her. You shouldn't feel bad about make she feel like a fat piece of shit if she is one. You just need to be careful with the words you use, but let her know that is getting unattractive while you are taking care of yourself (I'm assuming you fucking are). Remember that it's not fair for an attractive person to be with an unattractive lazy one. You should also mention and insist at her health, since it is a less sensible topic.
If nothing changes her, you must choose between living with a landhwale or finding someone who deserves you

I’ll tell you what you need to do and I’m going to cut to the chase.

Sit her down and tell her. Stop worrying about how your going to look or sound or what anyone else thinks.

Something to the effect of this
“ hey babe, I care about you and really want this to work. There’s one problem, your letting your self go and putting on too much weight. I’m losjng physical attractions towards you and although it sounds shallow in just being honest. I will help and support you in this. But if you don’t shape up I’m out.”

That’s it and let the chips fall where they may.

40 years ago my uncle ballooned up to a weight of 135 kg (175 cm height). His girlfriend at the time one day told him, "I'm sorry, I really like you but I am just not physically attracted to you anymore because of your weight". He lost all the weight down to about 80 kg, she stayed with him, they got married and got a kid a bit later.
Not sure if something like this would still be possible today. My uncle is now 70 so I guess he would be dead by now if he hadn't lost the weight. She saved his life, yet what she did would have been highly criticized today and she would have faced social stigma for being so "insensitive". In my opinion, when something is really affecting you you need to be up front about it and avoid much sugarcoating. Your feelings are important too.

Do some gym classes together. Show her how she compares to people and women who put even a little effort. She doesn't ever even need to workout to lose weight it's all diet. Make a lifestyle change for the both of you but if you aren't already you have to set the example. People don't change for other people, they have to want to change for themselves.

She could be smoking hot if she lost the weight. Don't give up on her user. make her understand that you can do better and will if she doesn't get her sh*t together, but also that you'll be there to help her every step of the way if she does decide to get in shape.

Just tell her you pussy. I've been dating my girl for just as long. She didn't get he r shit together till I told her she was fat and I didn't find her attractive but loved her enough to stay and help her work through it

She then lost 70 fucking pounds

that is one juicy fucking ass

>er weight is starting to gross me out to the point I dont want to fuck her, but obvs cant tell her this.
Wrong.

Pierce Brosnan's wife was thin when they got married. Now she's thicker, and over the years he looks happier and happier in pics with her.

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Your only option is to tell her how it is. Explain that you feel disrespected by her not caring whether you are physically attracted to her or not. Relationships require effort to maintain and you’re keeping up your end of the deal by exercising but she isn’t doing her share. Also, semi flirt and give looks to more attractive girls right in front of her. Of course she’ll get mad and tell you to stop but she needs to know that you’re still looking for a better piece of ass.

Otherwise she’s going to keep getting fatter, you’re going to be even more disgusted by her, and eventually you’ll blow up with frustration and seriously damage or ruin the relationship. If being honest with her about anything is what ends the relationship then it was never a solid bond.

>t. 17yo virgin that watch too many yt videos

It looks like you’re stuck in the rut of a “Sunk cost fallacy” where things are obviously failing but instead of moving on which would be the best you reason you put too much into it and now need to stay which results in you becoming even More miserable.

Be honest with yourself OP no one but your gf can make the decision to change and things will NOT get better unless she herself has an epiphany.

Things will continue because you keep making the excuse “I can’t throw away six years so let me become miserable for 40 more years”

I’m sorry OP, I know this is not what you want to hear but these are the most likely outcomes

incel here.
if you are really fit u should bang tinder's thots. When she discover the cheat you have to tell her that you did it cuz she is fatter and you cant have a rection with her tummy

True love

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with that kind of advice it's no wonder you're an incel

>says the land whale

just tell her. people need the truth and those that punish you for saying the truth are not people you want to associate with.

break it off with her. if you are not married, find a younger, hotter, active girl. diet>fitness
obesity = comorbidities = more money wasted to provide for your whale

I broke up with a girl that had that kind of body.

I realized afterwards how much I missed it, especially in winter.

>>inb4 get new gril
>6 years I dont want to waste on superficialities, but im concerned as time goes on, other girls will approach me and I will be more inclined to respond for the sex.

inb4 thread is deleted for being off-topic (this is a DATING AND RELATIONSHIP THREAD, ffs)

OP, you planning on marrying this girl and making babies with her? If no then tell her what you want and if she can't/won't do it then it's time to MOVE ON TO and find someone else. Nothing lasts forever.
You have to decide what's important to you, here. If her being fat is a total deal-breaker, you can't accept it, then it's time to go. Otherwise STFU and accept who and what she is. You can't force her to do what you want any more than she can force you to do what she wants.
AGAIN: If it bugs you that much and she won't change that, then it's TIME TO GO, otherwise STFU and change your expectations. That's the reality of being in a LTR.

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>6 years I dont want to waste on superficialities
That person is going to be a role model for your kids. Looks aren't superficial. You pass that shit on.

> Her weight is starting to gross me out to the point I dont want to fuck her, but obvs cant tell her this.
Why not? This may convince her. Or end your relationship sooner.

OP, if you get progress, post an update some day.

look up sunk cost fallacy

a true patrician

no, he's right. i'm married for a long time now. my getting lean has made the wife stop eating garbage and self-conscious (read: jealous)

>neutral good: dont hurt her feelings just look for activities to do together or offer to cook healthy food for her
>chaotic good: get one of your friends who is in a relationship to have his gf complain about her weight to propose a group activity to do some sport or train for some event like tough mudder or some shit
>neutral: just tell her how you feel about it and let her make a decision
>chaotic neutral: let her catch you jerking off to old pictures of her where she was thin
>neutral evil: leave her and dont concern yourself with her
>chaotic evil: cheat on her and refuse to fuck her telling her that you arent attracted to her anymore

no idea for other alignments...

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Best advice in the thread, do this OP.

> Not seducing her twink brother as chaotic evil.
Pathetic.

This man speaks the truth. OP, you’ve tried telling her and she gets manipulative and whiney. Time to let her know this is a make or break issue, and follow through on it if you need to.

>superficialities
Bitch, you’ve told her that she’s neglecting a part of the relationship that is important to you. She’s told you that she doesn’t want to hear it. Doesn’t sound superficial to me. It’s not wrong to only want a relationship with somebody you find physically attractive, especially if they’re choosing to let go of their looks.

Don’t settle. You’ll end up with one of those specimens you’d find in a fph, with rolls of flab, and the stench of yeast infections escaping from between them. Get fit or get fucked.

>Implying lying (even by omission) is in any way good.
>Implying that the lawful good option isn’t just telling her the absolute truth, without malice, unkindness, or hate, and offering a helping hand to get her out of that situation.
>Implying refusing to confront her sloth and greed, and letting her sink into bad habits is good.

What would a paladin do bro?

Bongistan is second only to burgerstan in obesity. "Average" is literally overweight.

Fpbp

Dubs of truth have spoke

Absolutely based

A woman will follow the example of her man in most cases. If you're fit as fuck, and stop paying as much attention to her, she'll work hard to match you and gain the attention back.
If she's a fat lazy ass, what's that say about you?

Source: Me, married for 13 years.

If you love her even when she's fat, then she has no reason to not be a fat lazy cunt who soon won't even fuck you because you'll be ok with that too.

Source: Every relationship in the history of mankind

Bumping

>Her weight is starting to gross me out to the point I dont want to fuck her, but obvs cant tell her this.
If you can't tell her this you're not a fucking adult. Adults talk out their problems, especially in a relationship. Let her know her appearance is starting to impact your sexual desire for her.

You will be miserable if you let her get fatter and still stay together.

this is fucking disgusting lmao

Marriage is a fucking scam, whats the point? You can spend the rest of your life with someone without getting married.

Best goy.

The fuck are you talking about, women marrying you and divorcing for half your wealth is the true jew.
>marry someone
>get cheated on
>they now get half of your money in the divorce for being a dumb slut

>date someone
>they cheat on you
>dump and move on

Cheating is extreme but it could be any reason. There is 0 point in marriage in today's world and he concept is lost on modern society.

OP I literally bought an exercise machine and made her (and me) committed to working out every day.

Also I let her realize a few things
- she can't eat as much as me because she is simply smaller and a woman
- calories in and out are not a meme
- it's not normal to eat unhealthy multiple times of the week.

ATM she is weighting less then we met and she is super happy.

Woman are likes kids, they need a strong figure to guide them through life.

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I would explain the significance of marriage but it would take some time and your perception of reality is clearly too warped by Jewish propaganda to make that effort worthwhile. Feel free to continue your mgtow nonsense though, it's in everyone's interests that your warped view doesn't influence future generations.

Not OP but I kinda wanna hear your non-warped, completly sane argument, you seem really level headed

You should fuck her like a bunch, all the time. Sex burns hella calories. Than put that powder that the fat people put on their food so she loses her appetite. Also put more caffeine in her diet

Or get a prenup

Marriage will slowly be phased out. The idea is very nice, but laws need to change to not favor women so heavily.

They never hold up in court.

she looks very breedable desu

Bro, 3 years ago when I was in the same situation I'd feel for you, but the older and more bitter I get (25 yo doomer) I say find another chick with the Sasha Grey physique and give her the proper Sasha Grey treatment, pic related.
Did neutral good, neutral, and chaotic neutral in past relationship.
or try this. Heavy truth.

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Did these.

get out of here fatty
no one likes your stomach having more fat than your ass and tits combined

>fat girls trying to prove to us fat is better by posting disgusting, smelly, bumpy, acne covered asses of fat girls

reasons why sex with fat girls is shit
>cellulite, lots of it
>saggyness is a turn off and hints at aging and unhealthyness, which is a turn off in healthy men
>flabby disgusting stomachs
>girls with bad diets have a bad smelling pussy and body odor
>can't do a lot of positions, most of them aren't flexible or fit enough to ride
>can't pick them up easily and throw them around once they get past 200
>having a fat wife or gf shows low status

just tell her pussy
OR
start flirting with other ladies and being open about how you find other women attractive
every time you go out dress to impress
you gotta make her competitive

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