Why am i angry that someone fucked my girlfriend before i met her?

Nah your dad was an incel ape-man.
>how to control irrational anger
there are therapists for that, or you could just stop being angry for no reason

i feel like you have your own bit of anger you need to work through, user.

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Which details of her past, when you focus on them, make you angry?
Which do not?
What do you think about her kissing a guy?
What about just holding hands with her dad?
What if you're not the guy that she marries? If you let her get away, how do you think the next guy would feel about you?

No you don't. literally

Because it's completely logical and you shouldn't date people who have had a partner before (or date anyone at all but that's a different matter).

Used to have the same problem. I think the best way is to talk with her about your issue but recognize it's irrational to get it out your chest and let her know what's going on with you.
And really just don't give those thoughts power and know that anger comes from not meeting her before some other guy did, like It's in the past and nothing can change it, she's with you now and you should enjoy your time with her.

it never bothered me before because she said she never loved them, that i was at least her first love.
and that's really all that mattered for me until she lied about something important, she didnt cheat but she told a lie that my trust can never recover from because it took her so long to admit to.
its just that she said somethings that make it seem like she was infatuated with her ex.
i dont like the idea of her kissing a guy but whatever its not that bad.
it wouldnt bother me in the least.

see that's the thing, i love her and i dont see a future without her.
it could just be because she's my first but i've never been happier.
i dont know what the next guy might think, maybe he'll feel lucky or maybe he'll always hate me, its really up to him and his values.

Because it bothers you that you don't mean as much to her as she does to you.

>she said she never loved them
>tells egregious lies about other stuff
big think

elab pls
also elab
i already have, and the thing is she agrees.
it bothers her as well, and it bothers her that i was with another girl before (i was still a virgin when i met my current).

If she's still in love with him, she will go back, but as things are, she chose you. Don't make her forget why she changed her mind.

not much of a big think really, its kind of obvious.
the thing is, should i really be bothered by this stuff in the current day where nothing can be done about it?

i dont want a virgin gf, i want her to be my virgin gf
it makes me sad knowing nothing will change this
nah she freaked out (not aggressively) when i wanted to leave her over this

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because your feelings comes from movies

nigga you best start explaining

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That doesn't contradict what l said.

well it shows i mean a lot to her, i dont think the man who took her virginity means anything to her as she was raped at a very young age

You should be more bothered by the fact that the only reason you're even considering being bothered by this is because of societies obsession with selling people on the idea of true love only being between two people who are perfectly pure and who've only known each others touch.
Yeah she probably really thought she loved the other guy as much as she thinks she loves you, but I bet if it comes to light that you fucked a 4 year old in the ass all that will evaporate and she'll find that same pure 100% true love in someone else in a couple years, if it takes that long.
Everythings made up, just get your dick wet while you can and stop trying to make your life look like the notebook from the outside.

I'm glad you did, if you both have the same issue you can help each other out, maybe the two of you are angry because you think your current relationship is better than the ones you have in the past and would have wanted your current relationship to be the first of each other

Elliot Rodger was the best example of this. Being so stupid of this. He based teenager/young adult life off movies not knowing what actual society is like. Yet he thought he was smarter than everyone.

Every guy that's ever fucked your girlfriend has his own space inside her mind. It's something you can never touch or change.

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>maybe the two of you are angry because you think your current relationship is better than the ones you have in the past and would have wanted your current relationship to be the first of each other

yeah, probably.
its much better for the both of us, and my only regret is not meeting her sooner

thanks doc

appreciated

Not to mention he was highly insecure, compounded by his social interactions (or lack there of) with the opposite sex.

His value as a human was derived from the actions and thoughts of other people towards him or a lack of.

because she probably compares every single thing about you down the most insignificant thing to him

is it really that unreasonable to want to be someones first and last?

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No.

daniel origi

yeah one time she did that and it really upset me for some reason

girls will do that with every guy they get with man, the only thing i can say to console you is that she will probably compare her next boyfriend to you

Well one should never bring up their ex to compare their current partner, they broke up for a reason so they weren't that great compared to you if they did. She's choosing to be with you now, no need to bring old shit.
If she doesn't like something you do she can just say it, no need to compare.

>have inconsequential desire
>prepared to ruin your life over it
its only unreasonable if you have a person you could have a happy life with, and you'd rather be with a person you are miserable with (or a fantasy) based on wanting to be hyper possessive.

i dont know man
i dont think that helps

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Hey, user.
I broke up with my ex gf a few weeks ago.
I had issues with her sexual past. Which I talked to her about, but there was nothing we could do really, because what is done is done. It's not the reason why I broke up with her though, that's another thing I won't talk about.
What made me angry was that she gave me details about her exes and her sexual relations with them, she even did so while we were having intimate time (no I'm not kidding.)
for example we were undressing and she was telling me about how one of her ex used to not wear any protection and just pull out, or that this one used to eat her out, things like that. It disgusted me so much at the time that I couldn't even have sex properly with her afterwards, there was something blocking me.
My take on this is that they do this on purpose to show you how they have more sexual value than you, and therefore that you're better feel like you've found someone good, but they don't realise that it actually causes distress.
Looking back on it my ex sounded like such a slut the way she spoke to me about her past, especially considering I'm a virgin aswell.
I went through hell, I was so in love but so angry at the same time.
And of course she kept contact with some of her exes, and also had friends who she hung out with who definitely saw her naked and shit.
Women, not even once.

Tell her to shut the fuck up if she talks about it, fuck her as much as you can, and stop being in love.

i wont do that last part but thanks

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then you're in for a nice ride. have fun lol

>i dont like the idea of her kissing a guy
I broke up with my first bf because he called me a slut because I kissed a guy when I was 14 at a birthday party. Something is wrong with guys

You sound like you still in pain, I'm sorry she hurted you like that, but don't give up because you found the wrong person. You don't deserve to be treated badly by anyone and you shouldn't be mean to someone new because someone was to you in the past. Your failed relationships serve as experience will be a reference for what you want or don't want in the next one and be the better person and you will know when to put your foot down sooner. Don't let someone ruin good future experiences for you like falling in love.

That's not a fucking answer.

I make fun of incels all the time, I get it. But that's not a fucking answer, all you're doing is insulting his soul.

Because it's the deepest from of betrayal. She cheated on you before she even knew you. You mean nothing at all whatsoever to her. Hope you are treating her right and spending lots of time and money. Ideas such as faithfulness and not being a piece of shit are old, outdated.

We want to be first

chill nigga he's just shitposting