How would you treat your young overweight daughter without her developing an eating disorder?

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imagine having a daughter lmfao

based no nonsense dad.

Get her to do sports, nothing too competitive if she isnt the type. Don't buy shitty foods. Tell her to eat more veggies. Become a good role model.

Yeah that's abuse and I can't see that leading to anything good down the line when you're no longer in control of her

Okay let's cut the shit. I was obese as a child, and I, of my own volition, decided to lose the weight. The truth is, even if you get your child to keep weight off through abusive techniques in the short term, in the long run, it will ruin them psychologically, and on top of that, they won't have the actual self control that they need to keep weight off long term.

I don't know what the answer is, really, but what I do know is that you kind of have to just play whatever hand you're dealt. My younger brother is obese, but he's started mentioning how he wants to lose weight. So, my parents asked me for advice, and I told them to just be encouraging, and I gave my brother advice on how to do it.

That's the real answer. The meme answer is that you're a cuck for having a daughter.

> Walking and camping are abuse

How American are you?

Sounds nice, but I'm certain it's a larp

>when you're no longer in control of her
when she turns 18 why should anyone care? let her boyfriend or chad take care of that shit if they want the reward

>that's abuse
Dilate.

Mental health worker here. Specifically I work at a facility that focuses on eating disorders.

Best thing you can do for an over or underweight daughter is be a good example. Stress the important of fueling your body and being active. Do not shame. Do not dig. They will succeed better out of love and respect for their bodies than hate.

Forcing a 12 year old to walk 38 miles for "eating too much" is abuse, yes.
Right, why should a parent care about their children's future. Silly me, I thought the whole point of a parent was to create an adult capable of living on their own, when here I find out, that the only thing that matters is how good of a parent you LOOK like. My uncle did that with my cousin and now he's a professional alcoholic/drug addict

I'd take her out for hikes and other active things based on her interests (if she's artsy do photography or landscape painting, into history visit historical sites, into science do minor experiments, etc) and maybe try to get her into gardening as a way to interest her in fruits and veggies

T. Was fat girl in middle/high school with terrible parents

And, just to add, I'm not saying it's physical abuse. It's borderline for sure. But the worse abuse here is the mental abuse.

Over 2 days. With healthy food, adult supervision outdoors, camping, learning about local flora and fauna.
Sure sounds abusive.

>makes her want to eat it more, be more oversized, be bullied
>shame makes her develop an eating disorder
>she’ll steal money for food
Lack of fatherly support leads to more mental illness
How do you have a family? Please leave Jow Forums before we ruin your wholesomeness.
>sexual abuse
>feels controlled by daddy
>learns to use exercise as punishment
The healthy lifestyle with camping is good though
>forced diets
There are so many people on 600lb life who say they were forced to diet as children. Either their obesity spirals out of control due to dieting or rebellion.
A lot of anorexics say their habits started because competitive sports emphasize their bodies.
Don’t buy shitty foods is good but the situation is imagine she is already overweight, so she has an addiction to junk food and may eat it at school or anywhere she can.

If she’s overweight she may not be interested in sporty things or even ashamed of it. If she gets into non-physical hobbies her weight will increase leading to more shame. Sorry not trying to be a negative nelly I’m genuinely curious if there is any way a daughter, once overweight, can lose it without developing anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating her way to an early death.
>women
It seems guys who lose weight in high school just end up as a Jow Forums chad

First of all, the OP more or less said "We went on a hike, and now she doesn't eat bad any more". Which, to me, suggests that it's a punishment for being "bad", which in this case is interchangeable with being fat. I can tell you from my parent's experience with how their parents dealt with them being fat compared to mine that it's a bad idea to do that kind of thing. I guarantee I would not have lost the weight in the first place, or at the very least, would not have kept it off as long as I have if they had taken that sort of approach with me.

My parents used to take me and my sister to the lake district, I just realised we were being abused
thanks, I'll go spit on their graves

In my case, that's beginning to be true, but I also know women who were fat as kids and who lost the weight, and it's kind of a similar situation to my own. Their parents made a conscious decision to sort of be hands off but supportive, and eventually, they got tired of being fat and decided to do something about it. They told their parents, and they gave them help but still made it their child's thing, and weren't too overly involved with it.

Get involved with sports and athletics with her. Help teach her, and personally support and drive her to all of her practices and events. Cook all of her meals for her and show her videos of people who are successful at her chosen sport and how they use their physiques to their advantage.

Took her this walk / camping at start of may this year.
She wants to repeat it and take a friend because we took the camera.

I didn't strap weights to her back and whip her to keep moving. I don't know why you imagine some angry slave driver abusing a child when in reality it was a loving dad with his daughter talking about anything and everything while teaching her about camping, flowers, animals and photography.

I have no idea what your experience is to assume this was abusive, but you may need professional help due to the level of projection you display here.

Oh wow, dead parents, I'm so sorry
>I'm not
I didn't say taking your kids on a hike is abuse, but making it a punishment is 100% mental abuse and you're not going to convince me otherwise.

The way you framed it makes it seem like abuse, dude. At the very least, the initial sort of punishment dynamic seems very misguided to me.

Sorry, I've known a lot of people who have been abused, especially involving weight and stuff, and I just saw the pattern the way you described it. I can't know everything about your life over a chinese megablock building forum.

I know you're brainwashed, you don't have to spell it out

the salient point here is:
>She thought if she ate enough to make it too far to walk she'd be safe.
that was her signing on the dotted line, fully aware of the risks

if you're gonna fold like wet paper every time your child challenges your authority then you might as well let them do whatever the fuck they want. You're not being a parent, you're just a legal guardian.

Also, you assume it was for 'eating too much' I never said that.
I said it was for eating shite food.

I am her father. I am not her friend. I have to set boundaries, I have to follow through on what I say, I have to lead by example, I need to protect her, teach her and most importantly, I need her to understand her actions have consequences.

Don't say anything. Keep lifting and staying fit. Everyone's choice to get fit is just that: a choice. Everyone must choose greatness. She must choose to have a weight that is both attractive and healthy. You gotta let people succeed or fail on their own, and just motivate and support then when they need it. Nothing more.

>The way you framed it makes it seem like abuse, dude.
Literally no one in the thread thought about this except you. You have issues.

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cum in her mouth repeatadly until she hates ingestjng food and then buy only cans of clam chowder and nothing else so she stopa eating unleas she has to eat and is dieing of hunger so then she will lose the weiht that the stupid fat wjore even out on her self in the first place becaus my stupid fucking wife keep buying donuts and tim bits and cofee for the kids even thouh i say to ger to stop it is unhealthy but she keeps buying it and fuck the hell man it is the wife is fault so yea what i do is cum in her mouth every day for weeks and then buy clam chowder and nothing else and call her a fat whore every day until she is skinny and then if she gets fat agane i just repeat and threat to her by saying if u get fat again i will kick u out of the house u stupid bitch dauggter

Very impressed that your cousin gets paid to be an alcoholic

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My first response about daughter got some attention, I have more:

Son is currently 12. Son wants to join a gym, is obviously too young to do so. So what I did was show him how to use his own body weight to train and told him not to worry about strength yet, right now is about form and practice. He cycles everywhere, comes walks with the dogs and lives by the idea that 'if nature didn't make it, I wont eat it'. He is the opposite of my daughter this way. When asked why, he said 'Well, dad was really fat, and now he's not as fat because he's trying and I want to help dad.' So now I'm pricing a bike and some 1man tents for me and my son for next year, so we can leave with the dogs for a few days. It's gonna be wholesome.

When I was fat in those days I still loved being outdoors and going for walks in the park. I just didn't understand what a healthy diet was like. Hiking is good because it doesnt necessarily seem like exercise the way running or sports does and you can incorporate other interests into it

Like I said, nothing too competitive if she isnt the type that likes the competitive aspect.
Junk food addiction isn't real, humans just like easy sources of calories because that's what we're programmed to do (why healthy foods aren't delicious unless we add butter or sugar)

12 isn't too young for gym, it's the perfect age to start barbell training

I typoed, son is currently 10. Daughter is 12. Gyms near me wonta ccept people until they are 16, so it's home stuff until then.

Try finding an Olympic weightlifting gym, they usually have programs for kids

push ups are good enough for him.

Thanks man, will do.

>Lack of fatherly support leads to more mental illness
There are consequences to kicking the father out of the home. I'd be lost in the Philippines or some eastern European nation if I got divorced. I refuse to participate in an unjust system. Even at the cost of my offspring.

Isn't there supposed to be organs inside that?!

Samefag: also hiking isnt competitive so it also eliminates that problem

Pump her full of the good stuff. Regardless of the risk of an overdose

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This, fuck if tranny he took his daughter for an adventure.

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Get her to workout. Swimming is fun and easy to get into, and it works up a crazy appetite, lifting too.

If your daughter is under 12, you control everything she eats. Give her less food. More Veggies. If she refuses to eat, don't feed her. Only feed her when she asks for food, not when food is ready or when you're eating something.

If she's over 12, she maybe able to get food from outside (after school, lunch breaks, etc...). Do as above, and see if it works after a couple of weeks, if not she's eating more food from outside. Either pack her lunches and no lunch money, or talk to her about her weight. Getting her into something athletic might also help.

I Mean there was no deadline. Walking 38 miles over two days is 19 miles a day, at 2.5 miles per hour pace that's 8 hours walking a day. Totally reasonable pace, and a fun outdoors activity kind of thing.

She is a child therefore you are allowed to make decisions for them, however if you are trying to fix the problem after they are already fat then you failed.
You have to make all of their meals from an early age and force them to do high cardio sports and activities.

I can’t think of a sport that isn’t competitive, even if one is done by its lonesome like swimming, you compete against yourself. Dude and you are literally describing addiction! The human brain enjoys the dopamine hit from cocaine but it’s not addiction because that’s what we’re programmed to do.

I like the responses that say be supportive and let her figure it out on her own but what if she ends up being influenced by her clique and gets anorexia?
There’s Asian girls on Twitter that weigh 25kg after fasting for 8 days competing against one another
I’m Op
If you control them they will rebel. Isn’t anorexia originally a form of control to begin with?

It would never get to that point because I'm not a terrible father.

Most people eat when they are bored.

Encourage her to try a new hobby or take her out of the house and spend some time together.

Kek I have a younger slightly overweight sister who already has eating disorders. How do I work with that

having healthy foods in the house isnt a bad thing at all what the fuck are you on about

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I won't have an overweight daughter because I won't indulge her like a weak fag

I would take her camping for fuck's sake. Get 15 days off work.

And, wait... Not that bullshit camping Amerifats do (driving a car to a spot, sitting in a woods, drinking beer). I would take her to the Dolomites and sheit... So she'll work her arse off.

Alternatively, if the mountain is too hard as a starter, the Santiago walk will do.

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Lots of exercise at night

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rape her

all you’ve proven is that women are defective by nature and if they ever stray off the path to a healthy life they are fucked forever

Because it's relevant to this thread, am female. I've never had an eating disorder. I like good food. My mother is mostly to thank for this. She kept me on a great diet when I was little, home cooking, super comfy. When my parents divorced, it was a shitshow per usual, but I was going through a lot of hormonal problems. High test for female, thyroid problems, PCOS... I wasn't morbidly obese (180 lbs. at 5'9") but I could stand to lose 20 lbs. or so. And my father, who I no longer have contact with because of his narcissism, decided to drag me to the scale and high five me and tell me it was the first day of the rest of my life.

It was fucking retarded is what it was.

His meals were canned, boiled potatoes and those country croc sides that come in a plastic tub. He would eat that... And I would get about five slices of iceberg lettuce. I was 12 at the time, and we lived in the middle of nowhere. No grocery stores, no restaurants, no friends. Isolated. Eventually he just stopped feeding me and I had to steal-sneak food. ...I still do that. I'm not proud of it. I'm working on it.

I always managed to get out of dinner and interactions by going off and exercising. I had a home version of DDR, I had a place to swim, I had a bow and arrow... He tried to buy my love, it didn't work.

I got addicted to exercising to avoid him. I would do 7 hours of intense DDR followed by at least 2 hours of archery, and swimming for 2 hours a day. This was every day for the month he had me, one summer. During this time I got between 500-750 calories a day and only slept several hours at night. I lost 30 lbs in less than a month, and looked terrible. Withdrawn and manic. One day, back at my mother's, I collapsed when I was alone.

The best thing you can do as a parent is to be informed. To understand the shit you're getting your kid into before you go through with it. Get her involved in her own proper nutrition, don't take the wheel when you have no idea where you're going.

Itt:
>"well I would get her exercisi-"
>"NUH UH ANOREXIA HAS A SHIELD *teleports behind you*"

Shut up you fatty faggot. Being fat any point of your life fucks up real good. From hormonal levels to having way too much fat cells in your body that never really go away. Doubly so if you were fatty as a kid.

what kind of retarded blogpost is this? Is this a pasta? I feel like I'm getting memed or this could legit just be some fat clueless retard idk....

Kek

You fucking weak willed faggots seeing any form of discipline as abuse should neck yourselves. What fucking choices and free will. We are talking about kids who are pre-teens or teens, what fucking idea do they have about healthy lifestyle and long term choices. If you let them be on their own they will just gravitate towards stuff that feels good and is easy, leading to shitty diet and sedentary lifestyle. You don't force them to go swimming nor drag them into a camp, you suggest to them to try different sports and activities till they find something they like. You cut out their shitty habits so they don't self destruct. Don't reproduce if you can't see that.