lets discuss it in this thread. teenagers, people in relationships, and people with friends are not allowed.
>no one ever calls or texts you (other than bill collectors) >spend the vast majority if not 100% of your time alone >have no friends
For those of you who live such a lifestyle, how do you cope? I am a loner and have always been one, but as I get older I have noticed the negative effects becoming more pronounced. I have lost ability to effectively communicate even when it is necessary. In conversations I am utterly detached and clueless as to what is considered normal and what is weird. People often react very negatively to my presence, either with fear or outright aggression and hostility. I creep everyone out, and no one is ever interested in talking to me more than once. I take college classes and have attempted to talk to people a few times, guys and girls. Typically I find people are very open and receptive at initial contact, but within the first 30 seconds or so, I start to see the fear creep into their eyes, the anxiety. Once youve spent so much time in isolation, your entire demeanor changes in a way that is extremely offputting to normal people. No matter how hard I try to be empathetic and warm, I observe a deep discomfort in anyone I attempt conversation with.
I am pretty sure this is permanent. I dont think you can ever go back. I am engaged in my mind at all times, my internal monologue is very elaborate, my thoughts are long and snakelike, trailing on and on in various directions. Oftentimes I have multiple different thought paths going at once. I have developed weird idiosyncratic behaviors and speech patterns. I have become incredibly patient and mild-mannered, I find myself sitting still exploring my mind for hours and hours. I feel more optimistic in mornings and early noon. As the sun goes down my spirits and my mood tend to go down as well.
unfortunately thanks to fucking pewdiepie and his greentext memes video the majority of Jow Forums users arent loners and have tons fo friends irl I doubt youll recieve any responses besides mine
Parker Turner
I don't have any friends because I choose not to, when it comes to burning the bridge it's either I get bored of them or they piss me off.
>For those of you who live such a lifestyle, how do you cope?
I have really bad brain fog so it has somewhat numbed my emotions and abstract thinking tremendously, by being online all day it does somewhat keep me distracted from the loneliness but I comfort myself by reminding myself that as a loner I won't get fucked over, I don't have to put up with drama, I don't have to lose my temper, I won't get used, I won't fall victim to someone's opportunism and most importantly I won't be humiliated.
Truth is people are a necessity and relationships are a need, that's why people come on here, they come here to somewhat get that socializing need met, I've just been fucked over so many times that it has rendered me a broken soul, being a loner is wrong but I seriously don't have the motivation to make friends.
Lucas White
i dont really care about any of it i just wish i had some goal to work towards
Cooper Long
I basically do not cope. As I've gotten older it has become something that I feel as an actual physical pain in my chest like steel bands crushing my internal organs.
This goes away temporarily when I have contact with family or get to play with dogs. I should probably get a dog or cat but I know I won't.
I used to think not dealing with people's drama would translate into epic productivity but in actual fact the pain makes it hard to think and so there's really no gain I don't think.
Jayden Gonzalez
i haven't left my house in 6 months, i have people that care and check up on me but i dont reply. i prefer keeping to myself, watching youtube and playing vidya. i am on neetbux.
Jackson Myers
also what in gods name happened to this boards fellows ?
Jacob Ramirez
get a cat, that really helps when you're a hermit.
Brayden Martin
the normies happened, this board is nothing but faggotry. the traps invaded and the robots could no longer stand their ground. only faggots and newfags lurk these boards. real friends moved to other sites.
Noah Baker
yeah today really showed me the true face. ONLY failed normies at best. this is fucked. ill migrate too.
Jordan Allen
is that what happened? i noticed a surge in literal high schoolers and actual newfags posting recently and I was wondering how the quality dropped so much. fuck it, i give up on this board, after all these years i think its truly done for.
Adrian Jones
Don't go down this path. I was for the longest time and then when I actually looked for relationships with people I got very clingy to very toxic women and men who didn't care
Parker Cox
A loner doesn't care about forming relationships. You are just lonely and socially inept.
I don't talk to people or care to. I have to talk to a few people for work and I talk to cashiers, but that's all. Neetbux sounds great, but I don't want a schizophrenia diagnosis recorded somewhere with my name on it. I am at least intelligent enough to be able to communicate to facilitate the accomplishment of everyday tasks.
You should learn to do what is necessary to achieve what you want, whether that is relationships with other people or something else entirely.
Jayden Diaz
Anyone else genuinely like being alone? Since I quit my job 6 months ago, I haven't talked to a single person. The thought didn't even cross my mind until my mom came over last week to visit me.
Adrian Gray
id still consider myself a loner, i prefer to be alone whenever possible. it isnt really relationships that i seek so much as I want to experience a successful social interaction. i just want to know if im capable of it. unfortunately i dont think i am
Connor Thompson
>no one ever calls or texts you (other than bill collectors) I have nobody's phone number besides family and such.
>spend the vast majority if not 100% of your time alone Besides school, I'm very much alone.
>have no friends I'm on good or great times with all kinds of people, but they're more like associates rather than actual friends. Meaning I always go home alone.
As for coping, well being stuck like this for about 5 years really makes you numb to this whole thing. Granted I kind of want to make friends and a girlfriend, but given the situations I must face, I'm convincing myself that it's probably not the best idea.
I spend all day on this site. it's literally the only way I can communicate with someone. It's tiring not having friends, it really is. the only notification my phone gets is when I get a new email.
Adam Rivera
>coworker said Id do well being homeless since I enjoy being alone >tfw alone but not by my choice Its just so hard to relate to others, I've felt like this since I was a kid, Im 24 now
I used to have friends, but they all abandoned me. The only one I did anything with moved half way across the country in highschool, and the only contact I have with my school friends are a few dead group chats. They rarely invited me to anything outside of school so they probably weren't my friends anyway. I've just accepted the fact that I'll probably never have any friends. The last time I did anything with someone was when my parents made me go to a movie with some autist that also has no friends. In fact a major problem with being a loner is having my mom try to hand pick my friends for me.
Tyler Wilson
tf is exploring your mind? you don't read or anything?
Juan King
People are no different from clouds... Forever fleeting.
If it wasn't for work I'd have no friends. I mean I socialize with them during down times but, we don't hang out outside of work or anything. I have a female friend >inb4 normie. No she's engaged, we texted like two times a month and see eachother like twice a year for food.
