I know r9k has changed but I'm sure there are still some OG robots here who are kissless virgins. I used to be that all throughout my teens and spend my time on r9k whining about no gf. Yesterday I kissed a girl and just want to tell all lonely robots out here that it's possible and you're not destined to be alone forever.
I kissed a girl
Alexander Baker
Aaron Moore
spread your fake positive bullshit somewhere else you giant fucking faggot kys
Lucas Gray
How'd you do it man? How'd you do it?
Justin Cox
this
fuck off op. you were never one of us
Henry Garcia
Age ? Seriously tell your secrets now
Nathan Gonzalez
I started lifting, going out more with the few friends I had to increase my friend circle, started talking to girls more, started reading PUA stuff (not the cringe type, just theredpill stuff), dressing a bit cooler, started new hobbys... it's a long process. I just turned 21 and when I was 18 I was a textbook robot and success wont come immediately, but quicker than you would imagine. I focused more on my studies... I think this is all vital to become attractive to girls.
When actually talking with girls I just started joking around more, not being as serious. Having a playful attitude helps. Romance isn't like it's described in some gay ass indie songs, you should rather focus on being a man and ask yourself "What would James Bond do now?" and not live in some stupid anime fantasy. I'm still not super good looking and the girl I'm dating is probably way above my league just looks wise. I'm somewhat short (5'9 or 5'10), but I take care of myself.
Logistics wise it's SO easy to get a girl, I wish I knew this in high school, then I wouldnt have spent all those years just looking at my crush. You basically just have to somewhat start a conversation about literally anything (school, work, how her day was, something that happended to you two, ... literally anything) then talk and joke around for a few minutes and say something like "Hey, it was great talking to you but I gotta go. When are you free so we can get together and do something fun?". Then you take her number, make plans and go out. You don't have to wine and dine her but just do something fun or relaxing where you two can talk. Don't be a weirdo and don't try to think of what to say, be as natural as possible. Tease her, joke around... women are like kids when it comes to that. At the end of one of your dates you lead her to a nice spot and kiss her when she looks ready. GF aquired.
Dropping the loser mentality and not whining about tfw no gf all day was the first step for me.
David Ross
Lmao, the only thing that could have made me more of a robot was being fat. Otherwise I had nothing. Not good looking, short, autistic, always sad, broken home, lazy af, porn addict, no social skills, NEET after high school. The best choice I have ever made was stopping to identify myself as a robot though, so maybe you're right. What do except out of life if you're walking around thinking about how much of a loser you are all the time?
Elijah Wright
So... basically you stopped being yourself. I don't want to put a mask to get a girlfriend. And this doesn't mean I don't want to be better but I want to preserve my mental integrity without be someone else.
What if I don't have a playful attitude ?
What if other hobbies annoy me ?
What if I hate lifting ?
That is just the "be yourself but don't be yourself" meme
Jaxson Robinson
>bro just be more positive
do all of us a favor and never come here again
Chase Hall
>I used to be that all throughout my teens and spend my time on r9k
>teens
If you're not almost 30 you don't know shit. There is no escape once you pass 25.
Luis Diaz
I have ex's. I've had fuck buddies. 2 years ago I stopped trying.
Now I kinda want a girlfriend, but I am too paranoid of my failure to actually try.
I for one live in fear and I let this fear consume me.
You can always fall from that level.
Blake Thompson
You are all fools
With only a mere few years left of safeguarding purity, you would throw away wizardry for a femoid? Absolutely pathetic
Jeremiah Phillips
>So... basically you stopped being yourself.
Not really. I stopped being a whiny faggot that was rude to others and addicted to porn. That wasn't my real self, ever. It felt like my vision and thoughts were finally clear and like they used to after being all foggy from age 14-18.
>And this doesn't mean I don't want to be better but I want to preserve my mental integrity without be someone else.
I know exactly what you mean. I feel like I've become better and changed in many ways but at the core I'm still the same, none of my friends or family have ever said I've changed hugely in character. It's not like I'm a extrovert uber chad now, just a bit more open.
>What if I don't have a playful attitude ?
>What if other hobbies annoy me ?
>What if I hate lifting ?
Staying true to yourself is important and there's nothing wrong with enjoying video games. Not everyone has to lift weights too, I just think some sort of physical excercise make you happy and healthy. I even noticed this when I was complete loser and went running every few weeks. But you gotta be honest with yourself. Are you happy? If not, why? What behaviours or circumstances are making you unhappy? Are you willing to change those? If not you can't complain about being unhappy.
Might do that, and I'd give the same advice to anyone else.
Isaiah Martin
Yeah anxiety is a fucked up thing, it's my number one problem in life. The only way out is to face your fears head one, it's hard but true.
Connor Miller
Dude, I swear to God. I am so fucking afraid right now. I can't believe I had no issue switching from my highschool love to the next girlfriend, but now it's been so long I kind of want to quit altogether than face failure and embarrassment.
I am now talking to this girl, I've even went out to her, but idk what should my next move be.
Any ideas, guys?
Zachary Foster
Few of you faggots would make it past a couple dates, let alone marriage. You know whats wrong with all of you? You are BORING. Being positive and lifting weights or reading isn't gonna replace your lack of personality, or make an introverted spazz any more bearable to be around, whether you look like chad or pic related.
Gabriel Butler
I think you should just text/call her and ask when she's free so you two can spend together. Then do something fun or interesting and talk.
To dropthe anxiety it's bet to just accept it in my experience. You're supposed to a feel a bit nervous, so accept that. Ask yourself what's the worst thing that can happen. Like really. The world wont end. Your life will go on. And no one is expecting perfection from you.
Asher Williams
I'm 27. It's not gonna happen at this point unless I resort to prostitutes. But I'm not gonna spent hundreds just to feel slightly less lonely for a few hours.
Liam Torres
You faggots that start preaching positivity to everyone on this board after something good happens to you make my blood boil
Charles King
Thanks, man. People think I am normally functioning member of society, but I've only been pretending to be charismatic. I'm actually just a bitter fuck who dreams of former glories.
Maybe I should be more forthcoming, embrace failure if it comes to it and try to learn from the overall experience.
Dominic Robinson
this. it's proof they were never truly unhappy to begin with, like it was all a phase to them
What happened to make KHV's a rare breed among robots?
Adam Turner
Yeah, that's the spirit. It's always good to go through life with a "hunting" or "go getter" mindset. If I decide in my brain that I will confront and look for things to do they stop giving me anxiety because I'm in the mindset of being chased and on the run from my responsibilities and fears.
Another thing is that some of the things I was the most anxious and worried about weren't bad at all in retrospect. Now I smile when I think about them (going to the gym as a skeleton for the first time, getting my drivers lisence, going for a kiss with a girl, joining a team sport...). I just try to spend the least amount of time in my head worrying about dumb stuff.
Ayden Thomas
>ayy lmao dude just tease her and joke around
Youre implying I have a personality plus social anxiety kills any creativity I have which make it even harder.