I am terrified of having sex

Just wait until you're married. To be honest, there's legit justification for being afraid of random sex. You're allowing a total stranger into the most intimate human setting imaginable. What if she's fucked up and cuts your dick off? What if she wants to rob you while you sleep? It's an entire other person, and you cannot forget that.

Chicks want to marry virgins, user. Just bee yourself.

This is the most pathetic post i've seen in a while. Man the fuck up.

This is what I say to myself when I get nervous about hooking up with a girl. You've got to get that marine mentality HOOORAH

Don't build it up, desu honest it feels good. But it's just like anything practice and get good at it. You shouldn't be afraid of it, it's a natural human activity. If you have the chance go and enjoy yourself.

how much weight did you lose? You probably have loose skin and stretch marks,

>marine mentality HOOORAH
made me chuckle

Sex is stressful as fuck desu senpai. That's why I've literally never done it sober.

Most women are fucking terrible at sex even after having it several times so I don't know what you're so afraid of. Not like you're trying to hook up with a bro who knows how to tickle your pickle in all the right ways.

for millions of years, men and women have laid on top of each other to have sex. your ancestors have done it. quit making it a bigger deal than it really is.

you are mentally weak and losing your virginity won’t push you into “finally making it”

"HAHA GIRLS LIKE ME IS JUST D O N T WANT TO GET LAID HAHA"

I can kinda relate with that. I'm scared to death of girls and social relationships and especially the idea of sex. It's not like I don't want it. It's just that my brain seems somewhat broke.
Even if a girl might have shown interest I have gotten so scared that I sabotage myself.
Getting a fit body and eating healthy is super easy compared to talking to girls.

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>schedule time with 10/10 model escort to lose virginity
>have massive panic attack beforehand, worst feeling I've ever had in my life
>don't show up for appointment

That's when I realized sex is supposed to be with someone you're legitimately intimate with. Everyone who says "just man up dude" has broken pair bonding abilities and wants to drag you down with them.

It literally isn't unless its your first few times. If you know what you're doing you can have her knocked senseless and screaming in roughly a minute.

OP, what youre experiencing is comfortability in what you know. You’ve never been with a woman, you assumed you never would, and now that you’re in a position where sex might be an option for you it’s scary to you. That’s because it’s foreign, alien, out of the ordinary. I was like you before in that sense. Almost every virgin was. I’m not advocating you to be a hoe but if you want to make it you have to push yourself outside the gym just like you would inside. You will make it because us randos on the intardnets believe in you. So believe in yourself friend.

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>Everyone who says "just man up dude" has broken pair bonding abilities and wants to drag you down with them.

I was the one who said that and i've never had a one night stand or a quick lay. Having a partner who means something to you doesn't instantly make you a chad. You still have to man the fuck up.

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fuuug this

There is no manning up that needs to be done. OP is fine.

>be chatting up girl
>it goes really well
>get her number/snapchat
>go on a couple casual dates
>they both go really well
>girl starts showing obvious signs of having feelings for me
>get *THAT* feeling in my gut, the same feeling you get when you realize youve been slowly drifting into oncoming traffic and youre about to head-on collide with another car so your body automatically swerves away without thinking about it
>immediately ghost her on all social media/block her number in a similarly automatic fashion without even thinking about it
>feel lulzy about it, like i just narrowly avoided death
>wake up the next morning and realize what the fuck i’ve done
>repeat with literally every woman i’ve ever been more than acquaintances with my entire life

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this is a very good post

just pop some viagra first time you sleep with someone new thats what i do lmao

Dude, the fact that you (and I) are scared of sex doesn’t mean it should be done with someone who you have bonds with. If you ask most people have somewhat regular sex with partners they see one or two times. It’s actually really casual these days

Me too user.
Want sex/relationship desparately but can never picture myself in those situations. Now I too have lost weight and take more care of my appearance I'm sure I could get laid at the very least,
But whenever I speak to a girl I can't get rid of the feeling that I'm faking it, this isn't me, I'm pretending to be someone else and the real me wouldn't be doing this.
I can fake it for a bit despite that but whenever things look like going more than just chatting it fucking terrifies me.
I think the answer is to just desensitise yourself by putting yourself in those situations while also building up your self esteem, But Christ it's hard.

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Is this supposed to be a convincing argument?

If you ask most people they'll tell you they eat unhealthy food and don't exercise. It's quite common these days.

Not sure why you feel the need to disbelieve your own inclinations. If the prospect of engaging in the most intimate activity possible with a stranger causes you anxiety why do you feel the need to believe that anxiety is a bad thing?

One of my good friends asked me out because she'd had feelings for me for years that she hadn't been able to express and she didn't want to go her whole life without knowing if it could work. Wasn't even able to kiss her. I'm 25 and utterly terrified that if I kiss a girl, they'll be able to tell it's my first kiss and it'll spread and I'll never ever be taken seriously by anyone ever again. At least when I didn't kiss the friend, she was probably the only one who wouldn't take me seriously ever again.

Don't worry about it man. Sex is something you should do because it's fun and meaningful, not because it's a receipt of your worth as a human being. You are a living soul with an undeniable dignity, don't worry about validation through vagina. Find out what you lke about yourself, or thow yourself at the world until you do. Carve out a piece of life for yourself, even though it's like carving a rock with a wooden spoon. One day you're going to walk around feeling peace with yourself and gratitude that you get to be alive. When you do, you're also going to know how to solve a sex problem. God bless you, user. We're all gonna fucking make it.

Relationship bitching thread?
>Finally get gf, 25 years old
>Have fun for a few months
>Yesterday find out she has a kid and hasn't told me
All my confidence instantly shattered, it feels like she just had been taking advantage of me, and there is no way to verify this or trust her ever again. I never should have done anything except fap to hentai in my apartment, fuck this gay earth

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Take the positives and forget the rest. The confidence you got from the relationship, the experience you got from being in one, all the positive memories and feelings and experiences. Keep and cherish them. The pain and the betrayal and the lies, keep them, but keep them in like that shitty old box that you have under your bed that you haven't opened in a decade cuz you know it only has old wires and shit in it. You might need one of those wires someday, but until that day comes, there's no point in thinking about it.

is right

What positive shit is there to keep if it's likely just bullshit and lies?

That's not how it works mate. Withholding information about a specific thing from you, doesn't mean that literally EVERYTHING is dishonest.

>sex
>the most intimate act a human can engage in
>literally the process that creates life itself
>meaningless
I weep for humanity

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>misread meaningful as meaningless, because brainlet

I'm 6'3 and I'm scared girls expect me to have some monster cock. I'm only 7 inches hard which is bigger than average, but I feel like I fall short for my height.

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Everything is cast into suspicion because a kid isn't some random factoid or intimate secret, it's about providing and serious relationships. She seems to take our relationship seriously, which means hiding something like that is exploitation, either for purely financial reasons or safety and stability. Does she really like me or does she just tolerate my general autism for ulterior reasons? This thing has cast doubt over the entire relationship.

>have fun for a few months
Your relationship likely wasn't even official and doesn't appaer to have even ben taken seriously by you yourself. She likely didn't tell you about the kid because she likes you and doesn't want to scare you away because she's probably been down that road a dozen times already. It's entirely okay to be scared off though, by either the kid or the deceit, but to suddenly project this bizarre veil of inauthenticity over all the minutiae of your "relationship" is unhealthy as fuck. It's anxiety talking.

Is asking me if I'm "serious" and wanting to move in with me not official?

A few months in? Mate, the red flag isn't hiding the child. It sounds like you walked through a fully flagged minefield just to find out about the baby.

Cool, I'll dump her or maybe just ghost her and fuck off from women forever

>or maybe just ghost her and fuck off from women forever
It's amazing that even after this whole conversation you haven't managed to actually take in a single word that was said to you. You've got bigger issues than women, I can promise you that.

Learn how to have fun again. Life is a ride not a challenge.

Sex is pleasurable, otherwise known as fun. It's common and unexotic and we can all do it. Hell you probably masturbate. PROTIP your dick doesnt know the difference you'll be fine.

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No shit, women issues just stem from self issues, like being a fugly socially stunted nerd. My problem isn't women existing, it's the sort of women who would choose me.

I have a related question. My best friend have never had a girlfriend. I know that he's sad about it, but each time I try to nudge him into new social interactions he just says "I'm too old now, there's not reason to do it now". It's frustrating beyond compare, I don't want to lose him as a friend by pushing him too far, but I don't want him to prematurely give up on life.

At least becoming a Priest/Monk and put your virginity to use.

OP here, this is far too relatable. I must have burned at least four girls like this, including one I loved dearly who must have felt the same because she would try to initiate outings all the time despite seeing someone (that lasted maybe four months, nothing serious) offered to take me to a movie and all. And when I ghosted her in my panic she would message me on Skype or SMS me shit like 'I hate you' 'I hate you, you disappeared'
I will take this regret with me to the grave, not one day goes by without me regretting it. She had massive tits.

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stop being such a fucking cuck, jesus

let him be, user.

But I want my friend to find happiness, he's miserable now and feels like he isn't having a life.

for some people, melancholy is happiness. If he isn't depressed or living life as a wastrel, who cares.

You will become what you deserve.

I'm amazed at your utter illiteracy. Try not to speak in memes so much. It's actually embarrassing to read.

He is depressed, I know that he is scared of trying to find someone and failing.

get really drunk before you do it, you won't even remember it but that's the way how it goes

Nobody "deserves" anything

you're literally apologizing for the women and brushing it all off like it's no big deal
>haha remember the good times bro, this little lie doesn't taint the relationship at all, it's all water under the bridge bro

Paid a hooker for my first time amonth ago
it was "ok" to be honest

Bro, I'm almost certain that voice you heard when you were 13, was in fact, yourself years from now when you've made it. You really did become a wizard huh op...I'm fucking proud of you ;^)

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are you me?

Are you terrified or do you lack desire? If you're asexual that's fine.

But if you're scared and yet the opportunity is there then just do it and see how it goes. Sex isn't a big deal.

Not OP but i think i am just asexual. I've never had any desire to have sex with anyone. I don't think i ever will. Who knows if this is healthy. But OP, if you're scared then that definitely isn't healthy.

asexuals are lucky, my instincts are fucking screaming at me to have sex each time I see a hot girl. yet I'm a fucking incel, it feels like my brain is broken; as if there is a part of it not functioning the way it should. If I didn't have a family whose lives I'd destroy by comitting suicide these feelings would have killed me long ago.

That's interesting because when you hear about how sex is this thing that every person wants and should be trying to get, especially as a guy, it feels strange to not identify with that. People think you're sick or repressed or hormonally imbalanced.

You jack off waaay to much right?
Hodgetwins did a good video on this

Try not being a degenerate and do it with someone who cares about you instead of the first slime ball to take her clothes off

It EATS me up from inside, not living the romantic/sexual live that I have envisioned for myself in my head. Legit hits me nonstop all day long, it's real fucked up. I will snap out of it and go but then I'll get yanked back, a big part of me just doesn't want me to have girls. Like I get a kick out of denying myself because why bother, it's not for me, I'm gonna be a loner forever. So odd

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Everyone I care about, about five girls in total, are impossible for me to get with right now. And they certainly don't feel the same way for me, not to this extent.

The opposite, I've been on nofap for months and ditched porn because it ate up my time and made me sluggish and indolent and a ton of other problems. I just wank once every few weeks to keep my cum from going full yellow and crusty.