>Be me 18 year old virgin >Have best friend since 6-years-old >Still go to the same school 12 years later >we both bought tickets to prom afterparty and are planning to meet up >Oneitis from my class that i talk to on a regular basis and who is a potential chance for me also bought tickets. >Party finally comes around friday and i meet up with him when i get there. >He is out of his mind drunk >Meet oneitis and say hi >Have fun the whole night all up to the last hour >Best friend starts talking to oneitis and flirting >They disappear into crowd of people and i try to follow >Lose them >All of a sudden i see them making out >I go to a corner and sit down depressed almost crying >Party starts dying and i take a cab with my friend >Talk with him and act like i didn't know/care about what happened. >Next morning i see that they've become friends on Facebook.
My only chance ever is now lost and i am feeling the most depressed that i have been in a long time. Being diagnosed with chronic anxiety does not help the situation either.What am i supposed to do now? I just want to go to sleep and wake up thinking it was all a dream.
Hey Champ, don't back down. You may lost one girl, but at your age the world is open for you. Take cold showers and talk to strangers. Don't let your anxiety win.
Robert Rogers
move on, delete her dont talk to him again
Talk to your other friends and go out and do shit
Blake Ramirez
Thanks man. The anxiety is really ruining me over this and it's tireing. I know i have to keep going but it's hard.
William Rodriguez
I'm going to cut the girl off definitely but he is my best friend and I'm not sure i want to do that because of a girl.
Daniel Robinson
you dodged a bullet, bro.
if a girl goes to prom to whore herself out, then she's a fuckin thot. Your best friend is gonna being cheated on the day after they'll start dating.
Lincoln Kelly
holy fuck op my thoughts are with you right now. that really is a shitty thing your friend did. he must have known the situation between you and her, right? drunk or not he still had those intentions. if what happened is truly devastating, lightly and passingly bring it up to your friend the next time you hangout. make him aware that what he did was a dick move and let it be that. ending a life long friendship over a whore's holes is petty.
Jack Roberts
Hey man, you took an L but by all means its not over. I think its entirely possible to remain friends with your friend, which is worth way more than this broad. The onitis you were feeling was all in your head and no actual damage or harm was done. I think all men have an experience like this (even the chaddest of chads) and you cannot have it haunt you. Everyone gets 'cucked' at some point, one way or another. So think about what happened rationally and try to learn from it, but the lesson here isn't 'I'm going to be a cold person from now on to protect myself', that's never the lesson.
Justin Campbell
Yes it really is that bad. And he did know of the situation between me and her which is why i'm still angry at him.
Samuel Collins
Yeah i know i have to accept it. My usual defence-mechanism is just to isolate myself and dive into edy internet shit. But i don't know how long this will take to get over. The last 4 months during the time i have been talking to her really made me feel like i had gotten a long way from being a social outcast. Now it feels like i've hit rock bottom once again and it has reawakened my depression.
Gavin Stewart
don't take it so heavy, user. girls come and go. you're 18, this is far from your only chance. high school is such a small part of your time on earth
im a chad in a relationship. dont fall for the meme. she wasnt worthy of you user. im in the most fucked up relationship filled with the usual, mindgames everywhere, self-victimizing gf, manipulative, borderline sadistic. be glad youre alone dude. being a chad isnt fun.
Matthew Flores
I'm aware of that but my age is also where you are supposed to lose your virginity. If it does not happen now, there is a big chance that it might never happen. And now that i have pretty much hit the reset button, it looks like there isn't much hope left.
Aiden Gray
Why are you starting out with a negative attitude? You say this like you already lost your whole life to this incident. Let me put it this way, you're going to have heartbreaks that are going to be WAYYY worse. Like, a hundred times. You're going g to have to deal with emotional pain that's DEEP and that has way more connection with reality than this, like a parent passing away (god forbid, I'm Just stating a realistic example) so in order to move on to the next level you're going to have to get over this, and its just a matter of time. Bitches ain't shit user
Isaac Wright
But at least you get pussy once in a while. I have never experienced anything with a girl and i have only had a fake taste of that life. That is even worse than being in your situation imo.
Hudson Gonzalez
I just looked up the average age people lose their virginity, and its fucking 17 YEARS OLD.... like wtf, I thought it would be 19 or 20
you dont understand man, youre FREE you can do whatever you want. youre not forced to listen to some chick, not forced to console every time something doesnt go her way, dont have to feel guilty if she cries because of HER mistakes. you can go out and play tennis, soccer, football, talk to anyone you want, spend your time the way you want. you have freedom, and that is infinitely more valuable than any piece of ass on this planet. treasure it dude and get outside man. im just now realizing i shouldve been doing that my whole life.
Jace Torres
I know i can do all those things but you can too. I would gladly trade all of those things to fall asleep with a cutie in my arms. If you are not out there sleeping with girls you are not doing what humans are supposed to do, which is reproducing. That is why no men are happy if they are +20 and still a virgin.
Yeah i know it's pretty crazy right? Whenever you see 16-year-old girls in public you never think that they are actually fucking a new chad every weekend.
Thanks for the reply, user. I know that i will get over this but i think it it just has something to do with how little i have experienced, that's why people are suprised when they hear that stuff like this affects me. Normies who go out clubbing every weekend don't experience this because they just move on if they get rejected until they hit the jackpot. Many of them will never understand true pain.
I did this multiple times to multiple friends. I dont know why they still hang out with me.
Aiden Russell
If he did know, I would cut him out of my life too. He betrayed you once, he will do it again. Can't rely on people like that to be your friends.
Bentley Wright
Let me guess, You are a fatty, your friend is a fatty, your oneitis is a fat landwhale. Everyone at the party was secretly laughing at the fatty love triangle.
Parker Reyes
>He betrayed you once, he will do it again This. Fuck this makes me realise how weak of a person i am. I know people who will betray me but i still keep them in my life because to be honest i don't have a very large friend group. Having even less friends would just make me more depressed though. I don't know what the fuck to do,.
Nope, you're wrong on that one. Girl is a 7/10 at the most, I'm a low-med tier normie looks-wise, but i have the personality of a robot (which is the reason why i am on here in the first place). My friend on the other hand is a chad-lite which probably explains why he had such ease with her.
Ethan Fisher
Well don't beat yourself too much over it. You live and you learn whom to trust and whom not to. You can still hang out with people who might possibly betray you in theory, simply be aware of that and don't trust them with anything important/personal. Obviously don't hang out with the ones thst already fucked you over, that's cuck tier.
Ryder Russell
Post pics, or it did not happen.
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Aaron Clark
Not going to do that obviously. What reason do i have to lie about this?
So that means that i still need to cut him out? I know he can betray me again and he pretty much already did.
Jackson Lopez
talk to your friend and get it out in the open. if you confided in him to tell him about your oneitis and he does that then frankly he doesn't give a shit about you or your boundaries. >BAWWWW cutting a friend out because pussy no it's more than that. he doesn't respect you. that's literally it. your "best, lifelong friend" doesn't give enough of a shit about you to stay away from one girl. makes you think, right? you have two options the way i see it (and having dealt with literally the same shit in the past) is you either confront him and lay everything on him, then analyze his response and take it from there; or cease contact immediately and go ghost. there is no in-between or pussyfooting. he fucked you over hard without even giving it a second thought.
Austin Cruz
>So that means that i still need to cut him out? I know he can betray me again and he pretty much already did. It is up to you what do in this situation. Only you decide what man do you want to be.
Nathan Myers
I'm going to confront him about it next time we hang out and analyze his response then. The second option of ghosting i hard for me to do since we share alot of mutual friends and it would just make things weird. The funny thing about this actually is that he told me 2 days before the party that i should stop talking to the oneitis because "she was not worth it". Crazy how people can just lie to your face that way to their advantage.
Gavin Young
>"she was not worth it" Wow what a pathetic snake that guy is.
Ryan Jackson
It is really as bad as it sounds.
Connor White
I wouldn't even bother asking him to explain himself at this point. This shit is unacceptable.
Jacob Garcia
be prepared for him to backpedal and to hurl any excuse he can conjure up. >b-but dude i was drunk! >b-but dude you aren't dating her! >c-cmon bro it was nothing trust me lmao we cool? and the fact he told you only days before the party that "she was not worth it" only further proves the point he's a scummy shithead disregarding you and your feelings. honestly, i'd tell him to fuck right off but it's understandable you need to keep your social group going without hiccups or drama.
Nicholas Powell
Okay lads the story has just taken a turn. You remember from my story that she had added him on Facebook the day after? Well today they have both been online on messenger at the same times and now the oneitis is not responding to my snaps and my friend has left one of my messages on seen. I think my worst thoughts are actually true. You know what this means.
Shit mate don't obsess over this stuff so much. Fuck the cunts, fuck both of them. Go lifts some weights or go for a walk, don't spend time on negative thoughts, spend it on improving yourself.
Landon Campbell
yea obsessing over and comparing their online times is already too much dawg. delete kikebook/snapchat/instagram and immerse yourself into vidya, a new show or your favorite hobby. you're going to bounce back after this and come up even stronger. literally, bitches ain't shit and it's always your closest nigga to stab you in the back. i think travis scott said that.
Charles Ortiz
I know looking at online times it too much but i think i might actually have my suspicions right. She usually responds to my shit when she opens her phone but she has now been online multiple times and still nothing. I know i shouldn't be obsessing over this buti just can't believe it.
