Stupid question, I know, but is possible to find an actual relationship on this app or is it just for one-night stands?
Stupid question, I know, but is possible to find an actual relationship on this app or is it just for one-night stands?
Most of my friends have found their gfs on there, so it's possible but I can't speak to the quality of the relationships.
Sorry for a long post user but I'll try to really tell you all I knwo and what worked for me after 2 years of being in tinder.
Depends user, I think in the us it is more for one night stands from what i heard.
But I got two (2) gfs from tinder without fuckinng the first date. I actually talked to both girls for a few months and was going out with them before initiating a relationship. I am in a relationship for a year now.
I really can only recommend tinder. My advices would be
>don't act too much like someone else
try to be interesting accordinng to what movies/spotify music/instagram posts she has but never pretend to be totally someone else and don't be too cocky and ""confident""
>make your profile interesting
you don't have to have an ig account but having one helps, it's a social profile she can see what you post like or maybe who you have in common, it doesn't have to be super normie as I have an ig account with edgy pictures of stuff and "memes".
spotify is very good to link with your tinder profile
>don't start with an opener
Just say something like "hey you like neutral milk hotel too? i have an lp of them lol". Try to show your personality continously by talkingg about stuff that interests you and that you think according toher profile she likes as well
>no deep long bio
its just cringey, just put up ~10 words max
I only had some stupid thing like "im not like other girls" and it worked well
>don't imply sexual stuff
i don't think you even should to call her cute. she knows you like her because you liked her on tinder. saying that can put people off especially girls who arent slutty.
>cont
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>talk outside tinder and invite her out soon but not too soon
If you follow her on instagram after your first conversation on tinder and she likesfollows you back and you exchange a few likes it gives you something to talk about and ASK ABOUT HER life. You can try to write her on ig instead tidner after like 3-5 days you can try to setup a meeting. I wouldn't setup a date at night for a dinner or a movie as I think it is kinda awkward for both parties. I'd just go for a drink or most likely to a coffee. You csn sit outside for a few hours and you'll know if you can takk about intersting stuff. From there on I have not the greatest advices as it really depends on your and her personality
>DON'T give up
i had my tinder account for like 2 years and went on my first date after a year. I was too awkward to write anyonenfirst and decides after I met someone I had a lot in common.
>not all tinder girls are thots
ik r9k thinking but really. Some girls are probably therr to fuck chads every weekend but if you arent retarded you spot those girls and only swipe right girls you think are decent and trust me there really are some. Being an awkward shy girl it isnt that weird they try to meet guys online and some are fun to talk to
The first girl i dated broke up with me but to be fair I think it was mostly because I was being a clingy virgin too insecure about everything. although she wasn't the best person. My current gf was amazing, shy, smart and after few mlnths I had my first sex with her and she as well. I am now really much happier than ever before and I dlubt I could've crawled from the insecure mindset and found a gf had I never tried tinder and just drank booze by myself and rabbit friends online
Good luck
no tinder is just for fucking
>tfw spent a long ass time trying my best to help op and he doesn't even reply
Bro I was eating breakfast, relax
Thanks though. This advice might just pull me through. Thanks user.
you're not going to find any quality girls honestly, a bunch of roasties that jump from man to man.
Just recently matched with this girl that admitted to fucking multiple dudes from tinder raw, and had to have an abortion from it... She's super hot but still, holy shit.
I don't have a personality so I am shit at Tinder.
Thats why I deleted Tinder. I hate fuckin thots.
all good user, I hope you make it
neither, you have a better chance of getting both if you just head outside and find a GF
>she's super hot
i mesn user I think you are just swiping right bad thots
I see manymany of them but try to match hirls that look decent an they reslly are such girls but if you're matching pic related lookalikes there is no woneder shes a roastie
Tinder is just a place for attractive people to get laid faster. If you're average or below don't bother.
I hear more stories about people getting robbed by their tinder dates than having a successful relationship
just swap right decent looking girls and not superhot thots and after some time you just might find one
I knew a girl who had a boyfriend her entire senior year from there. She started at 17, though.
I installed okcupid yesterday for the 4th time because tinder is too normie. Liked somewhat 200 girls and messaged 30 (most of them were online) and got no response.
Should I surrender and kill myself ?
Yes, you should surrender and kill yourself fag
Maybe simply wait for a girl who will be interested and will write to you.
But don't care about it too much if noone will write. Think that these who will not write are bots who simply cannot do it and you are waiting for a real person (the one who will write).
Do not give up. Keep open door for the luck
I've been on Tinder for almost a year and have yet to get a single match. I'm also in my late 30s. Could that be the reason? Should I try another app?
What does it mean if there is a blue star next to their name?
Did they star me or did you star them?
i met my current gf on bumble after getting fed up with the kind of boring whores you meet on tinder. we had a super fun, cute first date and have been going well for like 2 months since. i might've just gotten lucky, but when the first girl your match with on bumble is infinitely better than every girl you ever matched with on tinder, that's either just dumb luck or super indicative of the userbase of both services.
lol i dunno wuat you are talking about by a blue star
shows both ways, but I believe you can find who superliked whom somewhere
but write girls who superliked her
Im the blogposter from above and my first gf was the first girl i ever written myself. i wrote her because she superliked me and is the only girl that did that so dont give up
What do you actually say in order to fuck? Everytime I hint at wanting to have sex I get ghosted. Only makes me feel so much fucking worse, when everyone says its just for fucking.
SO WHAT THE FUCK AM I DOING WRONG
>try to find a gf on tinder
>nah bro it's just for sex
>try to use tinder just for sex
>still fail
suicide soon
You're not alone user. Same thing happens to me. Horrible feeling..
ugly men aren't allowed to be happy
Im not ugly at all, I have over a thousand matches in less than a month bro.
Yah, you gotta be Chad though
It's hookups but if the hookup goes well then you can start dating.
I really wanna try straight tinder. I got like 250 matches from fags. Too bad I wouldn't be able to get hard with a girl.
>Everytime I hint at wanting to have sex I get ghosted
>WHAT THE FUCK AM I DOING WRONG
are you braindead user? this exactly is what youre doing wrong, if some super chads say "lets fuck" as their first line and follow theough is 99% not true and if it works its super rare and youre not chad
just talk like a normal person about stuff you boyh care about and setup a meeting and maybe flirt a little bit but flirting online with person you haven't met is cringy on its own. Just go out to a cafe and later go for a drink and see if there is some tension and THEN talk and hint about sex irl.
It's really simple just don't try to act like a chad and be a normal human beig trying to meet someone
read this if you want to succeed on tinder anons:
>all boils down to just being "interesting"
I guess I'm too far gone, I don't even know what people consider interesting or what an interesting person acts like so I can't even fake that
I don't think anything is lost user. I myself think have the kost in common with the artsy/edgy girls. Me being interested was just trying to make my depression and loneliness into an edgy trope. I talked about listening to NMH, Slint, the microphones etc and overall about bein tired with life and my absolute lack of caring about politics. Also talking about lefties being retarded and hating political correctness.
Also drugs was an important thing to me. At the time i just smoked weed and tried mushrooms and DXM but most of all drank alone in my room. Some hirls thought it is cool but you mustnt seem like in a need of "saving". I also lied about being a virgin and said I did have sex when I was 15-17 but at 21 (when I started tinder) i got depressed and without the need of a girlfriend and that I don't believe in love per se.
Which is all half truth but that's just qhat worked for me.
I just want you to try and transform your bad qualities into something other people can work with. Normalfag yourself a little bit. It took me a year it isn't easy user.
Also I only had pictures with my eyes and hair showing, low quality that i was ok with sharing that kinda showed youre edgy but not your ugly face
Think I'll give that one a go soon. I need to get myself in some sort of group photo though. I don't have one that isn't like a decade old.
It's the behavior that I don't understand at all. Anytime I ask how to be interesting people always recommend a bunch of interests but I already have many interests, even most of the ones in your post. It's just that I have never had any experience in expressing or discussing those interests to others. Honestly the thought of expressing any emotions or opinions to anyone else sends me into a panic.
People no longer see messages until they've liked you user. Since OKC got bought out it basically turned into Tinder. Messages are useless.
>Only found out when I liked someone, and it popped up with their message, had a chat and turned out she'd sent it a few weeks back.
The insta fuck lines only work for chads are cliche as it is. i personally have a way higher success rate by going from tinder >> snapchat >> set up date through snap >> number >> fuck on date
I'm sorry to hear that user but it really only means you just gotta force through that and try to open up to people a little more. I didn't have that issue myself but I'm sure many people did and overcame it. It really is impossible to find a lover when you're terrified of axtually being close. The fact you have interesting hobbies is important tho and a good first step. I don't have any advice on how to ocercome that. I'd say look up the web but the best thing would be to see a therapist.
Yeah no problem, I wouldn't be able to think of much advice either. I've tried therapists before but always ended up just having the same problem which made it a big waste of money each time.
Stupid question. Is it possible to get a match with this app?
NO it's a streamed line modern way for the majority top 80% women to find the minority top 20% of men to have sex with from ages 18-35. after whitch women begin there search for a provider and switch to more conventional methods.
It's possible but you have to play it as a one night thing unless you guys specify otherwise.
pic related forgot original post connect and is in this post as texxt.
Does anyone know for sure the order in which the app shows your profile to people? I've read that you get put at the top priority when you make a new profile and that it's better to delete and remake it frequently if you want to stay at the top, but I only got two matches doing this.
Unfortunately the real way is to pay, I think the algorithms are smart enough to parse out new accounts. In general it seems you're set to preferred for 1-2 matches and then go to the pleb pile.
Thinks like Tinder gold mean you can filter for people who are recently online etc.
i really wish you eventually make it user. there are people that can change us, just try to not push people away. if you're afraid of intimity just try to be aroundpeople and maybe they'll crack the shells eventually
>80% 20%
are you braindamaged user? I really symphatized with r9k for many years but this shit is somethin I never understood. You can axtually "see" how majority of girls date guys usually much uglier and more stupid than they are. Every dumdum I know can get a gf. These weeb/fantasy LARPing autists all mamage to get quite cute gfs. There are mo percentages. Your onl problem is you are very very insecure and ashamed and you are afraid to try OR you are trying to date dumb sluts above your "league" and call all women whores. Just go outside and see for yourselves that there are no chads. Just try to be less of a pussy it has nothing to do with your looks. I was the same way, I was a virgin manlet with low t levels and too emotional to "pick up chicks" and thoight that I am just fucked. But there ARE maNY MANY people who dont get into relationships by chads picking whores up in a club somehwere and do it normally by just getting close to a person you are close with. Stop teying to say that there is no way you can get a gf because of "chads" that's just an excusd you say to yourself because you too much of a pussy to face the fact you are just doing shit wrong.
girls literally don't care about men's looks the way men do. girl will date a lanky balding fag just because he is being nice to her and is confident and not desperate for sex
guys usually want hot chicks with 10/10 bodies while 90% of women don't care if a guy is chubbyc skinny or muscular. Jow Forums is a meme only girls wanting muscular guys are fit girls and that is in fact the worst breed there is
>go on tinder
>try to pretend I'm confident and normal and all that
>be decent looking guy but no social skills
>girls like me
>when we talk I type like I am shitposting here and spout memes
>if we talk in person I bring up Jow Forums shit
>they always lose interest soon after
>7/10 girl like me
>spout a meme at her
>she does it back
>wut
>we shitpost back and forth for a few days
>go into threads and cause fake drama
>talk about kikes and niggers
>play video games
>eventually meet up
>she turns the corner where we are supposed to meet
>she is actually a 3/10 fatass
>what the fuck I've been tricked by angles and filters
>too nice to immediately walk away
>go on a date
>realize I am embarrassed to be seen in public with her because she is so ugly
>drop her off
>play games with her again that night
>she wants to meet up again
>boner takes over because I remember her boobs and I am desperate
>meet again
>figure I need a sexual release and this fat ugly pig is the only chance I've got
>park behind some store
>make out
>get my hands on her boobs
>she touches my peepee through my pants
>wont let me go any farther
>drop her off
>post about it here
>anons help me realize that I am upsetting the natural order
>if as a decent looking guy, I get with a 3/10 fat pig, she will forever think she can get with people out of her league
>this will mean that the 3/10 guys she is meant to be with get ignored and rejected
>ghost her
>she is still messaging me to this fucking day
The point is, yes, you can find a relationship on tinder.
>i really wish you eventually make it user. there are people that can change us, just try to not push people away. if you're afraid of intimity just try to be aroundpeople and maybe they'll crack the shells eventually
Yeah although I hardly have any hope of self-improvement at this point I still haven't given up on myself